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Him Her Him Again The End of Him

2.85  ·  Rating Details ·  1,586 Ratings  ·  380 Reviews
Patricia Marx is one of the finest comic writers of her time, as readers of The New Yorker and fans of Saturday Night Live already know. Her fiction debut is an endlessly entertaining comic novel about one woman’s romantic fixation on her first boyfriend.
Paperback, 256 pages
Published January 1st 2008 by Scribner (first published January 1st 2006)
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Sep 08, 2007 Pdxstacey rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Steve Martin
Sorry Lindsay, I didn't like this book.

The first half made me very anxious and brought back bad memories of stupid people I dated in college. I found myself flipping to the back and looking at the author's photo. She looks very pleased with herself.

Have you ever spent time with someone who does stand up? It can be very annoying. I used to be friends with a screenwriter, he would often tell me how amazed he was at the sharpness of his own mind. What do you say to a comment like that? Well, there
Ashley Lane
Jun 18, 2009 Ashley Lane rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I don't even know what to say! This quote from the book basically sums it up for me: "Once you do something against your better judgment, it gets easier to do something else against your better judgment, and pretty soon, you’re doing things against everyone’s better judgment."

The girl (heroine??) is a moron, pretty neurotic, and at times as self-absorbed as the book's "protagonist," Eugene. She's really kind-of awful at times. I got completely annoyed with her and Eugene both.

At the same time- I
Anita Dalton
Can you love unreservedly a book that enthralls you but falls apart in the final pages? I think you can. You can love it the same way you love your cat who continually butt drags on the beige carpet. The cat is loving, adorable, a delight in every way except that terrible surprise waiting for you when you walk downstairs. It irritates you fiercely when it happens but mostly you recall all the times the beast has made you happy. That’s the approach I am taking with this book: the great fun of th ...more
Deb Victoroff
Kind of funny. Probably great if you are the kind of woman who likes men to have sex with you, then he goes and has sex with your best friend, and your sister, and then your mother, and then your poodle, and then you have sex with them again and then you pine over them when they go to have sex with your therapist to whom you're telling your tale of woe.

The protagonist of this novel is an absolute idiot (despite many many MANY mentions of her ivy league background and her attempts to complete a P
Apr 03, 2007 Nora rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
I cackled in anticipation when I picked up this book from the library. The cover boasted glowing blurbs from people I consider funny and/or smart, such as Steve Martin, David Rakoff, Roz Chast, and Adam Gopnik. I did NOT laugh out loud at any point, as some of the blurbs assured me I would, and I am totally open to laughing out loud. Perhaps the author IS hilarious a)if you know her or b)for the length of a SNL skit (she is a former writer for them) or a picture book (she has written some with R ...more
Jennifer Cooper
Nov 04, 2008 Jennifer Cooper rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: chicklit
Neurosis can be entertaining-- Woody Allen, Jerry Seinfeld, and Larry David have the money and fame to prove it. Unfortunately, this book shows that neurosis can also be intensely annoying.

This book's unnamed 'heroine' is an insecure, immature, obsessive loser who can't seem to get her life together. She drops out of school, loses multiple jobs, sponges off her parents, attaches herself to a man who has no real interest in her, annoys her friends (and readers), and generally refuses to act like
Fluffy, nonsense book I read on the way to Colorado for a funeral. If I weren't trapped in the car with no alternative, I'm not sure I would've bothered finishing it -- pretty inane stuff. There were some funny bits, and the author had a pithy style -- but the heroine -- ugh! I never did like her and her ridiculous way of putting up with the man who did her wrong. I know it was supposed to be ironic but I just found it annoying.
Mar 06, 2008 Jen rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: adult-fiction
This is an odd book. I found the first section hilarious; the writing style is random, abrupt, and often hard to follow, but I thought that was part of its quirky charm. However, I can see why a lot of people don't like it: if you've never fallen for or met an intellectual snob back in college, then you just won't relate to the narrator's plight at all. And there are a lot - and I mean a LOT - of references to obscure literature and words even the well-read (myself included) will not understand. ...more
Aug 23, 2011 Iris rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
This book is horrible. Not worth anybody's time. The plot is somewhat trite: girl loves boy, boy rejects girl but uses her, girl pines for boy and loses her self-esteem and self-respect in the process. I suppose the author thought she was being very clever and funny by injecting stream of consciousness musings wherever she saw fit. And [spoiler alert] I suppose she thought that it would be some sort of redemption to have the boy meet his comeuppance at the end. But really, that comes way too lat ...more
May 08, 2009 Stacy rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Too clever by half is the best phrase I can think of to describe this book. I still can't believe I finished it, because I found the experience of reading it mostly excruciating. It follows the many-year affair of a woman who can't seem to find a job or a direction in life and a boorish academic a-hole who uses her over and over and treats her like crap. It's one of those ha-ha-isn't-my-life-pathetic kind of books, but I never really saw the humor in it.

