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You Mean I'm Not Lazy, Stupid or Crazy?!: The Classic Self-Help Book for Adults with Attention Deficit Disorder

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For the first time since it was published in 1995, this seminal work on ADD—attention deficit disorder—in adults has been revised to include the latest research and treatments available today.

With over a quarter million copies in print, You Mean I'm Not Lazy, Stupid or Crazy?! is one of the bestselling books on attention deficit disorder (ADD) ever written. There is a grea
Paperback, 480 pages
Published April 25th 2006 by Scribner (first published 1993)
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Michele Harrod
Jul 05, 2010 Michele Harrod rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Thanks. This is all I can say to these authors. Talk about pick a book up, and suddenly understand your whole life. And yes, I did think that, and yes, I have since been tested ADHD positive, at my ripe old age of 44. Never even knew such a thing existed in Adults. The discovery and the journey of self understanding, forgiveness and learning new ways to live, have been utterly life changing and amazing. Wow, I really wasn't lazy, crazy or stupid! Very cool.
Aug 31, 2010 M rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Kind of ironically, I'm going to call this one too scattered. I get that when they started, this was a work by not-so-professionals trying to get the word out when zero other material existed on the market, so they tried to cover absolutely everything.

However: SO many anecdotes thrown in for a paragraph at a time and then referred to 300 pages later, so many that you kind of lose track of anything so many different types of "ADDers" are actually supposed to have in common with each other. So man
Emma Sea
Jul 25, 2013 Emma Sea rated it liked it
Well, who knows if I have ADD or not, but certainly the strategies I have in place so I can cope with life are exactly the same strategies the authors recommend for ADD. (Except meditation. I read a lot of books that suggest meditation, and I'm so resistant to the idea and I do not know why.)

But to some extent aren't these just strategies that all adults use to get stuff done and keep sane? SCHEDULE! Time track. Use notebooks to record everything (Evernote is the greatest invention in the world)
James Oliver
It's the first book I read on ADD so I guess the initial favourable impression was just a kind of 'ah, at last I am not alone' kind of recognition. However, I've liked it less as time passes. It is badly organised and set out with far too many exclamation marks and EMPHASIS!!! It's a real 'victim' book.

One thing that is good is that it outlines the various 'sub-types' of ADDers - ADD symptoms manifest themselves in different kinds of behaviours among different types of people. It's not just cra
Jul 30, 2010 Pamela rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Finally, I'm not alone. For years I thought I was crazy. I thought if I tell anyone what its like inside my head, surely they'll have me committed. So I kept quiet. It wasn't until my kids were diagnosed with ADHD and my daughter explained to me what its like in her head, that I realized I had ADD. I still wasn't sure what that meant, so I went looking for books. The title of this one immediately caught my attention, but I was sure the information contained inside couldn't possibly live up to th ...more
Amy Brown
Sep 22, 2016 Amy Brown rated it it was ok
Starting right from the awkward title, this book is showing its age. Written back in the nineties (when it was apparently the only ADD book) it tries to cover all the conceivable angles of the ADD life in one dense tome. It's text heavy, with narrow margins and clunky visual design, leavened only by some unattractive and often irrelevant cartoons.

It's 2016 and you can now read books — or at least articles —about every conceivable concern for people with AD/HD: AD/HD in the workplace, AD/HD in th
Marti Dumas
The book was well-organized and the voice was genuine. If I had read it when it was originally published years ago, I probably would have found it informative. Unfortunately, I was hoping to gain some insight into ADD for adults and I didn't learn anything that I didn't already know. I'd give it 2 stars because the Goodreads label says 2 stars= "It was okay," but that seems like a pretty low rating for a book that does have pertinent information despite not being helpful for me.
Adrienne Campbell
It's been 19 years since I read this book but I know it helped me understand who I am and how my brain works. It was wonderful to read a book that made sense to me. I could totally relate! When you've spent most of your life either being told or believing you are lazy, crazy or's a wonderful relief to know you are not alone. And no, I'm not Lazy, Crazy, or Stupid!
Sep 01, 2010 Pharrisbrown rated it really liked it
Overall, I think this is a valuable resource for people trying to understand how either they or someone they love can be so many contradictory things at once. Scattered, but then hyperfocused on a new passion. How an intelligent person can be brillant in one moment, then unable to collect his/her thoughts enough to figure out what to make for dinner.

