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Emotionally Healthy Spirituality: Unleash a Revolution in Your Life In Christ

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Peter Scazzero learned the hard way: you can’t be spiritually maturewhile remaining emotionally immature. Even though he was pastorof a growing church, he did what most people do:
Avoid conflict in the name of Christianity
Ignore his anger, sadness, and fear
Use God to run from God
Live without boundaries

Eventually God awakened him to a biblical integration
Hardcover, 240 pages
Published June 29th 2006 by Thomas Nelson (first published 2006)
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Alex Stroshine
Sep 01, 2016 Alex Stroshine rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: christian-living
I heard Peter Scazzero earlier this year speak at a conference (he co-presented with his wife and I was deeply impressed with how the two worked together and rely on each other as a marital team). His seminar was excellent and so I was looking forward to reading his most famous book. It did not disappoint.

Scazzero wants Christians to be "emotionally healthy." He acknowledges that feelings can be fickle and heedlessly following our emotions is dangerous, but he also wants believers to be true to
Oct 15, 2012 Bobby rated it really liked it
The book is fully based on rumors. There are no opinions of the author. Only rumors and rumors again. I’m tired of religion and I pay attention to books without religion more. But Emotionally Healthy Spirituality: Unleashing the Power of Authentic Life in Christ very disappointed me. After this book I’ve expected to understand spirituality deeper than now. Of course the best book is about this topic I’ve read is “a crossing or the drop's history" by Anatoliy Obraztsov “. I hope next books of Pet ...more
Apr 06, 2013 Jeff rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
There are many things to like about this book. The author makes a number of helpful observations for sure. The main thesis that it's impossible to be spiritually mature while remaining emotionally immature seems intuitively obvious. I guess one problem lies in the fact that not many of us understand ourselves as being emotionally immature. I like that the author links spiritual maturity with capacity and action to love. I'm just a little uncomfortable with the proposition that contemplative spir ...more
Aug 04, 2015 Tessa rated it it was amazing
Oh my word.

I can't explain how much this book has meant to me. So much about my heart, my soul, and my brain have grown in healing since I began it eight or nine months ago. It was like meeting with a therapist who helped me dig deep into my soul and realize that seemingly small wounds from the past affect the way I live my life now in huge ways. It helped me begin figuring out how to heal.

Reading this book over a long period of time made it so that every chapter pertained to where I was in my
Julie - Book Hooked Blog
So this is a book that I read for therapy, because, just in case you are unaware, I have issues. When my therapist recommended it I was highly skeptical, but also kind of desperate because it was during a particularly difficult bout of depression. So I picked it up and then avoided reading it for several months because anything with the word "spirituality" in the title just makes me leery.

I am not a "spiritual" person. "Spirituality" to me sounds vague and unspecific and trendy and New Age. I l
May 02, 2014 Sarah rated it did not like it
Shelves: giving-up
Well, I got about 20 pages into this one, which I almost didn't.

Despite a promising title, the cover of the book had a few red flags: "Unleash a revolution in your life in Christ!" I don't really know what that means, despite it being the sort of phrase of buzzwords that has surrounded me for years, and the words "unleash" and "revolution" paired with "life in Christ" made my skin crawl. The tagline on the front, "it's impossible to be spiritual mature, while remaining emotionally mature" had a
May 16, 2013 Liz rated it it was amazing
I rank this as one of my 'must-reads' for anyone in full-time ministry. Too often the church emphasizes spiritual prowess and maturity in giftings; too often emotional maturity, specifically the ability to healthily express emotions, to be vulnerably ourselves, to communicate well and handle conflict, is overlooked or devalued.

My spiritual formation background comes from a do-oriented, not a be-oriented culture; consequently, I often find my spiritual maturity stands on wobbly legs because of un
Sep 08, 2016 Tina rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: favourites
Excellent. Great integration of the self and Christ.
Lisa Grant
Jan 15, 2017 Lisa Grant rated it it was amazing
Such a good book!!
Matt Hartzell
Jan 19, 2016 Matt Hartzell rated it it was amazing
Emotionally Health Spirituality is a book I would stick up there with Boundaries as a book that just about everyone should read and chew on...and there is a lot to ingest!

