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Savage Love: Straight Answers From A Queer Sex Columnist

3.83 of 5 stars 3.83  ·  rating details  ·  769 ratings  ·  54 reviews
Welcome to the hot new wave of writing about sex: Savage Love. Columnist Dan Savage has hand-picked over 300 letters from six years worth of "Savage Love," a no-holds-barred syndicated sex-advice column which runs in 16 papers in the United States and Canada, including The Village Voice and the San Francisco Weekly. An original and funny thinker, thrashing around in the pl ...more
Published (first published October 1st 1998)
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It's interesting as a static and rather random collection of Dan Savage's earliest advice columns, but the book has largely outserved its purpose. The reference appeal of this book is very limited, as the topics of many these columns were more relevant at the time of their original publication; and I found the entertainment appeal rather negligible, as the original Savage Love tagline of "Hey, Faggot" grated on my reading experience for the same reasons as why the Savage eventually dropped the t ...more
Dan Savage should be required reading for high school Health classes. I think if my students read his books they would be more accepting and make less mistakes.
May 31, 2007 Fawn rated it 4 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: those comfortable with sexuality (their own and others)
If for no other reason than to understand the meaning of, "How 'd that happen?" you should read this book.
This cost me 25 cents at a used book sale. That was about the appropriate price.
Laura Hughes
This collection of Dan Savage columns from the 90s is dated, but still entertaining. Organized by broad topics, it's a fairly comprehensive introduction to Dan's irreverent and often alarmingly pragmatic sex/dating/relationship/life advice. Many of his views have evolved since then (for the better), and he's gained some new taglines, but the basic outline of his outlook on life is certainly recognizable if you're familiar with Dan's column or podcast.

One thing that I've noticed in particular tha
I'd like to hearby nominated Terry Miller (Dan Savage's husband) for sainthood.
I realize that Dan Savage is the Howard Stern of sex advice columnists, but if his advice reflects his outlook on relationships, the man he's shared the majority of his adult life with must be a saint.

Don't get me wrong. Some of his answers are hilarious and I want to high-five him and tell him 'well said!' because some of the letters he replies to are a testament to not just bad, but non-existent sex education and he
Lauren Acton
I've been a fan of Dan Savage for more than a decade, but this book stretches back even further in time to the early days of the column when Dan was addressed as 'Dear Faggot.' I love the humour and insight Dan reveals in his answers to questions that run the gamut from long distance relationships to cunnilingus to baking tips. The answers where he quotes his mother are especially poignant now.
The book is a "best of" from his column and contains questions and answers Dan Savage continues to add
Kaje Harper
3.5 stars. I love Dan Savage's writing in his other books, and reread them repeatedly just to get his amused, acerbic, sane voice in my head. This collection of his newspaper columns is earlier writing, not as polished. And his columnist persona is more acid in tone and less warmly humorous. Still there are some very funny bits in here, and some surprisingly good advice for a newspaper column. Dan Savage still shines as a rational, thoughtful observer of people of all kinds, albeit from his own ...more
This is a fun book to read on the bus, as anyone glancing at your page is likely to be assaulted with the words "fuck", "cock" and/or "pussy". Heh. Anyway, it's an entertaining and informative read. I sped through it a few short hours. Savage makes for a funny, breezy and usually well-informed advisor.

My only warning is that when it comes to the subjects on which you might disagree with the author, your head is likely to go 'splodey at the conviction with which he holds his (alternate) view. If
Sarah Finley
Now, if he would just put out another collection of letters...
Dear god, I laughed myself snorty.
Kate O'Hanlon
I have often thought that my life would be better if I could get Dan Savage to run it for me.

These collection of his advise columns is a good introduction to Savage, sometimes he gives great advise, sometimes he just mocks the querent, and at one point, for reasons I don't quite understand, he ignores the questions entirely to plug Independence Day. Whether he's telling his readers to cheat on their spouses, come out of the closet or see a psychiatric Savage Love is always a good read.
The best of Savage's sex advice column. Entertaining in that Savage is funny and people are weird. I certainly enjoyed it, but I don't really have any deep thoughts. Just: people are 1) dumb about sex and relationships and 2) into some kinky shit. But then I knew all that.

