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20-Something, 20-Everything: A Quarter-Life Woman's Guide to Balance and Direction

3.49  ·  Rating Details ·  1,277 Ratings  ·  108 Reviews
The mid-20s through the mid-30s can be a time of difficult transition: the security blanket of college and parents is gone, and it's suddenly time to make far-reaching decisions about career, investments, even adult identity. When author Christine Hassler experienced such a quarter-life crisis, she found that she was not alone. In fact, an entire generation of young women ...more
Paperback, 329 pages
Published April 27th 2005 by New World Library (first published April 10th 2005)
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Rachel Rueckert
I did not love this book, but it helped me in a round-about way by helping me realize that no one and nothing—and especially not a book—is going to be a comprehensive prescription of where I am and how I should live my life. Interestingly enough, I ended up getting out of the book the very message it intended despite my mini rebellion: realize learning is a continuum, and give myself freedom and forgiveness as I figure it out.

Despite the sometimes over-the-top, corny commentary, here were a few
Jul 27, 2009 Hoan rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
At first I thought it would be another book to motivate and inspire but then as I got more into it, towards the middle and end, it was just more assuring that life is about acceptance and if you really want change to come about - you are the only one who will make that happen. It think the author hit the 20's decade head on - she was able to tell me exactly what I am going through and what I feel, and it's really made me feel better about my situation. I mean I was pretty happy with my life but ...more
Stephanie Spines
Sep 20, 2011 Stephanie Spines rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Too airy fairy for me. Too superficial and too basic. This book lacked the philosophical analysis of being directionless, anxious and young that I needed. Also written from a particular point of view that is completely irrelevant to my life, especially in terms of privilege.
Rosie Nguyễn
Dec 10, 2015 Rosie Nguyễn rated it really liked it
Shelves: 20-sthg
Đọc nghiên cứu mà cố lắm mới hết.
Cô này không phải nhà văn dĩ nhiên, viết sách lần đầu nên khô và chán, phong cách lặp đi lặp lại.
Nhưng mà cũng có vài cái hữu ích. Chủ yếu là câu hỏi để tự vấn bản thân.
Oct 18, 2012 Stephany rated it really liked it
Shelves: 2012, nonfiction
It took me 4 months but I finally finished this book! WOO!

Highly recommend for anyone facing a quarterlife crisis, or just anyone who wants to dig deep into what they really want out of this life. The journaling portions are long, but they are so vital to getting everything out of this book. I didn't do them all, but I did the majority of them and I can see myself rereading through certain chapters again and again.

