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You Mean I'm Not Lazy, Stupid or Crazy?!: The Classic Self-Help Book for Adults with Attention Deficit Disorder

3.97 of 5 stars 3.97  ·  rating details  ·  1,037 ratings  ·  64 reviews
For the first time since it was published in 1995, this seminal work on ADD—attention deficit disorder—in adults has been revised to include the latest research and treatments available today.

With over a quarter million copies in print, You Mean I'm Not Lazy, Stupid or Crazy?! is one of the bestselling books on attention deficit disorder (ADD) ever writ
Paperback, 480 pages
Published April 25th 2006 by Scribner (first published 1993)
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Emma Sea
Well, who knows if I have ADD or not, but certainly the strategies I have in place so I can cope with life are exactly the same strategies the authors recommend for ADD. (Except meditation. I read a lot of books that suggest meditation, and I'm so resistant to the idea and I do not know why.)

But to some extent aren't these just strategies that all adults use to get stuff done and keep sane? SCHEDULE! Time track. Use notebooks to record everything (Evernote is the greatest invention in the world)
Michael Alexander
Kind of ironically, I'm going to call this one too scattered. I get that when they started, this was a work by not-so-professionals trying to get the word out when zero other material existed on the market, so they tried to cover absolutely everything.

However: SO many anecdotes thrown in for a paragraph at a time and then referred to 300 pages later, so many that you kind of lose track of anything so many different types of "ADDers" are actually supposed to have in common with each other. So man
James Oliver
It's the first book I read on ADD so I guess the initial favourable impression was just a kind of 'ah, at last I am not alone' kind of recognition. However, I've liked it less as time passes. It is badly organised and set out with far too many exclamation marks and EMPHASIS!!! It's a real 'victim' book.

One thing that is good is that it outlines the various 'sub-types' of ADDers - ADD symptoms manifest themselves in different kinds of behaviours among different types of people. It's not just cra
Michele Harrod
Thanks. This is all I can say to these authors. Talk about pick a book up, and suddenly understand your whole life. And yes, I did think that, and yes, I have since been tested ADHD positive, at my ripe old age of 44. Never even knew such a thing existed in Adults. The discovery and the journey of self understanding, forgiveness and learning new ways to live, have been utterly life changing and amazing. Wow, I really wasn't lazy, crazy or stupid! Very cool.
Adrienne Campbell
It's been 19 years since I read this book but I know it helped me understand who I am and how my brain works. It was wonderful to read a book that made sense to me. I could totally relate! When you've spent most of your life either being told or believing you are lazy, crazy or's a wonderful relief to know you are not alone. And no, I'm not Lazy, Crazy, or Stupid!
Finally, I'm not alone. For years I thought I was crazy. I thought if I tell anyone what its like inside my head, surely they'll have me committed. So I kept quiet. It wasn't until my kids were diagnosed with ADHD and my daughter explained to me what its like in her head, that I realized I had ADD. I still wasn't sure what that meant, so I went looking for books. The title of this one immediately caught my attention, but I was sure the information contained inside couldn't possibly live up to th ...more
Marti Dumas
The book was well-organized and the voice was genuine. If I had read it when it was originally published years ago, I probably would have found it informative. Unfortunately, I was hoping to gain some insight into ADD for adults and I didn't learn anything that I didn't already know. I'd give it 2 stars because the Goodreads label says 2 stars= "It was okay," but that seems like a pretty low rating for a book that does have pertinent information despite not being helpful for me.
Overall, I think this is a valuable resource for people trying to understand how either they or someone they love can be so many contradictory things at once. Scattered, but then hyperfocused on a new passion. How an intelligent person can be brillant in one moment, then unable to collect his/her thoughts enough to figure out what to make for dinner.

As a professional, I recommend the book, although different people respond better than others. Some can soar through it, amazed by the insights int
OMG! This is the BEST book ever for anyone with ADD/ADHD! And especially for those with ADD who have been reading self-help books for years, attempting to improve themselves.

The authors cover everything associated with this disorder and give practical advice on dealing with everyday life; i.e. organization, sexual functioning, medication interactions, memory training, etc.

Even if you are not personally affected with the disorder, you probably know a loved one or a friend who is and it will cer
Matthew MacKay
Jan 20, 2011 Matthew MacKay rated it 5 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: People with ADD/ADHD
For someone who recently self-diagnosed themselves with the condition, the book has been nothing short of miraculous. The relatibilty to the characters exemplified so well in the book, the easy to understand breakdown of the strengths and weaknesses (pitfalls) of the condition, and the numerous suggestions the book gives for solutions to problems the ADDer has in life, make this book one of my favorites—if not, my favorite. If you have ADD/ADHD, or believe you do, I HIGHLY recommend you read thi ...more
Crazy Uncle Ryan
I really found this book to be helpful. This book taught me a lot about ADD and I found out that much of what I had been told about the condition when I was first diagnosed as a kid had been proven wrong. I also liked the simple, practical advice it provided.
This book was insightful in a lot of ways. It takes a 12-step approach(AA) to managing ADD. I got stuck in following the recommendations of this book at the part where I had to write the story of my life. I found this task too overwhelming and could not do it...

