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Future Men

4.22  ·  Rating Details ·  780 Ratings  ·  114 Reviews
How do we build our sons to be tough but not arrogant? mannered but not soft? imaginative but not lazy? bold but not hollow? Future Men is a Christian guide to raising strong, virtuous sons, contrary to the effeminacy and sentimentalism of contemporary culture. When Theodore Roosevelt taught Sunday school for a time, a boy showed up one Sunday with a black eye. He admitted ...more
Paperback, 200 pages
Published January 1st 2001 by Canon Press
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Nov 26, 2012 Chris rated it really liked it
About half way through this book I realized Doug Wilson wasn't going to provide a "how-to" for his readers on raising boys to be godly men. The examples from his own family were few and far between.

What he did provide, once I had the ears to hear, was a thoroughly biblical foundation for raising good men. The outcome was far more helpful than a book of "10 tricks for effective parenting". Once rooted in biblical principles, the Spirit can and will guide parents in the day to day discipline and d
Sean Higgins
Mar 15, 2009 Sean Higgins rated it it was amazing
If you are a man, are raising a man, or know a man, I cannot imagine better help to make a godly man than this book.

That said, this is not for faint-hearted, effeminate readers. There may be some gristle to spit out while enjoying big bites of meat.


Read again May 2013. Really good. And important. We need more men to put on their pants and help their sons learn how to do the same.
Jun 28, 2016 Tracy rated it really liked it
For boy moms, this is a very helpful read. Loaded with scripture, and he discusses topics that seem weighty and confusing to me. I've dog-eared a lot of the pages and chapters for me to return to as my sons grow older. Loved it, and I'm very thankful to have gleaned from Douglas Wilson.
Oct 17, 2014 Derrick rated it it was amazing
WARNING: The following statement is not to be understood as cliché or an overstatement, "this is the best book I have ever read about raising boys."

Doug Wilson will challenge the way you think about raising boys and he does not pull any punches on the sensitive topics many authors tip-toe around. This book is theologically rich and full of biblical support. You will not agree with everything Wilson says but at the same time you will not be able to disagree with him. The content is directly appl
Jessie Wittman
Nov 27, 2014 Jessie Wittman rated it liked it
Worth reading, even though I gave it three stars!!! I plan to pick up this book in a couple years to skim through it again to be reminded of some of his good perspectives. Wilson has some great over-arching principles about future men, I gleaned a lot from the opening chapter and the chapter on 'moms and sisters.' However, he fails often in his application of these principles, making things rather legalistic and fundamentalist because of his a patriarchal-colored lenses built on 1950s American s ...more
Mike E.
Jun 14, 2012 Mike E. rated it liked it
Shelves: parenting
Doug Wilson's book helps Christ-centered, Bible-saturated dads (& moms) think and act biblically in rearing godly, boys to be responsible, masculine men. His charge to parents and thesis is "Parents are to believe God _for_ their sons, which is a very different thing than believing _in_ their sons."

The strengths of the book are its clarity, brevity, and seasoned insights from someone with experience as a father of boys, pastor, and practical theologian. The weaknesses of the book are not as
John Gardner
May 24, 2012 John Gardner rated it it was amazing
Originally posted at Honey and Locusts.

I have read a lot of books on parenting, and particularly on parenting boys, and this is far and away the best I’ve yet encountered. Wilson’s counsel is both pastoral and practical, and always tinged with his typical witty prose.

