The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage
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The Proper Care and Feeding of Marriage

3.85 of 5 stars 3.85  ·  rating details  ·  1,543 ratings  ·  280 reviews
Dr. Laura Schlessinger reveals how to bring a marriage back from the brink of disaster.

Jumping off her million-copy bestseller The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands, Dr. Laura Schlessinger exposes the sensitive and loving truths necessary to produce and sustain a wonderfully satisfying marriage. First and foremost, men and women need to understand and appreciate the uniq...more
Paperback, 240 pages
Published December 26th 2007 by Harper Perennial (first published January 1st 2007)
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Wonderful!! So great - read it as a couple, a little each night, and discuss it as you go. It was so great. SOme things it was nice to say wow, glad we don't have that problem! And other times we sheepishly admitted to the faults, then discussed how we could improve. It was a great book for helping us communicate better and grow closer as husband and wife.
I want to mentally vomit.

If I could give this book negative stars, I would.

I only read it because of my book club. I already read The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands with another book club and hated that book to pieces so I wasn't thrilled to be reading this one. But, I wanted to fully participate in my book club so I read it.

I was ready to write my review full of all the reasons why I hated this book and can't stand Dr Laura, but I'll refrain.

I need to go wash my brain out now.

PS- I'm not s...more
Michael Whennen
A friend of mine commented on Laura

"She is divorced and remarried. Even had an affair with her second husband while he was still married to his first wife. He left his wife and three children to be with her. They lived together for 9 years before legally marrying. She was even estranged from her parents and her sister, so I'm not sure what makes her qualified to write books on relationships"
To sum it up, Dr. Laura basically teaches her readers how to "love thy neighbor (spouse) as thyself," and how to own up to and take responsibility for your behavior. I think this book could help bad marriages become good ones, and good marriages become great ones.
Nov 28, 2007 Joseph rated it 3 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Anyone
I am still reading this book. What I have learned this far is that just about everything that Dr. Laura said not to do in a marriage has been dun to me. What I am talking about is all the criticism and the way that Dr. Laura tells the readers especially the women, if you do not treat your husband for the man that he is, then you won’t get a happy man but an angry boy.
I know that sex is a very important part of any marriage, and to have your spouse come to you and say time after time I don’t wan...more
I came away from this book reflecting on ways I can do better in my marriage and how I can be more selfless. I don't agree 100% of the time with all the examples, stories, and advice, but, for me, there were so many good reminders in her book of ways I can improve. I appreciate that she sees the value in women staying home to care for the children, and I love that she promotes the sanctity of marriage and calls it "the covenant of marriage" throughout the book.

Listened to this one on CD.
I loved this book! I feel like if I read a little of this each day, I would always feel so in love with my husband and treat him with love, service and kindness! I recommend this book to men and women. This could change your marriage!

I just read the first chapter in this book the other day because I was having a tough time. It totally changed my attitude, I wrote my husband a nice letter and life was so much better! If you haven't read this, you need to!
Okay... where to start.
First, let me say that you NEED to learn about Schlessinger's past before listening/reading her work. She is totally hypocritical as far as I can see. She acts as though she's coming from a place upon high (no errors, no faults). But then HOLY MOLY! when you learn about the affairs, married men, naked pictures, divorces, refusing to talk to her mother/family for decades, etc. it... well... it puts it into perspective what a two faced bitch she really is.

