false http://photo.goodreads.com/books/1167685163m/25357.jpg 25357 10 There is little sugar but lots of spice in journalist Rachel Simmons's brave and brilliant book that skewers the stereotype of girls as the kinder, gentler gender. <I>Odd Girl Out</I> begins with the premise that girls are socialized to be sweet with a double bind: they must value friendships; but they must <I>not</I> express the anger that might destroy them. Lacking cultural permission to acknowledge conflict, girls develop what Simmons calls "a hidden culture of silent and indirect aggression." <p> The author, who visited 30 schools and talked to 300 girls, catalogues chilling and heartbreaking acts of aggression, including the silent treatment, note-passing, glaring, gossiping, ganging up, fashion police, and being nice in private/mean in public. She decodes the vocabulary of these sneak attacks, explaining, for example, three ways to parse the meaning of "I'm fat." <p> Simmons is a gifted writer who is skilled at describing destructive patterns and prescribing clear-cut strategies for parents, teachers, and girls to resist them. "The heart of resistance is truth telling," advises Simmons. She guides readers to nurture emotional honesty in girls and to discover a language for public discussions of bullying. She offers innovative ideas for changing the dynamics of the classroom, sample dialogues for talking to daughters, and exercises for girls and their friends to explore and resolve messy feelings and conflicts head-on. <p> One intriguing chapter contrasts truth telling in white middle class, African-American, Latino, and working-class communities. <I>Odd Girl Out</I> is that rare book with the power to touch individual lives and transform the culture that constrains girls--and boys--from speaking the truth. <I>--Barbara Mackoff</I> 1407264 2002 Odd Girl Out: The Hidden Culture of Aggression in Girls total:777|5:160|4:297|3:248|2:58|1:14| 777 2862 1307 148 3 2 false false Tue Jul 17 12:00:11 -0700 2007 Tue Jul 17 12:00:53 -0700 2007 more...]]> 4 2 false false Thu May 01 00:00:00 -0700 2008 Sat Mar 07 13:56:11 -0800 2009 Sat Mar 07 13:59:45 -0800 2009
This book was disturbing for me, both as a parent and as a former girl. I clearly recognized myself as a victim of bullying throughout the book, but it also made me realize that, as a kid, I was also sometimes a perpetrat...more...]]> 5 2 false false Thu Mar 01 00:00:00 -0800 2007 Wed Jan 14 16:37:41 -0800 2009 Wed Jan 14 16:38:20 -0800 2009 more...]]> 4 1 false false Mon Jan 01 00:00:00 -0800 2007 Fri Feb 13 15:45:44 -0800 2009 Fri Feb 13 15:55:49 -0800 2009 more...]]> 0 1 false false Mon Jan 07 17:05:41 -0800 2008 Wed Jan 09 22:44:15 -0800 2008 more...]]> 3 0 false false Tue Jul 21 23:31:25 -0700 2009 Tue Jul 21 23:37:15 -0700 2009 more...]]> 3 0 false false Sat Jan 01 00:00:00 -0800 2005 Sun May 17 18:58:38 -0700 2009 Sun May 17 19:06:10 -0700 2009 more...]]> 4 0 false false Fri Sep 25 00:00:00 -0700 2009 Fri Sep 11 09:50:24 -0700 2009 Fri Sep 25 09:55:00 -0700 2009
At it's most basic, this book is about how Neo-Victorian sterotypes create a culture of agression in girls, from the moment they begin school.

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Simmons explores the reasons and effects of girl-on-girl bullying. She notes that the majority of bullying is what she terms "alternative aggression" - the snubs, two-faced behaviours and other psychological gam...more...]]> 4 0 true false Sun Aug 01 00:00:00 -0700 2004 Thu Dec 06 08:23:07 -0800 2007 Thu Dec 06 08:23:20 -0800 2007 more...]]> 5 0 false false Fri Sep 01 00:00:00 -0700 2006 Wed Jun 27 06:28:08 -0700 2007 Wed Jun 27 06:28:34 -0700 2007
I found this book, "Odd Girl Out," not only helpful but also cathartic. It answered a lot of current questions I have about raising an adolescent daughter by enabling me to go back and visit my own youth and remind me of my own experiences...more...]]> 4 0 false false Wed Mar 25 07:27:28 -0700 2009 Wed Mar 25 07:27:28 -0700 2009 more...]]> 4 0 false false Sun Mar 08 10:03:20 -0700 2009 Sun Mar 08 10:05:33 -0700 2009 more...]]> 1 0 false false Sun Nov 16 13:22:43 -0800 2008 Sun Nov 16 13:32:37 -0800 2008 more...]]> 5 0 false false Sat Oct 19 00:00:00 -0700 2002 Tue Jul 28 19:24:26 -0700 2009 Tue Jul 28 19:27:33 -0700 2009 CCF website in 2003. It's reprinted here with permission.

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