Note: I got my copy off of BookMooch. It is 1) rather beat-up, and 2) apparently signed. "Abortion--good and good for you! [illegible scrawl that may be Savage's signature]" Huh.
Aug 04, 2007 Mel rated it 4 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: all couples
Shelves: non-fic
Written in 1998 or so, Dan Savage has only improved with time. This is a compilation of some of his column from the past 7yrs or so (as of 1998). I find it highly entertaining to browse through and gain a great appreciation of the opinion of 'Savage Love' (not to mention I am addicted to his podcast).

I totally recommend this book for couples (of any variety). I shall now force my bf to read it as well and use it for reference, haha!
There is no bad in this collection of "best of" Q & A from Dan Savage's excellent sex advice column. It's all from the early years - it was published in 1999, I think - but sex and relationships haven't really changed enough to date it at all (so to speak). I love Dan's straightforward advice, I love the wide, wild, and varied spectrum of human sexuality and curiosity, and I love this book. 'Nuff said.
So due to the delightful effects of insomnia, I read this almost entirely during the hours of 1 AM and 5 AM last night/this morning, so I'm not sure if my review is worth much. But I enjoyed it! He is indeed very mean to stupid people, but as I come from a family whose motto could be "do not suffer fools gladly," I found it pretty entertaining.
When I was living in Chicago I couldn't wait for the reader to come out so that I could read Savage Love. I was missing his columns, so I read this book. Even though it's almost 10 years old, his advice is still current and necessary. People of all persuasions can learn from his honesty, humor, and lack of pity for anyone.
Dustin Young
An incredibly funny, raw, and insightful book that sheds light on and gives advice on everything from relationships and dating to really solid S&M techniques. Even the parts of the book that may not pertain to you, are incredibly funny. Super quick and easy read, and if you haven't already, do check out his column.
Mary Anne
Oct 21, 2009 Mary Anne marked it as to-read  ·  review of another edition
Dan Savage contributes to This American Life on NPR and I've really enjoyed those contributions. Considering the topic of some of his books I'm a bit wary of delving into them,so just a heads up to any friends that may see this and consider reading it, it may be pretty racy in parts.
Fanny Bancroft
It's just a collection of questions and answers from Dan's Savage Love column, but it's a delightful read. Dan's no-nonsense approach to sexuality has inspired me in my own sex life. He's both witty and wise. And, you know, the trainwreck of other people's sex troubles is good reading.
Jul 20, 2007 Shannon rated it 5 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: lovers of advice columns
Dan Savage is one of my heroes.

After all the stuff I've read about sex over the years, information in this book STILL surprised me.

Quick, interetsing reading. Savage calls people out for moronic thinking - it's great. He fosters more careful thought.
I am a big Dan Savage fan. I think he's doing a lot to help out a lot of people to open their minds when it comes to their sexuality/sexual issues/relationship issues. This is simply more of that. I'm a pretty big fan of him.
Some of this book was funny. Savage's advice was, for the most part, very funny. But then there were certain sections of this book, that gave a glimpse into very sad sex lives. That wasn't funny at all. It made me sad.
great advice from funny,smart fella.I enjoy all the different stories from all the different kinds of people.a fun read,and I walked away a little more sexually confident,which is half the battle!
Dan Savage is the voice of common sense; rude but straight and to the point. Some of his answers were so simple I wondered why I hadn't thought of them myself. Love him!
yeah, i mean, you know dan savage. when he's right, he's right and when he's wrong, he's closed-minded and pig-headed. but he's always pretty quick and witty.
Dan Savage is a national treasure and this book is a great compilation of his mid-90s columns. I think he is funnier and more insightful now, but this is a good read.
It's hard to believe that this book came out ten years ago. Mr. savage was a bit sassier back then, but his advice is almost always spot on. Love and butt sex!
Feb 23, 2007 meghan rated it 4 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Anyone with a sense of humor
Shelves: nonfiction
Dan Savage just tells it like it is. It's a collection of his columns and the kind of book you can pick up and read pieces of here and there
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Dan Savage is a writer, TV personality, and activist best known for his political and social commentary, as well as his honest approach to sex, love and relationships.

Savage’s sex advice column, “Savage Love,” is syndicated in newspapers and websites throughout the United States, Canada, Europe and Asia. He is the Editorial Director of The Stranger, Seattle’s weekly alternative newspaper, and his
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