My Husband Betty: Love, Sex, and Life with a Crossdresser
Also, I read the followup first, out of order, and had some kind of mean things to say about it.
So, okay. A couple pages ...more
I'm giving this four stars rather than three, because Boyd (her nom de plume) really does think her way through crossdressing unlike any other author on the subject. The only one who comes close is Julia Serano, whose first book is really not about the same subject, despite having one excellent chapter on crossdressers.
The long answer to why I give it four stars: Boyd 'gets' that MtF crossdressers are transgendered, but also that they're not transsexuals or fetishists (for the most part). Crossd...more
of gender politics. Especially interesting because it adds yet another twist into the confusing
issue of gender and gender identity.
Vern L. Bullough sums up the book well: "This is an insider's view of transvestism. It is sympathetic, understanding, but also
realistic and critical. It should be essential reading not only for wives of transvestites (the author is the wife of one), but for transvestites
and transgender ...more
interested in the psychology of both partners in this kind of relationship. Cross-dressers are not my especial
interest, but My Husband Betty is one of the first books I have read which presents a candid view of how the
"significant other" is affected by any change in gender identity in her partner. Helen Boyd, the author, is both
funny and very sharp in her autobiography of her husband's
journey into cross-dressing, her struggles with wondering ...more
I would give two small disclaimers on this book. The first is that this book is not in fact about her husband Betty. This is about cross dressers and their wives. The perso ...more
If you have a friend going through the "trans" processor this is a must read.
A wonderful insight into interpersonal relationships of people sharing lives outside the mainstream. Also my friend Emma recommended it and she's cool, so it had to be cool. :)
Interstingly, Helen gives a lot of good relationship advice that is applicable to anyone not just those involved in the TG/TS/CD etc community.