On Becoming Baby Wise: Giving Your Infant the Gift of Nighttime Sleep
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On Becoming Baby Wise: Giving Your Infant the Gift of Nighttime Sleep

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The infant management concepts presented in this book have found favor with over two million parents and twice as many contented babies. On Becoming Babywise brings hope to the tired and bewildered parents looking for an alternative to sleepless nights and fussy babies. The Babywise Parent Directed Feeding concept has enough structure to bring security and order to your ba...more
Paperback, 252 pages
Published September 25th 2006 by Parent-Wise Solutions, Inc. (first published February 1993)
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Kat Kennedy
The year was 2008. It was a fair year. The Olympics were held in Beijing and Michael Phelps became an international celebrity. The Indian Space Research Station has a win with Chandrayaan-1 whilst elephants and terrorists rampage across the country killing many hundreds of people. President Obama is elected into office. Fidel Castro resigns. Theoneste Bagosore is convicted and sentenced to life imprisonment in Rowanda for genocide. Israel and Hamas fight...again...

And a young, naive woman is pre...more
Jan 07, 2008 Margaret rated it 4 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition Recommends it for: breastfeeding moms who need some sleep
Ok. I have TOTALLY held off on reviewing this book because of the stone throwing that might ensue. People either love this book or they hate it. But call me a glutton for punishment...I'm going to tell you that this book saved me! And I mean really! I honestly wish someone would have tackled me and made me read it when I was a mom with only one child. Although, honestly, I'm not sure it would have solved the sleep issues and colic that my first son had. But I read this book before I had my third...more
I was going to borrow this book, but mysteriously, everyone I know who used to own a copy chucked it into their trashcan and had nothing to let me borrow. I decided to read the library's copy and find out if it was as useless as I had heard.
As a general review: BabyWise inspires extremism. You either assume they are crazy and you do whatever you darn well want to or you assume they are geniuses and you believe every word. These are both dangerous schools of thought. The book starts out with some...more
Utterly appalling. The American Academy of Paediatrics has called for this book to be banned. If you are thinking of reading this book or using Ezzo's methods, please go here first:


I found this book in a secondhand shop and after hearing so many things online about it (ranging from "it is wonderful and I converted to Christianity because of it" to "Gary Ezzo should be locked up") I bought it for, I think $1. It is a "parenting manual" that defies description - making recomme...more
Seems like everyone loves this book. Here's what I thought(good stuff first):
- I liked that they emphasized the importance of a stable and well nurtured relationship between spouses as a healthy environment and support for the children
- I liked their idea of trying to establish a routine of eat/wake/nap time (mainly because that's how I do it at day care, and it flatters my ego to think people write books about the very thing I figured out on my own. Ha!)
- I liked their mentioning of trying to p...more
I know some people don't like the author or his ideas, but I found them lifesaving with our first baby. I saw how effective these methods were for my best friend, so I was very interested in reading this book for myself.

We started Babywise with Lily when she was two weeks old--basically, we started giving her life a consistent pattern of feeding, having waketime, then napping. The big difference between this and the way that most babies naturally operate is that babies like to fall asleep eatin...more
Mar 21, 2008 Laura rated it 1 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition Recommends it for: firestarters everywhere
I've heard this author referred to as a "milk-Nazi", and having read the book, I understand the reference. "The natural way"? Hardly. I've had two tongue-tied boys (that makes for inefficient eaters, unhappy tummies, and frequent feedings). The advice in this book is harsh and without compassion for children. I think his response to baby's hunger is in effect answering the cry for food with, "Here: eat this stone, kid." Jesus had compassion on hungry adults. God the Father had compassion on the...more
missy lambert
Can I give it zero stars? Or negative two? After reading that the American Academy of Pediatrics has criticized this book (and even linked it to specific cases of babies' deaths and malnutrition/dehydration cases), I picked it up just to take a look. (Couldn't bring myself to read very much of it.) But I read enough to notice plenty of errors on a basic biological level; did we forget that feeding schedules have been proven to be the absolute worst thing for breastfeeding babies?? Babies need to...more
Babywise was recommended by a friend of mine who had a baby a couple of years ago and swore by the 'scheduling' in the book (though the book would probably call it putting baby on a 'routine'--I think it is scheduling!) Whether or not you like the book or find it useful will probably depend on your style of parenting, temperament, and expectations. I read it at first before my son was born, then refreshed by reading some parts of it again after he arrived.

