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In the Meantime: Finding Yourself and the Love You Want
THE #1 NATIONAL BESTSELLER What's love got to do with it in the meantime?
You know where you want to be, but you have no clue how to get there. You know exactly what you want in life, but what you want is nowhere in sight. Perhaps your vision is unclear, your purpose still undefined. On top of it all, your relationships, particularly your romantic relationships, are failin...more
You know where you want to be, but you have no clue how to get there. You know exactly what you want in life, but what you want is nowhere in sight. Perhaps your vision is unclear, your purpose still undefined. On top of it all, your relationships, particularly your romantic relationships, are failin...more
Paperback, 336 pages
Published
September 14th 1999
by Touchstone
(first published 1998)
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The title really says it all, but Vanzant gets to the heart of the matter by using personal experience and the trials of others to show that loving yourself enough to make difficult personal choices is where love and joy abound. I often found myself in a myriad of emotions reading this book, and abandoned it for some time before picking it up again. I recommend this read to anyone looking to discover real change through learning the secret of truly loving yourself and others.
This book is very helpful, especially if you are having relationship trouble. The author helps you to look at your life from an interesting perspective. She uses the metaphor of moving up through the floors of a house, needing to take care of each level before moving on to the next. The basement is where you are miserable and hopefully realize that things need to change. As you move up the floors, you need more self-love and appreciation, more spiritality, more honesty, etc. I found this book to...more
This book saved my life! I am not saying that to be dramatic...this is my truth! I was in an abusive relationship (verbal, mental & physical) when I came across this book. It was a GODsend! This book taught me that my inner peace was more important than pretending to be a family. My sanity was more important then my son having a father in the house because if I stayed he may not have had either one of us. If you are in the meantime...This book is definitely for you! The love and appreciation...more
Don't let the title fool you--whether you have the love you want, are looking, or don't have any interest, the focus is on learning how to love yourself. I have read and re-read this book many, many times. It is hi-lighted and rabbit eared to the point that I would never be able to lend anyone my copy but it is one of the best self-help books I have ever encountered (and I have read a TON of them, believe me). I find Iyanla's voice very real and she seems to "walk the talk"-very genuine. I also...more
Another phenomenal read from Ms. Vanzant. I love her writing style and for me this is one of my favorite self-help books. In a nutshell it really is about loving yourself. When you love yourself everything else falls into place. When you love yourself you become open to the abundance that the Universe has to give. I love it, love it, love it! As with most of her writings I can never say that I've finished reading the book because my personal growth journey leads me to different places at differe...more
I love this book! I felt like she was my mentor speaking to me in a spunky yet compassionate manner (just like I need- a soul sister!) She painted a mental picture for me, that helped me to visualize and recognize the different levels I am going to have to work through and acknowledge; in order to fully love my self and my past. This book helped me go lighter on myself in terms of feeling like, I need to change all at once, or that I am bad for my behavior in relationships at times. I felt suppo...more
This is a book I can see myself picking up again and again when I'm unclear or unsure of life's trials and tribulations. While I think that Vanzant has a great process of getting yourself to a better place in life, I think I might cast aside some of the advice she gives for the "little things" in life. The way in which she compares cleaning yourself up spiritually and emotionally to cleaning out your "house" is brilliant. So simple, yet so true. I don't think there's a one size fits all approach...more
Read this book, I must say a few things about what she said it's true, and you can learn from it if you want to.
And there are some good tips you can add into your life. I read it not because I have relationship troubles, yes I'm a divorcee, but my divorce was loooong way back before I even know about this book. Could this book help me in my relationship if I read it back then? I think it will give me some peace of mind that the decision that I've made it's the right one.
Back then I have to strug...more
And there are some good tips you can add into your life. I read it not because I have relationship troubles, yes I'm a divorcee, but my divorce was loooong way back before I even know about this book. Could this book help me in my relationship if I read it back then? I think it will give me some peace of mind that the decision that I've made it's the right one.
