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Shattered Dreams: My Life as a Polygamist's Wife

3.80  ·  Rating Details  ·  5,550 Ratings  ·  697 Reviews
Irene Spencer did as she felt God commanded in becoming the second wife to her brother-in-law Verlan LeBaron. When the government raided their community-the Mormon village of Short Creek, Arizona-seeking to enforce the penalties for practicing polygamy, Irene and her family fled to Verlan's family ranch in Mexico. Here they lived in squalor and desolate conditions with Ver ...more
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Published September 2nd 2008 by Center Street (first published August 22nd 2007)
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Petra X
Update This is a view I hadn't considered before, and maybe it doesn't apply to fundamentalists, but the view has to come from somewhere. I was watching that show Sister Wives on tv. The fourth wife said that she didn't want to marry just a man, she wanted to marry a family and friends. She said she didn't want to be the first wife because she would have the agony of jealousy when the second one came in. She didn't want to be the second who would have to live with that. She wanted to be a third ...more
Skye
Nov 11, 2007 Skye rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Fascinating train wreck of a story, but my feminist sensibilities had a hard time allowing the author to lead such a life. She turned down a chance a real love to do what she thought god wanted. Strike one. Followed "signs" to lead her into what she knew would be a life of submission and silence. Strike two. Any children would also be prey. Strikes three, four, and five.
At the hands of men, she had decades full of heartbreak, broken promises, charismatic bullies and endless suffering under the p
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Renee
Aug 27, 2007 Renee rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: want an in depth look and understanding of pologamy
Shattered Dreams is a fascinating look at a way of life totally foreign to most people. Irene Spencer grew up in the branch of the Mormon faith that still believed in polygamy. The second of what was ultimately her husband's ten wives, she became the mother of thirteen of his 58 children. The statistics are important as they show the unimaginable situation in which Irene Spencer spend much of her life.

This book is a brutally honest memoir of a woman' life. It follows her from place to place, ne
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Ruth Turner
Dec 05, 2014 Ruth Turner rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: abandoned

DNF

What a colossal pain in the a** this woman is…

Yes, I’ll marry you, Glen.

Ummm…no, I don’t think I will afterall.

I’ve changed my mind. I’ll marry you.

Ummm…well no, maybe not.

Guess what? Changed my mind again. Let’s get married.

Ummm…no, I guess not.

Ok, this time for sure.

Damn…changed my mind again. Sorry, Glen.

Go to hell, says Glen.

Smart man. What took you so long?

Well, maybe not so smart!

Ummmm…wait a minute…maybe God will say it’s ok to marry you even though you aren’t a believer.

Ummm…sorry. G
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Maren
Sep 12, 2008 Maren rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I have so many thoughts after reading this book. Let me preface my notes by saying that I could hardly put my mind to rest last night after finishing this...:

1. Why in the world did Irene stay with Verlan so long? My conclusion is that either she's a complete push-over and enabler, or the brainwashing was beyond her ability to get past. Or both. Honestly, I am still in awe at her raising dozens of kids (yes, dozens since two of her sister-wives left for jobs and she raised their kids too in many
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Sara
Sep 24, 2008 Sara rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommended to Sara by: Newspaper
Shelves: non-fiction, 2008, memoir
It was interesting to read this after reading Carolyn Jessup's Escape. Both memoirs are about the author's polygamous marriage with the "blessing" of FLDS, but they center on different aspects of it; whereas Escape spoke not only of the authors abusive marriage but also getting out of it and getting custody of her children through the court system, this book is more about the hardships endured by those in this polygamous society and the author's struggle with her belief system and her desire to ...more
Books Ring Mah Bell
Irene Spencer takes us inside her life as wife #2 (out of 9!!!) in a Polygamist union. A life that is NOT easy, by any stretch. She does pretty well living in poverty; for many years not having enough food, not having electricity or running water. She has to make her own underwear and maternity clothes (sometimes out of flour sacks).

The part she struggles with is sharing her husband. I wish I could say I felt for her, but honestly, after the 25th time she's throwing a tantrum and crying on her
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Margaret
This book deserves six stars in my mind. I have been reading since I could read and I think that I was 6 when I got my first library card. I have never read a book like this in my entire reading history! I am amazed at what this woman went through and her ultimate testimony of how she continues to speak out and help other polygamist wives caught in this hellish trap. At some point while reading I felt physically and emotionally caught on a train that was proceeding towards a cliff! No worries, I ...more
Carrie
Nov 28, 2007 Carrie rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Mormons
While reading this book, I discovered my husband may still technically belong to the Mormon church his mom signed him up for as a kid. Well, probably not, since they excommunicated his sister.

