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Introvert Power: Why Your Inner Life Is Your Hidden Strength

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Are you an introvert? Psychologist and introvert Laurie Helgoe reveals that more than half of all Americans are. Introverts gain energy and power through reflection and solitude. Our culture, however, is geared toward the extrovert. The pressure to enjoy parties, chatter, and interactions can lead people to think that an inward orientation is a

Paperback, 288 pages
Published July 1st 2008 by Sourcebooks
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This book describes my inner life so well and so compassionately that it feels as if I finally find myself defended and acquitted before a jury (and culture) of extroverts. It makes me feel valued for my strength of a contemplative, observational life rather than being misjudged as snobbish, socially withdrawn, or too bookish. I have often felt as if I have to make excuses for not having active, outgoing, socially noisy plans for the weekend/holiday/vacation. I get weary of Facebook's judgmental ...more
Jun 02, 2011 Karen rated it it was amazing
If I could have given this book ten stars, I would have. I'm going to go out on a limb here and say this is the best nonfiction book I have ever read. If you are an introvert, or know an introvert, this book is a must read. It's like the author has been living inside my head for my entire life. I can't begin to explain how throughly and utterly she gets it. What's so surprising is we comprise a little more than half of the population! I always thought I was in some small minority. This book teac ...more
Apr 23, 2012 Susanna rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I wish I'd been given this book 20 years ago. I've been fighting this thing called "introversion" as if it was a disease - wrong approach, I see it now. Not that I ever tried to fit in...but I just kept feeling that I "should".

This is not a self-help book. There are no formulas. This is about acceptance, thriving and celebrating who you are. I am completely and truly amazed at what I read because I kept thinking "hey, that's me" and I said it in nearly every page.

The author blames American cult
Dec 16, 2011 Karen rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: Anyone who is not bored by their own company, lives inside their head, or thinks the world is mad
If there were more rating stars, I would give them all to this book. For anyone who has wanted to retreat from the hectic pace, blaring noise, assault of advertising, and the "American" culture ceaseless activity - this is the book for you. It was like finding an old friend and myself at the same time.
Helgoe explains that "we have become a culture of 'everybody else' Through our constantly expanding media channels, we can know what people are (supposedly) buying, how people are (supposedly) beha
Dec 19, 2014 Xueting rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I owe a ton of thank-yous to the author, Laurie Helgoe. This book surprised me by being more than what I wanted out of a "self-help book" about my introversion - it helped me to understand myself and it helped me to love myself better. I never fully understood why I felt bored or withdrawn during some conversations, why a rush of activity and movement seems to flood me so badly I actually panic, or why I crave alone time a lot, apparently more than most people (aka more than I should... And wors ...more
Beth A.
Jun 26, 2011 Beth A. rated it liked it
Shelves: nonfiction
I have mixed feelings about this book. I liked some of the concepts Helgoe focused on, like accepting your introversion and noticing the good things about it. Another idea I thought was valid was that you should be honest when you decline an unwanted invitation. If you make up excuses and say you really want to go, you will get more invitations. I also liked her encouragement to not let yourself be pressured into social events when you will not enjoy them, unless it's necessary, like for work.

Jul 28, 2015 Liz rated it liked it
Shelves: non-fiction
Quite an informative and enthusiastic book. It is encouraging introversy and explaining to a person what makes an introvert. Certainly useful in case you aren't sure whether you are one or not or have no idea how to deal with your introversy, however less so if you are aware and many of the suggested techniques don't help.

It's a good and useful book, mind you. But one should realise that it should be not about introverts vocalising their opinions and issues but about making our society less ext
Nov 18, 2010 Rosemary rated it it was amazing
This book had could have been written about me, a lifelong introvert. The author "gets" me. Descriptions, examples, thoughts, and feelings are right on target. Most importantly, I learned that it is okay to be an introvert. My strength is drawn from solitude, the company of one or two people at a time, my pets, my books, my interests. I shouldn't berate myself for not wanting to go to big parties and do "fun" activities that extroverts enjoy. I will be buying my own copy of this book, reading it ...more
Feb 10, 2015 N. rated it it was ok
may be my rating needs some further explaination; because if this book is mainly about getting introverts to be better connected to their inner feelings and needs, then it may be rated as a five or at least four starts book..but I guess that most intoverts already spend more than enough time reflecting, .....and if that book is about making them feel that they are not alone, and not even a minority and that almost 50% of population (according to the author) are intoverts so its more or less norm ...more
Feb 18, 2016 Michael rated it really liked it
“While the introvert is reflecting on the question (thinking first), the extrovert takes this as an invitation to fill the void (talking first). As long as the introvert doesn’t interrupt, the extrovert continues to fill the interpersonal space with talk. But as long as the extrovert talks, the introvert can’t think and stays mute. Mute means the invitation is still open, and continued talk assures that the introvert remains mute. By the time the extrovert pauses to ask, the introvert’s head is ...more
Paloma Etienne
Sep 12, 2013 Paloma Etienne rated it liked it
Shelves: creativity
Well, I found the magic of this book at the beginning, but to be honest I'd say that two thirds of the book are really redundant, I'm sorry to be so blunt and harsh about it. Enough said about introverts not liking to go to parties, mate, it did my head in. However, I didn’t skip those last two thirds because between dismayed faint spells when reading the repetitive narrative I got hooked again on a smart idea.