I learned a LOT throughout the process of reading this book and it was useful is
Uma C
Jul 27, 2008 Uma C rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: 20-something people
I'm someone who spends a lot of time thinking about the future and what I want to do. I worry about whether I'm going to please my parents and if I will obtain the things that society says we should have. As I began to realize that there must be others going through the same thing, I came across the term 'quarter-life crisis' and looked into finding some books that could help me clarify my life as a 20-something. What I found was Hassler's manifesto and I zoomed right through it. The book featur ...more
Jul 22, 2012 Leah rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I thoroughly enjoyed reading 20 Something Manifesto. I am 23 years old and unhappy with the way my life has turned out so far. This book helped me by letting me know I am not alone. Christine Hassler shares her own experiences as well as stories from several other 20-somethings like me who are having trouble adjusting to the real world. She gives advice on dealing with friends, family, love, and career aspirations. I spend a lot of my time thinking about the future without being sure how to make ...more
Lisamarie Landreth
Oct 18, 2013 Lisamarie Landreth rated it did not like it
20-Something 20-Everything was the first book of it's kind addressing the Odyssey Years we twenty-somethings find ourselves traversing. I had high hopes for this book and bought "The Twenty Something Manifesto" with it. As a weekly columnist for the Huffington Post, I expected Christine to deliver on her promise to clarify the quarter-life crisis and "provide insights to balance and direction." This book was fluff mixed with meaningless "exercises" with a penchant for stating the obvious. It too ...more
Sep 26, 2011 Colleenish rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: for-fun
I loved this book when I could stomach the gimicky, sticky motivational seminar writing. Also there was a lot of self- actualization theories that I don't necessarily believe in in light of my personal and religious beliefs. But it still was very helpful and encouraging to hear, "You're not alone in feeling stuck," "Keep going," "It's okay to admit that things suck." I actually stopped reading and made a list of things I'm discouraged about or feel that I did badly, and then made a list of good ...more
Chelsea Frederick
Jan 31, 2013 Chelsea Frederick rated it did not like it
Shelves: gave-up-on, own
I couldn't even get past the intro. This book was written for the woman who wants the "Sex in the City" kind of lifestyle, which I certainly do not.
Oct 24, 2011 Lara rated it did not like it
I really wanted to like this book but found it painfully boring and cliche.
Katie/Doing Dewey
Jan 21, 2013 Katie/Doing Dewey rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
As a 20-something, you’re often dealing with not having a logical “next-step” for the first time as you finish college, trying to find a job, and figuring out both who you are and what you want from life. In The 20 Something Manifesto, Christine Hassler has collected a bunch of short essays by 20-somethings at various stages of their lives and combined these with her insightful commentary. Throughout, she manages to sound authoritative and give good advice while never sounding condescending or j ...more
Danielle Langlois
Nov 21, 2014 Danielle Langlois rated it it was amazing
This book is a must read for anyone in their 20s that feel a little lost or unsure if they are on the right path. The exercises were very helpful but I did not do them all, only the ones I felt I really needed to work through. I found a lot of people on here complained about the exercises but I found them very useful. Although I wasn't struggling in all the areas of life the book addresses it is very worthwhile to read each section as you will get something out of it. I consider myself a respons ...more
Rachel Vives
May 21, 2008 Rachel Vives rated it liked it
This book is one of those... you know, when you're peering around the self help section, telling yourself you'll just "have a look" and pitty all the poor sappy women consoling themselves on the floor while telling yourself "I'm here because I don't have to be" when in fact, nobody goes in there unless they are looking for some sort of direction.
On one of those days, I found myself needing a little strength and just maybe, a plan that has already been laid out by an author (preferably a doctor a
Sep 14, 2016 Nele rated it really liked it
It felt like the right time to pick up this book again. The last time I read it, a few years ago, I only got to page 80 or so, and I was determined to read the whole book this time.
Although I do not consider myself to be in crisis, the book does provide some handy tools to deal with life, and offers things to think about.
That being said, a few years ago I was indeed in a 20 something-crisis and I did thought I needed and wanted it all. At 23, I thought I wanted a career. Turns out I wanted a pay
Jan 28, 2008 Elise rated it it was amazing
Shelves: women, philosophy
When I started having my quarter-life crisis :-) admit it, you've had one too....I liked that this book was quite interactive and encouraged me to write a lot.
Ijeoma Eboh
Feb 24, 2014 Ijeoma Eboh rated it liked it
Probably too cheesy for most, but EXACTLY what I needed
Jun 30, 2015 Fraukeisonline added it
Recommends it for: Twenty-something
Shelves: sachbücher, 2015
I, myself, endured a quarter-life-crisis when I started reading this book. When I bought it, I just thought it was another self-help-book, where the author would tell you about his/her experience and what steps they took to get out of this terrible situation. I am not saying that this take is bad (as I bought this book, thinking of it that way) but the reality of this was different. Christine Hassler wrote about her personal experience as well as the experience of other young women, in the same ...more
Apr 15, 2008 Tami rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
They are many things. The Millennials. The Entitlement Generation. The Boomerang Generation. Whatever label you use, the twenty somethings have entered the work force and are now facing the trial and tribulations of growing up and becoming an adult.