Myself, I totally disagree with Mormonism, polygamy, and people who do things for religious purposes, especially when it goes against common sense. I kind of enjoyed the story just to see how different someone's life can be from mine. There were a lot of extremely unfortunate incidents described here that
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Karen
Sep 24, 2007 Karen rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Reading this book left me with at least one clear and resounding thought: "Thank God I wasn't raised in a crazy religious cult." Irene Spencer tells a mesmerizing tale of her upbringing as a fourth generation fundamentalist Mormon, an upbringing that led her into a polygamous marriage at age sixteen. Taught all her life to uphold the Principle of plural marriage, the author sacrificed again and again, leaving a man she truly loved (but whose insistence on monogamy would have damned her eternally ...more
Julie
Oct 29, 2007 Julie rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
It was interesting to me that a book on polygamy was on the Amazon Top 100, so I put it on hold at the library. I think the authors story, while certainly tragic, is different from most of the polygamist girls that are married off young. Her mother left her father (as did another of the fathers 3 wives) when the author was young. Her mother then begged her for years not to follow into polygamy. She had a nice guy she was in love with who was desperate to marry her - monogamously. Yet she still c ...more
Jessica
Oct 11, 2008 Jessica rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
I think I was equally horrified and fascinated by this book. The author was a really feisty woman, and that made the situations she had to endure a lot easier to read about. I even found myself laughing at different parts. With that said, I was annoyed at her often inaccurate connections to the LDS and FLDS churches (mostly relating to their reasons for practicing polygamy). I also was disappointed by the ending of the book. I kept waiting for the whole "what didn't kill me made me stronger" spe ...more
Shelley Kresan
Probably the 10th book in a succession of books about the FLDS and fundamentalist Mormons. This one HAS to be the most frustrating to me. She balks at the lifestyle from the beginning and seemed to have a strong spirit, but she stayed and stayed. She went through all this when it was at least physically easier to leave, but despite all evidence to the contrary she believed that the Principle was her only way to be a Goddess and continue to serve the man who put her through hell throughout eterni ...more
Abby
Apr 23, 2008 Abby rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I really enjoyed this memoir. Knowing very little about the fundamentalist Mormon church, I found Spencer's candor and honesty about being a polygamist's wife refreshing, heartbreaking, and informative. Spencer never stoops to the level of pathos or moralizing. She tells her story straight-up and to the point, detailing how she falls in love with her brother-in-law and becomes his second wife, the abject poverty she lived in for much of her life, bearing 13 children, and more often than not, car ...more
Michele
Mar 30, 2009 Michele rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Too Many Wives . . . Too Many Kids
I can honestly say I’ve never read anything quite like the life story of Irene Spencer in her memoir Shattered Dreams: My Life as a Polygamist’s Wife. Stories like this are seldom told. Either the subject doesn’t live to tell the tale, or more specifically, her lack of formal education, interaction with the outside world OR her religion would forbid it.

My first thought upon finishing this long story of poverty, grief and heartache was, thank GOD she escaped this
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Alycia
Nov 12, 2008 Alycia rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
When she went back to Vernon at the end, I wanted to slap her.
Nouran Attia
Aug 05, 2016 Nouran Attia rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: favourites
I was having some sort of reader's block, but this book was interesting enough to grab my attention and push me forward to keep on going. It discussed Mormonism and practicing polygamy which was something I never knew existed before reading this book. It was gripping to see the character go through all that in her lifetime and actually know that this is for real and that this really happened. On the other hand, listening to the character complain and thinking why isn't she taking some course of ...more
Kavita
Having recently read His Favourite Wife: Trapped in Polygamy by Susan Ray Schmidt, I wanted to read about Susan's sister-wife, Irene Spencer. Shattered Dreams: My Life as a Polygamist's Wife is Irene's autobiography, describing her life from the time of her mother's divorce to her husband's death in a car accident, suspected to be murder.

The book lacks something - a story, linearity, perhaps even the truth? Spencer writes from a retrospective view, with the full benefit of hindsight. She claims
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Maria Armada
Very interesting book. A quick summation would be: a biography of a woman who followed a fundametalist mormon lifestyle which demands polygamy. Her husband married 7 women, she was the second wife, and bore him 13 children (out of a total of 47) and raised them in dire poverty in rural Mexico.
I had passed up this book several times but then I read "Prophet of Blood" about the FLDS cult run by the LeBaron brothers and this women was married to one of the "non-prophet" brothers (over 4 Lebaron b
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Annika
Jan 28, 2012 Annika rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
If I mark this as 2 stars, it looks like I really disliked it, when two stars = "okay". If I mark it as 3 stars, it says "I liked it" and that is quite a stretch. I didn't LIKE it. I just was interested by the incredible horror that is polygamy (you can already see that I'm biased) and so I read this account.

