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In the Meantime: Finding Yourself and the Love You Want
THE #1 NATIONAL BESTSELLER
What's love got to do with it in the meantime?
You know where you want to be, but you have no clue how to get there. You know exactly what you want in life, but what you want is nowhere in sight. Perhaps your vision is unclear, your purpose still undefined. On top of it all, your relationships, particularly your romantic relationships, are faili
...morePaperback, 336 pages
Published
July 14th 1999
by Fireside
(first published 1998)
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The title really says it all, but Vanzant gets to the heart of the matter by using personal experience and the trials of others to show that loving yourself enough to make difficult personal choices is where love and joy abound. I often found myself in a myriad of emotions reading this book, and abandoned it for some time before picking it up again. I recommend this read to anyone looking to discover real change through learning the secret of truly loving yourself and others.
This book is very helpful, especially if you are having relationship trouble. The author helps you to look at your life from an interesting perspective. She uses the metaphor of moving up through the floors of a house, needing to take care of each level before moving on to the next. The basement is where you are miserable and hopefully realize that things need to change. As you move up the floors, you need more self-love and appreciation, more spiritality, more honesty, etc. I found this book t...more
This book saved my life! I am not saying that to be dramatic...this is my truth! I was in an abusive relationship (verbal, mental & physical) when I came across this book. It was a GODsend! This book taught me that my inner peace was more important than pretending to be a family. My sanity was more important then my son having a father in the house because if I stayed he may not have had either one of us. If you are in the meantime...This book is definitely for you! The love and appreciation tha...more
Don't let the title fool you--whether you have the love you want, are looking, or don't have any interest, the focus is on learning how to love yourself. I have read and re-read this book many, many times. It is hi-lighted and rabbit eared to the point that I would never be able to lend anyone my copy but it is one of the best self-help books I have ever encountered (and I have read a TON of them, believe me). I find Iyanla's voice very real and she seems to "walk the talk"-very gen...more
Another phenomenal read from Ms. Vanzant. I love her writing style and for me this is one of my favorite self-help books. In a nutshell it really is about loving yourself. When you love yourself everything else falls into place. When you love yourself you become open to the abundance that the Universe has to give. I love it, love it, love it! As with most of her writings I can never say that I've finished reading the book because my personal growth journey leads me to different places at di...more
I love this book! I felt like she was my mentor speaking to me in a spunky yet compassionate manner (just like I need- a soul sister!) She painted a mental picture for me, that helped me to visualize and recognize the different levels I am going to have to work through and acknowledge; in order to fully love my self and my past. This book helped me go lighter on myself in terms of feeling like, I need to change all at once, or that I am bad for my behavior in relationships at times. I felt suppo...more
Read this book, I must say a few things about what she said it's true, and you can learn from it if you want to.
And there are some good tips you can add into your life. I read it not because I have relationship troubles, yes I'm a divorcee, but my divorce was loooong way back before I even know about this book. Could this book help me in my relationship if I read it back then? I think it will give me some peace of mind that the decision that I've made it's the right one.
Back then I h...more
And there are some good tips you can add into your life. I read it not because I have relationship troubles, yes I'm a divorcee, but my divorce was loooong way back before I even know about this book. Could this book help me in my relationship if I read it back then? I think it will give me some peace of mind that the decision that I've made it's the right one.
Back then I h...more
Excellent! Describes the different levels of life and your happiness, using the metaphor of a house. Basement right up to the top floor of happiness - in order to move up to being happy on that floor, you must start in the basement, and clean house floor by floor, before you can be on that happy floor. Each floor represents what stage of healing you are on. The book is geared for "love relationships" but I found it was so easy to interpret the help for any problem you are facing...it f...more
"Accept the fact that in a relationship the only person you are dealing with is yourself. Your partner does nothing more than reveal your stuff to you."
"What you believe about yourself is reflected in the people with whom you choose to align yourself."
"Our relationships and the people in them are the tools God uses to give us a soul lift. God, the creator of our life, wants you to elevate the way you view yourself and treat yourself, and ultimatel...more
"What you believe about yourself is reflected in the people with whom you choose to align yourself."
"Our relationships and the people in them are the tools God uses to give us a soul lift. God, the creator of our life, wants you to elevate the way you view yourself and treat yourself, and ultimatel...more
I remember giving this book to my mom when she and my dad split up. The funny thing to me looking back now is that I am still "in my meantime" ... which kind of makes me want to read the book again and see if I missed something - or makes me feel like a lot of Spiritual Self Help books aren't really worth much...
