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The Definitive Book of Body Language

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Available for the first time in the United States, this international bestseller reveals the secrets of nonverbal communication to give you confidence and control in any face-to-face encounter–from making a great first impression and acing a job interview to finding the right partner.

It is a scientific fact that people’s gestures give away their true intentions. Yet most o...more
Hardcover, 400 pages
Published July 25th 2006 by Bantam (first published January 1st 2006)
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Jojo
كتاب استمتعت حقا بقرائته
يساعد على معرفة من حولنا اكثر لنعرف موقفنا و ما يجب علينا
فعله في أي حال من الأحوال

يتكلم عن لغة الجسد
و كيف نستطيع قرآئتها

كنت عندما انتهي من فصل من الكتاب اذهب و اجلس مع عائلتي
و اقرأ لغة أجسادهم و كنت غالبا ما أفلح فيها .. و قد أعجبني هذا كثيرا

يساعد في المفاوضات و متى تقنع الشخص الآخر و كيف
و يساعد في جذب الناس إليك و جعلهم يأخذون عنك انظباع جيد
و حتى يساعد في مقابلات الواظائف و كيف تترك أثرا جيد و لا ينسى في عقولهم ..

بإختصار انه رائع و احببته =)
Hana Al-Maktoum
* متوسط الحجم

* ممتع جدا. يشرح لك معاني إيماءات الوجة وتحركات الجسد أثناء التحدث، التفكير أو التحدث والتفكير معا. غالبا ما تكون صادقة لأنها تصدر من الناس دون شعورهم بها. العديد منها تفهمها أو تشعر بها دون أن تنتبه لها. الكتاب يوضح لك الحركات ومعانيها فيسهل عليك ملاحضتها.

* الكتاب مزود بصور توضيحية أراها جيدة وكافية

* كما أذكر، أصبحت مهووسة بمراقبة اللغة الجسدية لفترة ليست بالوجيزة بعد أن قرأت الكتاب، والأسوء أنه يحدث لا شعوريا :)

Khaled Tolba
لغة الجسد عامله زي ما تكون عمال تدور على مفتاح باب وهو في ايدك، او زي ما تكون بتدور على النضارة اللي انت لابسها.
قد يستطيع الناس ان يتجملو ويتفننو في اختيار الكلمات ولكن دائما ما تفضحهم لغة جسدهم وايمائاتهم، والشخص الذي يستطيع قراءة هذه الإيمائات يستطيع أن يتخذ القرارات الصائبة المتعلقة بكل حالة..

الكتاب دا من أمتع ما قرأت، أسلوبه شيق جدا، بيخليك تنظر بأعين لم تنظر بها من قبل، من أول ما بدأت أتعمق في الكتاب بدأت الاحظ حاجات في المجتمع حواليا أو حتى في سلوكي مكنتش واخد بالي منها، وبدأت أطبق اللي ات...more
Nawaf Aldarrab
كتاب متوسط الجمال ، بعد قراءتي لهذا الكتاب أدركت تماماً هذا المبدأ:
الترجمة لغالبية الكتب .. غالباً ما تفقد الكتاب جزء ليس بالقليل من قيمته !
Gabriela
Allan Pease and Barbara Pease apply their experience in medicine, biology and psychology to illustrate the workings of the brain and how this influences our body language. In the Definite Book Of Body Language, the authors show us how we can use our knowledge of the brain's functions to understand people's emotions and behaviors.

I have to say that neuropsychology and behavioral science have always fascinated me. There are many books out there about these topics. But I found this one particularly...more
Ahmed Emad
(المرجع الأكيد فى لغة الجسد ):-أنا اخترت الكتاب ده بالذات عشان الكتاب رقم 50 و أنهي به التحدي ع الموقع
السبب :- لأني من عشاق لغة الجسد في المقام الأول و لكم المعلومات اللي موجودة في الكتاب و اللي هي مش بتخليك تقدر تحكم ع مواقف الأشخاص اللي قدامك و تحدد شعورهم تجاهك بس ... لأ دي كمان يتخليك تقدر تتحكم في حركات جسمك و تظهر بالشكل اللائق دائما
شكــــــــــــــــــــــر خاص
و تحية تقدير للمؤلف علي المجهود الأكثر من رائع
الكتاب ممتع ... ملئ بالمعلومات ... أعتبره - من وجهة نظرى - هدية قيمة للغاية
حقيقة -...more
Ahmed
استفدت كثيراً من خلال قراءة هذا الكتاب، فهو يساعد على فهم سلوكيات الأشخاص في مختلف المواقف. أعجبت بأسلوب المؤلفين في طرح الأفكار، وأيضا الصور التوضيحية المطروحة، فهي تساعد الشخص على فهم الفكرة وتحليل لغة الجسد المطروحة لأنها تساعد القارئ على ترجمة الموقف وتحليله بأسلوبه الخاص. أنصح بقراءة هذا الكتاب.
مجدلية اندروماخي
كتاب بسيط ومتواضع, قد لا اتفق مع كل ماورد
يوجد فيه معلومات جيدة ومناسبة ولا انكر ذلك لكنها شحيحة
يعتمد اسلوب الاطالة و "الحشو" كان يمكن ان يكون مركزا اكثر
من الجميل ايراد موقف الثقافات الشعبيةومعنى الحركات الايمائية لدى كل شعب
مفيد لدرجة ما,لكن ترجمة الايماءات قد تصيب.......وقد تخيب
Jan-Maat
I am fairly sure this was recommended on a management course. Entertaining read, well illustrated. Not sure how accurate it is, I tried out some of the ideas such as sitting side by side or at an angle to somebody rather than opposite across a desk at them. I certainly felt better for doing so but then the book told me that I would!

