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Preview — I Don't Want to Talk About It by Terrence Real
I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression
Each year, millions of men and women fall prey to depression. While the disorder has been called "psychiatry's most treatable condition," less than one in five get help. In recent years, the silence surrounding depression in women has begun to lift, but only now, with this powerful groundbreaking work, does psychotherapist Terrence Real expose a virtual epidemic of the di...more
As a mother of boys, I also appreciated the sections on society's expectations of masculinity and femininity and how reinforcing those stereotypes can do damage, teaching boys that they can't express their emotions.
The descriptions are therapy ses ...more
(2) For the better part of my life, I've felt out of step with social expectations and not understood why. After reading this book, I get it. I finally get it. I feel as though I've been wandering in the wilderness for a long, long time, when I suddenly find myself standing before an information-rich, emotionally wrenching though inspiring and hopeful "You Are Here" sign. It's almost laughably easy to trace where I've come from, and it's heartenin ...more
Way back in July or something I listened to the audio edition of “I Don’t Want to Talk About It: The Hidden Legacy of Male Depression" - a book by psychotherapist Terrence Real, recommended to my by my friends Jorge and Dave.
He asserts, as I’ve long believed, that a majority of men in the US have depression. But unlike t ...more
a) feel depressed, know they are depressed, and who want to understand that depressed state more fully;
b) are coping with anxiety and likewise, want to understand their feelings better; and/or
c) don't know what is wrong, but are behaving and feeling in way that is causing problems for themselves and the people around them.
This book presents a theory that men tend to experience and manifest depression differently than women, externalizing their distress - ...more
His message is that men do not have to resign themselves to living a painful existence, increasingly disconnected and isolated from friends and family. Terry Rea ...more
All in all the things that Terry has to say about depression are relevant, and he gives lots of anecdotal bits in his book and a lot of movie references. Some of them are a little too much for me--but I understand how men relate well to them.
But I struggled with his views of masculinity. If I understood him correctly then I don't think I agree with him. But I may be wrong.
It seems he does not embrace the warrior part of men & sees it as something instilled by social expectations.
His thoughts on carried shame are powerful!
Please, consider reading this for yourself, your family and your children.