Holding onto a thought and actually explo
Nov 15, 2009 Diana rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: abandoned
I bought this because of a glowing review in the New York Times that claimed it was funny and insightful, but I think the review must have been by one of her friends, because this book is not entertaining. This is thinly-veiled autobiography, and Patricia Marx comes across as an over-privileged brat. Everything is told from the satirical distance of hindsight to the extent that we never understand why she likes Eugene, the guy who her life revolves around, even after he gets married to another w ...more
Dec 26, 2008 katie rated it did not like it
Shelves: read_08
this book is supposedly funny, but I'm pretty sure it's funny in that weird way that only books can be funny to book critics -- meaning, it wasn't funny in the least. I kept waiting for the book to get interesting and instead it actually got significantly worse as it went along, completely devolving into insipidness at the ending. and the main characters were uniquely unlikable in every way. I give it 2 stars instead of 1 because there are a few things about the pathetic ways in which some girls ...more
Heather Hay
I kept waiting for this book to pick up and become good or at the very least the author would give some reason for sympathizing with the protagonist. I finished the book, but I didn't feel my time was worth it. I work at a library and I see this book checked out because the cover looks like it could fit in next to a cozy mystery or some chick lit mystery, but I now know why nobody has said anything about the book even though it checks out alot. The audiobook has such a great reader and at times ...more
Mar 06, 2016 Hannah rated it really liked it
Shelves: 2016
A very funny book!

The writing is really funny, and sometimes the author talks directly. This gives an extra dimension. The story about her, the me-person, is kind of sad. And she makes jokes about this, herself and the situation. The story really concentrates on the relationship with him: Eugene. There were a lot of moments when I had to laugh. In the first chapter there is a sentence with comes back in the and in an unexpected way: 'my grandmother believes everyone has a determined number of f
Kate Powers
I think the scariest part about this book is that individuals like the main character exist. If you want to read about a woman who pines over one terrible, no good man for over 10 years (whom, may I add, none of her friends have ever approved of) - then totally read this! 2 stars because the "heroine" had a [sometimes] comical sense of humor.... and for making me think "Hm, how hard can it be to get a PHD at Cambridge if this scatterbrain got in." Also, if I have to hear the name "Eugene" one mo ...more
Jul 13, 2009 Mindy rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
At best, this is a completely erratic writer incapeable of stringing together more than two connected thoughts. The transitions are clumsey, she overuses obscure words and constantly makes reference to little know scientists and philosphers. Further, the narrator arrogantly refuses to decribe situations or characters. This book is a total waste of time and I wouldn't bother finishing it if I weren't obligated to for my book club. Ironicly, it was chosen (by the book club) for it's comedic slant ...more
Dec 15, 2010 Sara rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
I read a book like this one when I was 22: depressed, living in Wichita ks, read in one sitting- well under the covers while nursing feelings of emotional angst that left me feeling immobilized and terrified of life. The book then was the Bridget jones diary. This current version, this him, her etc. Is like watching tv in book form. It seems like the author wrote it on a drunken binge, the plot and characters return randomly, funny stories are nonsequitors taken to the extream. Yet, bad books ca ...more
Feb 13, 2012 Johanna rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: chick-lit, humor
The writing style was different, almost stream of conscious, with lots of detailed quirkiness and dry, irony. It took me a while to adjust my reading ear the unusual voice, but eventually I found the groove. (It's kinda of like trying to adjust my reading ear to understanding Shakespeare when I haven't read it in a while.) The book had plenty of colorful characters surrounding the protagonist and lots of unique, out-of-nowhere-but-bizarrely funny plot twists. I really wanted to like it, but in t ...more
Jul 21, 2011 Irene rated it it was ok
I get that it was **supposed** to be funny; and, there were some brief moments where I laughed half-heartedly.

