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Parenting Teens with Love and Logic: Preparing Adolescents for Responsible Adulthood

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Media, trends and fads, divorce, rising violence and peer pressure all have an influence on teens. Today's challenges require a new approach to parenting teens -- the Love and Logic way.
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Published September 1st 1997 by Love & Logic Press (first published January 1st 1992)
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Nov 11, 2007 Paul rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: parents
This books takes a load off the helicopter parent who thinks he should swoop down anytime anything happens to their child. An excellent book for new parents or parents of those little ones who are entering their teen years.
Mar 19, 2008 Dan rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
However this is not an audio it's a text book, As with the other Love and Logic books, I wish I had found these writers sooner, but excellent!!!
Kristine Brown
Mar 26, 2008 Kristine Brown rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This book will save your sanity and maybe your teenagers life! LOVED IT!
Jun 12, 2008 Anne rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This has greatly helped me in dealing with my teenager. A no-nonsense approach to putting up with the arguments, attitude, and negative behavior in a positive way. This sits on my night-stand for quick reference on a daily basis!
Cindy Weatherford
I'm suprised that this book got so many 4-5 star ratings. I completely disagreed with many of the principles this book teaches. What I got from this book is this: let your teenagers make their own decisions and live with the consequences, that will teach them responsibility. Hello! Isn't that what adulthood is? I quit reading when I got to this part: Three Messages for Teenagers 1. I love you. 2. If you have any questions, ask. 3. Good luck in life. Good luck? I don't think so. Teenagers should ...more
Aug 20, 2009 Connie rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Profoundly practical when you have a teen at home.
Feb 10, 2010 Dawna rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
OK I know I don't have any teens. I was reading it for my sister who DOES have teens, and I loved the concept so much that my husband is at the library RIGHT NOW picking up the Love and Logic book for younger kids. Can't wait to read it.
Andy Stoker
Feb 11, 2010 Andy Stoker rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
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Keilani Ludlow
Jul 01, 2010 Keilani Ludlow rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: life, other
I loved this book. I started implementing a lot of the "mannerisms" for lack of a better word right away and I saw a difference right away. I wasn't having lots of problems with my kids anyway, but hey, forewarned is forearmed, and good-enough really isn't good-enough, I want great! I am buying the book and will review it often. The first half goes through how to implement teaching kids through love and logic, what to do and how to do it and why to do it that way, with lots of actual case-study ...more
Oct 06, 2013 Mica rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Great principles. Common sense advice and good examples for how to work with teens/youth. I need to read the one for kids, but the same principles apply I'm sure, it's just giving them different freedoms and choices. Love this theory.
Mar 16, 2011 Wendy rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I will have my first teenager in a few months. Before reading this book I felt a little apprehensive about parenting a teen. After reading this book I feel excited and empowered. this book had a lot of common sense suggestions. It made me feel like I am already a good parent and have a lot to look forward to. For me it was the right book at the right time. I do not think it will solve all my problems but I feel much better equipped to face the challenges that await.
Mar 16, 2011 Mrs.b rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
I have heard a lot about this book through the teaching version "Teaching with Love and Logic"...after struggling with some parenting issues, this book really helped me be less angry and involved in the mistakes that my kiddos are working through right now...I have the "teaching" version checked out from the library currently...
May 12, 2011 Trelesa rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Good points: (which parents will hopefully already know)
1. Be consistent
2. Hold your teens responsible
3. Let natural consequences happen so your teen can learn from their mistakes

Things I also agree with:
1. Allowances are not related to doing chores
2. Negotiate curfews by occasion
3. Grounding is not really effective, especially if done repetitively

Reasons I won't recommend this book:
p. 64 - authors misrepresent and then slam the well-proven theory of positive reinforcement (which is not handing
I am of two minds about this book and the approach. On one hand many of the principles are sound and have given me a calm framework for working through common issues with my teens. It is also a reminder that adolescence is a time to start granting your child greater autonomy. I do feel that the degree to which a parent can do that depends a lot on the child - and when the child betrays certain trusts sometimes they have to have some freedoms temporarily reduced. The options presented in the book ...more
Jan 30, 2012 Karen rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Good advice. I will have to keep this book eternally on my "to read" shelve since I will have to refer to it occasionally. I wish that there was section that said "If your child says/does this....., Here is what you can say/do in response....and here are the results you can expect" Maybe even better, someone could have a section for each type of child personality. Like, "the calm/good child", or "the child who has to test everything for themselves", or "the child who is impulsive", or "the child ...more
Aug 09, 2012 Nicole rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Having a teenager is even more confusing and frustrating than I anticipated, and this kind of book is reassuring by default because it reminds me that it's not just MY teenager driving ME nuts--most teenagers do this to their parents. This knowledge alone helps me breathe a little easier through the most ridiculous things that come out of the spawn's mouth.