I am a mother with a bunch of twenty somethings. From my perspective, I see a world of possibilities for my children. Given their many talents, interests, and amazing potential, I have troubles understanding why they are so afraid of the future. I ca
Jan 19, 2013 Samantha rated it liked it
I'm not big on self-help books, but facing a mountain of student loans and no permanent full-time job offers was enough to make me seek out self-help book recommendations. I ended-up with this one and can't say that I feel really improved from having read it. 20 Something, 20 Everything is less than 10 years old, but is extremely dated due to the current state of the economy and how Hassler discusses the work force.

Additionally, this book isn't really geared towards all 20 something women. Its
Becki Iverson
I wish I had had this book three years ago.

A lot of the lessons it holds are now things I have figured out on my own. Having this wouldn't necessarily have displaced them, but I think it would definitely have made enduring them easier.

I plan on referring my younger sisters to this book as they graduate to help them navigate the uncertainties of going out on your own and living life for the first time. Some of this advice is obvious, but it's extra helpful to hear it from someone else sometimes
Jan 10, 2016 Jt rated it really liked it
Recommends it for: young women
It was a good book filled with practical advice for each aspect of young adulthood (relationships, finance, career and self-identity etc). I did find some of the exercises very repetitive and not applicable based on my own self awareness of some of my own issues, so I just skipped those. But I appreciate the time put into making this book thorough. The case studies were also insightful and some of them definitely hit home and made you do some serious introspection.

Highly recommend to young women
Jan 15, 2016 Jessica rated it it was amazing
Christine Hassler did a wonderful job putting this book together! I feel more confident in myself after reading this, knowing that I am in charge of what happens in my life. Her exercises really made me think about things in a different perspective.

I also really liked hearing about how other women feel about all sorts of things, especially the quotes on the side of the page from older women who have been through more.

I didn't realize this until a couple chapters in, but this is actually a self-help book. Since I had already gotten through some of it, I decided to finish it. This book gives tips for people who are in their 20's and evaluating their life journey. It has all these lists of mental exercises to do and questions to ask yourself to get you thinking about what you really want out of life. A bit on the dry side.
Shandy Potes mangra
I just finished reading this book, and can say that I am glad I did. The book is filled with many personal anecdotes and accounts that help twenty something readers recognize that they are not alone in their fears and anxieties. Although I had hoped there would be more depth exercises to do, I still found the book enjoyable because it didn't. It read more easily and I liked how the sections were organized.
Jul 01, 2008 Melanie rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
It's good to know that there are a lot of other people out there that feel the way I do, but it's also very depressing.

Also, I didn't feel the book offered any real solutions to the problems presented, but maybe it was more of a fine whine thing than a self help thing.
Bertha Leal
Apr 01, 2013 Bertha Leal rated it did not like it
The title should have tipped me off but I ploughed ahead anyway and now I feel like I was somehow tricked into reading a badly written self-help book. I personally love self-help (guilty pleasure!) but there have been better attempts than this. Didn't even finish it. Meh.
Lisamarie Landreth
Take everything you already know about life in your 20s by 22, and put it in a book. Please read The Defining Decade and skip this one. I'm abandoning it after 250 pages of suffering and 18 months.
May 10, 2016 Specialk rated it it was ok
Shelves: couldn-t-finish
Well. I mean. You made it to your twenties. You feel like not everything is perfect. So you grab a self-improvement book. Except...

It doesn't really tell you how to improve anything. A lot of "quizzes" that make you reflect, and perhaps some people need that. But once you've done your reflecting, then what? How do we move forward? This book doesn't answer that.

I also hate books that include an obscene amount of stories or anecdotes from "people" that have been "interviewed" which are really mea
Aug 10, 2014 kylajaclyn rated it liked it
First of all, 20-Something, 20-Everything and 20-Something Manifesto are two different books, and they should be listed on here as such. They are by the same author and both have overlapping content, but they are still two different books. One was published in 2005, the other in 2008. I hope someone can fix this! It's rather annoying to only get credit for this as one book in my yearly goal.

Up until the end was nigh, these books were hard to slog through. The Manifesto doesn't really require jou
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