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If Only He Knew: What No Woman Can Resist

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Do you want your wife to: - understand you? - appreciate you? - be more responsive sexually? - support you during hard times? - admire you? - share your interests? - listen to what you have to say?
Paperback, 208 pages
Published December 31st 1996 by Zondervan (first published May 21st 1982)
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Keith Kendall
Jul 19, 2011 Keith Kendall rated it really liked it
Shelves: marriage
Half way through this book I had it figured out.

Rule 1: If there is a problem, it is the man’s fault.
Rule 2: For all other cases see rule number 1.

But having finished the book that isn’t quite what he says. I went back to see where he said it, and he never comes out and says it. He does challenge someone to disprove it. The man tried, but did not succeed. Smalley demonstrated in every case that he had caused the problems which he was blaming on his wife.

The book has many examples of where the ma
Jonathan Beigle
Sep 05, 2014 Jonathan Beigle rated it really liked it
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I typically like to read at least one book on marriage per year. I'm not a great husband and I need lots of help! If Only He Knew has been sitting on our bookshelf for a long time, and I never read it because the books is so old (written in 1979) and I just assumed that newer marriage books are better than old ones. Gary Smalley does a great job at addressing my issues though. I struggle with anger, being argumentative, and critical, and Smalley hits them all. He uses a ton of stories and exampl ...more
Oct 31, 2013 Leslie rated it it was amazing
Best humanly written book ever for men. Needs to be in AUDIO though. Update ~ Guess what?! Now (2013) it IS in Audio!
Jun 08, 2008 Jason rated it really liked it
This is a fairly old book, but I still feel like Smalley's advice to husbands is priceless in this book. Read up men!
Nov 01, 2014 Christian rated it liked it
True stuff, but too simplistic and generalizing for my taste. A bit patronizing and quite patronizing in style. But a lot of good recommendations.
Pat Murphy
Aug 05, 2015 Pat Murphy rated it it was ok
A how to understand women book for men. I still need more training.
Miriam Cociorvan
Jan 13, 2015 Miriam Cociorvan rated it it was amazing
love this book! I recomend it to every family!
Nick Woodall
Feb 05, 2016 Nick Woodall rated it really liked it
Smalley is spot-on in marital relationships. Any of his books or videos are worth reading and/or watching.
Tammyribbey ribbey
Feb 19, 2012 Tammyribbey ribbey rated it it was amazing
Again this writer - therapist knows his stuff. This book is for the man to read but I would advise all woman to read it. I learned alot about myself as well as the way I affect my marriage.
May 04, 2008 Jonathan rated it really liked it
One of the very good resources my wife and I use when we counsel with couples regarding their marriage.
Dec 17, 2008 Christina rated it really liked it
Someone recently lent me this book, he wants my opinion on it. So I'll get back to ya'll on this one.
Steve Partridge
Dec 07, 2010 Steve Partridge is currently reading it
So far I'm learning that possibly IM the cause of all problems :-(
Aug 25, 2008 Johnnie rated it it was amazing
Practical answers to the differences in men and women.
Jeff Noble
If Only He Knew by Gary Smalley/ Norma Smalley (?)
Kris Kimball
Feb 22, 2009 Kris Kimball rated it it was amazing
every male should read to become a men for his wife!
Nov 11, 2009 Ron rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
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Nov 13, 2008 Otis rated it it was amazing
Excellent book.
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