His approach is very different from many other parenting books, mainly because he starts from a different perspective. Rather than beginning with the various challenges associated with bringing up boys, he challenges parents (and es
May 21, 2008 Andre rated it it was amazing
I really enjoyed Wilson' frankness with which he tackles real issues without being crass. I am already thinking about re-reading parts of again!
Jan 28, 2009 Matt rated it it was amazing
For every man who wants to be a man. My favorite quote is: "The Bible is a story about a dragon fight."
Daren Fomin
Nov 05, 2016 Daren Fomin rated it it was amazing
Practical and rich, I walked away from this with so much thanks to Pastor Wilson. I will read this once every year or two for the next few years.
Mar 18, 2017 Daniel rated it liked it
Good appendix to Reforming Marriage. Reforming Marriage is the must-read book that will make you want to read all the others.
Leonardo Bruno
Sep 12, 2014 Leonardo Bruno rated it it was amazing
Shelves: comprado
Um dos conceitos bíblicos mais preciosos que a igreja contemporânea precisa recuperar e comunicar com absoluta urgência a este mundo caído é o da masculinidade – a verdadeira, não a fingida (macheza, truculência). Ao longo dos últimos anos, sucumbimos diante do igualitarismo. Não conseguimos responder ao feminismo sem temer a pecha de "machista!". Em outras palavras, não fomos suficientemente... viris. Nesse sentido, a leitura do livro pastor Douglas Wilson é mais que oportuna: é obrigatória. Ou ...more
Jul 23, 2011 Jimmy added it
If you have read any of Doug Wilson's book previously, you would expect his style and wordsmiths to shine through in this work. My expectation was not disappointed. Wilson did a good job tackling this topic of raising up men from a Christian perspective. The work is filled with practical wisdom concerning raising up boys to be men, applications which derive from Scripture. More fascinating to me is Wilson's attempt to teach on how to even think about raising a boy. The work is written from a Com ...more
Tim Hatfield
Dec 26, 2010 Tim Hatfield marked it as to-read
...Working my way through this with my wife. Mostly as we ride in the van together to and fro.

Many many good insights by Doug Wilson. I love his balanced thinking on virtually any subject. He is able to critique both sides of an issue or ideal. IE he is talking about the normal Biblical pattern of having children present in worship but points out that when the law was found in the book of Numbers (I believe) there we see only those who were "with understanding" to be present thus it is not an ab
Noel Adams
Mar 19, 2015 Noel Adams rated it liked it
I would describe this less as a theology of raising men, and more of a collection of essays, loosely tethered to scripture, (lightly seasoned, shall we say). But I do think it makes for an interesting read, which is why I just finished it for the third time.

Ironically, this is one for the girls. What I mean by that is that these are provocative essays which serve to remind me that, as a mother, I really only grasp part of the picture of what it means to be a man. And no matter how many future m
Rob Lipovsky
Jun 30, 2015 Rob Lipovsky rated it it was amazing
Best book I have ever read. I've only read this book twice (despise its brevity), each time taking me several days because of the amount of mental pondering I do upon the completion of each chapter.

Wilson outlines a guide for raising boys into men. A side effect of this is Wilson outlines how to act as a man in the process, but I digress.

Wilson starts with defining Biblical masculinity in general. He proceeds to elaborate on fatherhood and the role of a father's responsibility, followed by a man
Jeff Short
May 11, 2012 Jeff Short rated it really liked it
Shelves: family
Good books on raising boys are rare and this one is a gem. Wilson shoots straight where it is needed and puts keen insights on biblical foundations. As you would expect from him, the text sprinkled with wit and humor in good places.

One of the problems with a book like this is that it can feel overwhelming. You feel the pressure at the start and it doesn't let up. Raising boys requires a lot of work and patience. In the appendix on Proverbs, Wilson highlights the need for repetitive instruction,
Jan 09, 2015 Ryan rated it it was amazing
This is definitely a must read if you have sons and I would highly recommend it even if you don't. He so strongly supports his statements with Scripture that the book even includes an "Index of Scripture". Based on counting a couple columns, I would estimate that he references about 400 different passages in the Bible. This books demonstrates his tremendous insights into boys, men, people, and the church. He really gets at the heart of why most men today are lazy, lack boldness, and are poor lea ...more
Eric Walter
Mar 16, 2012 Eric Walter rated it really liked it
Doug Wilson is quickly turning into a favorite of mine. Filled with copious amounts of wit and wisdom this book is a must read for men both young and old. From exhortations and encouragements for those longing for direction, to admonishments of the current state young men in America, one can sense that Wilson's passion for redemption is deep and genuine. While radical in some assertions (i.e. education reform, dating, fashion) I was truly encourage to see such a comprehensive approach to raising ...more
Lonnie Smith
Feb 19, 2014 Lonnie Smith rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This is a case where I wish you could give half stars in Goodreads

I would designate this book a 3.5. It was a quick and easy ready, getting straight to the point. I think the author makes some logical leaps and generalities sometimes that leads him to sound quite old fashioned and easily dismissable, but I couldn't give a bad score as when he IS on, he is REALLY on. Every once in a while this book made me stop and think, or even evaluate my own life in a critical way. I would suggest this to par
Oct 10, 2011 James rated it really liked it
Once again, Wilson handles issues within the church with finesse and authority. Few people in the Evangelical church today would argue with you if you told them that men are not as men are to be. Fewer still would have be able to offer lasting solutions to the problem.

