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The Whole Lesbian Sex Book: A Passionate Guide for All of Us

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The Whole Lesbian Sex Book was the first-ever sex guide to offer information and encouragement for all women who desire women — lesbian, bisexual, butch, femme, androgynous, and transgender. First published in 1999, it’s been lauded for its thoroughness, enthusiastic tone, and creative, nonjudgmental approach to lesbian sex in all its rich variety. (Library Journal lamente ...more
Paperback, 400 pages
Published October 27th 2004 by Cleis Press (first published 1999)
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Jan 28, 2008 Layna rated it really liked it
Shelves: humanism, lesbians
Just a lot of fun, what can I say? Oddly, as a lesbian, I haven't read many books strictly about lesbianism. This book, though, is less about that than what makes us lesbian--the fun of sex. All about that contained right here. Read it, play with it, your girlfriend will thank you.
Jan 04, 2014 Garren rated it liked it
This was lent to me (a man who prefers women) by a friend who found it very valuable during a process of better understanding her sexuality. It had what I expected--plenty of tips on lesbian sex in many forms--but I also found an unexpected depth and breadth that went beyond physical aspects of sex.

It's really a book about self-respect.

No, seriously. Society teaches women to dress, and behave, and be shaped certain ways, and have particular emotional responses for the sake of other people's exp
Mar 27, 2009 Sara rated it liked it
It was a pretty good book; I think if you've been out for awhile you probably already know how to please a woman and negotiate how things work in and out in bed with two women. You've probably used or had the pleasure of experiencing a strap on, you know not only where the clit is but where the g-spot is, you know how to have or give multiple orgasms, and if you're lucky (or talented), you've experienced a female ejaculation. But before you can get into all this good stuff, you have to know how ...more
Ruth Segal
Jul 21, 2008 Ruth Segal rated it really liked it
Recommended to Ruth by: Felice
I enjoyed this book because it had some good insights about staying sexually active as we age and how long term couples can choose to stay sexually active with eachother. I agree with the author that keeping one's sexuality alive for all of one's life is indeed a choice and one that can sometimes require action and committment in a way that is not as neccessary in youth or in brand new relationships. As far as techniques, the book covers a lot of territory and is well written and sexy to read. T ...more
Aug 27, 2011 Dreia rated it did not like it
Unfortunately, the book didn't seem to have a lot of lesbian content - it was way, way too focused on being politically correct and writing about practically everyone except the majority of lesbians. It seemed like seventy five percent of the book was written for people who sleep with men, once were men, or are now men. A better book is "Lesbian Sex" by JoAnn Loulan.
Nov 21, 2009 Jill rated it really liked it
Shelves: nonfiction, glbtq
This is a very comprehensive book in the vein of "Our bodies, ourselves" but lesbian centered. Learned everything from what color hanky to wear in my back pocket at bars to health, sex, psychology, etc. A good one for gay-straight alliances to have on their bookshelves as a loaner... just remind people not to actually take it to bed with them. *lol*
Jan 02, 2008 Cassandra rated it it was amazing
its my opinion that everyone who wants to have sex with women, or is a woman, should read this book.
Oct 08, 2008 Chris rated it really liked it
Recommends it for: straight men.
This book is the best thing that happened to my self esteem when naked. True story.
Oct 24, 2012 j rated it it was amazing
Shelves: book-learnin
This book is my friggin bible. It almost brought tears to my eyes to see such a great resource for women who have sex with women and to have it feel accessible and approachable to those of us who don't fit the traditional vanilla lesbian lifestyle - the butches, the gender warriors, the trans folk, the drag kings, the kinksters.

The most useful bit is not the instructions, per se (although those are REALLY good - I learned about a billion new things) - it's the information on how to get what you
Jun 12, 2014 Riley rated it it was amazing
I was so ready to hate this book. Over the years it's been heralded as the "go to guide for sexually active lesbians" and I was ready to prove that every one was wrong. I'm glad I was wrong....IT'S AMAZING!! It's actually an incredibly comprehensive guide for all humans.

It's name is a little misleading, in my opinion, because you don't necessarily have to identify as a lesbian to learn or appreciate the info in this book. Perhaps it's because I read an updated copy, but it was worded in an incl
May 18, 2013 Tessa rated it it was amazing
Shelves: favorites, 2013
Very helpful. This is the first how-to book in which I actually interacted with it by applying what I've learned like stating what I want, my turn ons, my turn offs and being comfortable with my sexuality. It also celebrates the wonder of the human sexuality as not being boxed into categories and not making you feel uncomfortable by not fitting into the models for which you've been taught to accord with since we became aware of ourselves as sensate creatures. Instead, it celebrates the beauty of ...more
Ian Wood
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Note that I don't really do stars. To me a book is either worth reading or it isn't. I can't rate it three-
Megan Bowra-Dean
Apr 04, 2013 Megan Bowra-Dean rated it it was ok
Really 101 and despite its early assurances of being inclusive towards trans* people, it amounted to tokenism. A little discussion on trans* men but not on trans* women other than "they exist". Really typical of the lesbian community though. Just disappointing when it's recommended as the "Bible" of lesbian sex.
Jul 16, 2012 Aeron rated it it was amazing
Doesn't matter what you label yourself as, this is a good read for anyone. Including men. It's not erotica, it's informative and enlightening. You will learn things about your (women) body that you should have learned in health class- but you didn't because our society doesn't value the importance of pleasing women.
Carmen something
May 12, 2007 Carmen something rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: everyone
I think this is the best sexual health resource book on the market. While focused on women who (mostly) have sex with women, the text is useful for all women and for their partners.
Jul 26, 2008 Diana rated it it was amazing
Excellent book for heterosexuals as well lesbians & bisexuals. (Yes, men can get a LOT of good info here!)
May 14, 2012 Mel rated it it was amazing
If you need/want/are looking for assistance or want to spice it up in the bedroom, this is the book for you.
Aug 14, 2007 Puja rated it it was ok
dont buy it... browsing through at your local bookstore will be more than enough. in case you wondered.
Feb 11, 2008 Lisa rated it liked it
Shelves: non-fiction
glad it exists, but the drawings are a little silly.
Sep 14, 2008 Angry rated it really liked it
Recommends it for: lesbians
Recommended to Angry by: some lesbian
i learned a lot so yeah leave me a message :)
April Rose Mossow
Feb 19, 2012 April Rose Mossow rated it liked it
Good tips, needs better pics. ;)
Jan 18, 2008 Miriam rated it it was amazing
Fabulous How-TO
May 18, 2008 Maryam rated it it was amazing
Apr 11, 2015 Ferdinande rated it liked it
I thought it would be more interesting. I guess I've read too much about lesbian sex so this book gave me just a bit of insight, not as much as I was expecting.
Aug 03, 2014 Sandy rated it it was amazing
Shelves: queer, les-general
This is probably the most comprehensive overview of lesbian, ahem, relations. Good for beginners.
Jun 22, 2015 Elizabeth rated it really liked it
Everything you know, wanted to know, and didn't know you wanted to know.
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Jun 18, 2013 Kiwi rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: 2013
I loved this book. Filled with great facts, humour, and a fantastic educational experience. The resources are excellent as well. I can tell I'll be looking through that list and seeing what else I want to read!

I knew I was sold, too, when it mentioned both Betty Dodson and Nina Hartley fairly early on. ;D
Nov 17, 2013 Joni rated it really liked it
Shelves: nonfiction, 2013
Very sex positive book for women of all ages. Her approach of exploration is wonderful and she employs good use of humor as well.

It was great to read through the list of things to do with my new partner and talk about what we may or may not already like, or want to try.
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