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Him Her Him Again The End of Him

2.85 of 5 stars 2.85  ·  rating details  ·  1,484 ratings  ·  369 reviews
Patricia Marx is one of the finest comic writers of her time, as readers of The New Yorker and fans of Saturday Night Live already know. Her fiction debut is an endlessly entertaining comic novel about one woman’s romantic fixation on her first boyfriend.
Paperback, 256 pages
Published January 1st 2008 by Scribner (first published January 1st 2006)
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Sep 08, 2007 Pdxstacey rated it 2 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Steve Martin
Sorry Lindsay, I didn't like this book.

The first half made me very anxious and brought back bad memories of stupid people I dated in college. I found myself flipping to the back and looking at the author's photo. She looks very pleased with herself.

Have you ever spent time with someone who does stand up? It can be very annoying. I used to be friends with a screenwriter, he would often tell me how amazed he was at the sharpness of his own mind. What do you say to a comment like that? Well, there
Jennifer Cooper
Neurosis can be entertaining-- Woody Allen, Jerry Seinfeld, and Larry David have the money and fame to prove it. Unfortunately, this book shows that neurosis can also be intensely annoying.

This book's unnamed 'heroine' is an insecure, immature, obsessive loser who can't seem to get her life together. She drops out of school, loses multiple jobs, sponges off her parents, attaches herself to a man who has no real interest in her, annoys her friends (and readers), and generally refuses to act like
Deb Victoroff
Kind of funny. Probably great if you are the kind of woman who likes men to have sex with you, then he goes and has sex with your best friend, and your sister, and then your mother, and then your poodle, and then you have sex with them again and then you pine over them when they go to have sex with your therapist to whom you're telling your tale of woe.

The protagonist of this novel is an absolute idiot (despite many many MANY mentions of her ivy league background and her attempts to complete a P
I cackled in anticipation when I picked up this book from the library. The cover boasted glowing blurbs from people I consider funny and/or smart, such as Steve Martin, David Rakoff, Roz Chast, and Adam Gopnik. I did NOT laugh out loud at any point, as some of the blurbs assured me I would, and I am totally open to laughing out loud. Perhaps the author IS hilarious a)if you know her or b)for the length of a SNL skit (she is a former writer for them) or a picture book (she has written some with R ...more
Fluffy, nonsense book I read on the way to Colorado for a funeral. If I weren't trapped in the car with no alternative, I'm not sure I would've bothered finishing it -- pretty inane stuff. There were some funny bits, and the author had a pithy style -- but the heroine -- ugh! I never did like her and her ridiculous way of putting up with the man who did her wrong. I know it was supposed to be ironic but I just found it annoying.
This book is horrible. Not worth anybody's time. The plot is somewhat trite: girl loves boy, boy rejects girl but uses her, girl pines for boy and loses her self-esteem and self-respect in the process. I suppose the author thought she was being very clever and funny by injecting stream of consciousness musings wherever she saw fit. And [spoiler alert] I suppose she thought that it would be some sort of redemption to have the boy meet his comeuppance at the end. But really, that comes way too lat ...more
Ashley Lane
I don't even know what to say! This quote from the book basically sums it up for me: "Once you do something against your better judgment, it gets easier to do something else against your better judgment, and pretty soon, you’re doing things against everyone’s better judgment."

The girl (heroine??) is a moron, pretty neurotic, and at times as self-absorbed as the book's "protagonist," Eugene. She's really kind-of awful at times. I got completely annoyed with her and Eugene both.

At the same time- I
Anita Dalton
Can you love unreservedly a book that enthralls you but falls apart in the final pages? I think you can. You can love it the same way you love your cat who continually butt drags on the beige carpet. The cat is loving, adorable, a delight in every way except that terrible surprise waiting for you when you walk downstairs. It irritates you fiercely when it happens but mostly you recall all the times the beast has made you happy. That’s the approach I am taking with this book: the great fun of th ...more
Too clever by half is the best phrase I can think of to describe this book. I still can't believe I finished it, because I found the experience of reading it mostly excruciating. It follows the many-year affair of a woman who can't seem to find a job or a direction in life and a boorish academic a-hole who uses her over and over and treats her like crap. It's one of those ha-ha-isn't-my-life-pathetic kind of books, but I never really saw the humor in it.

