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Love, Sex, and Lasting Relationships

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God wants his children to have a lasting relationship and great sex - the results of a deep, meaningful love that is rooted in commitment. This book helps readers walk a path to true love that is more fulfilling than they ever imagined.
Paperback, 216 pages
Published September 1st 2004 by Baker Books (first published January 1st 2003)
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Any book that says love, sex and relationships on the cover is something I steer clear of in the book store. Not to mention the people holding those books who have that “let’s talk” look in their eye. “No, Mr. Stranger, I do not want to bond over our hurts in life. I’m here for my latte and Lit fix.” It is true I am a “self-help” snob. I have good reason; the majority of self-help books are all about SELF. I think the best advice anyone can receive to make their life better is to go help someon ...more
Jul 03, 2012 Courtney rated it really liked it
This book was recommended to me by a friend at church as being one of her 'library' books, and now I can see why. Ingram wages war on the 'Hollywood formula' for finding love, and instead suggests we look at God's formula and design. I liked that Ingram is quick to admit that everyone has gotten love and sex wrong at some point or another (He writes, "You're not vulnerable because you're a bad person; you're vulnerable because you're vulnerable."), so it's not a book just for teenagers about dat ...more
Mar 11, 2010 Stephanie rated it liked it
Read this with my spouse. Great message, worth reading, probably more beneficial to teens/young adults who are just beginning relationships.
Read: It would have been best to begin thinking and discussing the premise of this book in middle school. The premise is that God's formula for relationships (as displayed throughout scripture) is the most beneficial to build healthy, strong, lasting, secure relationships vs. the "Hollywood formula" that building failing/unhealthy/unhappy relationships. I a
Ion Bargan
Apr 05, 2015 Ion Bargan rated it it was amazing
Recenzie pe seama cărții în traducere rusă: Любовь, секс и супружеские отношения. Божий рецепт усовершенствования вашей личной жизни.

Primul capitol vorbește despre formula Hollywood a relațiilor de dragoste, aceasta constând în 4 pași:
1. A găsi persoana potrivită
2. A te îndrăgosti de ea
3. A pune toate speranțele pe seama acestei persoane
4. În cazul nereușitei, de repetat pașii 1, 2 și 3

Autorul ne vorbește despre vulenrabilitatea acestei formule, care a condus la sporirea numărului de despărțiri
Nermine Hosni
Aug 14, 2013 Nermine Hosni rated it it was amazing
وصفة الله للعلاقات الدائمة
فكونو متمثلين بالله كأولاد احباء واسلكوا في المحبة كما احبنا المسيح ايضاً واسلم نفسه لأجلنا قرباناً وذبيحة لله رائحة طيبة (اف : -)
التمثل بالله في العلاقات يعني اننا يجب ان نكون عطوفين وحنونين وشفوقين وذوي بصيرة ومستعدين لأن نتسامح مع اخطاء الناس وغفورين باستمرار ذا يعني اننا نريد الخير لهم ، نكون لطفاء نحوهم حتي عندما لا تسدد احتياجاتنا او عندما نكون في حالة غضب

انا وانت ببساطة ليس لدينا القوة علي الغفران دائماً وعلي ان نكون عطوفين باستمرار . لن يكون لدينا القدرة علي
Eric Ryan
Feb 06, 2010 Eric Ryan rated it it was amazing
No other book as defined and given me the tools and confidence to do relationships the way God intended. Everyone says it's to hard and let's face it society has made it VERY hard. We are pounded day and night, minute by minute with stuff to make us stray from the ay God designed relationships and love and of course sex. Chip gives very practical advice and guidance on not how only but why it's so important to do it God's way and not the way we've all dont it in the past. This is a great read fo ...more
Apr 07, 2016 Janet rated it it was amazing
Shelves: faith
Anyone who is interested in any relationships - friendly or sexually - should read this book. Chip makes it very clear how the world is upside down compared to how God actually designed us to relate to each other. This book convinced my daughter-in-law to marry my son. It gave freedom to some of my single friends to not feel so pressured about their dating life and their "love life." It's very practical. Parents should read this with their children. Children should read this with their parents. ...more
May 31, 2013 Ginelle rated it really liked it
Ingram starts out the book by explaining to his readers what Hollywood's plan for our relationships is, and how we subliminally grew up and accepted it. He then tells us what God's plan is for our relationships. He offers a number of sourced statistics that impress the importance of sexual purity, and stresses that throughout the book.
Most of the book centers around encouraging singles and those who are struggling, to live by God's plan. He describes how to work through the plan so that you can
June Park
Mar 17, 2016 June Park rated it liked it
Nothing new, but confirmed what I believed. The twelve tests were something practical to apply and help me to evaluate my perspective on relationship. However, he makes these advice based on his culture and thus some of his ideas may not be applicable to Asian. Still, it was very useful book. Not resonating though.
Kurt Davis
Jan 28, 2015 Kurt Davis rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
great read at any stage in your Christian faith

A must read...good stuff to digest and will force you to think about how you can have or build a better relationship
John Robert Wood Jr.
Great read!