I don't mind peopl...more
This was SUCH a good book, I highly recommend it to anyone and everyone- even those who are not married. Reading it for my book club this month, I went into it skeptical that it could apply to me (not feeling like i needed much counseling on my marriage, only being married a year and a half) but it was amazing how much i learned from the key concepts that Dr. Laura uses to achieve the perfect marriage. It really helps to understand yourself and your significant other- whether married or just dat...more
Inspired Kathy
More couples should read or listen to Dr. Laura and incorporate the things she says into their marriage. I'm amazed at how many things she says fall right in line with The Proclamation on the Family. It's amazing how a few small changes can make a big difference.
One line that summed it up pretty well was something like give your husband lots of food, sex and appreciation and he'll be happy. It may not be quite that simple but then again it just might be.
Anne Thessen
Jun 20, 2008 Anne Thessen rated it 1 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: no one
Schlesinger is very good at demonstrating how far up her ass her head is. I don't know why, but I'm still amazed when people think that just because something works for them that it should therefore work for everyone else. Families, marriage and people are so much more dynamic than what she understands. The book contains a basic message of being loving and patient with your spouse, which is good, but none of the specifics are very useful.
This book and other Dr. Laura books should be a must read for all married and engaged people. For those of you who have seen "Fireproof," (a highly recommended movie) Dr. Laura uses the same sort of theme in all of her books. Love first, love selflessly, and love the way your significant other needs to be loved. The more you focus on the other person (as long as the other person is a good person, not an evil one), the more you will gain in return. Take responsibility for the things you do wrong....more
This book is very similar to another one of her books, The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands. I really enjoyed it, and I would like to own it. I will definitely read it again. These two books remind me what I should be doing to be happy in my relationship whenever I get a bit stuck in a rut. The practical tips can literally bring overnight results, and it all focuses on YOU and what you can do (not changing your partner). Amazingly enough, those small changes that YOU make end up positively af...more
This book is must read for all women and men too! Some women will look at this book as demeaning and one sided in favor of men. But it is the same concept as the "golden rule". If you want love and respect then you give love and respect. Yes, and most often you must give it first and even at times you think your husband should give it first. Men are quite simple. They just need to know their wife loves them and not by words but by action. Your relationship will definitely improve after reading t...more
I listen to Dr. Laura quite frequently on Sirius XM satellite radio. Although my views conflict considerably with hers, I do appreciate her "common sense" approach to relationships. With that said, I am always entertained, even when she is screaming at folks. I always learn something, even if it's the opposite of what I believe.

Honestly, I was all set to dislike this book, but I'm really enjoying it so far. I'm keeping an open mind. I do, however, wonder what kind of man is married to Dr. Laura....more
Elizabeth Bass
This book gives some practical advice for maintaining a positive marriage and home atmosphere. It focuses more on traditional roles of husband and wife, which is fine. However, I would have liked to see some other advice for roles that are reversed (i.e. working wife, stay-home dad). Overall, I would recommend it to others.
Ebster Davis
Listening to it on audible.

Ok, I think I'm half way though the abridged version. Laura has some very good, common sense points. I particularly like (and subscribe to) her view of love as selfless and giving and that YOU are the only person who can change in a relationship.

However, so far her advice is primarily toward women. The things women do wrong, the mistakes women make, how the woman needs to change. In doing so, she makes every possible martial disharmony the woman's faul...more
I read and loved two of Schlessinger's earlier works, The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands and Woman Power: Transform Your Man, Your Marriage, Your Life, so when I spotted this in my local library, I didn't think twice about reading it. The context of this book is relatively simple, but it really resonates with me and how I think. Probably half of the book is taken up with quotes from Dr. Laura's readers and listeners on various topics related to marriage, which I appreciate because it means...more
I figured i should take time out to finally review a book... (i much prefer to read than write! :>)
reed and i have been working on reading this book for the past couple of years :> and we are only half way through it. but i find it extremely useful.
if you are not familiar with dr. laura, she is a rather brazen media "expert". her approach is intimidating and can seem somewhat heartless, but her principles are quit sound. basically she says there are three things critical to a successful m...more
Nov 18, 2008 Darla rated it 4 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommended to Darla by: Teri Hansen
(Genre:Nonfiction/self-help) This book is very similar to Dr. Laura's other book "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" only this book is aimed at both spouses. Some chapters feel very much like a repeat of ideas that were put forth previously in her earlier book. But it is still a good read and has solid principles that are pro-marriage in nature. I really appreciate the emphasis that Dr. Laura places on the individual for marital satisfaction. I also appreciated her emphasis on being gratef...more
Kristina Brownell
I wish I owned this book. It has lots of practical advice and great examples of putting that advice into practice. It's basically a lesson in learning to be less selfish in our relationships. She has so many stories that illustrate her points and that makes it entertaining. I didn't really learn anything that I didn't know before, but it is always good to be reminded and recommit to being my best. I have never read any of Dr. Laura's books (or listened to her radio show) and I did find a few of...more
This is a great book and I like listening to it with my wife mostly because the author speaks a lot about how a woman can make a man happy. She has a lot of good things to say and is not afraid to relate them to christian beliefs. She has conviction and confidence and you can't help but completely agree with her. Of course, I already agreed with her thoughts before I got the book but she relays everything in such a logical thought provocing manner.
One issue I have with this book is the repetat...more
I have to say that a lot of this book makes sense to me, and that it has made me look at our relationship in a different way and has made me appreciate my partner more. The things I did not like about it were-