However, I do think that Iyanla was one of the first authors I accessed that gave me the freedom to be me and to be where I was and to just try to grow - even if I...more
However, I do think that Iyanla was one of the first authors I accessed that gave me the freedom to be me and to be where I was and to just try to grow - even if I...more
My mom told me she picked up a book for me to read when I got home for Christmas... a self-help book. Is she trying to tell me something here? Well I read it while snowed in and I have to say it was very interesting. It's nothing you didn't already know logically - it makes a lot of sense - but it was good to hear put in Starting-Over-Iyanla's own words. Read it and redefine your screwed up baggage so you can love yourself a little better.
This book is an incredible read for anyone experiencing life issues and looking for a great way to find the love within yourself to conquer it. I personally found help, love, kindness, and a nurturing way to find strength while going through my divorce. Though it may seem to pertain to relationships with a significant other, I believe anyone that reads it will truly be helped in finding the peace and love with in them.
My therapist assigned me this book two weeks ago, I am at the point in my life where I can follow a schedule to a tee and everyday is good but I want more out of life because it just felt like i was at a stand still but I wasn't...I was in the meantime.
And I'm still in the meantime
And I'm happy to be in the meantime as long as I continue to grow and learn and make better of myself
And I'm still in the meantime
And I'm happy to be in the meantime as long as I continue to grow and learn and make better of myself
An amazingly easy to read book about love and moving forward.
Anyone who's struggling to understand how to heal a broken heart--not from just a romantic relationship, but from many things--would find a lot of insight in how to work through the though patterns that are extremely painful and exhausting.
Thanks Ceci for lending me this book.
Anyone who's struggling to understand how to heal a broken heart--not from just a romantic relationship, but from many things--would find a lot of insight in how to work through the though patterns that are extremely painful and exhausting.
Thanks Ceci for lending me this book.
this book was miracle in my life. I was in the meantime and I didn't know how I could have help. I couldn't explain my feeling and my confusion to anybody till I found that book. I was impressed that finaly somebody in the world understood me and what I wanted from world .thank you IYANLA.I appreciate your hard working
A fantastic book! Although I've read many self-help books, this one captured the essence of the journey better than others and described the process, and the stages in a way that hooked me in. A definite read if you're not quite certain of what you 'should' do or what you want to do in a given situation.
My first self-help book when I was 19 years of age. This started me on a path of the obvious: I knowing all the answers are within me. I consider this book to be for someone who is new to improving the self by a book. It makes you want to clean the inside of your human closet often. DO IT!
Wow, this book...was everything to me...it made me realize alot of things but most of all who I was hurting the most by staying in that abusive relationship...myself...and it made me reach in and find me the person I needed to love the most. Great book! I am going to read it again.
My excuse for reading this and yesterday I cried, was Oprah. So melodramatic. I remember being reading it on the tube on the way to work and saying 'bullshit' out loud and the woman opposite me burst out laughing saying that she felt the same way reading it.....
I am such a sucker and loyal fan to Iyanla, she helps with what we find hard to do sometimes, that's express our feelings,our inner feelings, so I have most of her books, I'm always looking out for the next book! Ladies she is a must have, especially In the Meantime!
I loved this book. It helped me to search within myself and I found that I was on the right path to healing and wholeness. Now I can say I am on the third floor on my way to the atic. A must read for those that want to know how to get through relationships with ease.
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I am okay, my relationships are okay. This is a book that seems to put everything in perspective as far as relationships go, past, present and future. I can apply this to my life, easily, and I like the common sense approach Vanzant uses. Yep, a gooder.
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This book is great, very insightful and hopeful - I found it when I needed its message, and would recommend it to anyone struggling with relationship problems (or lack-of-relationship problems). This is an author I think it would be fun to have as a friend.
One of the best books Ive read. I learned so much from this book,I not only read it about 4 times, I studied it.It got me through some pretty tough times after a divorce and than later a heart breaking break up... with much understanding of how relationships work.
This is one of the best books I've ever read. Great book for women who want to understand our flawed thinking. It helps with the Cindarella, white horse problems we face & why doesn't he call.
I would recommend this book to anyone that feels like they can't start over. I would definately recommend this book to someone who is trying to find there place in this world. It's a must read...
Given to me by an Aunt, I assumed it would be a boring spritual book but ended up loving it. Helped me understand a lot more about me as a person and the type of love I want.
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There are some incredible passages in this book. So many times I had to reread a paragraph because I was so taken back. I read this book a few times, when things get tough.
I read this when I was in College and remember it being one of the best books I had read. I recommend this to anyone who finds themselves in transition and a little lost.
yes!!! YES!! Take a real honest look at how you operate and the meaning of every relationship. Then how to grow through the house of love! Thank you Iyanla Vanzant!
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