I Thought It Was Just Me: Women Reclaiming Power and Courage in a Culture of Shame
Shame manifests itself in many ways. Addiction, perfectionism, fear and blame are just a few of the outward signs that Dr. Brené Brown discovered in her 6-year study of shame’s effects...more
This book didn't make me feel less alone. It did make me realize, though, that to have true empathy with someone you need to realize you aren't there to fix or better them. ...more
As I read this book, I felt a bit ...more
That said, I was disappointed by this book. I am wondering whether she is a better teacher and storyteller and presenter than writer ...more
Instead of a synopsis or thinly veiled attempt at sounding studious, I thought I'd extract a few quotes that, while ...more
If you are a courageous person who appreciates the value of self-awareness and personal growth for indivi ...more
In this book Brene Brown explains about shame, how common and how destructive it is, and more importantly how to develop our "shame resilience".
The suggestions in this book are powerful, doable, and potentially life changing--no--life improving!
So I encountered Brene Brown on her TED talk thanks to Dave Lose (http://www.davidlose.net). After listening to her, I had to read this book and I was not disappo ...more
I don't think ...more
When I finished, I moved on to Brown's other book, "The Gifts of Imperfection," and got a lot out of that one also. This book was a zoomed in view ...more
However, I do have a big issue with the fact that she only addresses shame in women - and it is definitely not exclusive to the female sex. Addition ...more
The problem is t ...more
Her point is that shame is bad (oh, of course!) and that no one improves because of negative feelings. I'm not sure I agree 100 percent. I mean, I don't advocate people shaming others, particularly intentionally (and there are a lot of examples of that in this ...more
Personally I would have pre ...more
"...I often refer to shame as the fear of disconnection-the fear of being perceived as flawed and unworthy of acceptance or belonging...the opposite of experiencing shame is experiencing empathy."
"We can never become completely resistant to shame; however, we can develop the resilience we need to recognize shame, move throu ...more
- Shame and self-esteem are very different issues. We feel shame. We think self-esteem (17).
- Shame comes from outside of us—from the messages and expectations of our culture. What comes from the inside of us is a very human need to belong, to relate (20).
- Shame is all about fear. As I wrote in the introduction, we are biologically, emot ...more
Dr. Brown teaches graduate ...more