I should revisit this book.
Scott Stewart
This was a very insightful book which explained what it means to have ADD as an adult, and ways to succeed. It also helps to explain how it has affected you since childhood, and helps you to come to grips with a frustrating disorder.
Jun 12, 2011 Chloe rated it 3 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommended to Chloe by: Jeff from jewelry design
recommended to me by a guy in one of my classes. A lot of it is really what I'd describe as mumboey, however it was definitely a worthwhile read for me because it gave me perspective into other things that are typical of ADD which I had attributed to other unrelated things, so I feel more grounded in where some of my other issues stem from which gives me a better place to work on coping mechanisms to address them myself. I'd recommend if you think you might have ADD/ADHD, have it or know someone ...more
Michele Cacano
This book is known as The Bible of Adult ADD. First published in the early '90's, this version has been updated to include new findings on AADD behavior, treatments, and medicine. It was very helpful in understanding both the disorder and the place it has in our culture. Some parts were less relevant to me, so I scanned through more quickly, but the authors even suggest that the reader read the book any way they see fit - cover to cover (like me) or jumping around from chapter to chapter as more ...more
Awesome book, especially for those with ADD/ADHD and their families. I read the 1st edition in 1994 right after I was diagnosed with ADHD. I decided to read the new edition to refresh my knowledge of what it's like to be me. I also wanted to learn (or relearn) new strategies to deal with my unusual behaviors. These authors are straight forward, knowledgable, and humorous. If you know or suspect you have, or just know someone who does, this is a must read. You won't regret it!
One of the best books I have ever read on ADD. This made a lot of things regarding my ADD so much clearer. It is written by authors who also have ADD and it is easy to read. You Mean I'm Not Lazy, Stupid or Crazy?! : A Self-Help Book for Adults with Attention Deficit Disorder.
Nov 28, 2008 Ariane rated it 3 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: anyone who is dealing with ADD in themselves or others.
The most helpful things about this book were the extensive case studies and examples of people and how ADD affected their lives in many different ways. I think also the drug sections and therapy possibilities were interesting and brief. However, the book could have benefited from some serious editing. And the strategies to help ADDers with organization and other areas where they need help were not well organized or nearly extensive enough.
Bart Breen
Reassuring, Empowering and Helpful

I've discovered that as far as ADD'ers go, I are one.

This book (I listened to the cassette) is entertaining, enlightening and very helpful both to the person afflicted as well as those affected by their behavior and idiosyncracies.

I found it very helpful to listen to and I plan to relisten to it and perhaps ask others to listen to it as time goes on. Excellent introduction to the subject.
This book was truly an epiphany for me! A fantastic description of so many instances from my childhood, and the many coping skills that I've developed. I truly thought of myself exactly as the title. This was so helpful in describing circumstances that might cause me trouble, and how to successfully navigate through them. I also gave me some well needed answers to some of the past "disasters" that I had found myself in, and why.
This is the first book I ever read about ADHD; frankly because I identified so strongly with the title. I will ever be grateful to the wonderful women who wrote this book. There are a myriad of ADD books now out specifically about ADHD and adults, but these ladies were the pioneers - willing to take the time and write on this subject before there was much information out there.
I meticulously skimmed this book in the course of two hours while I was in crisis mode one night. As a woman who was diagnosed with ADHD-C in young adulthood, it made me feel worse and better at the same time. This book seems to be aimed more at middle-aged folks who've finally been diagnosed. Overall, it isn't a bad book, but I don't think I'm in the target audience.
Any adult who wonders if they are ADD will appreciate this book. The writers provide information, resources and lots of humor as they educate us on Attention Deficit Disorder and provide moral support to those of us who need it. Also includes advice on improving memory, the power of meditation, coaching, and using therapy and/or medication.
Aaron Dev
Humorous, fun and above all extremely well written. It conveys its material in the most accessible and easy-to-pickup form that I've come across for this field. While its size can be intimidating, its fluidity masterfully overcomes this facile judgement. Perhaps even is better than the Halowell books, which are considered landmark.
Blah, blah, blah...
It was good to see the book explaining "I messages."
Applaud the way authors wrote about ADD girls' sexusl pasts.
This almost reads like a joke: "what do ADDers hate but need desperately? Structure.
I connected to the section about parenting and am happy bro see the authors echoe Love and Logic beliefs.
I've learned a lot from reading this book that dispelled many stereotypes that I had before of this disorder. It's written in a conversational tone and very easy to read and although it's a bit garden variety when it comes to the topics it covers, overall it's a great introduction to learning about adult ADD.
James Hays
It's not the sort of book I can start at page 1 and read through to the end. This is a good thing, because I can't really concentrate that well to begin with, so it's a good book to sort of browse and then put down (with perhaps a bookmark) when your concentration runs out.
Very informative.
Shareen Wornson
I was diagnosed with ADD about 2 weeks ago and am trying to learn all I can. I have the originally published book from the early 1990's, but it's very well written for the layperson. I'm not sure if I identify with all the ADD people, but I am learning some good things.
This book did not work for me - the examples given really did not reflect my experience, to the extent that I found it difficult to "take what's useful and leave the rest". I did not finish the book and would recommend Driven to Distraction as far more relevant and useful.
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