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The Definitive Book of Body Language
Available for the first time in the United States, this international bestseller reveals the secrets of nonverbal communication to give you confidence and control in any face-to-face encounter–from making a great first impression and acing a job interview to finding the right partner.
It is a scientific fact that people’s gestures give away their true intentions. Yet most o...more
It is a scientific fact that people’s gestures give away their true intentions. Yet most o...more
Hardcover, 400 pages
Published
November 12th 2008
by Bantam
(first published January 1st 2004)
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كتاب استمتعت حقا بقرائته
يساعد على معرفة من حولنا اكثر لنعرف موقفنا و ما يجب علينا
فعله في أي حال من الأحوال
يتكلم عن لغة الجسد
و كيف نستطيع قرآئتها
كنت عندما انتهي من فصل من الكتاب اذهب و اجلس مع عائلتي
و اقرأ لغة أجسادهم و كنت غالبا ما أفلح فيها .. و قد أعجبني هذا كثيرا
يساعد في المفاوضات و متى تقنع الشخص الآخر و كيف
و يساعد في جذب الناس إليك و جعلهم يأخذون عنك انظباع جيد
و حتى يساعد في مقابلات الواظائف و كيف تترك أثرا جيد و لا ين...more
يساعد على معرفة من حولنا اكثر لنعرف موقفنا و ما يجب علينا
فعله في أي حال من الأحوال
يتكلم عن لغة الجسد
و كيف نستطيع قرآئتها
كنت عندما انتهي من فصل من الكتاب اذهب و اجلس مع عائلتي
و اقرأ لغة أجسادهم و كنت غالبا ما أفلح فيها .. و قد أعجبني هذا كثيرا
يساعد في المفاوضات و متى تقنع الشخص الآخر و كيف
و يساعد في جذب الناس إليك و جعلهم يأخذون عنك انظباع جيد
و حتى يساعد في مقابلات الواظائف و كيف تترك أثرا جيد و لا ين...more
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I am fairly sure this was recommended on a management course. Entertaining read, well illustrated. Not sure how accurate it is, I tried out some of the ideas such as sitting side by side or at an angle to somebody rather than opposite across a desk at them. I certainly felt better for doing so but then the book told me that I would!
The downside for me is that I started to become absurdly self-conscious. Was I standing in an optimum way, sending out the best messages? Where my fe...more
The downside for me is that I started to become absurdly self-conscious. Was I standing in an optimum way, sending out the best messages? Where my fe...more
When I was younger, I didn't really pay much attention to body language. At the time I didn't find it important; but in both personal and professional relationships, body language is crucial in understanding how the other person feels. This book provides a good overview of common body language gestures. I've been told by some, that reading body language can be contradictory. One sign another gives doesn't mean that's how they really feel. Luckily, this book reinforces this cautionary statem...more
As an author, I am naturally a student of observation, so this book had the potential to be of great service to me not only in my writing, but in character-building and expression.
I enjoyed the read. Unlike some other Body Language books, this one has a lot of photographs, and at the risk of sounding sophomoric, they really added to my understanding of the text.
The chapters/categories made a lot of sense, and the information moved along with little unnecessary repetition. I...more
I enjoyed the read. Unlike some other Body Language books, this one has a lot of photographs, and at the risk of sounding sophomoric, they really added to my understanding of the text.
The chapters/categories made a lot of sense, and the information moved along with little unnecessary repetition. I...more
This book is a well-researched summary of proxemics, gender and cultural differences in non-verbal communication, facial expressions and much more! A few tidbits you'll learn from this book: female brains are designed for multi-tasking (which is explains why we can watch TV, read a book, and chat online while drinking coffee); smiling is seen as a subordinate action and women tend to smile much more than men, something likely hard-wired into our brains; organs that are transplanted retain cellu...more
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I rarely read every word of non-fiction books, but this is one of the rare exceptions. It's not even particularly fascinating. But it is interesting enough to hold my attention without skipping or skimming over anything. ALMOST four stars. It wasn't awesome enough to go out and purchase, but it would be great to have around all the time for reference when the fancy strikes. I doubt I'll remember this stuff on my own as well as I'd like to.
