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20-Something, 20-Everything: A Quarter-Life Woman's Guide to Balance and Direction

3.43 of 5 stars 3.43  ·  rating details  ·  909 ratings  ·  87 reviews
The mid-20s through the mid-30s can be a time of difficult transition: the security blanket of college and parents is gone, and it's suddenly time to make far-reaching decisions about career, investments, even adult identity. When author Christine Hassler experienced such a quarter-life crisis, she found that she was not alone. In fact, an entire generation of young women ...more
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Published April 27th 2005 by New World Library (first published April 10th 2005)
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At first I thought it would be another book to motivate and inspire but then as I got more into it, towards the middle and end, it was just more assuring that life is about acceptance and if you really want change to come about - you are the only one who will make that happen. It think the author hit the 20's decade head on - she was able to tell me exactly what I am going through and what I feel, and it's really made me feel better about my situation. I mean I was pretty happy with my life but ...more
Rachel Rueckert
I did not love this book, but it helped me in a round-about way by helping me realize that no one and nothing—and especially not a book—is going to be a comprehensive prescription of where I am and how I should live my life. Interestingly enough, I ended up getting out of the book the very message it intended despite my mini rebellion: realize learning is a continuum, and give myself freedom and forgiveness as I figure it out.

Despite the sometimes over-the-top, corny commentary, here were a few
Stephanie Spines
Too airy fairy for me. Too superficial and too basic. This book lacked the philosophical analysis of being directionless, anxious and young that I needed. Also written from a particular point of view that is completely irrelevant to my life, especially in terms of privilege.
It took me 4 months but I finally finished this book! WOO!

Highly recommend for anyone facing a quarterlife crisis, or just anyone who wants to dig deep into what they really want out of this life. The journaling portions are long, but they are so vital to getting everything out of this book. I didn't do them all, but I did the majority of them and I can see myself rereading through certain chapters again and again.

I learned a LOT throughout the process of reading this book and it was useful is
Lisamarie Landreth
20-Something 20-Everything was the first book of it's kind addressing the Odyssey Years we twenty-somethings find ourselves traversing. I had high hopes for this book and bought "The Twenty Something Manifesto" with it. As a weekly columnist for the Huffington Post, I expected Christine to deliver on her promise to clarify the quarter-life crisis and "provide insights to balance and direction." This book was fluff mixed with meaningless "exercises" with a penchant for stating the obvious. It too ...more
Chelsea Frederick
I couldn't even get past the intro. This book was written for the woman who wants the "Sex in the City" kind of lifestyle, which I certainly do not.
I really wanted to like this book but found it painfully boring and cliche.
I thoroughly enjoyed reading 20 Something Manifesto. I am 23 years old and unhappy with the way my life has turned out so far. This book helped me by letting me know I am not alone. Christine Hassler shares her own experiences as well as stories from several other 20-somethings like me who are having trouble adjusting to the real world. She gives advice on dealing with friends, family, love, and career aspirations. I spend a lot of my time thinking about the future without being sure how to make ...more
Rachel Vives
This book is one of those... you know, when you're peering around the self help section, telling yourself you'll just "have a look" and pitty all the poor sappy women consoling themselves on the floor while telling yourself "I'm here because I don't have to be" when in fact, nobody goes in there unless they are looking for some sort of direction.
On one of those days, I found myself needing a little strength and just maybe, a plan that has already been laid out by an author (preferably a doctor a
I loved this book when I could stomach the gimicky, sticky motivational seminar writing. Also there was a lot of self- actualization theories that I don't necessarily believe in in light of my personal and religious beliefs. But it still was very helpful and encouraging to hear, "You're not alone in feeling stuck," "Keep going," "It's okay to admit that things suck." I actually stopped reading and made a list of things I'm discouraged about or feel that I did badly, and then made a list of good ...more
Danielle Langlois
This book is a must read for anyone in their 20s that feel a little lost or unsure if they are on the right path. The exercises were very helpful but I did not do them all, only the ones I felt I really needed to work through. I found a lot of people on here complained about the exercises but I found them very useful. Although I wasn't struggling in all the areas of life the book addresses it is very worthwhile to read each section as you will get something out of it. I consider myself a respons ...more
Samantha Oakley
I'm not big on self-help books, but facing a mountain of student loans and no permanent full-time job offers was enough to make me seek out self-help book recommendations. I ended-up with this one and can't say that I feel really improved from having read it. 20 Something, 20 Everything is less than 10 years old, but is extremely dated due to the current state of the economy and how Hassler discusses the work force.