the religious undertones- I am not religious and neither is my partner and sometimes it becomes annoying feeling like you are being preached to.

the anti-feminism- I consider myself to be a feminist. This does not mean as is suggested by the author that I hate men, that I think being a mothe...more
Skylar Burris
This is mostly a rehash of The Proper Care an Feeding of Husbands, but less well structured. Basically, she says more or less the same things, broadens them a little to somewhat apply to men, and throws in some extra raido talk show quotes, which makes the talk show examples seem tedious after awhile. If I hadn't already read The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands, however, I would likely have rated this higher.

I think Dr. Laura is probably too shrill in her criticisms of feminism in her book a...more
*Sigh* Where to begin?

As I read this book, I kept a running tally of helpful information versus B.S. In the end, about 2/3 was helpful, 1/3 was B.S. - which is a pretty bad ratio when your books are New York Times bestsellers.

What didn't I like? Her tone, mostly. Dr. Laura is a woman who deals with some of the most sensitive issues of humankind - issues of love, intimacy, fidelity and commitment. Within the first two paragraphs of her book, she is already making off-color, unhelpful analogies:

I like to give Dr. Laura's other book "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" to new brides for a wedding shower gift. I usually try to include this book "for the Husbands" because I've had brides take one look at TPCaFoH and say "What about HIM?!" I feel bad for them and their new husbands at that point, because if you go into marriage already not wanting to give more than "your fair share" and wondering what he's going to do for you, it's not a great start. The main point of Dr. Laura's prem...more
Anyone who is married, you should read this book. Anyone who's looking to get married, you should read this book. If you have ever heard the word marriage, you should read this book.

I have recently become a big fan of Dr. Laura's. I do not belive everything she has to saw, but I believe a lot of it. Being your husband's girlfriend rather than his nagging wife really resonates in this book. Men are simple....they need affection, sex and good food. Add in fidelity, trust and openness with their w...more
I found this book a little repetitive after reading "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands." But, I enjoyed Dr. Laura's point that men and women are divinely different and we need to respect and appreciate those differences. I also loved how she started and ended her book by referring to O. Henry's "Gift of the Magi" - the story of a young married couple that were very much in love with each other, but had no money as Christmas was approaching. The wife's only possession was her beautiful long...more
Oct 26, 2008 Brynn is currently reading it  ·  review of another edition
I can barely stand Dr. Laura....The characteristics that make her "perfect" for the radio (her determination to be 'in your face' and pull no punches) are the same things that drives me nuts about her. However, on a fundamental level, I agree with the messages in this book in regards to understanding my husband and it was he who VERY gingerly gave me the book to read.
Once he recovered from my icy stare of death, he explained that I already DO the things outlined in the book (I'm sure he meant it...more
I really loved "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands" and fully expected to be so dazzled by this book. I am sorry to say that I just couldn't get into it. I felt that the message was good, but I just couldn't get into it. Maybe it's because when I read the PCsFoH, I was younger and wanted more personal recognition, and that's what the book offered; recognition that my choice to be a wife and mother first, were not just acceptible choices, but the best!

I supose now that I am older, I just do...more
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