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The Mystery Method: How to Get Beautiful Women Into Bed

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"One of the most admired men in the world of seduction" (The New York Times) teaches average guys how to approach, attract and begin intimate relationships with beautiful women

For every man who always wondered why some guys have all the luck, Mystery, considered by many to be the world's greatest pickup artist, finally reveals his secrets for finding and forming relationsh
Hardcover, 240 pages
Published February 6th 2007 by St. Martin's Press
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Mar 16, 2009 Derek rated it really liked it
Fascinating pick up artist social marketing guide. The digital era of Casanova wannabes spawns one Erik von Markovik into fame, as the illustrious Mystery, the teacher and leader of the lady killers. A dating consultant who holds high dollar seminars and real time practice in the field, Mystery has written what is revered in the online community as the seduction bible. It contains explicit descriptions of his techniques, jargon, lines, approaches, and everything under the sun to attract and pick ...more
Kater Cheek
Nov 13, 2012 Kater Cheek rated it liked it
I've heard a lot about the "pickup artist" movement, especially on feminist sites, and couldn't contain my curiosity. Alas, these books are frequently checked out of the library, so I had to wait my turn.

The basic theories of the book are soundly grounded in recognized psychological and evolutionary theory. Firstly, women are attracted to men who seem like they'd be good mates and providers. Just as men can't help being attracted to big boobs, even if they're fake, women can't help but be attrac
Aug 11, 2015 Manny marked it as not-to-read

OMG! Is this the real life prototype for the Tom Cruise character in Magnolia? He sounds scarily similar...
Jul 08, 2011 Mza rated it liked it
Recommends it for: men who want to meet beautiful women and get them into bed
While reading this book I tried using the techniques Mystery prescribes to get my wife into bed, but it was too late. She already was in bed.

"All right, wife," I said, "The Mystery Method: How to Get Beautiful Women into Bed is the last trashy book I'm reading."

"But, balli," she said, "trashy books are the greatest."

"Yeah, I know, and this one, despite its grossness and weirdness, contains good insights that aren't available from other, more respectable sources. Still, it's no Nicomachean Ethics
Jan 23, 2010 Douglas rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: Men
Shelves: relationships
I've just re-read this book and its STILL the best book on picking up women I have ever read.

Going over the material again, it has reminded me of a couple key concepts and reminded me of other things I can use, now that I have mastered some of the others.

Its a great follow-up to the book, How to be Successful with Women. How to be successful with women really does a great job about laying out the fundamentals of dating. The Mystery Method provides advanced tips and guidance.

What makes the boo
David Hooper
Aug 24, 2009 David Hooper rated it really liked it
Interesting book. If you like psychology, you'll probably be into it. Lots of theories on social development and why we act the way we do. That part was interesting to me.

Last part is a bunch of "pick up lines" and suggested orders to use them, which I didn't find as interesting. It was more for somebody who really buys into this "method" to study and, hopefully, improve on.

Will it work? Probably. But if you approach enough women, which is part of the process, anything will work. There is part
sam kim
Sep 12, 2007 sam kim rated it liked it
holy crap... this is one of (if not the single) most masoganistic books i've ever read...
Jeff Yoak
This book was something of a disappointment to me. After reading The Game: Penetrating the Secret Society of Pickup Artists and finding that his mentor, Mystery, had a book I was interested to read it. The Game is extremely well-written and has insights into people and interactions that extend beyond simple interest in picking up women.

Mystery Method begins with what I'll generously call wildly speculative claims about evolution and gender traits. I almost didn't make it through the first couple
Feb 09, 2013 Feliks rated it liked it
Shelves: self-improvement
I don't much like 'Mystery' as far as his personality goes. His is a narrow and two-dimensional mindset; tuned into in this one particular pseudo-field but not well-rounded in any other way. Also: I definitely don't like all the imbeciles and losers who comprise his retinue. All these elaborate sagas about living together in mansions. Please, grow up.

Additionally I feel there's some gaping holes in the method he's so proud of. Careful reading reveals far too many 'exceptions'--'differences' betw
Erin  Hopkins Weber
Jan 18, 2011 Erin Hopkins Weber rated it it was ok
Shelves: non-fiction
When I first heard about this book I thought it was an ironic name for some hip novel, not a sincere (if you can even say that) how-to book. Then when reading other people's reviews, and seemingly otherwise intelligent women said the guy had his points, curiosity got the better of me. I wasn't really sure how rate this because it is offensive and disturbing for obvious reasons. But at the same time, so fascinating I actually stayed up late into the night reading it. So while I don't condone play ...more
Jan 30, 2008 Victoria rated it it was amazing
I borrowed this one from the library with the same skepticism as when I borrowed He's Just Not That Into You.