Yes, I understand this is ONE woman's account of polygamy and being a "sister-wife" for almost 30 years.

I understand she does not speak for all sister-wives.

But I went into this with my own
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Pauline
Sep 04, 2011 Pauline rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: anyone open enough to read about a life that is not their own
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Kelsey Hanson
This book gives one of the most comprehensive books on what it's like to be in a polygamist family. This book doesn't focus on just the negative aspects (although trust me there are plenty of negative moments). This book doesn't follow the FLDS branch (Warren Jeffs and his followers) but it is a branch of Mormanism. While there is no direct abuse (unless you count women getting young pretty early), there is still a lot of pain when it comes to sharing a husband and trying to build a life with so ...more
Erin
Apr 30, 2009 Erin rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This book filled in some of the gaps that Favorite Wife didn't cover. This book is by Verlan's second wife, Irene, while Favorite Wife is by Verlan's 5th wife, Susan. I found both pretty enthralling. I doubt though that a reader could have followed this book as well without having read Favorite Wife first. This book makes a lot of references to things that I only understood as a result of having read the other book. It's pretty interesting that both wives, despite ultimately leaving the religion ...more
jenn
Oct 01, 2009 jenn rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 2009
This book is seriously frakked up. I'm glad Irene Spencer shared her story, when so many women in her situation, even today, suffer in silence. I spent most of the book pretty shocked and angry that anyone would put their kids through this level of poverty. Particularly when the author's constant defense of her actions was that she liked sleeping with her "husband" too much to leave him. Dude, when your baby falls through the rotting floor of an outhouse and almost drowns in pee and poop, it mig ...more
Jill Lamond
Sep 12, 2015 Jill Lamond rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This autobiography was not only extremely readable and fast paced but it was also well-written. Irene doesn't hold back in sharing all the details of her polygamous lifestyle. It is a fascinating insight into a completely different point of view. If you liked the TV show, Big Love, then I think you would enjoy this.
Hanna
May 25, 2016 Hanna rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
A story of a woman who lived religious history, albeit in a cult. Not only is Irene Spencer related to most of the movers and shakers in Mormon fundamentalism. She also witnessed some of the main moments of fundamentalist history as it happened during the 20th century. Irene Spencer seems like a sympathetic person and she tells her story without any airbrushing.

Firstly, the biography of Irene is not told from the perspective of a victim per se, someone who is trying to solicit pity. Irene is hon
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Carol-Anne
At 16, Irene Spencer became the second wife of her brother-in-law in 1953. From a fourth generation polygamous family, she was indoctrinated that plural marriage was required to enter Heaven. Her obedience brought her nothing but misery - poverty, illness, isolation, fear of abandonment by her husband and God, constantly pregnant, mass child rearing, limited education, emotional abandonment by her husband. In an interview with the author, she compares Mormon polygamy to a cult. It should be note ...more
LibraryCin
Irene grew up in a polygamous home and was raised in the FLDS church (Fundamentalist Mormons). Her mother got out of her plural marriage and Irene came close to not entering into one, but her fears of going to hell if she didn't convinced her... along with other family and her future husband, Verlan. She became his second wife; her half-sister, Charlotte was his first. Irene hated it! And she felt worse and worse about it with every new wife brought into the family. This is the story of her life ...more
Rachel
Dec 06, 2015 Rachel rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I really enjoyed this book! In fact, I desperately wanted to give it five stars. I just couldn't, because of the ridiculous use of vulgar language. The author uses d*** and h*** literally hundreds of times throughout the dialogue, including from the mouths of young children. It made sense to me, assuming that after she left the sect, she had given up all religion and beliefs. However, when she communicated (quite effectively, actually) in the epilogue that she was a born-again believer, I was pr ...more
Karen
Aug 28, 2015 Karen rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Faith and duty battle with dreams and desires, and this is a constant theme in Irene Spencer's memoir. Her faith tells her that the only way to find fulfillment and eternal happiness is to fulfill her duty in a polygamist marriage, that the people who don't follow Brigham Young's teachings have only caved to culture instead of staying true to "the Principle."

Irene Spencer was born into a polygamist household, and even though her mother eventually left, the indoctrination was in place. Growing up
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