The more parenting I do, the less I lik...more
May 24, 2009 Synesthesia rated it 1 of 5 stars Recommends it for: No One!
Shelves: i-hate-this-book
You've got to realize babies aren't dogs. They don't know what a marriage is. They aren't trying to torment you when they wake up in the middle of the night.

Needless to say, when I have kids, there's no way I'm taking this guys advice! The first thing babies need is their parents, to be fed when they are hungry, to be held when they need to be held. I just don't see the logic of schedules.
Ok, so I don't have kids, and I'm free to sleep as late as I want to when I don't have a job. I can hear a G...more
scariest book ever created. the authors are not professionals, doctors, have experience...they are just pulling out this advice from their nether-regions and testing to see who is gullible enough to listen. if you want to estrange your children, read this book. if you want to create a fearful environment for your child, read this book. this book has also been linked to thousands of deaths due to dehydration and malnutrition. it is pure danger and should be removed from all shelves and burned in...more
Who wants their baby to sleep through the night and go to sleep without any fuss? Then you should read this book! I first read it when a family I nannied for wanted me to get on board with what they were doing with their daughter. It worked like magic! David and I decided to apply this same program to all of our children. I have 5 kids and they all slept through the night between the ages of 6 weeks and 3 months. The basic principal is getting them on a feeding schedule so that their metabolism...more

In no way am I condemning parents who took some of the ideas and adapted it to work for them, but I do feel I need to explain more now. Please do not take this as personal, you or ANYONE who has found some help from Babywise. I still think that moms need to be warned.

I truly respected and trusted the mom who handed me Babywise, in fact. But as a young, impressionable mom, that book did nothing but undermine my faith in my body and my parenting abilities. This woman...more
Amanda J
Aug 24, 2011 Amanda J rated it 1 of 5 stars Recommends it for: no one looking for breast feeding advice.
I picked this book up off the bargain bin and had no idea that it was controversial. Ezzo says that he is not promoting scheduled feeding but rather parent-led feeding, but really he is just playing semantics. This book tells you to schedule your baby and in a few weeks your baby will sleep through the night. First and foremost the American Academy of Pediatrics as well as organizations like the La Leche League endorse demand feeding not scheduled feeding. And there is concern that scheduled fee...more
So many moms recommended this book to me as a new mom, and I hated it. I think the mom's that loved it and claim this method "worked" are moms who had babies naturally inclined to sleep through the night anyway. A newborn is naturally selfish, and should be. She needs all the coddling and love you can give her, especially if she has a hard time sleeping or cries a lot. Picking up a crying baby doesn't spoil her, it teaches her that when she needs help, Mommy will be there. Knowing that helps her...more
Nov 13, 2007 Diana rated it 5 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition Recommends it for: anyone with kids!!!
I absolutley love what these books have to offer, and find them to be right on. I studied infancy and early childhood development, so I didn't go into these books blindly, but found them to work really well, and to be on track with the long terms goals were are trying to help our children accomplish. And if you read the sites for their study work, it's amazing. I can't stress how helpful these were. Especially with my daughter who had GERD. Without this, I don't think any of us would have made i...more
There is an amusing amount of controversy over this book, considering it is pretty limited and practical. It is not a comprehensive parenting book, but it does give a good starting place for the mother bringing home a newborn. It gives a nice general structure for feeding, sleeping and playtime and is not as rigid as critics imply. There is no reason to take it overboard as some fear. The one downside of this book is that it says that if you maintain a structure as they recommend, your baby will...more
f I could give this book a 1/2 star, that's how I truly feel. There is not enough space here to provide the in-depth review this book deserves - others have done that and www.ezzo.info is a good resource. It is very important to note that Ezzo has no educational background in child development or related field, and the M.A. he holds is from an instituition that gives credit for life experience - he does not hold a bachelor's degree at all.
That said - there is accurate information in this book. T...more
I read this between having my first and second babies at the insistence of my SILs... and was not impressed. In my mind, if you can't handle waking up to feed your infant or are bothered by their cries, you probably shouldn't be having a baby. I could see using some of the methods with older babies - like at 9 months or a year - definitely if you're still having trouble with toddlers sleeping through the night, but I think it's too extreme for newborns.
Does your baby have colic? Do you feel guilty about it? Well if not read this book. It will make you feel like a terrible mom. It is a particularly horrible book for the parent of a newborn with colic. It flat out says that you should be able to calm your crying baby and if you can't there is something wrong with you. As if you don't feel bad enough that your sweet little newborn is in pain.
This book is probably useful to a baby who just needs a little guidance and a strict schedule. But for so...more
People either love this book or loathe it. I am right in the middle, I guess. I liked it. I don't get it when people are like, "Oh, this book pushes extremes! The people don't even have credentials! It's child abuse!" Um, what are they talking about? For one thing, I'm pretty sure that being a PEDIATRICIAN is a decent credential for writing a baby book (much more so than being a mom with an opinion based on your kids or a nice lady who did a bunch of reaserch before she wrote it up, but maybe th...more
Esmeralda Rupp-Spangle


