How women can overcome the pressure to please others and feel free to be their true selves
Are you too nice for your own good? Do family members ... read full description
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Sep 03, 2011
Wagatwe
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Now I am a little embarrassed that I was interested enough in reading this book. My intuition told me that this would be a book that would piss me off, but I did not want to dismiss it without giving it a shot. I am pleased to say my gut feelings were proven only partially right; I surprisingly was still able to get something out of this book. I finished this book with a surprising feeling of validation, empowerment, and eagerness to use the new skills I read in here.
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Jul 31, 2011
Rebecca
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Okay, so first things first, I am not a nice girl. I know a few and I may have been one at some point...but along the way I have had the privilege of having very strong women role models and they have paved the way. I have also had the benefit of having male mentors who have a very good grasp on women and how to leverage their individual and unique strengths. With that said, this book did have some great tips and suggestions and could certainly serve as a refresher on how to be an effective comm
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Mar 09, 2011
Amy
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This book has a set of effective suggestions for the so very many of us who hold ourselves to a higher standard than all of those around us, and who are, therefore, often used by others.
Beverly Engel uses examples of women who were abused and offers suggestions for how to escape from or avoid an abusive situation (all the while without blaming those who are abused for the actions of the abusers), and how to become more empowered. The book offers suggested affirmations and ways to fe More...
Beverly Engel uses examples of women who were abused and offers suggestions for how to escape from or avoid an abusive situation (all the while without blaming those who are abused for the actions of the abusers), and how to become more empowered. The book offers suggested affirmations and ways to fe More...
Dec 10, 2010
Leah
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While this book uses extreme examples of what the dangers of being a Nice Girl are (physical, emotional, and sexual abuse), there are many things in it that are useful for women with milder versions of Nice Girl Syndrome. Nice, unfortunately, gets you nowhere. People will prey on you, manipulate you, and take advantage of you if they can, and this book gives some strategies for avoiding that.
A lot of the things in it seem to be common sense and common knowledge, but sometimes it's n More...
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Mar 19, 2011
Taz
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Not bad, although I think that I liked Bully in the Relationship better. Still, particularly if you have no feminist background analyses, etc. this is a good book for you to read, if your being too nice of a gal, and it's getting you in trouble.
I really liked how she points out how guilt and pity many times are confused with love, and used against us as women, even by women, hell, even by our internal selves, in order to keep us in relationships that really are not healthy for us.
I really liked how she points out how guilt and pity many times are confused with love, and used against us as women, even by women, hell, even by our internal selves, in order to keep us in relationships that really are not healthy for us.
Jul 11, 2011
Francie
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I get the point, but I like to be nice, not phony but truly nice, if I can. Things go more smoothly if people are nice. Maybe that`s the clue, if more people were nice we wouldn't have to be aggressive and obnoxious.
Dec 18, 2008
Melissa
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This is a good self-help book for any lady who has been abused or trampled upon in relationships. I even found the advice helpful for women who are too nice and giving in relationships period. It goes from figuring out where this niceness comes from to remedying it to friends and family. I really appreciated the book being a social worker as it helped me become more assertive.
Jun 18, 2010
Jelynn
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So many times I am prepared to say yes without thinking about the cost it has on me. I am working on changing my thought process to include what is best for me. This book, so far, is right on target!
Jul 14, 2009
Jennifer
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This is a great book, especially for those of us who can be too nice at times.
Oct 24, 2008
Cyndi
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I think this book should be required reading for all women. It is direct and concise and easy to read so even people who don't like to read much will not have a difficult time getting through it. If I had a daughter, I would ABSOLUTELY insist that she read this book.
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Jun 08, 2010
Sandy
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Excellent read, but I wish it was addressed to men also - entitled, The Nice Person Syndrome. Easy reading with practical exercises to move out of being compliant and manipulated into being essentially who you are: strong, confident, competent and courageous.
Aug 17, 2009
ksj
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Great book about how we are socialized as women to be caretakers. By putting others first, we can (and will) get hurt and be taken advantage of. It was exactly what I needed to read.
Oct 17, 2011
This book gave me insight on issues that I had and it helped me become a stronger woman.
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