The downside for me is that I started to become absurdly self-conscious. Was I standing in an optimum way, sending out the best messages? Where my feet pointing in th...more
BattoOm
لغة الجسد عالم يستحق أن نسعى لاسترجاع مقدرتنا على فك رموزه ..
Ellen Maze
Aug 05, 2010 Ellen Maze rated it 4 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: People Watchers
As an author, I am naturally a student of observation, so this book had the potential to be of great service to me not only in my writing, but in character-building and expression.

I enjoyed the read. Unlike some other Body Language books, this one has a lot of photographs, and at the risk of sounding sophomoric, they really added to my understanding of the text.

The chapters/categories made a lot of sense, and the information moved along with little unnecessary repetition. I think everyone who...more
Mary
Feb 16, 2011 Mary rated it 3 of 5 stars
Recommended to Mary by: Mary Thorley and some blog?
I rarely read every word of non-fiction books, but this is one of the rare exceptions. It's not even particularly fascinating. But it is interesting enough to hold my attention without skipping or skimming over anything. ALMOST four stars. It wasn't awesome enough to go out and purchase, but it would be great to have around all the time for reference when the fancy strikes. I doubt I'll remember this stuff on my own as well as I'd like to.

I'm sure that for a few days at least, I'll be watching e...more
أحمد نفادي
الحر تكفيه الإشارة

قديما قالوا تكلم حتي أراك
فالكلمات هي المعبر عنك
ولكن لم يعد للكلمات جدوى في معرفة النوايا ومعرفة الشخصيات
فيكفيك معرفة إشاراته لتعلم كل ما ينتويه وكل ما يفكر فيه

قديما قال أرسطو الكلام تفكير بالفعل
ونحن نكمل ونقول وتفكيرك معبر عنه بإشاراتك وسكناتك

الكتاب عبارة عن ملخص لعلم لغة الجسد وهو من المجالات الكثيرة المنتشرة حاليا مع البرمجة اللغوية العصبية ( الفرع الاكبر)ويتحدث عن مغزي كل إشارة من إشارات من أمامك
فتلك تدل علي الاعجاب وتلك للرفض وتلك تدل علي أنه كاذب
كتاب قيم وخاصة لمندوبي...more
لبابة أبوصالح
أعتقد أنه على الجميع الاطلاع على هذا الكتاب لأنه يسهل على الناس فهم بعضهم البعض دون الاعتماد على اللغة المنطوقة.. لقد عرفت أن بإمكان الإنسان أن يكذب ويزيف في لغته لكن جسده سيتصرف على طبيعته ويتحرك بعفوية ، مع أن المؤلفين يحاولان تقديم أفكار تحرض على التحكم بلغة الجسد.. لكنني لا أصدق هذه الفكرة وقد يكون هذا التحريض نوعا من أنواع التسويق لمضمون الكتاب..
أفضل ما في الكتاب من وجهة نظري هو كيف يمكننا السيطرة على الآخر من خلال مصافحته، فهذا الجزء يقدم طرقاً تجعلنا نشعر بالقوة والسيطرة على الآخر كما يم...more
Marya
كتاب رائع يعلمك كيف تعرف أو تفهم ما يفكر فيه الشخص الأمامك عن طريق اشارات جسدية كطريقة الجلوس والوقوف , وضعية اليدين وتعابير الوجه واطبقه عملي الى الآن وكل ما رايت اشارة من شخص ما ولم افهمه ارجع الى الكتاب وهذا الكتاب جعلني اعلم كيف اخفي اشاراتي حتى لا يفهمني احد (( انا افهم لاكن لا احد يفهمني ^_^))
Superroro
حلو الكتاب..
في اشياء انبهرت لما قريتها..في اشياء عادية..وفي اشياء محتاجة منا دقة ملاحظة..
الحلو ان في اجزاء معينة من الكتاب ولما يتكلم عن اشارة معينة اجلس اطبق على نفسي ولا على شخص حولي قام بهالاشارة ..
Cynthia
I found this to be a very interesting and informative book. It's fascinating, and disconcerting, to read how many things we do unconsciously that are so denotative about our motives and thoughts.

Moreover, another intriguing concept is the fact that another person's actions, gestures or body language can engender a sense of benevolence, aversion or even hostility in us towards that individual, without us being able to comprehend why we feel that way.