As a professional, I recommend the book, although different people respond better than others. Some can soar through it, amazed by the insights int
Dec 28, 2010 Diane rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
OMG! This is the BEST book ever for anyone with ADD/ADHD! And especially for those with ADD who have been reading self-help books for years, attempting to improve themselves.

The authors cover everything associated with this disorder and give practical advice on dealing with everyday life; i.e. organization, sexual functioning, medication interactions, memory training, etc.

Even if you are not personally affected with the disorder, you probably know a loved one or a friend who is and it will cer
Matthew MacKay
Jan 20, 2011 Matthew MacKay rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: People with ADD/ADHD
For someone who recently self-diagnosed themselves with the condition, the book has been nothing short of miraculous. The relatibilty to the characters exemplified so well in the book, the easy to understand breakdown of the strengths and weaknesses (pitfalls) of the condition, and the numerous suggestions the book gives for solutions to problems the ADDer has in life, make this book one of my favorites—if not, my favorite. If you have ADD/ADHD, or believe you do, I HIGHLY recommend you read thi ...more
Nov 28, 2008 Ariane rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: anyone who is dealing with ADD in themselves or others.
The most helpful things about this book were the extensive case studies and examples of people and how ADD affected their lives in many different ways. I think also the drug sections and therapy possibilities were interesting and brief. However, the book could have benefited from some serious editing. And the strategies to help ADDers with organization and other areas where they need help were not well organized or nearly extensive enough.
Mar 03, 2016 Gavin rated it did not like it  ·  review of another edition
This is not a book. It's a joke really. Looks like the author cut out an article or two from COSMOPOLITAN and then paid someone a few hundred dollars to increase the number of total words so she could have it published as a book.

Utter waste of time (and money).
Crazy Uncle Ryan
I really found this book to be helpful. This book taught me a lot about ADD and I found out that much of what I had been told about the condition when I was first diagnosed as a kid had been proven wrong. I also liked the simple, practical advice it provided.
Apr 09, 2014 Claire rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I absolutely love this book. It is one of the first that really spoke to my ADD issues.
Clare T.
Oct 08, 2016 Clare T. rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: self-help, adult
I... think I'm finished with this book...

There are some parts I glossed over but that's to be expected.

Finally.... after a thousand years.... I finished this book................

(It was a great book though! I'll definitely be looking back on it for a long time.)
Valerie J Weiby
Nov 25, 2015 Valerie J Weiby rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This book helped me realize that I'm not alone, there are lots of us that understand the frustration and confusion that go with ADHD. I was in my early 40's when I was diagnosed nearly 20 years ago. I've known all my life that I was a different from other people but didn't know why. I was always busy, I couldn't keep my thoughts in one place, I'd go from one thing to the next at a moments notice.
In school teachers would tell me I was dumb, stupid, I should be in special ed, etc. Problem was,
Jeremiah Peter
Jan 05, 2014 Jeremiah Peter rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This book is chock full of explanations, details and suggestions about how to deal with the symptoms of Adult ADD. It was very helpful to see that a lot of the things that I had previously thought were unassociated with Adult ADD, like my crappy memory, are actually some of the symptoms. While many of the suggestions do not apply to me as I compensate by being TOO organized and TOO simplistic, it was good to know that I have been trudging in the right direction at the very least. It is worth the ...more
Michele Cacano
This book is known as The Bible of Adult ADD. First published in the early '90's, this version has been updated to include new findings on AADD behavior, treatments, and medicine. It was very helpful in understanding both the disorder and the place it has in our culture. Some parts were less relevant to me, so I scanned through more quickly, but the authors even suggest that the reader read the book any way they see fit - cover to cover (like me) or jumping around from chapter to chapter as more ...more
Jan 02, 2011 Chloe rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommended to Chloe by: Jeff from jewelry design
recommended to me by a guy in one of my classes. A lot of it is really what I'd describe as mumboey, however it was definitely a worthwhile read for me because it gave me perspective into other things that are typical of ADD which I had attributed to other unrelated things, so I feel more grounded in where some of my other issues stem from which gives me a better place to work on coping mechanisms to address them myself. I'd recommend if you think you might have ADD/ADHD, have it or know someone ...more
Dec 18, 2015 Jackie rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
I would recommend this book to anyone diagnosed with ADHD or living with someone diagnosed with ADHD, adult or child.