Additionally, this book isn't really geared towards all 20 something women. Its
Uma C
Jul 27, 2008 Uma C rated it 4 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: 20-something people
I'm someone who spends a lot of time thinking about the future and what I want to do. I worry about whether I'm going to please my parents and if I will obtain the things that society says we should have. As I began to realize that there must be others going through the same thing, I came across the term 'quarter-life crisis' and looked into finding some books that could help me clarify my life as a 20-something. What I found was Hassler's manifesto and I zoomed right through it. The book featur ...more
Katie/Doing Dewey
As a 20-something, you’re often dealing with not having a logical “next-step” for the first time as you finish college, trying to find a job, and figuring out both who you are and what you want from life. In The 20 Something Manifesto, Christine Hassler has collected a bunch of short essays by 20-somethings at various stages of their lives and combined these with her insightful commentary. Throughout, she manages to sound authoritative and give good advice while never sounding condescending or j ...more
I didn't realize this until a couple chapters in, but this is actually a self-help book. Since I had already gotten through some of it, I decided to finish it. This book gives tips for people who are in their 20's and evaluating their life journey. It has all these lists of mental exercises to do and questions to ask yourself to get you thinking about what you really want out of life. A bit on the dry side.
It's good to know that there are a lot of other people out there that feel the way I do, but it's also very depressing.

Also, I didn't feel the book offered any real solutions to the problems presented, but maybe it was more of a fine whine thing than a self help thing.
Bertha Leal
The title should have tipped me off but I ploughed ahead anyway and now I feel like I was somehow tricked into reading a badly written self-help book. I personally love self-help (guilty pleasure!) but there have been better attempts than this. Didn't even finish it. Meh.
When I started having my quarter-life crisis :-) admit it, you've had one too....I liked that this book was quite interactive and encouraged me to write a lot.
First of all, 20-Something, 20-Everything and 20-Something Manifesto are two different books, and they should be listed on here as such. They are by the same author and both have overlapping content, but they are still two different books. One was published in 2005, the other in 2008. I hope someone can fix this! It's rather annoying to only get credit for this as one book in my yearly goal.

Up until the end was nigh, these books were hard to slog through. The Manifesto doesn't really require jou
They are many things. The Millennials. The Entitlement Generation. The Boomerang Generation. Whatever label you use, the twenty somethings have entered the work force and are now facing the trial and tribulations of growing up and becoming an adult.

I am a mother with a bunch of twenty somethings. From my perspective, I see a world of possibilities for my children. Given their many talents, interests, and amazing potential, I have troubles understanding why they are so afraid of the future. I ca
Mar 17, 2015 Lauren rated it 3 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: Well-to-do, NT, professional, twenty-something women
First off, this book has a much narrower audience than its title and intro might lead you to think, unfortunately. I do not consider myself to be within that audience. Still, this book was an interesting read with some good tips that I think are generally useful, not just to the particular audience in question. The exercises are also helpful in structuring action items you might attempt in response to what you read (Implementation is almost always the most difficult aspect of any self-help readi ...more
Shandy Potes mangra
I just finished reading this book, and can say that I am glad I did. The book is filled with many personal anecdotes and accounts that help twenty something readers recognize that they are not alone in their fears and anxieties. Although I had hoped their would be more depth exercises to do, I still found the book enjoyable because it didn't. It read more easily and I liked how the sections were organized.
Becki Iverson
I wish I had had this book three years ago.

A lot of the lessons it holds are now things I have figured out on my own. Having this wouldn't necessarily have displaced them, but I think it would definitely have made enduring them easier.

I plan on referring my younger sisters to this book as they graduate to help them navigate the uncertainties of going out on your own and living life for the first time. Some of this advice is obvious, but it's extra helpful to hear it from someone else sometimes
Loved it. Bang on! Exactly what I needed to read at this point in my life, and will definitely be referencing back to it as I follow new joys in life. Christine Hassler reminds us over and over to always follow your joy, stop comparing yourself to other people, and that our purpose in life doesn't have to be defined by what we do for a career. Reading this book, I learned about other women experiencing a quarter life crisis and how to set clear goals to improve my quality of life. This is a fant ...more
I found it helpful. It was nice to see other people thinking and feeling the way I did. It gave my feelings validity. It also helped me to accept that I cannot have everything all at once. That it's okay not to have everything all at once. However there are too many assignments. I say that not because I was too preoccupied to do them. I say that because not all of them seemed useful to anyone. I read over even the only that weren't as applicable to me. Maybe I should have just skipped them entir ...more
lucy :)
This book DEFINITELY needs to be read with a good brain filter. Some of the exercises were very helpful in sorting out some confusing bits in my brain, but there were also a lot that could probably be highly detrimental to the progression of various arenas of my life if I went through without first analyzing whether or not it's actually applicable to me. There were a lot of great tips and new perspectives for me to consider but at the same time, some of the wording and comments made me a little ...more
Wish I would have found this book a year ago when I had my quarter life crisis. I think there are some pretty relevant points made throughout the course of the book that highlight a ton of themes we as women go through on our 20's. A little long, but of value as it puts a more positive spin on life's growing pains.
Ijeoma Eboh
Probably too cheesy for most, but EXACTLY what I needed
Uplifting review of the 20-something decade. The author consistently offers not only a wide analysis of the struggles faced by this age-group at this point in time, but what I particularly appreciated was her practical help at the end of the discussion time. When the questions of "Now what? Where do I go from here?" arise, she has created very workable exercises for the reader to self-evaluate, create a plan, and take next steps forward.

Don't just navel-gaze or fret. Add the 20 Something Manifes
Best book for a college graduate.
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