Now, the book does dally on a certain whiff of self-help babble, grrr, but the core o
Shira and Ari Evergreen
Jun 02, 2010 Shira and Ari Evergreen rated it liked it
Recommends it for: stressed-out people, geeks, introverts
Shelves: ari-faves
Introvert Power is a self-help book about celebrating your introverted identity and recognizing its strengths, instead of trying to be more extroverted and running out of energy, or becoming a hermit - the typical introvert responses to social overstimulation. The title is very appropriate - it's a very empowering message for introverts.

Personally, I'm trying to work on *reducing* my ego and I don't crave power, so some of her rah-rah'ing came off as presumptuous, for me: She makes a lot of assu
Annie Palmer
Jun 18, 2012 Annie Palmer rated it liked it
Shelves: favorites
I enjoy and find it beneficial to myself and others to learn about human behavior. I obviously learned a lot about introverts, but also appreciated the tidbits I picked up about extroverts. As an introvert myself, I appreciate the practical ideas Helgoe presented. They are easily applicable and gives respect to oneself and others. I think it is important to know that about 50 percent of us are introverts, but don't realize it because we are conditioned to be extroverts. Another key point was tha ...more
Jan 13, 2015 Daniela rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This is the third book about introversion that I have read (the others being The Introvert Advantage: How to Thrive in an Extrovert World and Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking) and my favourite of the three.

Where "Quiet" focuses more on explaining and justifying our character traits and preferences to extroverts, and "Introvert Advantage" focuses on helping us introverts to fit better into our extrovert society, this is a big, juicy permission slip for you to cele
Mar 28, 2012 Tom rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: Introverts mental health professionals; anyone interested in human behavior; social psychologists
I am a clinical social worker by profession and also an introvert. I call myself the "anti-social social worker" because I although I do need a certain amount of people time, I prefer and love to read, think and learn by myself. Like some others who've reviewed the book, I related well to this book and felt the author totally gets introverts in a way that I've never seen in other books on the subject. I also related to it because I am a mental health professional and also experienced the feeling ...more
Oct 31, 2009 Valerie rated it it was ok
I just grabbed this off the new book shelf at the library and will have to admit that I didn't read the whole thing. But I will say that the author understands us introverts. Sample:

Extrovert: How is your day going?
Introvert:(taking the question in, thinking)
Extrovert: I have had the craziest day....
Introvert: Yeah? (distracted from thinking)
Extrovert: Yeah, it all started this morning when...(continues for five minutes or so)....So you're doing well then?
Introvert: Yeah. Oh, I gotta get g
Mar 07, 2009 Christine rated it liked it
If you haven't read many books about personality types, etc., I'd suggest this book as a go-to guide. If you're already familiar with your introverted personality, this book is more of a cheerleader for you to maintain what you like about your introverted life and change what doesn't work. She offers lots of tips for specific situations: parties, work, home life, etc., but what I think she'd really wish for this book to be is an introvert's manifesto to be read by the extroverts of the world.
Nov 06, 2013 David rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Enjoyable read. I was surprised at the data that says the world is about 50 percent introverted. (Even in America?) I've always felt like a minority. For example, not very many people I know go to lunch alone at work. I imagine it's the social pressure to be with company. But I do find solo time in my day is indeed very empowering. This book won't change my behavior much, but it does help me feel more validated.
Initial reaction: Considering I read this in one sitting shortly after being accepted for the galley, I devoured this book. It was a compulsive read and so interesting that I couldn't put it down once I picked it up. So many spot on assertions about introversion - what it is and what it isn't. I definitely appreciated the insight Helgoe had with respect to understanding and building upon the strengths of the introverted mind. It left me with a lot of food for thought because I am very much an in ...more
Dec 21, 2009 Karen rated it it was amazing
Shelves: educational
I loved this book. I always knew I was an introvert but I didn't really know the full meaning of the word and how to take advantage of it. I also didn't realize that HALF of people are introverts. I've been looking around a little more since I've read this and I 'get' people a little more now. I REALLY appreciated the insights of this book and fully intend to read it again to remind myself that it's OK that sometimes, going to a party full of people just sounds exhausting, not fun, and that I NE ...more
Mar 14, 2012 Gloria rated it it was amazing
It's a rare book that has me highlighting as much as this one did.
Not only is it a validation for those of us who relish and need solitude in which to recharge, but it actually celebrates it.
In a extroverted society (as a whole), it's refreshing to read of other countries and cultures where quiet introversion is more the norm. And how we, here, shouldn't have to apologize for the fact that we are the way we are.

