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Obsessive Love: When It Hurts Too Much to Let Go

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Is it impossible to let go — despite the pain?

• Do you yearn for someone who is not physically or emotionally available to you?
• Do you believe that if you love him enough he will have to love you?
• When you feel insecure, does it drive you only to want her more?
• Do you find yourself phoning repeatedly or waiting long hours for the phone to ring?

Do you wish someone would
Paperback, 288 pages
Published January 2nd 2002 by Bantam (first published May 1st 1991)
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Nasser Al-mrikhy
Feb 28, 2013 Nasser Al-mrikhy rated it it was amazing
This book is one of the best books I ever read. I highly recommend this book for every one.
May 21, 2013 Sviatoslav rated it really liked it
This book wasn't the first phycological self-help book that I've read throughout the years, but the first one to be found on purpose. I had been the target of obsessive lover with my last relationship, however I had no idea that I had been dealing with obsessiveness.

As a child, I had dysfunctional family, therefore I'm still having a hard time picturing the way true love and intimacy should look and feel like. Probably that is the reason why I have recreated the same dysfunctional relationship w
Sep 27, 2008 Linda rated it really liked it
I read this and a couple other psychology books on stalking when a crazy/obsessive acquaintance would not abandon pursuit of me. It gave me great insight into what in blazes was going on with this person, and it sure validated a lot of my feelings as I made the case that this person was crazy, that the whole of the allegedly innocent actions was greater than the sum of its parts. Susan Forward has a clear, intelligent, accessible writing style, and she is smart. I always keep her in mind when th ...more
Desiree Garcia
Sep 15, 2015 Desiree Garcia rated it it was amazing
Obsessive Love by Susan Forward is an extremely interesting book. I thought that because I haven't experienced true love quite yet, this book wouldn't spark my interest. However, I gave it a go and ended up loving it! This book is about several stories in which people experienced this form of 'obsessive love.' Some individuals couldn't get enough of their partner and began to become a little too attached, while others felt as if they could never escape their partner. Susan Forward made wonderful ...more
Aug 25, 2014 Helen rated it liked it
Recommends it for: Adults.
Recommended to Helen by: No-one.
A well-written, easy-to-read self-help volume that explains the reasons why some people may tenaciously cling to lovers, driving them away, or refuse to accept that a relationship has ended, and so forth. The reason usually stems from an absent parent, and the unresolved issues years later surface in a person seeking out someone they consider The One Magic Person who will solve all their problems, and somehow even make the problem of the past, better. The pattern is based on the loss of the pare ...more
Josh Einstein
Mar 26, 2015 Josh Einstein rated it really liked it
Shelves: self-help
It's me. :(

This book is an eye opening self-evaluation that, if it's doing its job correctly, will make you feel uncomfortable and defensive.

The fact is, Obsessive Love has given me a new perspective on what I always thought was a passionate, once-in-a-lifetime love, and helped me to see that it was probably only that to me, in my head. I didn't even need to do the journaling exercises because as luck would have it, I recently published a 400 page memoir about that 18-month affair.

In a way, I f
Jul 04, 2010 Steve rated it really liked it
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I was 'given' this book by a woman who said that it helped her through a very hard time of her life. I read it and found out that I had been on both sides of the equation: obsessive lover and target of an obsessive lover. This is a very important subject, as obsessive love is often confused for true love. Susan analyses the various problems and offers a therapy for those afflicted. Therapists can use this book, especially to avoid violence in relationships.
Jan 26, 2010 Bridgett rated it it was amazing
Shelves: psychology
I related to this book very well and for years have been entangled in a situation the book describes. The person I was involved with was very dishonest and a narcissist and took advantage of me. In some instances, despite being the "obsessor" the person I was with had worse problems, but various problems of the "target" were discussed.
Cheril Clarke
Mar 20, 2008 Cheril Clarke rated it really liked it
I read this book while doing research for my fourth novel, "Tainted Destiny," and found it very helpful. Many of the stories in the book made it another valuable resource to help me understand what goes on inside the mind of one who is obsessed with another person.
Kelly Renee
Jun 06, 2014 Kelly Renee rated it really liked it
Very interesting!
Alia Hamroush
I read this book @the age of 17, almost 20yrs ago
Dec 11, 2013 Tash rated it really liked it
a real eye opener :(
Mariana Marentes
sumamente interesante!
Andrew Pomeroy
Jun 30, 2009 Andrew Pomeroy is currently reading it
Someone very close to me, who had to leave gave me this book when I was deep in love the last time.
Now Gone from this Earth, and me, needing advice, I crack it open to see what is inside of my life. To cure what I always seem to think is a reality. Before that reality drives me down a lane, and into a ravine all by myself.
All this time i thought that this was the way guys act, but i understand more now.
Thom Dunn
[She wrote Men Who Hate Women and.....:]
Apr 16, 2010 Jglsxm added it
If you want it - I give it to you ;)
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One of the nation’s leading therapists, as well as a best selling author, dynamic lecturer and frequent talk-show guest. In addition to her private practice, she has served as a therapist, instructor and consultant for many Southern California psychiatric and medical facilities. She is the author of the #1 New York Times best sellers Men Who Hate Women and the Women Who Love Them and Toxic Parents ...more
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