Holding onto a thought and actually explo
I bought this because of a glowing review in the New York Times that claimed it was funny and insightful, but I think the review must have been by one of her friends, because this book is not entertaining. This is thinly-veiled autobiography, and Patricia Marx comes across as an over-privileged brat. Everything is told from the satirical distance of hindsight to the extent that we never understand why she likes Eugene, the guy who her life revolves around, even after he gets married to another w ...more
this book is supposedly funny, but I'm pretty sure it's funny in that weird way that only books can be funny to book critics -- meaning, it wasn't funny in the least. I kept waiting for the book to get interesting and instead it actually got significantly worse as it went along, completely devolving into insipidness at the ending. and the main characters were uniquely unlikable in every way. I give it 2 stars instead of 1 because there are a few things about the pathetic ways in which some girls ...more
Kate Powers
I think the scariest part about this book is that individuals like the main character exist. If you want to read about a woman who pines over one terrible, no good man for over 10 years (whom, may I add, none of her friends have ever approved of) - then totally read this! 2 stars because the "heroine" had a [sometimes] comical sense of humor.... and for making me think "Hm, how hard can it be to get a PHD at Cambridge if this scatterbrain got in." Also, if I have to hear the name "Eugene" one mo ...more
This is an odd book. I found the first section hilarious; the writing style is random, abrupt, and often hard to follow, but I thought that was part of its quirky charm. However, I can see why a lot of people don't like it: if you've never fallen for or met an intellectual snob back in college, then you just won't relate to the narrator's plight at all. And there are a lot - and I mean a LOT - of references to obscure literature and words even the well-read (myself included) will not understand. ...more
Heather Hay
I kept waiting for this book to pick up and become good or at the very least the author would give some reason for sympathizing with the protagonist. I finished the book, but I didn't feel my time was worth it. I work at a library and I see this book checked out because the cover looks like it could fit in next to a cozy mystery or some chick lit mystery, but I now know why nobody has said anything about the book even though it checks out alot. The audiobook has such a great reader and at times ...more
At best, this is a completely erratic writer incapeable of stringing together more than two connected thoughts. The transitions are clumsey, she overuses obscure words and constantly makes reference to little know scientists and philosphers. Further, the narrator arrogantly refuses to decribe situations or characters. This book is a total waste of time and I wouldn't bother finishing it if I weren't obligated to for my book club. Ironicly, it was chosen (by the book club) for it's comedic slant ...more
I read a book like this one when I was 22: depressed, living in Wichita ks, read in one sitting- well under the covers while nursing feelings of emotional angst that left me feeling immobilized and terrified of life. The book then was the Bridget jones diary. This current version, this him, her etc. Is like watching tv in book form. It seems like the author wrote it on a drunken binge, the plot and characters return randomly, funny stories are nonsequitors taken to the extream. Yet, bad books ca ...more
The writing style was different, almost stream of conscious, with lots of detailed quirkiness and dry, irony. It took me a while to adjust my reading ear the unusual voice, but eventually I found the groove. (It's kinda of like trying to adjust my reading ear to understanding Shakespeare when I haven't read it in a while.) The book had plenty of colorful characters surrounding the protagonist and lots of unique, out-of-nowhere-but-bizarrely funny plot twists. I really wanted to like it, but in t ...more
This is a poorly written book with no likable characters. It is impossible to care about any of them or what happens to them. They are poorly developed bored privileged people with nothing to contribute. It was my book club's selection for this month. I finished it. The other book club members who are struggling to get through it keep asking if it will get better. The answer is no. It gets slightly more absurd at best, this might be more annoying than the rest of the book where nothing happens. ...more
A woman meets a man while in grad school abroad. The man is deplorable, but the woman is drawn to him nevertheless. A decade passes in which the man strings the woman along. Him Her Him Again The End of Him is that woman’s story.

The success of Him Her Him Again The End of Him hinges almost entirely on the narrator. She is more than just a conduit for the story. She is an overpowering voice, an intrusive presence. She cannot be avoided the way that some narrators can be. Luckily for me, I liked h
I get that it was **supposed** to be funny; and, there were some brief moments where I laughed half-heartedly.

