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The Rules of the Game

3.45 of 5 stars 3.45  ·  rating details  ·  1,203 ratings  ·  43 reviews
'The Rules of the Game' is a simple, easy-to-follow guide to the basics of approaching and attracting women of quality. Though it is designed for the hardest cases, it has also been proven to work for men who are already successful with women.
Paperback, 472 pages
Published July 1st 2008 by Canongate Books (first published 2007)
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Max Jackson
There’s a class of self-help books for men, books with bold titles like “ROAR OF THE MAN-WARRIOR” and “THE SEX GOD WITHIN” that promise explosive increases in sex/money/power/general satisfaction of desire for any man with stones enough to take the plunge. This book is one of them. It was literally thrown at me by my helpful roommate one dark day when my romantic despair was so intense it was almost bending the light around my head.

I’d heard tell of the book before, of PickUp Artist-ry and its
Some notes:

One exercise: call a wrong number and get the person who answers to recommend a movie. "The point isn't just to talk with strangers. It's to learn how to change the course of an interaction without making the other person uncomfortable." - p29

"'Rejection' is another word that has been misused and misrepresented. The dictionary definition of 'reject" is 'to refuse to accept.' So if you offer someone a stick of gum, and she says 'No thanks,' you've been rejected. Do you feel an emotiona
Marie Bisgaard
I think the book had some good points and was an enjoyable read. A person who follows the rules will definitely improve his (or even hers) social skills. I however doubt that it is possible to achieve all the goals in one month. The book also doesn't really offer any magical key for scoring that you wouldn't find in other self-help-ish books. Or maybe that's just how I see it - nobody have tried all of these "tricks" on me, so perhaps I'm wrong.
Just when you thought all the PUA stories were told, Neil cranks out another soon to be bestseller. A fascinating sequel to Strauss's groundbreaking pick up artist classic with a twist. The void of male social dynamics and pick up advice with substance is masterfully filled with the entry of Rules of the Game. His techniques are compelling, and his tales are infectious page turners.

This slickly packaged title is a two volume set. Its focus begins with establishing your identity, expectations an
This book creates a 30 day 'bootcamp' to help train any man to improve his 'game' Each day, the book provides exercises and learning outcomes to help each man build out his repertoire and confidence when talking and approaching women.

I have read a number of books about picking up chicks to hone my game. The top three are the mystery method, How to be successful with women, and this book.

If you want to start dating better women, get those three books. I promise you a more exciting and rewarding
Sergiu Pobereznic
Although on the surface this can be seen as a book about learning the skills and various techniques of how to "pick up women", it is much more than that. Strauss is, in fact, teaching confidence, which is the ability to relax in social situations.
It's not necessarily about your looks, body shape etc, although he does deal with those aspects, too.
He attempts to set out in creating a better Self, that is modeled on who you actually are, rather than a faux you.
Some may see much of it as pointless
Jeff Yoak
I didn't read much of this one at all. Unlike Strauss's earlier book, this one is a workbook and is hard to read without doing. That's the point, of course, and is no criticism. It just didn't serve my purposes as I didn't intend to do the project, but was just interested in the book after the previous one.
Maybe it's me, but what the hell is the point of this book? It reads like part-memoir part-porn with a subtle moral attached in the end. Based on the average rating of this book, perhaps only people who are in the loop will get it. I just don't.
Jay Tate
I read this as a self-help book, not just as a treatise on picking up girls. (I'm already married, and before that I never found meeting nice women difficult.)

there are plenty of people who judge their lives by their sexual performance, and they are probably the target for this book. But, meeting girls is a lot like meeting friends, finding a job, buying a car, and winning at poker. So, the lessons of the book can be applied more widely than with the ladies.

I have recommended this to men and to
Robert Judkins
All I did was read it, so I realise I have no right to expect it to change my life.

To start of with, I thought maybe I might do these challenges, but the amount of time and confidence you'd need is insane. This is the problem – it's supposed to build your confidence but you need so much in the first place to make these "approaches".

Barely a day goes by when you don't read something that portrays heterosexual men in a negative light as creepy and sex pests. We just cannot win. So, to have the c
Feb 20, 2008 Cameron rated it 4 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: People with social anxiety and bad grooming.
I bought this book out of curiosity of what the Stylelife 30 day challenge would be like.

The first book, the book of short stories, was interesting and gave me something to read while my dinner was cooking. Neil Strauss is a good author and loves himself very much. Some women loved him too. They had dirty sex. It's formulaic, but entertaining.

