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The Five Love Languages of Children
Two Christian parenting educators describe five ways we can connect with our children: physical touch, quality time, words of affirmation, gifts, and acts of service. These initiatives, when geared to the preferences of each child, make them feel loved and, thus, more receptive to guidance and redirection when needed. The authors are inspiring writers whose examples and qu...more
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May 1st 2008
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(first published May 28th 1995)
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I think this book is fascinating! I've noticed that my children, my spouse and I all have a love language that relates to them. The love language is your preferred way of giving & receiving love. What I loved most about this book is the knowledge that when you discipline a child in their love language it cuts really deep. For example, my daughter is a words of affirmation child, and when I correct her actions, she shuts down (even when I do it in the nicest way 'we can't touch that sweetie')...more
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My oldest child is much like me, but my second felt so different! But for the first time I'm understanding him, and this book may be the difference between a close relationship with him during these formative years, and a distant one.
This is the best parenting book I've read. In a nutshell: everyone shows love and desires love in return, but we do it in different ways. Those "ways" are called languages, and are condensed into five types. Receiving love in YOUR language ...more
This is the best parenting book I've read. In a nutshell: everyone shows love and desires love in return, but we do it in different ways. Those "ways" are called languages, and are condensed into five types. Receiving love in YOUR language ...more
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Now that you know my love language, will you use it against me? Seriously, compartamentalizing love into five expressions is a bit limited. To some it may help to understand why those "special" people don't meet our expectations, and how to accept their love expression (even though it may not mean much to my love language receptor). I was one of the unusual ones that couldn't figure out my love language... sort of like those personality/gift tests (dinc) that put me in the "I d...more
The authors expound on their theory that there are five different ways that people express and experience love: physical touch, words of affirmation, quality time, gifts and acts of service. By the time kids are five or so, they say, the kids have started to have a preference (before then children just need love in all the languages all the time). Knowing your child's love language can help you to be sure that they know that you love them, which leads to all kinds of good things they'd like to t...more
I appreciate the aims of this book. My biggest worry as a parent--or rather, ONE of my many biggest--is that my daughter will not feel sufficiently loved/appreciated/proud of/etc. Love was a complicated and fraught thing in my home growing up, which has led me to be overly-concerned and ready to consume the books offered at the library in hopes of not missing out.
This is another one of those books that could have been covered in a nice article rather than a lengthy book and the elabo...more
This is another one of those books that could have been covered in a nice article rather than a lengthy book and the elabo...more
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I think the book shared some interesting insights. I'm conflicted with there just being five "love languages". I see the five displayed and being interwoven daily in each of my four children. I think to understand the general concept is fine, but real mommies and daddies know that each of children will run through each of these needs during their time as children. Let's not stop there, that applies to all people. I may need just a hug or a hand on my shoulder and still also need an act...more
I took a class that used this book and at the time, thought it was fabulous and brilliant and insightful. My kids were really young and I couldn't wait for them to be old enough to try this all out on them.
I just went back and re-read it, and this time found it interesting and somewhat helpful but lacking in concrete ways to determine love languages in children. It would have helped to have more examples of the "either/or" questions, for example. I was reading it specifi...more
I just went back and re-read it, and this time found it interesting and somewhat helpful but lacking in concrete ways to determine love languages in children. It would have helped to have more examples of the "either/or" questions, for example. I was reading it specifi...more
As parents, it is our duty alone to discern which love language (physical touch, quality time, gift, acts of service, and words of affirmation) is best suited to each of our children. Though we of course love our children, how we communicate this love is not necessarily how they receive it, and therefore our language may go unheard, leaving their “love tank” empty. Learning these new languages will take work and discomfort, but worth the effort to enable them to mature in their ability to lear...more
I am really torn over what I thought of this book. While I like the concepts and I think it had valuable information I had a hard time with it. For some reason I couldn't get into the writing style. I constantly found my mind wandering and having to go back and re-read portions. The last several parenting books that I have read have been very readable so I found this hard to reconcile.
