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Boys Will Put You on a Pedestal (So They Can Look Up Your Skirt): A Dad's Advice for Daughters

3.91 of 5 stars 3.91  ·  rating details  ·  233 ratings  ·  31 reviews
Life can be pretty tricky when you're a teenage girl.
New things matter: Clothes. Parties. Boys. Suddenly being liked and being popular don't mean the same thing. Your parents get completely bizarre when the subject of dating comes up. A friend you've had forever stabs you in the back for no good reason. Everybody you know seems to feel free to comment on your constantly
Paperback, 175 pages
Published May 11th 2005 by Simon & Schuster (first published 2005)
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Nov 26, 2008 Kathrynn rated it 5 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: Parents with kids under 18; People interested in reflecting on what's most important in life.
Loved how this author took 15 touchy topics about life, created a short lead-in to each, followed by sharing advice that could only be learned through life. Very nicely written; funny and sad. No preaching, lecturing or advice with attitude here. Great "ah-ha" moments that touched me more than any other book I have read.

This book is excellent for parents wondering how to discuss the sensitive topic of sex (and many others) with their kids. I commend the author for what he had to say about sex.
Dec 04, 2008 Theresa rated it 5 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: all teens and their parents.
Recommended to Theresa by: Kathrynn
Shelves: non-fiction, 2008, ya

Why couldn't this have been published and given to me when I was a teen? Oh, the angst, confusion, and idiocy that could have been avoided.

I originally bought a copy of this book after reading Kathrynn's review of it. I bought a copy for my 13-year old sister and a copy for myself so we could discuss the book.

I would highly recommend this book to any/all teens and their parents. Want a better summary of the book? Check out Kathrynn's review because she does a much better job a
I give this 3 1/2 stars. The chapter on Internet safety is dated, but somehow still relevant, which is an accomplishment. I had many laugh out loud moments and even managed to listen to about half of it with my daughter, who is the age to put on a pedestal so others can see up her skirt.

Note for the squeamish parents: There is a chapter about intimacy, but it never goes into mechanics or a discussion of details about pleasure. It's handled really well, and is a chapter my daughter and I listened
What started off as an earnest attempt at helping his daughters through life became kind of a preachy self-righteous musings at times. I get that his demographic is his daughters, but he's also using the nostalgic parent angle. I get that this is supposed to be Chicken Soup for the Cautious Parent's Soul, but he makes everything seem black and white, which is less than reasonable or fair to his daughters. All premarital sex, tattoos and swear words are bad. He even complains that Eddie Murphy le ...more
This book was given to me by a friend whose daughter recently moved out. Although the title is a joke (admittedly borrowed from Steve Martin) this book actually has plenty of sound advice.

It was written by a man to his daughters, and subsequently all daughters/young women about not only boys and sex, that is really only about a chapter or 2, but about self respect and becoming a young woman. He discusses things from beauty to self control and getting tattoos, to vulgarity, to faith, to grief an
This is a book written by a father of two teenage girls. One day he literally steps in front of a bus in New York and is almost killed. This starts him thinking about the life advice he has been meaning to share with his daughters and what if something happened and he never got around to it? There are chapters on Drinking, Drugs, Tattoos, BOYS, Clothing Fads, Death of a Friend, Karma and Religion, The Internet, How to be Happy, etc. I found myself nodding my head and grinning often while reading ...more
Boys Will Put You on a Pedestal is the best $0.75 I've ever spent at McKay Used Bookstore. I picked it up because the cover was eye-catching, smiled at the subtitle and bought it after reading the back of the book. It was worth every penny and then some.

Philip Van Munching writes in a conversational, authentic, heartfelt style to his own daughters - and any daughter. His advice is honest - several times he acknowledges that the advice he offers is a result of society's double standard (i.e. that
A must read for every parent, whether you have a girl or boy. I enjoyed this so much, I plan to purchase it and give it to my oldest daughter, who will be off to college. Every bit of parental advice I have nagged them about for years, maybe through the voice of another person my children will take some of. This should be a book given to parents when they leave the hospital with their newborn. Mr Van Munching discusses everything from self-respect to alcohol to drugs to faith and so on, handling ...more
I guess 2.5 stars, if I had to figure it out - somewhere between 'it was OK,' and 'I liked it'. There were some parts I did like - "I don't think I've followed a single piece of guidance that was given to me by someone who was lecturing; nothing that started with "Let me tell you something" or "You need to listen to this" has ever sunk in very deep. All the good stuff has come in conversation, usually with people who were simply passing along their own experiences." - and some double standard-y, ...more
LOVED this book......
Mar 22, 2008 Rebecca rated it 5 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: the ladies! And any fathers-to-be
I finished this book in two days and I loved it. It's the saddest book that has made me laugh out loud. I want to buy a copy for my mother, my sister, and all my girlfriends who have deadbeat dads. And there are so many of them. Why is it that the cliche dad who adores his little girl and hates to see her grow up and away is disappearing? Did he ever exist? Even though I just read it, I think I'm going to go buy a copy for myself.
This is a very refreshing set of good advice for teenage girls. It is written in a language that they can understand and has some memorable parts about sex; drugs and alcohol use and abuse. I liked it because I could get a better understanding on how the teenagers think. Sometimes they seem to me as different as though they were from Venus or some other lonely and far away planet.
The best advice he seems to be able to come up with is tattoos are terrible, atheists are stupid (but astrology is a sham) and girls who get drunk (even when the rapist is also talking them into drinking more) deserve to be raped. Very classy. Glad I never got this kind of fatherly advice!
A father's insights for his daughters. I didn't agree with ALL of the chapters, but it was a refreshing perspective. He shares personal stories in each chapter to help persuade his point, instead of forcing it down. Great read for teenage daughters, or even those older!
Simple advice on touchy subjects. It isn't revolutionary, but the topics are presented in a very easy going tone. Superficial enough to discuss with daughters who are just entering their teenage years, and deep enough to be effective.
Mar 24, 2008 Hanna rated it 4 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: peers
Recommended to Hanna by: My step-mom
This book is good. I liked it because I learned a lot about a dad's point of view. And also what our parent's want us to learn about in life. I enjoyed this book. And I hope that other people read it too.
very well written, and i also enjoyed the humor aspects. no one is too old to read this because we are still females who are trying to find themselves.
One Dad records all the things he wants his daughter to know! Funny, touching and at times heartwrenching, and IMO, holder of the world's longest title!
Loved the way this author approached all these issues without preaching! Just laid out the facts. After John reads it, my girls are next!
This is so sweet, I'm thinking of chucking the 1,000+ pages I've written in Lucy's journal and just giving her this instead!
I had read that this is a good book for pre-teen girls - it was cute and has some good ideas for frank talks with daughters.
This was Recommended to me by a mother of 4 daughters. I bought it before reading it, but I have no regrets.
Mar 01, 2008 Tierney rated it 3 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: All Parents
Someone gave this to my husband when we had a baby girl, but I read it and thought it was pretty funny.
Angela Dancer
Very informative, but it is very humorous when he tells you of tales of when he was a teen. loved it
This book is really great. My daughters will definitely read this when they are older.
Humorous and serious advice for daughters - fun read.
I liked this but couldn't get Steve to read it!
8/8/09 Very good advice.

One dad's advice to his daughter. A couple of difficult issues handled well and with some good humor.
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“IT helps to think of the whole development thing as a process; you go in looking like a girl, and you'll come out at the other end looking like a woman. The stuff in the middle is just what everyone goes through, it;s almost never much fun.” 5 likes
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