Mystery is right on the money with his social dynamic theories. It killed me to sit there and agree with him, especially since I *am* female! I think this is the first dating book that I've ever read that breaks out "the game" on a psychological basis, and more than standard advice like don't call the day after getting a number.

I'm actually sending off my coworker with this book as a part
Jul 14, 2009 Nathan rated it did not like it
While searching for a book titled "1001 Ways for a Middle-Aged Father of Five to Keep the Spark in His Marraige Alive, Be Romantic and Make His Wife Swoon Constantly," I found this one. Intrigued, I was amused at how the subject of one-night stands was treated so scientifically and mathematically. The book was written in a tone of complete and utter seriousness, and there were more formulas than some of my engineering texts. So, it was either intended as a totally serious book, or was 100% satir ...more
Benny Bastard
Oct 21, 2014 Benny Bastard rated it liked it
I think this book is worth reading because it was groundbreaking for its time, and parts of it (ie. the psychological principles, the general principles of social dynamics) are quite solid. I think the main thing I got out of this book was the idea of status (ie. "value"), which can come from either reproductive value or survival value (and women mostly look for survival value in men). What I don`t like about the book, or I should say about the method, is that it`s so damn clinical and detail-or ...more
Armando Espinoza
Oct 17, 2014 Armando Espinoza rated it it was amazing
This was one of the first books I read about "the art of pick-up." At the time, it was one of the only options you had for learning how to pick-up women. Nowadays, there's so many other better options. Not to say that you can't learn stuff from this book. Even though a lot of information is "antiquated," it's still a very good book for someone who's just starting to really want to break into the art of meeting and successfully courting girls (yes, there is an actual process you can do). Learning ...more
Jan 27, 2014 Bart rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This is an honest and honestly presented account of a dishonest game.

It eschews the plotting of Neil Strauss's The Game and presents Erik Von Markovik's ingenious system for picking-up women. The man who calls himself Mystery really is, as Strauss described him two years before this book was published, "a big, blubbering genius." His book comes from a more vulnerable place than Strauss's book; Von Markovik prizes sociability above all things - in the tradition of Bill Clinton, he is energized, n
Sep 25, 2015 Mohit rated it liked it

I looked at my girlfriend "babe, you look so cute with smudged make up" she frantically checked her self in the mirror, once assured, she nudged my head, annoyed that i was gonna play out some lame social psychology material from one of those new books I fancied. Well after my feeble attempt of what mystery calls a neg, (or negative complement, to make a woman feel insecure) she agreed this may work. Same can be said for a lot of the new age pick up mantra inspired by mystery, who try's to make
Nov 11, 2009 Tiffany rated it really liked it
It was highly educational. Mystery is just pointing out what is quite apparent (if you have any basic social skills or are a woman) in terms of male-female social interactions, but his technique is both highly methodical and sophisticated. If you are a dude, it's probably in your interest to read this book.
Oct 30, 2014 Rene rated it it was amazing
Shelves: favorites
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Jan 08, 2016 Nelson rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: those looking for one-night stands / attracting eternal companion
Mystery should go down as one of the greatest men who ever lived. How can someone who uncovered something so important - female-to-male attraction - go unrecognized. Whether you're looking for a one-night stand or an eternal companion, if you're clueless about the way women tick, you will get burned. Few girls will admit it, and many may not eve know it, but at the end of the day, all else equal, girls like the bad boy. Nice guys have no survival value.

The methods introduced in this book do not
Ben Love
Dec 29, 2012 Ben Love rated it it was amazing
A couple of things collided to make me want to read this…
Over the past winter I watched a movie called Crazy, Stupid Love. In the movie, Ryan Gosling’s character sweet talks the ladies with very little effort and great success. Yeh yeh I know – it’s a movie. One of the many reviews on this (actually pretty good) movie mentioned the Mystery Method for pick up artists.
My “pick up chicks” days are far, far behind me. If, indeed, they ever happened – girls don’t have keyboards attached or disk drive
erjan k.
Feb 07, 2014 erjan k. rated it liked it
Shelves: game-pua
this is one of the best in the field.
unlike the game by strauss - this book is the real manual.

but to me, it looks like you have to go out every weekend - pretty much what mystery advises...

to master this skill you need to practice it a lot! the books gives me the feeling you need to invest lots of time to become good player/pua.

i read it, but now i really feel reading is just reading. It will not give me the skill.

so i feel sorry i did read it, but did not try it!
Jul 04, 2010 Amanda rated it liked it
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Oct 20, 2009 Damien rated it really liked it
This is the how-to book that long lines of red-blooded males wish existed. Unfortunately the vast majority will be too prideful or embarrassed to read it. Those that do read it will most likely be too shy to put the information into practice.

