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The Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability: For All of Us Who Live with Disabilities, Chronic Pain, and Illness

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The Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability is the first complete sex guide for people who live with disabilities, pain, illness, or chronic conditions. Useful for absolutely everyone, regardless of age, gender, or sexual orientation, the book addresses a wide range of disabilities — from chronic fatigue, back pain, and asthma to spinal cord injury, hearing and visual impairm ...more
Paperback, 360 pages
Published November 28th 2007 by Cleis Press (first published December 2nd 2003)
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The number of books written about sex, sexuality and disability is disappointingly low. I enjoyed this book because it definitely understands many of the challenges that people with disabilities face, especially when it comes to being taken seriously sexually. It was pleasantly surprising to see chapters on alternative sex, being queer, and spirituality. Many of the concepts in this book apply to non-disabled people as well. The section that lists resources, while out of date, is huge and many o ...more
Elf M.
I wanted to give this book five stars, but I can't. Not because it isn't a fabulous book, but because the topic under consideration is just way too large to handle inside its 350 pages. The chapter titles sorta give away the story: each is about a particular kind of sex; after the first 70 pages, which deal with the emotional aspects of being disabled and still wanting sex, and the legitimacy of wanting sex when you're disabled, the rest of the book comes across as a mainstream how-to, along the ...more
Ann Alton
Well written, thoughtful, inclusive and non-judgmental, this is a must read for anyone working with folks with disabilities, or any one with a disability or chronic condition. The focus is to better know yourself, and to have the courage to ask for what you need, and put shame aside. Sexuality is one way to explore this world and and to pleasure in it. Determining what is right for you, safely and consensually is key.

I particularly liked that there was a whole chapter dedicated to assault and wo
i think this book is important and engaging for everyone to read, disability or not. the understanding and analysis of sexuality in this book is thoughtful and holds truth for everyone in my opinion. another great example where understanding, education and care for how a highly affected community relates to an issue (in this case a community extremely misunderstood, negatively affected, and often flat out invisible when it comes to sex) greatly expands and raises the understanding, education and ...more
This was a fabulously informative book. It's written for people with disabilities who might not otherwise have access to information about their bodies or sex so it was amazingly comprehensive. I even discovered some assumptions that I didn't know I had that were challenged by this book. I'd recommend it to anyone who wants to learn more about sexuality, disabled or not.
This review was written for Happy Bodies and for the Carleton Gender and Sexuality Center.

A lot of things are tied up in sex. There are emotional considerations, the physical interaction, gender stereotypes, and personal pleasure (plus a whole lot more). There are also a lot of things tied up in disability. Physical and mental pain, fatigue, self-esteem, societal stereotypes, and day to day interactions with the world (again, plus a whole lot more).

Able-bodied sexual interactions can be plenty c
Leandra Vane
This book is refreshing in its focus and contains some great and practical advice. The authors are clear that being sexual includes much more than penetrative sex. There is a societal stereotype that this is the only “real” sex, and the authors make a great case for being sexual in a number of other ways. Indeed the chapters covering Tantric sex, sex toys, and sex with ourselves reach further and more creatively than a lot of other resources concerning disability and sex. The best part of the bo ...more
Heather Ross
I liked this book, found it informative and helpful. Having said that I offer a but, I was looking for specific helps, tips, positions etc and was disappointed. My partner and I each have physical limitations, and he has a degenerative condition. We were looking for things to add to our sex life without adding/ that might reduce, physical pain. Ah well, Such is life.
I will definitely be donating a copy to the local library because to me the information in this book is incredibly important!
More people should read these kinds of informative books. I think it will make people more aware of the disabled being just like everyone else with the same needs and desires.
This is an excellent resource for people with disabilities as well as doctors, caregivers and, well, everyone! It challenged preconceptions and prejudices I didn't realize I had.
Good as an intro guide. Very body positive, and that's something I'm always looking for.
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