I'm sure that for a few days at least, I...more
I'm sure that for a few days at least, I...more
I admit to this snarky behavior, I love to study people! This book was very interesting and certainly I will look at everyone differently. I am a people watcher and have always been good at spotting the 'real' situation in any room. Now I understand why I can go past what I hear and see what's true, for those of you that can't or those who want to improve decoding people, this is a must read. I will admit I have learned more. This book touches on human beings body language, such as how we cross ...more
I LOVE this book. It has me hooked. I'm reading it pretty slowly due to other things taking my attention, but every time I read it I take some good knowledge from it and use it in an everyday situation.
For instance, I was quickly able to tell when a female co-worker was feeling uncomfortable around another male in a group meeting. I even realized why she was feeling uncomfortable as he was being agressive, but not in a very direct manner. Women pick up on these things much more tha...more
For instance, I was quickly able to tell when a female co-worker was feeling uncomfortable around another male in a group meeting. I even realized why she was feeling uncomfortable as he was being agressive, but not in a very direct manner. Women pick up on these things much more tha...more
الحر تكفيه الإشارة
قديما قالوا تكلم حتي أراك
فالكلمات هي المعبر عنك
ولكن لم يعد للكلمات جدوى في معرفة النوايا ومعرفة الشخصيات
فيكفيك معرفة إشاراته لتعلم كل ما ينتويه وكل ما يفكر فيه
قديما قال أرسطو الكلام تفكير بالفعل
ونحن نكمل ونقول وتفكيرك معبر عنه بإشاراتك وسكناتك
الكتاب عبارة عن ملخص لعلم لغة الجسد وهو من المجالات الكثيرة المنتشرة حاليا مع البرمجة اللغوية العصبية ( الفرع الاكبر)ويتحدث عن مغزي كل إشارة من إشارات من أمامك
فتلك تدل علي الاعجاب ...more
قديما قالوا تكلم حتي أراك
فالكلمات هي المعبر عنك
ولكن لم يعد للكلمات جدوى في معرفة النوايا ومعرفة الشخصيات
فيكفيك معرفة إشاراته لتعلم كل ما ينتويه وكل ما يفكر فيه
قديما قال أرسطو الكلام تفكير بالفعل
ونحن نكمل ونقول وتفكيرك معبر عنه بإشاراتك وسكناتك
الكتاب عبارة عن ملخص لعلم لغة الجسد وهو من المجالات الكثيرة المنتشرة حاليا مع البرمجة اللغوية العصبية ( الفرع الاكبر)ويتحدث عن مغزي كل إشارة من إشارات من أمامك
فتلك تدل علي الاعجاب ...more
First of all, it was a very interesting book to read. I don't know if everything I read was completely accurate, but it sounds probable. Considering that there were so many body gestures/movements that were gone over in this book, it would be difficult to remember everything or even a majority of this information. I think a great way to read this book would be to read it through once, then go back to any sections that you may have forgotten information from later. The organization and layout of ...more
It was a book jam packed with tip after tip of useful body language signals. It makes a person aware of his own body language as well as others. This is not a simple sit down read the book and go to work. It is a slow time consuming process to use what the book is about. We often see people and never think twice as to what we are really seeing. Just like Sherlock Holmes was a master of the secret unseen world,we to can be if we put the information to use that is in the book. Each chapter is a di...more
It was a fascinating book. I like that they used illustrations, including photos of well-known actors and politicians. And then I got to the parts about glasses and makeup. They advise you to take your glasses off when you speak and put them back on to listen. This is assuming you are a vain attention-monger who wears glasses JUST to be attractive. Whereas if I take them off I can't see you. And I take offense to the idea that women who do not wear makeup are perceived as having poorer per...more
This book was easy to read, clear and there were even visual aids. It's like a manual and doesn't weigh you down with information you won't remember or use. There's the added authenticity of their own experiences in coaching people, as well as take examples from studies.