Over the years, I've learned that I often don't understand the inclinations, emotions and leanings of my own heart. Often times I will feel any given emotion, and not even be able to identify why I feel the way I feel! I think that is genuinely difficult to know yourself, to see yourself as you truly are, and to know how to re
Greg Baughman
This is an odd book. I really enjoyed it, and I think it was of great benefit for me, but the theology behind it is problematic at best. There is a sort of pseudo-Gnostic tendency in the book as those who have gone through the "wall" (a vaguely defined spiritual crisis) are able to be healthy spiritually, while those who have not are not. There is the affirmation of Wesleyan perfectionism (which, I suppose, is fine if you are, well, a Wesleyan). Most troubling of all, though, is the lack of atte ...more
Christina Stidham
Sep 19, 2016 Christina Stidham rated it did not like it
My general impression of the book was not positive. The author ends with some decent suggestions (such as false peacemaking and viewing others as people and not as objects), but overall his basic premise, that we must know ourselves to know God, is false. Yes, there are some good suggestions for working together with others and in looking at our lives, but it is almost all based on writings of mystics or monks, and not so much on the Bible. Our focus should be on God, and we should find ourselve ...more
Oct 18, 2013 Tara rated it really liked it
Shelves: christian-books
I found this book very helpful. Prepare to take a lot of notes, because there's a lot to it. Some of the topics/chapters don't really seem to be connected, but in the end, Scazzero wraps it all together pretty nicely. I do think that this book has the potential to be more helpful for some people than others, mostly those who didn't grow up in a Christian home/grew up in a dysfunctional home and are in the process of re-learning things in accordance with faith. The testimonial stories, Scripture ...more
Mar 12, 2009 Rachel rated it liked it
Shelves: non-fiction
good book with some interesting points. I think that very often in Christian communities we amputate emotion from our lives because it is not 'Christian'. Peter Scazzero addressed that point which I really appreciated. He also didn't make it seem like he had it all together and had plenty of anecdotes (stories from his life mostly) about how we all mess up. I like when things are told through stories, but if you're a 'list' sort of person he had those too.
Really it was great to have someone stan
Mar 13, 2011 Amy rated it really liked it
Cheesy title, but a thorough and instructive book. He talks about how we as Christians want to mature spiritually, but our past and family of origin deeply affect how we interact with others and manage our lives. He talks about how as Christians we feel like any negative emotion is a sin, so we don't know how to handle them and end up burying them. "Our fear of bringing secrets and sin into the light, however, drives many people to prefer the illusion that if they don't think about it, it someho ...more
I got this book as a result of a study offered through our church. I loved the study & I got a great deal of value from it. The book itself, however, wasn't as valuable to me on its own. I think part of the reason I didn't connect with it is that I didn't like Scazzero's writing style. The other thing that kept me from being as engaged as I would have liked is that I found much of what he discussed - The Wall , the influence of one's family of origin, etc, was material I had covered elsewher ...more
Bob Mendelsohn
Jun 18, 2016 Bob Mendelsohn rated it it was amazing
This is not a quick read. Of course, I could have skimmed this book and found some interesting tidbits, but that's not the way to read a transformational book like this. His citations from the Church Fathers, and his own perspective in changing from a typical large church pastor in a major metropolitan area to a personal, personable man make this a must-read.

I grew up with "real men don't cry" and "real men don't eat quiche" as tags for the macho hero type person I imagined I was to be. I dumpe
Hunter Beless
May 29, 2016 Hunter Beless rated it did not like it
I picked up this book per the recommendation of Jess Connolly after hearing her rave about it on "The Happy Hour" podcast with Jamie Ivey. She said that second to the Bible, this is her favorite book of all time. How can anyone resist a recommendation like that? I listened to about 25% of the book before calling Audible an asking for a refund. At best, I found it boring. At worst, I disagreed with some of the ways in which the author utilized Scripture to make his points. This is being tucked aw ...more
Dec 29, 2013 Jeff rated it really liked it
This is an eminently practical book for people who need to learn how to find a sustainable pace in ministry and/or are looking for Christian discipleship to change their hearts, minds, and emotional life.
Jane Glen
Aug 11, 2014 Jane Glen rated it it was amazing
An outstanding book- one of few that I would recommend for every Christian. Scazzero explores the truth that even as believers, we are still bound up in our past and in emotional wounding. Only when we deal with the emotional aspect of our lives, can we truly embrace our spirituality.
Dec 12, 2012 Athena rated it it was amazing
One of the most powerful books I've ever read. Gives practical steps towards growing in authenticity... the church I joined in January of this year studied this book as a body and it was the best study I've ever experienced. Highly recommended!
Jan 10, 2013 Mike rated it it was amazing
It was a good book, I would like to read it again. There were some pieces that felt like they pertained to me and I had never heard them the way Scazzero puts it which was refreshing.
Luke Evans
Great book. Should be a must-read for all pastors for sure, and probably for all Christians. I learned a lot about myself.
Good mix of practical application and theological reflection.
May 25, 2013 Valerie rated it really liked it
Shelves: 2013
Jesus' translation of a light, easy yoke may have read, "I have crafted a life for you, a yoke for you to wear that perfectly fits who you are. It is light and easy, I promise."

NIV and The Message fruits of the spirit:

Love - Affection for others
Joy - Exuberance about life
Peace - Serenity
Patience - A willingness to stick with things
Kindness - A sense of compassion in the heart
Goodness - A conviction that a basic holiness permeates things and people
Faithfulness - Involved in loyal commitments
Dec 29, 2016 Jeremy rated it really liked it
Shelves: christian-life
I enjoyed this book in inverse proportion to my enjoyment of the title. The subtitle really nails the essence of the work: "it's impossible to be spiritually mature while remaining emotionally immature." My experience growing up in the church was that emotions were minimized, resulting in a great deal of emotionally unavailable or unsafe (a friend calls them toddlers with machetes) people. This book talks about how vital emotions are to the human experience and how rightly understanding and wiel ...more
Crawford Smith
Very good book. As someone who is not in touch with their emotions this was a challenging read mainly because it was hard for me to really grasp most of his thoughts and ideas at an emotional level, but that's just proof that I would benefit from going through this book slower and in a different setting. I would highly recommend this book.
Bradley Twitty
Oct 29, 2016 Bradley Twitty rated it liked it
It's an ok book, pretty straight forward. Any person that struggles with self reflection/awareness would probably really enjoy this book so I totally recommend it. A good read, just not my favorite, or a topic that hold a ton of interest for me at the moment.
Bruce Baker
Nov 06, 2016 Bruce Baker rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I wanted to give this book a 3.75 but I can't. I really didnt get into this book for a long time but the last 3 chapters saved it for me. I really appreciated the last chapter best as he tied it all together.
Jan 05, 2017 Brenda rated it it was amazing
Great book. I listened to it on audible but would like to read it again. So much insight. I love how Peter shares his life lessons, his heart--the good and the bad. So refreshing to hear a pastor be this real. He didn't that way overnight.
Annie Slagboom
While Scazzero makes an accurate assessment between the connection of spiritual maturity and emotional maturity, I'm not convinced his prescription is a universal cure for the emotionally immature.
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