Wilson starts when men are boys (in terms of age, not size), by dealing with parenting. What are the innate needs, drives, and tendencies of young males? What has God called men to be and to do? How are we, as parents, to shape ou
Jan 24, 2015 Will rated it it was amazing
This was another book worthy of a annual reading. so many great points of clarification. The top three things I will walk away with this time trough are:
1. Men are Warriors. We should train our boys as such. Inform them about the battle, explain the enemy to them and expose his tactics and lasty train him in the ways of warfare.
2. Teach them to work. Specifically, let them work. Give no quarter to laziness, the worst enemy of the future man lies within his own heart. Teach them to honor and prot
Corina Treece
Dec 27, 2011 Corina Treece rated it it was amazing
Shelves: manhood
I have had this book since my oldest son was about 14, but sadly I never took the time to actually read it. I kept telling "him" to read it. However, this is a book for the parents to read!!!

Now my second son is 14, and I thought to myself that I really should read this book. I am SO glad I did. This was one of the finest books I have read on raising sons. Young men will thank their parents for applying biblical principles in equipping them to be lords, husbandmen, saviors, sages, and glory-bea
Gwen Burrow
Jun 11, 2009 Gwen Burrow rated it it was amazing
Shelves: theology
Wilson wisdom (here as always) isn't just biblically sound; it is also wildly energizing. Some notable quotables:

p. 16 [T:]o beat the spears into pruning hooks prematurely, before the war is over, will leave you fighting the dragon with a pruning hook.

p. 104 Part of fulfilling the Great Commission involves climbing the beanstalk.

p. 163 The listener to classical music is impressively engaged; the devotee of such rock music is left, with a ringing in his ears, right where he started.
Dec 11, 2012 Michael rated it it was amazing
A fantastic little book, very pastoral in both style and content, Wilson really gets to the heart of what it means to be biblically masculine and provides helpful advice (and Gospel) on how to rightly raise boys. Some may dislike the fact that 'Future Men' is more of an overview of the issues than a step-by-step guide, but let's be honest: would it really do the subject matter justice if he held our hands and walked us through it? No. Besides, if that's what you want, Buddy, you've chosen the wr ...more
Jacob Aitken
As far as Doug Wilson books go, this one isn't too bad. Some interesting points. If you don't know any better, the last pages might confuse you. He gives an assessment on lighting a reefer from a Christian point of view. You might be thinking, why does he care about weed?

What I didn't know at the time was that the Moscow, ID church community had to face up to drug rings run by ministers' sons, so this was a live issue.
Trevor Davis
Jan 12, 2010 Trevor Davis rated it really liked it
Shelves: parenting
This is a good read. I really liked it. He is mostly theoretical/philosophical, which in view of the fact that most practical aspects of parenting are lifestyle issues ("caught not taught" kinda things) is fine with me. If you have a boy or multiple boys, this would be in the top 3 recommendations of parenting books. It still doesn't compare with finding a family to fellowship with and learn from, though.
Jul 13, 2011 Lauren rated it it was amazing
This is one of the best parenting books I have ever read, and I highly recommend it to parents of boys, especially in the pre-teen age group. Wilson's understanding of the needs of busy-bodied boys is a much needed perspective in a world that tries to suppress a boy's God-given spirit and will to protect, survive, and fight. WIlson makes it clear that boys need boundaries, but he also makes his reader aware of a boy's need for respect.
Mar 17, 2009 Morgan rated it it was amazing
Shelves: 2009
Here's a short list of who should read this book:

. Men
. Future men
. Wives of men
. Daughters of men
. Women who know men
. Women who might sometime meet a man

I think that about sums it up.

It doesn't really get old, particularly when I'm in need of a reminder about what exactly we're shooting for with our future man.

Read in 2003, frequently re-read. Most recently in September, 2009.
Jan 26, 2014 Ryan rated it really liked it
A helpful book that draws on the wisdom of Scripture, particularly Proverbs, in raising future men. Two short critiques: Wilson draws heavily on Covenantal theology which shapes how he sees everything. I had some obvious disagreements. It also seemed at times that Wilson was more set on airing his opinions about critiquing culture than actually saying things that are helpful in raising the next generation of men. Overall it was a good read and I learned some valuable things.
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