Because it's a book based on observed behavior there are times when stereotypes play a major role. I found myself uncomfortable with some of the stereotypes, seeing as I know people who don't fit. I myself do not fit...more
Because it's a book based on observed behavior there are times when stereotypes play a major role. I found myself uncomfortable with some of the stereotypes, seeing as I know people who don't fit. I myself do not fit...more
There were a few things I learned, but quite a bit of things I disagreed with. Examples are: turn your palms up to put someone at ease - I tried using this during my PT retail job and got wierd looks. Another example that truly disagree with is - if someone keeps you waiting - pull out some financial papers adn a calculator adn do calculations. When they call for you say say "I'll be ready in a moment - I'll just finish these calculations" - what???? or the other example for this is to...more
استفدت كثيراً من خلال قراءة هذا الكتاب، فهو يساعد على فهم سلوكيات الأشخاص في مختلف المواقف. أعجبت بأسلوب المؤلفين في طرح الأفكار، وأيضا الصور التوضيحية المطروحة، فهي تساعد الشخص على فهم الفكرة وتحليل لغة الجسد المطروحة لأنها تساعد القارئ على ترجمة الموقف وتحليله بأسلوبه الخاص. أنصح بقراءة هذا الكتاب.
Doug Vanderweide
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Absolutely amazing, comprehensive and insightful information about how we communicate with nonverbal body cues.
Posited as a guide to assist salespeople, managers and others who rely on their communications skills to perform their jobs -- but also full of information for deciphering courtship body language -- I came away from this book with much of what I imagined about body language proven, a few misconceptions cleared up, and a wealth of new knowledge.
There's so much her...more
Posited as a guide to assist salespeople, managers and others who rely on their communications skills to perform their jobs -- but also full of information for deciphering courtship body language -- I came away from this book with much of what I imagined about body language proven, a few misconceptions cleared up, and a wealth of new knowledge.
There's so much her...more
Simply awful. I have no idea why this book is rated so highly, because it's a mess in every regard. I'll grant that it has some useful ideas about reading body language, but they're nearly impossible to suss out from the conjecture, sexism, overstated claims, and outright falsehoods. Even the formatting is terrible, with "summaries" that don't always summarize and subsection headings that have the same font as the section headings.
Some of the most egregious examples: 1) Vi...more
Some of the most egregious examples: 1) Vi...more
I felt that this book was good, and had accurate things to say about WESTERN gestures. However, I live in Japan, and none of the quote *offensive* gestures mean anything to anyone under thirty five. The business relations section for Japanese was suprisingly off. I mean, every time someone bows, they inspect your shoes? Most of the folks I meet here change from their outside, nice shoes into crappy indoor ones, so everyone's shoes look kind of beaten up when we meet everyone inside :).
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Essential but not particularly enjoyable reading: According to recent studies, only 30% of all communication is verbal. The other 70% is made up of the non verbal signals and gestures that come from the rest of the body (in other words body language). Assuming this to be true, it's therefore important for anyone interested in communicating effectively to fully understand the implications of body language and learn how to use it to effectively interact with all types of people.
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Body Language is an interesting subject. It’s something that most of us pay very little attention to, and if we did, we would have noticed a lot of things about the people around us.
This book talks about body language in great details. It describes, sometimes with the aid of images, different body shapes and gives their significance. It is not, however, a list of shapes. The book aims to build a model in our heads, which we can use to analyze the way the person we’re talking to is s...more
This book talks about body language in great details. It describes, sometimes with the aid of images, different body shapes and gives their significance. It is not, however, a list of shapes. The book aims to build a model in our heads, which we can use to analyze the way the person we’re talking to is s...more
While I'm pretty good at intuitively reading people, I was curious to see if I could learn more. I bought this book from Amazon and read it before the book by Joe Navarro (also on my list)
The authors appear to be sales/marketing people and conduct workshops and trainings on reading body language. There seems to be a bias such as "this behavior equals this meaning." I have a problem with this simplistic type of interpretation.