The second book is the reason I bought the set in the first place. Day by day missions taking the most socially awkward person to the point where they can
You don't necessarily need to read any books on pickup. They're all boring and not particularly useful. If you could really score with tons of chicks by reading a book, only illiterates wouldn't be scoring constantly. And even illiterates would probably be doing well for themselves, because chicks like dumb guys. If you only read one pickup book, I'd go with Rules of the Game. It's split up into three parts: (1) A list of exercises to make you less of creep and maybe get some stank on your hangl ...more
Not quite as good as The Game, but a more interesting package - two mini-books together. Book one is kind of a supplement to The Game - more stories, but fleshed-out (no pun intended). The second book is an actual 30-day "Style-Life Challenge" self-help regimen aimed at taking shy guys from timidity to actually getting a date. It's a fascinating read, and offers a bunch of interesting and legitimate (but not cheesy or obvious) self-improvement tips and personal challenges/head games to become mo ...more
Alex Gregory
The softball sequel to "The Game", "Rules of the Game" has little of its predecessor's unintentional humor and wryness about the failure of the pickup artist scene, and more a mishmash of half-baked ideas and concepts regurgitated from better self-help books.

There are two volumes included in this set:

The Stylelife Companion is a self-prescribed 30 day crash course in becoming a better person, both mentally and physically. While the book should get some accolades for introducing reflection and se
Brandon Dalo
I originally became familiar with Neil Strauss after stumbling upon his novel, “The Game” which was (as its subtitle explains) about his adventure in penetrating the secret society of pickup artists. Having been highly entertained and taught much about life through that book, I decided to pick up this sequel.

The book is split into two parts: the first is titled “The Stylelife Challenge” in which he gives instructions on how to “Master the Game in 30 days.” The second part is titled “The Style Di
Craig Williams
I decided to stop reading this, as I found it to be kind of silly. The "field exercises" struck me as ridiculous (one of them is to approach 3 different girls, and ask them where is the best place to purchase men's clothing). I get what the exercises are trying to do - they are trying to help one get over the anxiety of approaching a stranger. It's just not for me though. Performing such exercises make me feel like I'm setting myself up for the mother of all pranks. What exercises are next? Go k ...more
Full disclosure: I did not read the diary section, and am only commenting/rating the "Stylelife Challenge" from a Pickup perspective.

Rules of the Game serves a purpose. It introduces readers to the world of Pickup in practice. Most people who read The Game and think "Hey, I could really do this stuff" will probably want to read Rules of the Game. Just like The Game, this book is simply an introduction. Like all of Neil's book, it's fun, easy to read, and engaging. The reason I rated it what I di
This book was a good idea, and something like this was definitely requested and expected by anyone who read his first book, "The Game". However, I believe it falls short of its goal. I will state the problem as simply as I can: It is too hard. What he asks you to do is nothing short of a herculean feat. It is a 30 day challenge to top all 30 day challenges. If you could do even half of the stuff he asks you to do as part of your "training", you would not have even needed to pick up this book at ...more
Accidentally read this instead of the more famous book "The Game", but since I already started it, I just decided to finish it.

It was interesting just to see the perspective of his writing. I already knew the premise going into the game, so nothing was terribly shocking or surprising.

I actually felt most of his advice was focused on making the person a more social person - that advice can be seen in other universal personality-help guides, I think. Or rather... a lot of it felt like common sense
I have read the Style Diaries, but did not read or do the stylelife challenge. I have found that Strauss's books around the pickup community are more balanced, and reflect a more empowering view of the game than other PUA's. This particular short book embodies this even more by showing the foibles and errors of Style and where the game fails to satisfy, subtly asking the question of "what now?" A fun and valuable read if you have read or been a part of the PUA community, if you haven't, you will ...more
Not to be read as your normal book. So I am bit confused about marking this as read as long as I haven't the exercises.
Apr 12, 2015 Asn marked it as to-read  ·  review of another edition
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Maksims Trivaškevičs
Exciting and interesting stuff.
Mayank Saboo
Neil Strauss is a fantastic and a smart author. I came across this book way back when it was published and online shopping in India wasn't even near its peak. So getting to know about the previous book was not easy. Finding it was ever more difficult.
The tests and the rules here are pertinent and stupid in their own sense. Some may hate this book, but it was pretty decent according to me.
While Strauss offers a lot of useful information for social ascendancy, he also leaves out a lot - and I think maybe he does that on purpose, much like S.W. Erdnase in "The Expert at the Card Table". Still, a helpful book, but one that should be read alongside stuff like "Instant Rapport" by Michael Brooks.
Trey Nowell
A must read for men looking in the dating field, especially if you are going out to try and meet women. I suggest this reading for women too, so you see some games men play to get you :) It really was an enjoyable read and taught me a lot. I list this really as a psychology book of sorts.
Jeff Lamberson
Even if your not interested in becoming a PUA (pick up artist), this and "The Game" are great books. The whole idea of the seduction community, and why people react to each other the way they do, is very interesting.
Edward Pok
very entertaining. an interesting look into the world of pick-up artists. there were quite a few funny episodes and eccentric characters in this. neil strauss is a good story teller
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