Back then I have to strug...more
Excellent! Describes the different levels of life and your happiness, using the metaphor of a house. Basement right up to the top floor of happiness - in order to move up to being happy on that floor, you must start in the basement, and clean house floor by floor, before you can be on that happy floor. Each floor represents what stage of healing you are on. The book is geared for "love relationships" but I found it was so easy to interpret the help for any problem you are facing...it feels like...more
"Accept the fact that in a relationship the only person you are dealing with is yourself. Your partner does nothing more than reveal your stuff to you."
"What you believe about yourself is reflected in the people with whom you choose to align yourself."
"Our relationships and the people in them are the tools God uses to give us a soul lift. God, the creator of our life, wants you to elevate the way you view yourself and treat yourself, and ultimately the way you treat others and allow them to trea...more
"What you believe about yourself is reflected in the people with whom you choose to align yourself."
"Our relationships and the people in them are the tools God uses to give us a soul lift. God, the creator of our life, wants you to elevate the way you view yourself and treat yourself, and ultimately the way you treat others and allow them to trea...more
I remember giving this book to my mom when she and my dad split up. The funny thing to me looking back now is that I am still "in my meantime" ... which kind of makes me want to read the book again and see if I missed something - or makes me feel like a lot of Spiritual Self Help books aren't really worth much...
However, I do think that Iyanla was one of the first authors I accessed that gave me the freedom to be me and to be where I was and to just try to grow - even if I didn't realize it at t...more
However, I do think that Iyanla was one of the first authors I accessed that gave me the freedom to be me and to be where I was and to just try to grow - even if I didn't realize it at t...more
In The Meantime is one of the few self help books I have ever read. Honestly, the first time around I didn't even finish it when I began it roughly four years ago. I liked the message well enough but at one point I just felt like there were other things out there that I preferred reading to this.
Last Sunday, I saw it on my book shelf as I was taking out the book I was going to start to head towards my 75 book goal and thought it may be a good thing to pick up again. What I didn't anticipate is t...more
Last Sunday, I saw it on my book shelf as I was taking out the book I was going to start to head towards my 75 book goal and thought it may be a good thing to pick up again. What I didn't anticipate is t...more
In The Meantime is an excellent book for a brokenhearted man or woman. Self-help guru, Iyanla Vanzant uses housecleaning as her central analogy. She tells us how we can avoid the same romantic relationship mistakes by doing a mental housekeeping, cleaning the windows, closets, floor, doors and corners of our minds in order to overcome past pains and hurts, past memories and disappointments. Vanzant says we must clean out our heads and souls if we want to one day find true love and happiness.
An excellent book. Never could get into Iyanla before this. Now I'm interested in reading more of her books. I'm so glad I am not in the basement as this books paints and live mostly in the attic or even the rooftop. Those who are on the bottom floors will definitely see life differently once they get to the top. This is an absolute. And those whom they may have disguarded due to their poor perspective from the bottom will be seen in the light they deserve.
My mom told me she picked up a book for me to read when I got home for Christmas... a self-help book. Is she trying to tell me something here? Well I read it while snowed in and I have to say it was very interesting. It's nothing you didn't already know logically - it makes a lot of sense - but it was good to hear put in Starting-Over-Iyanla's own words. Read it and redefine your screwed up baggage so you can love yourself a little better.
This book was a pivotal read in my life. It changed me and my course. It helped me to admit to some events in my life and to deal with them to see the other side. I honestly owe this book a lot. I still remember the effect it has had on me, even though I read it over 10 years ago. I thoroughly recommend this book for people who want change but don't know how to achieve it and who need to confront themselves to move on.
I read this years ago. I can't imagine ware I would be now if I'd never read this book. At the time I wasn't looking, nor have I ever really looked for someone to love, but just love as a whole. Life's not perfect but this book gave me all the right tools for life on how do deal. I've shared this and several other books by this author with friends and family/relatives. They found them to be just as inspiring and useful.