For the most part I felt like the "love languages" were well explained but in the later c...more
For the most part I felt like the "love languages" were well explained but in the later c...more
I am a blue, type - A, ESTJ, who likes to be shown love through quality time, and likes long walks on the beach and....WAIT, no I'm not. I'm Karen, a girl with lots of personality quirks, one of which is that I dislike pop psychology books that tell me I and everyone else fits into one of their created, ficticious descriptions. I have to admit, I didn't even finish this book (I did read almost all of it though). Probably most of us are familiar with the five love languages, they have enjoyed ...more
This book argues that all people feel love in five basic ways, but we each have a primary love language. The best way to make your children feel loved, then, is to figure out what their primary love language is, and give them lots of that, plus regular doses of the other kinds. Obviously this applies to spouses, parents, and anyone else you love too, but this book is mainly about the parent/child relationship. I may decide this book deserves 4 stars after I've had some more time to think about i...more
Hmm. This was a pretty good book, but it seemed a little phony in parts. The imagined dialogues were absurdly simple. The discussion of single parenting was lacking. In a way, I think the whole book was pretty simplistic, but...
I got something out of it, and that makes it worth reading. Regardless of whether you ascertain anyone's particular "love language," I think the idea of expressing your love for others in more than one way is pretty important. I appreciated the e...more
I got something out of it, and that makes it worth reading. Regardless of whether you ascertain anyone's particular "love language," I think the idea of expressing your love for others in more than one way is pretty important. I appreciated the e...more
If you have children, you should read this book. The love languages apply to more than just children of course, they relate to everyone, but this book focuses on relating the love languages to children.
The authors, Gary Chapman and Ross Campbell say that by the ages of five or six you will be able to see characteristics of a dominant love language emerge in your child. The five love languages identified by the authors are 1) Quality Time, 2) Physical Touch, 3) Words of Affirmation,...more
The authors, Gary Chapman and Ross Campbell say that by the ages of five or six you will be able to see characteristics of a dominant love language emerge in your child. The five love languages identified by the authors are 1) Quality Time, 2) Physical Touch, 3) Words of Affirmation,...more
didn't finish it, got 70% through, then my copy was missing 30 pages, so i lost steam to pick it up after the break.
I did learned a few things, but couldn't help but feel guilty... I felt like at the end of each chapter there was a statement that went something like: "if your child's love language is this and you have ever done that (ie, turn your gaze away when you are disappoined/upset with them) it can be really emotionally damaging -- they will remember it forever!" now of...more
I did learned a few things, but couldn't help but feel guilty... I felt like at the end of each chapter there was a statement that went something like: "if your child's love language is this and you have ever done that (ie, turn your gaze away when you are disappoined/upset with them) it can be really emotionally damaging -- they will remember it forever!" now of...more
Love is the Foundation
By speaking your child's own love language, you can fill his "emotional tank" with love. When your child feels loved, he is much easier to discipline and train than when his "emotional tank" is running near empty.
The Five Love Languages of Children:
1. Physical Touch
2. Words of Affirmation
- words of affection and endearment
- words of praise
- words of encouragement
- words of guidance ...more
By speaking your child's own love language, you can fill his "emotional tank" with love. When your child feels loved, he is much easier to discipline and train than when his "emotional tank" is running near empty.
The Five Love Languages of Children:
1. Physical Touch
2. Words of Affirmation
- words of affection and endearment
- words of praise
- words of encouragement
- words of guidance ...more
Holy moly, when did I start reading parenting books and actually LIKE them?!
Alright, so I had a very small interest in reading parenting books (mostly because I really don't hope to be one anytime soon) but once I read the sample, I knew I had to read more. The theory is very basic but like any simple truth, these are often difficult to realize and tough to act on. Anyway, the theory is this: everyone (including your children) has a love tank that needs to be filled with 5 types of gas...more
Alright, so I had a very small interest in reading parenting books (mostly because I really don't hope to be one anytime soon) but once I read the sample, I knew I had to read more. The theory is very basic but like any simple truth, these are often difficult to realize and tough to act on. Anyway, the theory is this: everyone (including your children) has a love tank that needs to be filled with 5 types of gas...more
I thought this book had some great insights. It has lots of things that we should already be doing to show love to our kids. Just a great reminder that not all kids are the same and that there are simple things we can do to reach the needs of each different child. I agreed with the philosophy behind it and I got a lot out of it.
I did find this book helpful in some ways, and frustrating in others. While it was beneficial to learn the different ways a child feels loved and the authors did offer some approaches to behavioral issues that have already been beneficial, I just don't think that knowing a child's love language and "filling their love tank" will solve ALL of a child's behavioral problems as the book suggests. I felt the authors put too much responsibility on the parent for a child's behavior. While ...more
An excellent book for anyone who is married, engaged, or has children. What is your love language, and do you speak the same love language as your spouse? Or are you doing acts of love and he/she acts as if they don't care or appriciate them, then maybe you are not speaking their primary love language.