This is (so far) the best book I've read about ADHD. Both the anecdotes and diagnostic information were laid out in an easy to engage way, although I did find the book's tone a bit patronizing from time to time. However, because this book has been so validating and practical I can forgive that one flaw.

I would have liked more detailed information on the various ADHD drugs and the
Oct 16, 2010 Crystal rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
This book was truly an epiphany for me! A fantastic description of so many instances from my childhood, and the many coping skills that I've developed. I truly thought of myself exactly as the title. This was so helpful in describing circumstances that might cause me trouble, and how to successfully navigate through them. I also gave me some well needed answers to some of the past "disasters" that I had found myself in, and why.
May 19, 2012 Diana rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Awesome book, especially for those with ADD/ADHD and their families. I read the 1st edition in 1994 right after I was diagnosed with ADHD. I decided to read the new edition to refresh my knowledge of what it's like to be me. I also wanted to learn (or relearn) new strategies to deal with my unusual behaviors. These authors are straight forward, knowledgable, and humorous. If you know or suspect you have, or just know someone who does, this is a must read. You won't regret it!
Jan 09, 2010 Vanessa rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Shelves: wishlist
One of the best books I have ever read on ADD. This made a lot of things regarding my ADD so much clearer. It is written by authors who also have ADD and it is easy to read. You Mean I'm Not Lazy, Stupid or Crazy?! : A Self-Help Book for Adults with Attention Deficit Disorder.
Bart Breen
May 24, 2012 Bart Breen rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
Reassuring, Empowering and Helpful

I've discovered that as far as ADD'ers go, I are one.

This book (I listened to the cassette) is entertaining, enlightening and very helpful both to the person afflicted as well as those affected by their behavior and idiosyncracies.

I found it very helpful to listen to and I plan to relisten to it and perhaps ask others to listen to it as time goes on. Excellent introduction to the subject.
I meticulously skimmed this book in the course of two hours while I was in crisis mode one night. As a woman who was diagnosed with ADHD-C in young adulthood, it made me feel worse and better at the same time. This book seems to be aimed more at middle-aged folks who've finally been diagnosed. Overall, it isn't a bad book, but I don't think I'm in the target audience.
Apr 21, 2009 Martine rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Any adult who wonders if they are ADD will appreciate this book. The writers provide information, resources and lots of humor as they educate us on Attention Deficit Disorder and provide moral support to those of us who need it. Also includes advice on improving memory, the power of meditation, coaching, and using therapy and/or medication.
May 14, 2008 Lashanda rated it really liked it
I've learned a lot from reading this book that dispelled many stereotypes that I had before of this disorder. It's written in a conversational tone and very easy to read and although it's a bit garden variety when it comes to the topics it covers, overall it's a great introduction to learning about adult ADD.
May 16, 2016 Michelle rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
There were so many "Oh Wow! “moments for me is this book. Having been diagnosed with ADD several years I go, I knew that some of my issues were related to it. However, there were other things that I struggled with that I had no idea where part of the disorder as well. Lots of good information. A good read for anyone struggling with the disorder.
Blah, blah, blah...
It was good to see the book explaining "I messages."
Applaud the way authors wrote about ADD girls' sexusl pasts.
This almost reads like a joke: "what do ADDers hate but need desperately? Structure.
I connected to the section about parenting and am happy bro see the authors echoe Love and Logic beliefs.
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“The Procrastinator has the opposite problem. He can’t selectively focus his attention and might endure frequent accusations about his laziness. In truth, he’s so distracted by stimuli that he can’t figure out where or how to get started. Sounds, smells, sights and the random wanderings of his thoughts continually vie for his attention.” 2 likes
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