The book is full of examples from real-life pe...more
Shamma_a_140a512
I completely fell in love with this book. It might not be your typical number one novel but it's still such a good read to me! I got so hooked on this book that i finished it in two days. Sometimes when it comes to words,people don't really say much & we always want to get to know the self that's behind these words. This book made me understand many things about body language that i've never known before to the extent where i started reading & highlighting almost everything! I found it e...more
Bernadette
There were a few things I learned, but quite a bit of things I disagreed with. Examples are: turn your palms up to put someone at ease - I tried using this during my PT retail job and got wierd looks. Another example that truly disagree with is - if someone keeps you waiting - pull out some financial papers adn a calculator adn do calculations. When they call for you say say "I'll be ready in a moment - I'll just finish these calculations" - what???? or the other example for this is to take out...more
Iz
An incredible pile of absolute garbage. Baseless, unscientific, sexist load of crap.
Aya Hassan
كتاب مفيد جدا واغلب معلوماته حقيقيه عن تجربه
David
When I was younger, I didn't really pay much attention to body language. At the time I didn't find it important; but in both personal and professional relationships, body language is crucial in understanding how the other person feels. This book provides a good overview of common body language gestures. I've been told by some, that reading body language can be contradictory. One sign another gives doesn't mean that's how they really feel. Luckily, this book reinforces this cautionary statement b...more
Lucas Leite
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Certain gestural groups emitted by the body generate positive or negative influences in the unconscious of the interlocutor, this is the argument put forward by Allan and Barbara Pease in the book The Definitive Guide to Body Language. The authors, professionals with vast experience in business, use their professional experience, latest data and researches to, in a colloquial and brief language, expose to the general public imp...more
Abdelmoneam Mohamed
عندما اردت ان افعل شئ لم اكن فعلته من زمن واكتشفت انه يستحق انى لو بدأت فيه من فترة كان هذا الفعل هو القراءة وحينما اردت القراءة تخبطت فى العديد من المواضيع هل احب هذا ام ذاك ؟ ولكنى اكتشفت ان القراءة فى حد ذاتها تنمى الفكر وعندما وجدت نفسى اميل نحو الكتب المتعلفة بعلوم النفس البشرية كان لابد وان اقرا كتاب مثل هذا .... لغة الجسد من اهم المقومات فى تنمية النفس وجعلها على الطريق السليم والتفكير بروية فى معظم امور الحياة تعلمك قراءة افعال الاخرين دون التعبير الفظى وذلك لاننا كبشر مهما كانت صراحتنا...more
Carrie Wilson
This book is a well-researched summary of proxemics, gender and cultural differences in non-verbal communication, facial expressions and much more! A few tidbits you'll learn from this book: female brains are designed for multi-tasking (which is explains why we can watch TV, read a book, and chat online while drinking coffee); smiling is seen as a subordinate action and women tend to smile much more than men, something likely hard-wired into our brains; organs that are transplanted retain cellul...more
Princely
I felt that this book was good, and had accurate things to say about WESTERN gestures. However, I live in Japan, and none of the quote *offensive* gestures mean anything to anyone under thirty five. The business relations section for Japanese was suprisingly off. I mean, every time someone bows, they inspect your shoes? Most of the folks I meet here change from their outside, nice shoes into crappy indoor ones, so everyone's shoes look kind of beaten up when we meet everyone inside :).

I'm more...more
Mustafa Abulrub
On Location 1539 on my kindle when the authors started talking about Cultural differences they gave an example "which is already Nasty and does not give a good and rational start for talking about Cultural differences" that is when a man enters ladies room and finds a naked woman sitting on a bathtub how would each woman react.

he started with British Or American, then Swedish then , Suddenly (Muslims),, are we talking about religions or are we talking about nationalities here??? Is this an Hones...more
Alissa Thorne
I found this book so useful, I decided to listen to it twice in a row.*

When it became clear that much of the book was going to be a lengthy list of various subtle body language queues, I groaned at what I anticipated would be a lot of rote memorization. As it turned out, since body language is so tied up with emotions, almost all of the indicators were immediately recognizable. More importantly, they matched with an emotional understanding of what it feels like when exhibiting that indicator, a...more
Jim
While I'm pretty good at intuitively reading people, I was curious to see if I could learn more. I bought this book from Amazon and read it before the book by Joe Navarro (also on my list)

The authors appear to be sales/marketing people and conduct workshops and trainings on reading body language. There seems to be a bias such as "this behavior equals this meaning." I have a problem with this simplistic type of interpretation.

However, I try to glean the basic underlying concepts and blend that w...more
Lolly LKH
I admit to this snarky behavior, I love to study people! This book was very interesting and certainly I will look at everyone differently. I am a people watcher and have always been good at spotting the 'real' situation in any room. Now I understand why I can go past what I hear and see what's true, for those of you that can't or those who want to improve decoding people, this is a must read. I will admit I have learned more. This book touches on human beings body language, such as how we cross...more
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Allan Pease is an Australian author and motivational speaker. Despite having no education in psychology, neuroscience, or psychiatry, he has managed to establish himself as an "expert on relationships".

Originally a musician, he became a successful life insurance salesman, he started a career as a speaker and trainer in sales and latterly in body language. This resulted in a popular sideline of aud...more
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