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    <![CDATA[With a title like this, it's no surprise that authors Adele Faber and Elaine Mazlish had a monster bestseller on their hands when the book first appeared in 1988. From the subsequent deluge of readers' stories, questions, and issues, they have created nearly 50 pages of new material for this, the 10th anniversary edition. The central message remains the same, and sounds almost too simple: avoid comparisons. But parents know that's easier said than done. The value of Faber and Mazlish's discussions is precisely that they talk you through umpteen different situations and outcomes to help you teach your brawling offspring a new set of responses. The highly informative text is punctuated with helpful summary/reminder boxes and cartoons illustrating key points. It's a must-read for parents with (or planning on) multiple children. But parents of young children who get along fine (so far) should read it too--as the authors make very clear, rivalry is inevitable. The only question is how to manage the rivalry with intelligence and compassion, and on that subject they offer a wealth of good advice. <em>--Richard Farr</em> ]]>
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    <body><![CDATA[Written by the same authors of &quot;How to Talk So Kids Will Listen &amp; Listen So Kids Will Talk.&quot; As with most of these types of books, all that they needed to say could probably be summed up in a chapter or two, but they pad it with a lot of stories. The most helpful points I found were illust...<a href="http://www.goodreads.com/review/show/73372571">more...</a>]]></body>
    
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    <body><![CDATA[Enormously helpful for me to understand how I can influence for good or bad the kids' relationships with each other.  Really, really thought provoking to look back on my own childhood and to consider how I want to handle conflicts with our own kids.]]></body>
    
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    <body><![CDATA[This book gave me a lot to think about as I begin raising two children.  As a parent, I want my children to appreciate each other and have a good relationship.  This book gave me a lot of tools and strategies to help foster good feelings between my son and daughter, as well as very specific ways to ...<a href="http://www.goodreads.com/review/show/71485383">more...</a>]]></body>
    
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    <body><![CDATA[Great book.  I figure I'm going to have to re-read it in a few years to get refreshed on all the techniques discussed in the book, but it was a great foundation on raising your kids to learn to communicate with one another.  I really like that they talk about labelling and how that's not good.  I al...<a href="http://www.goodreads.com/review/show/57417450">more...</a>]]></body>
    
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    <body><![CDATA[Very helpful tips, but I think it's geared more toward older children. It is a very readable book and story-based, which is helpful. It's also pretty sane parenting and the advice is practical. I have been trying some of the ideas with my toddlers, but the suggestions are all about talking through i...<a href="http://www.goodreads.com/review/show/40138502">more...</a>]]></body>
    
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    <body><![CDATA[Similar to the authors first book ' How to talk so your children will listen, and how to listen so your children will talk.&quot;<br/><br/>The end of chapter quick reminders are a very helpful resource and encapsulate how to handle sibling  issues:<br/>Siblings need to have their feeling acknowle...<a href="http://www.goodreads.com/review/show/47989151">more...</a>]]></body>
    
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    <body><![CDATA[My children are 18 months and 3 years old, and I can already apply some of the lessons I've learned in this book.  I am much more mindful of things like not comparing my children and trying to set a tone of &quot;we are a family team&quot; as opposed to setting up &quot;healthy&quot; competition bet...<a href="http://www.goodreads.com/review/show/14087529">more...</a>]]></body>
    
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    <body><![CDATA[As the mother of a rather intense 17 month-old expecting baby #2 in two months - who also feels that her parents made numerous mistakes in dealing with matters of sibling rivalry - I felt it was imperative to do a bit of reading on the topic before my second child even arrives. I'm glad I did! This ...<a href="http://www.goodreads.com/review/show/54955127">more...</a>]]></body>
    
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    <body><![CDATA[This book was very helpful and made me think a lot about the mistakes we make as parents, often because of the way we were raised.  Some of the ideas that I will try to remember include: <br/>1.  Love my children “uniquely” rather than “equally” <br/>2.  Treat my children, not as they are ...<a href="http://www.goodreads.com/review/show/14277224">more...</a>]]></body>
    
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    <body><![CDATA[A nice read for the ever-so-challenging issue of sibling rivalry.  While I don't know that any book will ever solve this issue for me, the authors offer a nice discussion that is practical and easy to read.  They promote a democratic style of parenting that empowers children and believes that they c...<a href="http://www.goodreads.com/review/show/69290977">more...</a>]]></body>
    
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    <body><![CDATA[Need to read this book ASAP.  I CAN'T take this bickering, jealousy and constant arguing ANYmore! <br/><br/>Okay, I read this book and it was excellent.  A super easy read, written in layman's terms.  Excellent resource when dealing with the issue of sibling rivelry.  I believe that I will refer t...<a href="http://www.goodreads.com/review/show/66162521">more...</a>]]></body>
    
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