Looking for a new formula to dating? Tired of your relationships ending the same way? Read this book. You will be glad you did.
Apr 29, 2013 Johanna rated it really liked it
"It means accepting that everything is not going to work out great or just the way I want it to all the time. There are times when life is really hard and not filled with good feelings at all. You and I need to be willing to endure the pain and go through the tough times. You see, as long as we live with this deluded idea that sets the other person up to meet all our expectations, we are doomed to disappointment."

12 tests of infatuation vs. genuine love

Sex is sacred, serious, and a grave respons
Brett Gorney
Jan 26, 2014 Brett Gorney rated it really liked it
A great read for those wanting to depart from the "Hollywood Formula" for dating and relationships and trust in God's will for your relationships and future wife or husband.
Aug 20, 2013 Suzanne rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
I marked this book as finished without actually finishing it, simply because I cannot take the author's crap anymore. He is clearly legalistic when it comes to his attitude about sex. And he doesn't seem to be able to back up his claims. His opinion that sex outside of marriage is archaic. How can the author possibly know what Paul meant? He condemns homosexuality and thinks a monogomous relationship is synomous with marriage. I gave it two stars because he does have valid points about how Holly ...more
Wendy Sparkes
Mar 24, 2014 Wendy Sparkes rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: relationships
Sep 23, 2012 Charles rated it it was amazing
If you are sick of seeing relationships fail and are wondering if there is a better then, then this is the book for you. Ingram lays out God's principles for legitimate relationships that can stand the test of time. This book is challenging and real. If you go into it with a open mind you will not be disappointed. If you are still convinced that you can find love the Hollywood way then you shouldn't even bother reading it
Scott Worden
May 21, 2016 Scott Worden rated it really liked it
Shelves: christian
I like the fact that this book reprimands the fantasy Hollywood love story as fake and a formula that ruins relationships. I also think that this book is beneficial for young people just beginning relationships. As a 40 year old that has made a lot of mistakes written in this book, I wish I had read something like this before. I did find this book a bit repetitive towards the end, but overall it was a good read.
Nov 25, 2013 John rated it it was amazing
This is an excellent book detailing the common failing and fundamental issues with how we try to do relationships in America today. I'm happily married, and I think my wife and I are following the principles outlined here, but I recognize the Hollywood Prescription the author talks about and I recognize the damage it has done in my life before I got serious about my Christianity.
Sep 27, 2007 Lyndel rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Why do some relationships go wrong? And what's the secret? Go ahead and read this book and then read it again, and again and again and again. That's how good this book is. It's a definite keeper. I have a lot to learn in the relationship area yet! With lots of prayers and lots of hope, I'll get there one day.
Giscard Nazon
Dec 19, 2012 Giscard Nazon rated it it was amazing
I received this book as a gift and it was a beneficial read, even worthy of offering twice as a gift. I believe the author's observations about the "mainstream" approach to relationships have merit and I found his proposed biblical alternative to be sound and worthy of sincere consideration.
Mar 29, 2009 Mck0519 rated it it was amazing
I love him on the radio. This is the first book of his that I have read and am really enjoying it - true to form. Great point of view and insight. It reminds us of the differences between Hollywood's version of love, and reality. For single people, married, men or women.
Jan 05, 2014 James rated it really liked it
I recommend as part of premarital counseling, as well as periodic refresher
Apr 15, 2012 Tara rated it really liked it
Great read for married couples, soon to be married couples, or singles who are dating. The video was also good. Great info to help you have a God-honoring relationship.
John Davis
Dec 02, 2013 John Davis rated it it was amazing
Excellent book on God's plan for love, sex and long lasting relationships. Would highly recommend this and the study dvd and questions we used for our small group.
Ewuradjoa Kumi- Kyereme
I recommend this to anyone who needs a guideline to know how to do relationships God's way.
Sep 19, 2007 Dunni rated it it was amazing
this is the most fantastic book ive seen on this topic. its so revealing. try it
Crystal Holdipp
Jul 13, 2013 Crystal Holdipp rated it it was amazing
An excellent read!!! This book changed my outlook on relationships.
Oct 28, 2013 Kristina rated it really liked it
good message more for reborn Christians, youth, college age.
Jun 17, 2008 Amy rated it it was ok
Didnt get too far in this one. Plan to get back to it sometime.
Jennifer Doherty
Jan 01, 2013 Jennifer Doherty rated it it was amazing
My all time favorite dating book!
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Chip Ingram is the senior pastor of Venture Christian Church in Los Gatos, California, and president of Living on the Edge, an international teaching and discipleship ministry. A pastor for over twenty-five years, Chip has a unique ability to communicate truth and challenge people to live out their faith. Chip is author of twelve books, including Overcoming Emotions that Destroy; God: As He Longs ...more
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“Walking in love means giving the other person what he or she needs the most when it is least deserved, because that’s exactly how God has treated you.” 3 likes
“If you attempt to build intimacy with a person before you’ve done the hard work of becoming a whole and healthy person, every relationship will be an attempt to complete the hole in your heart and the lack of what you don’t have. That relationship will end in disaster.”[1]” 1 likes
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