I didn't learn anything from this book that my mother and aunt didn't teach me about dealing with men, such as "Don't throw yourself at them because after they use you up and drain you of light and love, they throw you back out!"

I may fit this one in with the shelf entitled "semi-funny cautionary tales of women who need to work on their self-esteem"
Hanna Arnesen
I found this book difficult to get into and I did not like her writing style. The book was very convoluted and had lots of tangents which made for a disjointed story line that while trying to be humorous really was just annoying. Although the ending was funny and I enjoyed the irony of it I found the rest of the book a very unsatisfactory preamble to the last 30 pages.....if you exclude the two pages she spent thanking every person she has ever met, talked to or shaken hands with that she added ...more
I want to LOVE this book. Really. I do. Eugene, was a hilarious PRICK and the girl? Well, I wish she would have had a more heroic ending. This one seemed a little almost pitiful. THAT BEING SAID. In some very embarrassing ways I can totally relate. Despite the lack of the main character (whom I have cleverly not given a name to, just like the author. Which I liked at first, then it became a bit annoying.) the book did make me laugh out loud various times.
Enjoyable enough, funny in places, started to get old towards the end, and I pretty much wanted to punch Eugene and shake some sense into the narrator whose name, if we ever learned it, I have completely forgotten. And I just finished the book three minutes ago.
i picked this one up at a library sale. the librarian taking my $2 said it was fantastic. she was right. in parts, it felt like a fictionalized version of bossypants, which was not really a surprise since the author has a similar background to fey.
Reva Friedel
I read this book in about a day. I was poolside in Vegas and gave up on This is How You Lose Her about 11-pages in. So, this book seemed like a treat because it was a quick read. The nameless "heroine" in this book was clearly created to make all of us ladies feel better about ourselves. It's like, no matter how dumb we are when it comes to love, she will out-dumb us every damn day. And it's not just in love, it's in life. This chick is a total waste of space and I'd like to punch her in the fac ...more
HATED this book. Kept skimming it to see if it'd get better. Loathed the heavy-handed intellectualism. Didn't find it funny at all. Didn't like a single character in the whole book.
Badly Drawn Girl

I couldn't get through this book. I didn't find it to be the least bit funny or even mildly amusing. It was just irritating. I didn't even get half way through before tossing it aside.
Alia S
“I love narcissists-even more than they love themselves. You don’t have to buoy them up.”

I fully expected this to be as vapid and manufactured as The Love Affairs of Nathaniel P. (and would have been totally fine with that, don’t get me wrong). So I was pleasantly surprised to find instead something original and wry. I suspect Patricia Marx is who Lena Dunham wants you to think she is—Lena Dunham if Lena Dunham exhibited actual skill as frequently as her bare ass.

Reviewers dissatisfied with the
Marcia Merrill
I really wanted to love this book and when I read others' reviews, mine, at least, is much more favorable. Have no doubt - Patricia Marx is a very funny writer. I liked the way she described situations and people and she did hold my interest and make me chuckle. Its just the story itself was not great and I did reach the point where I wanted to slap some sense into the protagonist. However, haven't we all had (and hopefully not been!) that friend who drones on incessantly about an unrequited lov ...more
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Patricia Marx is an American humorist and writer.
Born in Abingdon, Pennsylvania, she earned her B.A. from Harvard University in 1975. Her writing has appeared in the The New York Times, The New Yorker, Vogue, and The Atlantic Monthly. Marx is a former writer for Saturday Night Live and Rugrats, and one of the first two women elected to the Harvard Lampoon.[1][2] She is the author of the 2007 novel
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“But that's typical of me. "This is going to end in tears," I tell myself every time I balance a cup of coffee on the upholstered arm of the chair I'm sitting on. And then, lo and behold, the cup topples and even before it lands, I tell myself, "Told me so!" Not to spell out, or spill out, one of the metaphors of my life, but I always do the stupid thing and then I do it again. I never learn.” 12 likes
“I love narcissists-even more than they love themselves. You don't have to buoy them up. They are their own razzle-dazzle show and you are the blessed, favored with a front-row seat. ” 12 likes
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