Above and beyond the default reassurances of not being alone, there are some solid techniques in here aimed at putting teenagers in the posit
Stephanie Broyhill
This is an incredibe book. I wish I had read it sooner. Cline explains the necessity of consistency. He discusses the danger of rescuing teens and how doing so threatens their maturity. The book discuses a variey of parenting styles with the pros and cons of each. Part 3, called Parenting Pearls was my favorite part. Practical solutions are offered for issues such as back talk, driving, curfews, dating, parties, internet, grades, money, music, and jobs, just to name a few.

I recommend this book t
Feb 25, 2013 Jen rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
Not really helpful. I read the basic love and logic book so long ago I guess I needed a refresher before I started this one. They don't explain their technique enough. Most of their examples are so extreme that I'm not sure they really apply to more garden-variety teen problems. Though I guess they are designed to make you feel better about your kid? I liked their theory that parents need to turn into more of "consultants" as children age, asking questions and trying to make your children take t ...more
Oct 02, 2014 Lori rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
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May 03, 2013 Peggy rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
I had heard a lot about the Love and Logic method, but had never read any of the books. Since my two are teens, I decided to give this a try. While I did find myself agreeing with a lot of what the authors had to say about teens learning to make their own decisions (with guidance of parents, but in a way as not to be a dictator or helicopter parent) I found the examples of sample dialogue absolutely laughable. I can't see any teen talking to their parents that way. From my experience most teens ...more
Dawn Wynn
May 07, 2013 Dawn Wynn rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
As the mother of four children, I highly recommend this book. Although I'm an avid reader, I unfortunately did not find this book until my third child was 17. It has been a life changer for our family. Whenever I am talking "kids" with people, I reference this book.
Sandy  Kemp
Short on love. At various points it advocates throwing out teens because helping them might cost a lot of money, and telling your daughter you'd be bummed if she was raped and cut up because she got involved with a weirdo in a chat room. Craziness!

I also don't care for their religious views. I wish books that use a Christian or bible based philosophy would state that on the cover. The bible is not a good basis for parenting, in my opinion. So, that makes this a bit short on logic too.

I think the
Connie Mayo
The general premise here is good and worthwhile - that it pays for parents to be thoughtful and creative in setting things up so that teens end up feeling the consequences of their actions. Example: teen wrecks car, teen does not have use of car until teen figures out a way to pay to have damage repaired. But soooo much easier said than done in situations beyond the obvious. The book does give many examples, some more believable than others. The reality I see is that every parent of teens has to ...more
Sep 29, 2014 Valerie rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: parenting
I have six children and half of them are teenagers. The older half. Which means adolescence is fairly new territory and that they are all my guinea pigs. More than anything, I want my parenting to be a positive experience for all of us (translation: as few scars as possible!). This book is exactly what I needed!

This book gave me tools to help settle conflict and conversational guides of gentle words to turn away wrath. High praise indeed!!

Even just summing it up for my husband has aided his pare
Elisabeth A.
Apr 16, 2015 Elisabeth A. rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This book offers really useful advice. Its point of view is similar to many other books on parenting teens today. All say that punishment, control, and absolute parental authority backfire and may produce even more reckless and defiant teenagers; that parents must learn to relinquish control and instead exercise influence over their teens. I particularly appreciated a long section in this book reassuring parents that about the unlikelihood that their teens will go seriously astray in adolescence ...more
Feb 24, 2015 Tammie rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
4-Stars This is probably one of the best parenting books (along with the original Love & Logic book) I've read. There's a wide variety of topics covered. I've always believed we're raising adults, not children, and this book really brings that thought full circle! ...more
Feb 16, 2015 Erin rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Some good ideas and advice. A tad outdated on references, especially because electronics are such a huge part of my battle with my teens. Worth reading, but not the miracle balm to ease my parent-to-teenagers soul.
Apr 16, 2015 ChapterOne rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
There will come a point in time when “Because I said so” is no longer going to work. Your children will still love you – but they will no longer accept your value systems JUST because they love you. And in a few short years, they will walk out that door. Yes, you have been a good parent and “provided” for them all along. But have you “prepared” them for the rest of their lives? That’s the question this book makes you think about.

The title sounds cheesy, and the cover looks cheesy, yes. But I di
Nov 10, 2015 Barb rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
I like how logical and loving their solutions are (laughter), but after reading through this book, I realized that my kids are angels compared to what they could be. I was looking for help on how to motivate my son to get better grades at school. After seeing some of the other troubling issues that teens and parents are dealing with, this book made me appreciate that my kid isn't really as bad off as I was fearing. He only spent about 4 pages covering the topic of grades, and he did have some su ...more
Mar 16, 2016 April rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
I am giving this 2 1/2 stars not because the content was that bad but because I listened to this book on CD and had a very hard time paying attention. The man reading the book had a monotone voice and I found myself zoning out at times. However, I did pick up some good tips on improving communications with tween/ teens by encouraging them to figure out solutions to the problems that their behavior can sometimes cause (instead of figuring it out for them or doling out punishments). This allows te ...more
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