I didn't learn anything from this book that my mother and aunt didn't teach me about dealing with men, such as "Don't throw yourself at them because after they use you up and drain you of light and love, they throw you back out!"

I may fit this one in with the shelf entitled "semi-funny cautionary tales of women who need to work on their self-esteem"
Mar 31, 2012 Anne rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Enjoyable enough, funny in places, started to get old towards the end, and I pretty much wanted to punch Eugene and shake some sense into the narrator whose name, if we ever learned it, I have completely forgotten. And I just finished the book three minutes ago.
Jan 13, 2012 svm rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
i picked this one up at a library sale. the librarian taking my $2 said it was fantastic. she was right. in parts, it felt like a fictionalized version of bossypants, which was not really a surprise since the author has a similar background to fey.
Badly Drawn Girl
Jan 12, 2010 Badly Drawn Girl rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition

I couldn't get through this book. I didn't find it to be the least bit funny or even mildly amusing. It was just irritating. I didn't even get half way through before tossing it aside.
Dec 30, 2009 Amy rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
HATED this book. Kept skimming it to see if it'd get better. Loathed the heavy-handed intellectualism. Didn't find it funny at all. Didn't like a single character in the whole book.
Jan 13, 2016 Sara rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Funny some of the time. I kept thinking of the Pink Martini song - Hey, Eugene, remember me?
The first thing I want to say to perspective readers - do NOT get the audio book version of this book. Unless, I suppose, you know the reader and really like her but ... seriously. With the first word she uttered I could tell I wasn't going to like her. And I was right. She was absolutely the most boring, emotionless reader I have ever heard. Not only that, but she completely ruined Eugene for me. I mean, he's kind of a horrible guy anyway, but the way she makes him talk he sounds like a pedophi ...more
Mary Kinietz
Not bad, but who cares?
Meg Granger
This is like the Seinfeld of books: clever, hilarious, but ultimately about nothing in particular. Patricia Marx is a comic writer for Saturday Night Live, and that may have something to do with why her book reads like a collection of comedic sketches (but, like, funny ones).

"Her" is a neurotic, underachieving American undergraduate at Cambridge University. "Him" is narcissistic philosopher Eugene Obello, the guy she falls for to a MOST unhealthy degree. Her obsession with him isn't deterred by
Jul 27, 2008 Meagan rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Simply put this is a story about a woman infatuated with a total boob, until finally, when she isn't, it really is the end of him.

I have very mixed feelings about this book. On one hand I like the conversational tone. On the other hand I can't figure out how I really feel about the very intrusive narrator. It is a book that is very aware of itself as a book being written. It is a narrator very aware of her audience, and how they may like to read.

At time enthralling, at time annoying, I conti
Apr 21, 2015 Vince rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
A woman meets a man while in grad school abroad. The man is deplorable, but the woman is drawn to him nevertheless. A decade passes in which the man strings the woman along. Him Her Him Again The End of Him is that woman’s story.

The success of Him Her Him Again The End of Him hinges almost entirely on the narrator. She is more than just a conduit for the story. She is an overpowering voice, an intrusive presence. She cannot be avoided the way that some narrators can be. Luckily for me, I liked h
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Patricia Marx is an American humorist and writer.
Born in Abingdon, Pennsylvania, she earned her B.A. from Harvard University in 1975. Her writing has appeared in the The New York Times, The New Yorker, Vogue, and The Atlantic Monthly. Marx is a former writer for Saturday Night Live and Rugrats, and one of the first two women elected to the Harvard Lampoon.[1][2] She is the author of the 2007 novel
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“I love narcissists-even more than they love themselves. You don't have to buoy them up. They are their own razzle-dazzle show and you are the blessed, favored with a front-row seat. ” 13 likes
“But that's typical of me. "This is going to end in tears," I tell myself every time I balance a cup of coffee on the upholstered arm of the chair I'm sitting on. And then, lo and behold, the cup topples and even before it lands, I tell myself, "Told me so!" Not to spell out, or spill out, one of the metaphors of my life, but I always do the stupid thing and then I do it again. I never learn.” 12 likes
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