The first section; the forward, preface, and first three chapters are all hype. Who is this guy? What are his qualifications? What does he do? Why do his methods work? Why is this behavior justifiable?

But the rest of the book is a solid text on applied beha
Larry Bryant
Sep 16, 2014 Larry Bryant rated it really liked it
Recommends it for: men
Shelves: dating
I decided to read the book after i heard mystery got mentioned many times on puaforum, DATINGDOO, and "The Game" by neil strauss. I must say, most of the pick up technique here are easy to implement and it works too!

I managed to get 3 hot girls phone number this weekend using the pickup line from this book. I would HIGHLY recommend this book to any single guys out there, especially if you're an introvert like me.
Colleen Coffin
May 09, 2010 Colleen Coffin rated it liked it
This book's utilitarian quality lies in the author's explanations regarding how women are wired to think in a "pick-up" situation. His theories aren't far off and I agree that his methods could prove effective but I don't think it wise to follow everything he says to the letter. Some women-conquering methods that may work for him (the wearing of furs/hats etc.) would definitely fail when used by a man of a different sort of character. After reading this book, I feel compelled to point out two ca ...more
Mar 15, 2015 Zourkas rated it really liked it
Shelves: 2015
This is a must read book for everyone who wants to improve his dating life! I don't agree 100% with everything Mystery puts on the table but there are really rocking gems in this book. Yes it's a fact that there are stages from meeting to sex and that you can spark attraction with the way you communicate and the kind of STATUS you project. This book will open your eyes when it comes to dating in the field. However I hesitated to agree with the fact that you can attract a set and use one of the w ...more
Jun 06, 2013 Inderpal rated it did not like it
i don't know about those of you who rated it 5 stars, maybe because you never read books even remotely close to this topic like personality management, rapport building, etc and it was your first time and you were really intrigued, but as for me, the fun of the methods described was spoiled instantly by the way the book was written. instead of simplifying it which, according to me, would empower the book, it introduced terminologies and almost succeded in making this book like a science course c ...more
Aug 20, 2009 Jam rated it really liked it
Blunt and deceitful. May be perceived as crossing the border into evil. A nightmare for women if all men get a hand on this book. I've always been successful with women and I have to say that I agree to some of the advices that is said in the book. Some that are written in it also gives justification to why people act and react in such ways if they are treated in such a way. Being kiss-ass has never been the right way to get into someone else's heart but to show how much respect you have for you ...more
Jan 07, 2016 May rated it it was ok
Having watched the show, I came across the book and decided to read. I actually have a bit more respect for him than when I was watching the show. The guy has really made a career for himself. Despite that his book is a how to guide on how to pick up women (and fairly accurate, sad to say), I have to admit that he writes it and shows a certain type of respect. I originally thought such blather was about preying on women's insecurities. In fact, I don't know that is what he is talking about at al ...more
Feb 06, 2008 Albert rated it it was ok
Are you the kind of guy that thinks, "I want to learn how to pick up girls, so I'm going to go buy a book about it?" If so, this is a book for you. You can purchase it on stores or even on the internet. Personally, I chose the internet so that I could avoid social interaction altogether (except of course my interaction with my computer, hee hee).

The book was delivered to my apartment, and the cost was deducted *automatically* from my credit card. Upon opening the box, I found a hard covered boo
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Mystery is the alter-ego of entertainer Erik von Markovik, the former star of The Pickup Artist, a reality game show on VH1 that aired for two seasons in 2007 & 2008.
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“Subtle cues in your behavior will set the frame that you are a selective, high-value guy. She will pick up on this and gain interest. She expects that a guy with potential will be selective. Here are some standards worth considering:
An attractive woman who takes care of herself
A woman who is sociable and has friends
A woman who has a real thirst for life
A woman who has a great energy and a positive outlook
A woman who is not a flake”
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