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To truly understand your intimate relationships, you must read this book! David Deida, internationally known for his work in personal growth and intimate relationships, shares the deep understandings and effective techniques that he has refined through his 20 years of consultation, research and spiritual practice. Learn how to keep your relationships growing--beyond the se ...more
Paperback, 270 pages
Published November 1st 1995 by Health Communications
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Deida's book is an interesting read, but his repetition of the same concepts over and over can be a bit difficult to read. Ultimately, I gleaned a lot from the book, especially in the earlier chapters. Many examples are given that allow the reader to recognize patterns in themselves and their relationships. It is fascinating to apply this education to your own life. The later chapters a bit more "wooly", for lack of a better term. I found it harder to finish the book and really absorb what I was ...more
If you're a fan of sex, and are ready to sink into the power of sexual polarity (the dominant male/female energy within you and your partner regardless of what kind of body you're in) as a means to personal, relational and spiritual growth then this books is for you. If you're easily triggered by gender categories, or sex, then probably not so much. (If you found my first sentence triggering, then probably not so much.) I love David Deida's teaching, but he's definitely not everyone's cup of tea ...more
David Deida's whole outlook is that our ultimate goal in our relationships is to get past the 50/50 or dependence to what he calls intimate communion which is more or less embodying love on all levels. I like his idea that we all have sexual essences or energies and that in order for us to be in a healthy and working relationship there needs to be polarization. Feminine to masculine and vice versa as well as netural to neutral because you can also have a more neutral sexual essence.

I thoroughly
Mar 19, 2008 caroline rated it 4 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: people who want a hot relationship
this book is a bit controversial. he talks about the dynamic between men and women in a way that goes beyond man-woman roles and goes into masculine feminine as a polarity and a way to relate. i have had a ton of a ha moments while reading this and am learning a lot about getting clear about what is desirable in relationship for me.

as i am currently enjoying nunnery status, i decided it was best to be prepared to have a more solid connection when next i date someone...i think this is great read
David Deida is one of the most exciting authors in the self-help genre. His ideas are challenging and serious so there's no airy fairy-ness about what he's saying. With regards to relationships he offers some beautiful and insightful ways of approaching the issues. This book gives you some ideas and direction on how to make your relationships more compelling.
Kellee Duff
another great book, full filling,
A great book on how to cultivate the masculine/feminine polarity within a relationship and how to deal with common problems.
Sharon Hwang
Great book on the masculine and feminine. I am very aware that at this point in my life I love being in my feminine.
Ellie Lum
this book is the missing piece to the puzzle. it's a must read for anyone in a long term relationship.
Very enlightening look at the three stages of Relationships and how to move from one to the next.
Good for understanding David's Three Stages of Relationship and it includes a quiz!
Rose Willis
Answered alot of questions for me and helped me to clarify my goals for a relationship.
Kathy Elton
Good and insightful information. A bit repetitive.
Julie Bennett
An interesting take on masculinity and femininity.
Madelaine Standing
Brave man to tackle the topics he does...

It's David Deida, 'nuff said.
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David Deida is an American author who writes about the sexual and spiritual relationship between men and women.[1] His ten books have been published in 25 languages. He conducts spiritual growth and intimacy workshops and is one of the many founding associates at the Integral Institute. He has conducted research and taught classes at the University of California at Santa Cruz, Lexington Institute ...more
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