How to Hug a Teenage Porcupine
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How to Hug a Teenage Porcupine

4.58 of 5 stars 4.58  ·  rating details  ·  71 ratings  ·  31 reviews
Dr. John Lund likes to remind people that they either married their biggest test in life or they gave birth to it! This all-new, three-part seminar is designed to help parents get past the test of raising teenagers. Dr. Lund draws on his extensive background as a marriage and family mediator, as well as his experience of surviving his own eight teenagers, to deliver practi...more
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Published 2004 by Covenant Communications
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Jennifer Hughes
This isn't a book on CD but rather a set of three talks. I wish it were a book also so I could go through and highlight it and make notes! I also think every parent should listen to this.

I first read How to Hug a Porcupine: Dealing With Toxic & Difficult to Love Personalities, hoping it would have information about teenagers, but it doesn't have much. These CDs were exactly what they claim to be, plus many more ideas and parenting concepts than just getting along with teenagers.

The principl...more
Keith Kendall
A delightful series of several talks integrated onto 4 CDs

1. The Art of Parenting
2. Five Governing Values of Teens
3. Dealing with Noncompliant Teens

The author not only has broad experience with, but understands how teens think, and how to interact with them. I have only captured a few of his points, but he was kind enough to say what he was going to say, say it, and then summarize, so here are a few things that I learned.

Teens and parents have different values. Teen values: Fun, Friends, Freedo...more
I listened to this cd at least twice already, but some it 4 times & I look forward to listening to it again! I think it should be required reading for every parent! I sure wish I had heard it back years ago. It's really right on target as it discusses how to deal with children, even young ones that just don't WANT to do what's "right". It puts agency into a lot better light so that as parents we can not take that agency away from our little ones...& then later as they become bigger ones....more
I love this CD. Though it is given to an LDS audience there is not a whole lot of LDS ideas in it so people of all faiths or no faith can get something out of it. I've starting using some of the ideas from it and found they are helping a LOT.

The only reason I haven't given it a 5 is that I would like a little more practical ideas on how to set boundaries when dealing with a child who is not compliant and how to talk with a teen when negotiating those boundaries.
Kerrie Rodgerson
I love, love, love this cd collection. It is a parenting guide that will change your life if you have teenagers. This is my 3rd time listening to it (hmmm...I have 3 teenagers....). The way John Lund conveys ideas and thoughts is insightful and hilarious. I routinely remember his recommendations and try to put them into action in our lives. Definitely a must-listen (it is a series of talks) if you have a teenager from mouthy to one who is in serious trouble. Love it.
Jeff Thompson
Why didn't I listen to this audiobook a couple of years ago? John Lund's principles, derived from his years working with troubled youth, gave me as much comfort as instruction. He has helped me to replace worry with faith, and to recognize the need to let go of the idea that a parent is responsible for everything. This book was a huge blessing to me at this particular point in my life, but I do wish I had encountered it earlier.
This 3-part seminar is excellent for parents with all kinds of teens. I found Dr. Lund's insights to be both humorous and helpful. I have added some of his suggestions to my parenting strategies and found them to be valuable. A recommended listen for any LDS parent who wants to have a better relationship with their teen, as well as more effective, meaningful communication and discipline.
This book was interesting in the sense that it helped identify the different values held by parents and teens, and how the conflict between them is the root of many relationship issues. I felt the first part of the book was great, then it got a little repetitive, and then it focused on the really bad kids and their issues which didn't really apply to me--thank goodness! A worthwhile read!
A FABULOUS CD! I have been taking copious notes from this series of lectures by Dr. Lund during my latest listening. I am grateful to hear from someone whose children have already been through the teen years as I enter this new stage of life. I should probably purchase my own copy rather than hogging the library's! :) I absolutely recommend it to anyone interested in this topic.
I learned what it is to be an "emotionally healthy parent" and what "emotionally healthy teens" are. I also find it humorous that teens and grandparents do have a lot in common; friends, fun, and freedom! They also like to live in the present, and enjoy their privacy. = ] I am so glad Dr. Lund chose to share his knowledge and experiences in this enlightening book!
Jun 23, 2008 Maribel rated it 5 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: parents
You don't have to have rotten teenagers to thoroughly benefit from listening to these lectures. They contain great information and advise on parenting (or other kinds of relationships). I also enjoyed the fact that his approach is centered on gospel principles and doctrines. No need to go looking for any other parenting book when teachings are based on eternal truth.
This is actually a series of spiritual yet humorous lectures given by John Lund. Thankfully, I do not have toxic teenagers in my home, so much of what he talked about didn't apply, but I still learned a lot. I especially gained from the second lecture, which talks about core teen and parental motivations being in opposition to each other. 3.5 stars.
I thought I was getting an entirely different author as there is the same title written by a woman. I was very bored in the first disc and almost took it back to the library. But it got so good after that! I always love inspiration. And when it comes to kids, I need it as reminders.
Rachel Meyers
This book was so wonderful. I listened to the audio version in the car and it has inspired me to be a better parent gently and without feeling guilty. I even took lots of notes in the car (safely of course!), so that tells you how many good things were included in the book :)
Lund has such a great and positive way of helping you do your best as a parent without squashing your child's spirit, even though sometimes it feels like that might be the easier way to deal with it. :)
Jun 30, 2010 Debbie rated it 4 of 5 stars
Shelves: 2010
Loved this audio. The stories and memories that the author shares are so very heartwarming and very often comical, yet easy enough to put to use in my own life.
Mary Ann
Good talk with some really encouraging thoughts. I would recommend it to anyone who is LDS and has teenagers - especially those who have difficult teenagers.
Kim Cook
I got so much out of these Cd's. I have listened them several times. Entertaining and such good advice!
Dec 01, 2012 Sally added it
Shelves: parenting, theology
Oh, how I wish this were in print, and not only audio! I am not an audio learner! Fabulous, by the way.
Inspired Kathy
This is a great talk series. Maybe because I've got a teenager I found if full of great advise and ideas.
E. Williams
Lund has a great sense of humor and a wonderful way of teaching us how to love even teen-agers
Great listen/read. The tips he has actually work very well on teens. Loved every minute.
Loved it. Great insight into the prickly world of teenagers.
Jeanette Sunderland
Every parent needs listen to this wonderful audio!
Best book ever if you have teenagers or kids of any age!!
Great book on CD!! Loved it. Extremely helpful.
Now if I can just apply it to my life!
A MUST for anyone with teenagers.
Not my favorite parenting book
Martha Smith
I adore this author!
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Dr John L. Lund is a great writer and his CD's on human interaction are fun, informative, and entertaining. He has taught in major universities in Utah, Idaho, and California, hosts trips to Israel and Mesoamerica and is a fantastic archeologist too. Check out his books in both fields and you will find a great writer to follow here on

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