It has some good points: the idea of love languages can be helpful in thinking about what your family members do/don't respond to and changing your own style of communicating. Also, the book has lots of good ideas for "things to try" with kids and good suggestions about managing anger and helping children learn to manage theirs.
BUT, it's very gimmicky (you can tell there are lots of parts where the writing just screams "Go buy our other 10 books in the series"--y...more
BUT, it's very gimmicky (you can tell there are lots of parts where the writing just screams "Go buy our other 10 books in the series"--y...more
I liked it. It's great food for thought that could be useful to any parent. The premise is that each one of us feels love in five different ways (physical touch, verbal affirmation, quality times, gifts, and acts of service) and that one of those ways is more prominent than another. This book challenges you to use every way to help your child feel loved and then helps you dicipher which one is your child's "primary language".
I thought I knew my two oldest kids' languages, bu...more
I thought I knew my two oldest kids' languages, bu...more
I read this for a homeschool book club. I had heard of the Five Love Languages book and was interested to read this. I really liked the first half of the book which dealt with explaining the love languages, how to interpret them in your children, and how to "fill your children's love tanks." After reading this book, it is very easy to see my children's love language and how I have/have not met their emotional needs through their love language. Also interesting to look back at my li...more
I found this book to be a great parenting resource!
Here are the basics of the book. Children have a primary language that they communicate love and receive love from parents. They are physical touch, quality time, acts of service, gifts, and praise. We need to give love through all 5 means so that they learn to give love in all those ways, but by using their primary language to fill their love tanks, they know that they are loved. Likewise, if we use their primary love language in a ...more
Here are the basics of the book. Children have a primary language that they communicate love and receive love from parents. They are physical touch, quality time, acts of service, gifts, and praise. We need to give love through all 5 means so that they learn to give love in all those ways, but by using their primary language to fill their love tanks, they know that they are loved. Likewise, if we use their primary love language in a ...more
I'm enjoying this one now that my kids are a bit older and developing more distinct styles of love expression. I think as babies/toddlers they ALL love all the types of love - more the physical and quality time, but the verbal affirmations, too. (I honestly don't think they care much about gifts as babies/toddlers and I'm pretty sure they just assume all acts of service are expected because they are so dependent and cute and we're their parents.) But now with my 7 and 6 year old we've been ta...more
I think everyone who has kids, or may have kids in the future, should read this book. The earlier, the better. I was even able to adapt some of the things I learned to my husband and myself.
I think this is a wonderful book. Appropriate for any human. We all interact with humans on a daily basis: our spouse, girlfriend or boyfriend, siblings, parents, friends, coworkers, clients, etc, etc. They all need love from us, and this book helps us understand the fact that different people need love shown to them in different ways. Although this book is more specifically tailored to learning how to express love to our mates, it can also be applied on a wider scale to all of the relationships...more
I thought that this is such a helpful book- It helps me to understand my kids so much better (especially the older 2). There is a test that they take to help the parent figure out what is their love language and then a lot of recommendations for the parent after discerning that. I liked that it really gets me focused on what each kid is looking for. I thought Logan needed hugs and found out that he craves quality time even more than hugs. Ashley likes gifts, affirmation, and service- totally ...more
I liked this book. I thought that it gives you some good food for thought. I don't think that they completely nailed discipline. It was a little melodramatic for me in that section. If I let my daughter have a donut at the store for being good she's going to think my love is conditional? I don't think so.
I definitely agree that when a child feels loved they will be a lot easier to discipline. And I like the idea of making sure that you use all five languages with your kids each day. I am ...more
I definitely agree that when a child feels loved they will be a lot easier to discipline. And I like the idea of making sure that you use all five languages with your kids each day. I am ...more
Aware that each one of my sons were 3 indiviual people, with their own unique makeup, I selected this book as a desire to understand their love language and how I was communicating my love to them. This book is an easy read and an excellent help to parents. As you learn the 5 love languages you can adapt to each child as necessary. Which is very important if you want to communicate your love in the language that they understand best. I learned that there are no cookie-cutter-molds for love; one ...more
This book teaches about how people give and receive love in different ways. I LOVE IT!
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