However, I try to glean the basi...more
The authors appear to be sales/marketing people and conduct workshops and trainings on reading body language. There seems to be a bias such as "this behavior equals this meaning." I have a problem with this simplistic type of interpretation.
However, I try to glean the basi...more
To be an honest Abe here, as I was reading this book I took particular interest, and paid attention to those around me, especially the cute 20-something year old sitting across from me.
The book goes on to tell you about why people cross their legs, fidget their hands, or stand in the posture they do.
Thank you Barbara Pease, after reading this in one sitting, I came to the conclusion that the blonde sitting at my table was trying to yearn for my attention (playing with hai...more
The book goes on to tell you about why people cross their legs, fidget their hands, or stand in the posture they do.
Thank you Barbara Pease, after reading this in one sitting, I came to the conclusion that the blonde sitting at my table was trying to yearn for my attention (playing with hai...more
Changed my observation abilities in a way that I think will be very beneficial. So many of these things are common sense once you read it on paper but the real benefit is being able to see it fully fleshed out for you. Admittedly, the idea that many of this thing comes from evolution seems to me a little suspect, but books like this are very helpful for seeing how people are reacting to certain situations, even if it's not foolproof or is really difficult to implement.
This popular 2004 book surpassed my expectations. To look at it I expected one of these quickie books on human behavior that fill bookstores. But what differentiates this book is that the authors have many years of experience in the field. They also have done a lot of research of the finding of others. What resulted is a book that for the most part rings true. Whether trying to hone your acting skills or to get a date I recommend this book.
A very useful book that taught me a lot about body language. It really helped me understand why certain people shake their legs (a bad habit that even I admit I have), why some people shake hands differently, and why certain hand motions are rude in some countries and cool in others. To someone who enjoys observing and studying other people's behavior like me, it's an entertaining book and an enlightening one.
My sister recommended this book and I am glad she did. I learned a lot about my own body language and the vibes I am giving off and how to read other people. It's not an exact science...but it gives you a heads up. This did help with an interview I had at a temp agency. I gave a good impression just by how I shook hands, how I sat and where I placed my arms and of course eye contact. It's definitley worth the read!
A good gook, recommended. I didn't agree with everything, but there are so many facets of this book that you'll recognize in everyday life (especially the Capapult). Professional as well, realistic about recognizing gestures in clusters of 3 instead of jumping to conclusions, and avoids implying that everything a woman does is a come-on.
This book had a lot of great information in it, but was written with a lot of humor as well. I enjoyed reading it and learning mroe on the subject. Like the Ekman books, I appreciated the authors pointing out that nothing is fool-proof. I always feel that information is more credible when the author is upfront about that.
Denna bok är helt otrolig om du vill lära dig grunderna i kroppsspråk. Jag kan inte hitta någon bättre, den ger också en företagsinsikt i vad man skall undvika och vad som är bra för att hålla möten. Jag kan varmt rekommendera denna boken till alla som vill lära sig kroppsspråk och vara ett steg framför alla andra.
I read this book so that I could get an idea of the negative non-verbal communication that I give off.
I'd say that the book gave me an idea about the items but they came about it in a way that I thought was interesting (yet vague) - they talked about how animals use their body language to communicate various things. A lot of the book talked about how our bodies do things subconsciously. It was quite unsettling to think that our bodies literally have a mind of their own but as soon as ...more
I'd say that the book gave me an idea about the items but they came about it in a way that I thought was interesting (yet vague) - they talked about how animals use their body language to communicate various things. A lot of the book talked about how our bodies do things subconsciously. It was quite unsettling to think that our bodies literally have a mind of their own but as soon as ...more
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