If I had to choose one quote from this book which sums it up nicely, it's this one:

May 08, 2012 Wendy rated it it was ok
I found myself scanning pages rather than reading. The author shows understanding of introversion with long explanations and examples. If you need validation that you are ok as you are then great read this book.
Jun 26, 2013 Merredith rated it it was amazing
I always heard the word introvert growing up, but never thought it had any scientific meaning. You just think of a quiet book mouse nerd who lives with their mom, has no friends, and wears big glasses. And then, a couple years ago, took the time to really look into what an introvert actually is. An introvert is a person who gains energy from being by themselves, and being around others drains it. An extrovert gets drained being alone, and needs to go around others to get energized. It's a real t ...more
Jun 05, 2015 meghann rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I grew up in a family of extroverts. When that's your baseline, you tend to feel like there may be something wrong with you. My ideal weekend is spent at home, alone. I would rather spend an evening investigating a haunted hotel than at a party. I have trouble thinking on my feet, but later on I can give you a whole list of things I should have said. I really don't do well when people show up at my house with no notice. House guests drain the life out of me. I go home on my lunch break and hang ...more
Dec 26, 2010 Sieran rated it really liked it
Wow...really enlightening and insightful.

It reminds me why I'm an introvert--and why I'm an extrovert at the same time. :D

I love the nostalgic, homecoming feeling of returning to your permanent safe haven--your own solitude.

Another part I especially enjoyed was the "birth dates" not "deadlines!" And how we should follow Nature--our natural bodily rhythms, not the socially imposed time schedules. :) I really love this idea and I'm going to pour all my efforts into making that become a reality in
Nov 13, 2012 Lhou rated it it was amazing
the book was kinda helpful in the sense that i get to know myself more. I've always thought i was an introvert but reading through the selected pages, I learned there are different types.. And im among the Accessible Introvert. Reading the The Set Up Section, it kind of brought back the days when i felt so frustrated that i cant keep up with the people around me and how i end up going home asking why God has created me so weak and dumb... it also reminded me how i always think that im a lesser p ...more
Melissa Henderson
Apr 22, 2013 Melissa Henderson rated it it was ok
I loved the everyday tips for introverts to achieve inner balance and to feel that it's okay to want to be alone.

What I didn't appreciate the political commentary on how introverts would thrive better under socialism, and how capitalism leaves introverts behind. As organizations are working to embrace all personality types, everyone is able to find the niches that suit them. Instead of continuing to experience a rise in blood pressure, I skipped these sections.
Kathryn Dechairo
Jan 10, 2014 Kathryn Dechairo rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: favorites
I love the honesty and truth of this book and was amazed to discover that introverts are not a minority! It was also eye opening to realize just how much negativity we associate with many aspects of introversion. Lots of aha moments in this for me and I'd highly recommend it to anyone who is an introvert or wants to truly understand them.
Reading this book was like reading my biography. I didn't know I was an introvert but I can see now that I am. Knowing what that means, how it looks and what it feels like brings a greater understanding of myself and others and how we function (or don't) together. I think I'll be able to live from now on more comfortably in my own skin, and with those who are not like me, thanks to this book.
Dec 08, 2016 Milad rated it it was amazing
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At first, I'm going to just talk about the things I've learned from this book. Then I'll go through it providing quotes and probably talking about them.

Here's the most important thing to understand which comes in the final pages of the book: our power is in our nature. Read the last quote at the bottom of this page to learn how you're the top guy naturally.

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Laurie Anne Helgoe is an American psychologist and author specializing in personality development and the psychology of desire. Helgoe has a private practice in clinical psychology and serves as an assistant clinical professor at the West Virginia University School of Medicine, Charleston Division, supervising and lecturing psychiatric residents.

Raised as the ninth of ten children, she was surroun
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