This book is an incredible read for anyone experiencing life issues and looking for a great way to find the love within yourself to conquer it. I personally found help, love, kindness, and a nurturing way to find strength while going through my divorce. Though it may seem to pertain to relationships with a significant other, I believe anyone that reads it will truly be helped in finding the peace and love with in them.
I read this book the first time in 1998, I'd taken a self prescribed sabbatical from dating to embark on a journey of self discovery. In The Meantime, became my doctrine my handbook to learning who I was, what I needed/deserved and how to stop sacrificing myself for the sake of others.
Four years after I had turned the last page and closed the book from a second read, I met and married the love of my life, my truest life partner, my husband.
This book taught me about me that I needed to be seilfi...more
Four years after I had turned the last page and closed the book from a second read, I met and married the love of my life, my truest life partner, my husband.
This book taught me about me that I needed to be seilfi...more
My therapist assigned me this book two weeks ago, I am at the point in my life where I can follow a schedule to a tee and everyday is good but I want more out of life because it just felt like i was at a stand still but I wasn't...I was in the meantime.
And I'm still in the meantime
And I'm happy to be in the meantime as long as I continue to grow and learn and make better of myself
And I'm still in the meantime
And I'm happy to be in the meantime as long as I continue to grow and learn and make better of myself
Of all the self-help books I have read, I think this was the most valuable. It's about what we do between relationships, how we develop ourselves into the kind of person who can have a truly healthy relationship. I highlighted something on probably every other page as valuable information to come back and consider. This is true for me even in a marriage of 48 years.
An amazingly easy to read book about love and moving forward.
Anyone who's struggling to understand how to heal a broken heart--not from just a romantic relationship, but from many things--would find a lot of insight in how to work through the though patterns that are extremely painful and exhausting.
Thanks Ceci for lending me this book.
Anyone who's struggling to understand how to heal a broken heart--not from just a romantic relationship, but from many things--would find a lot of insight in how to work through the though patterns that are extremely painful and exhausting.
Thanks Ceci for lending me this book.
wow - this book was life changing. The author has a way, like my amazing pastor, of delivering a message that countless others have told you and tried to impress upon you before, but you never really heard it. Until now. At the core, it's all about learning to love yourself, and in turn, how that will impact every relationship in your life (not just romantic ones). Definitely a re-read. Fabulous.
I fell in love with Iyanla in the 90's during my 20's when I was desperate need of motherly guidance & honest, truth telling feedback. Loved this book & it planted seeds for my growth as woman navigating love, my sense of self & value for myself as the beloved. Lots of highlights & sticky notes in this book in my bookshelf.
this book was miracle in my life. I was in the meantime and I didn't know how I could have help. I couldn't explain my feeling and my confusion to anybody till I found that book. I was impressed that finaly somebody in the world understood me and what I wanted from world .thank you IYANLA.I appreciate your hard working
This is the first of Iyanla Vanzants books I read. Heard about her on Oprah if memory serves correctly. In the Meantime forces to look at what part you play in your own dramas. What is the Meantime? You know how everyone says it will all work out in the end? Well if it is not "worked out" you are in the meantime.
I've seen the author speak before but as for this book it was mediocre. For a self-help book it does not really tell you how to work on yourself as far as loving yourself unconditionally before getting in a relationship with someone else. I can say I am glad I did not pay for this book because it kind of is a waste.
Must read for women ages 22 & Up. If you are in the reflecting stages of you life wondering where your relationships went wrong, this is for you. Never give up on love. Your meantime is for a reason.
I bought ever copy at a local bookstore and gave it out to friends to read. I highly recommend reading this.
I bought ever copy at a local bookstore and gave it out to friends to read. I highly recommend reading this.
A fantastic book! Although I've read many self-help books, this one captured the essence of the journey better than others and described the process, and the stages in a way that hooked me in. A definite read if you're not quite certain of what you 'should' do or what you want to do in a given situation.
A woman who I just met recommended this book to me. I could not put it down once I began reading it. I have read it twice and will again. her insight into relationships, Life and healing will help anyone. I also bought the companion book to complete the work. #1 Bestseller for a reason! A blessing!
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