that website pretty much sums it up.
The AAP (American Academy of Pediatrics) and many well respected breastffeding advocacy groups rightly condemn this and other of his books for promoting tactics that can lead to failure to thrive and severe dehydration, among other problems.
It's also one of several books by these authors, all of which are heavily religious, or promote child rearing techniques based on western theology rather than sound medical advice, something I did NOT...more
Sarah Kingston
Sep 24, 2007 Sarah Kingston rated it 2 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition Recommends it for: no one
I used this with my first two, before I knew about their previous editions or the other books in the series that go into more depth with their system. I basically picked and chose the principles that I liked, and discarded everything else. Which is good, since they advocate what, to me, amounts to child abuse. Corporal punishment, manipulation, adults are superior, all these ways of getting your child to be obedient to you just because you're the parent.

Their credentials are questionable, and t...more
Aug 11, 2008 Christine rated it 5 of 5 stars
Recommended to Christine by: Sara Richards
I just finished reading this book after it was recommended by two of my good friends. I wish that I had read it before I had my first child. The scenarios it described about "demand feeding" fit my experience feeding Rebekah so perfectly, it was embarrassing:).

It was nice to read a book that I could not only see the benefit of, but that I actually found myself agreeing with the author on most parenting philosophies. It was obvious that the author had a great respect for the family.

I'm anxious to...more
Definitely not for everyone and definitely not for me. I didn't like this book at all!! I do not feel that letting a newborn "cry it out" is the right answer for helping parents to sleep. I feel like it promotes poor bonding and attachment with your child and teaches your newborn that you will not respond to their needs.

Reading it made me feel uncomfortable. I have read a variety of other baby books that have taught parents how to soothe their children in a more loving way so that newborns are a...more
I’m not ashamed to say that I was an absolute mess the first few weeks after Abby was born. I usually pride myself in being a relatively prepared person, but for prepared for infant, I was not.
My sister recommended I read Baby Wise. The theory behind Baby Wise is basically to let your baby ‘cry-it-out,’ pretty much from day one. My implementation of this technique lasted for about…two nights.
In my continued desperateness, I had a couple of people recommend The Baby Whisperer. The theory beh...more
So I went ahead and read this book.

After reading the premise, I was irritated. I read this book to prepare for my second child. My first child was raised on the Dr Sears Attachment Parenting, La Leche League techniques. That worked awesome for us. I was not in a perpetual state of exhaustion, nor was my husband sleeping on the couch. My first child is amazing: A perfect baby, a wonderful toddler, and now a very independent, smart, curious child who says please and thank you. No one is stressed...more
I honestly wonder if we are reading different books! Mine is a newer version and I am actually surprised by such controversy about a book as middle-of-the-road as this. This is the 2nd time I've read it and wonder what is creating the hoopla!
Why I believe this book is for natural parenting and helpful:
- The parent decides when to feed the baby based upon the baby's need. IF feeding on demand, the baby could actually not demand enough food in the early weeks and this can contribute to failure to...more
Becky Marler pemberton
We used this philosophy with both of my girls, and both slept through the night at five weeks and are awesome sleepers to this day. Both of them thrived into the 90th percentile in both weight and height, so there was no failure in thriving! Honestly, as with any philosophy concerning your children, whether it be feeding, discipline, play...take what works for your family and go with it. What I got from this book is an affirmation of common sense and to follow what my instincts were telling me t...more
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