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    <body><![CDATA[My sister a social worker/therapist recommended this book years ago and I bought it.  It sat on my &quot;to read&quot; shelf for years until a Marriage and Family professor mentioned again in his talk at Sunstone. It has a clear and powerful premise.  Our childhood and relationship with our parents ...<a href="http://www.goodreads.com/review/show/70237032">more...</a>]]></body>
    
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    <body><![CDATA[Man, I love me some good pop psychology from time to time. :) This book explores the marriage relationship and why couples become stuck in patterns of behavior that make them wonder why they fell in love with their partner in the first place. Hendrix posits that the dynamics of marriage are often a ...<a href="http://www.goodreads.com/review/show/63608292">more...</a>]]></body>
    
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    <body><![CDATA[I remember years ago, when my marriage was heading south, picking up this book and halfheartedly trying the exercises- knowing my ex would not want to have any part of it. I still wish I'd read it at that point or after- my marriage would have likely still failed, but I may have been better prepared...<a href="http://www.goodreads.com/review/show/47824568">more...</a>]]></body>
    
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    <![CDATA[&lt;DIV&gt;&lt;DIV&gt;&lt;DIV&gt;<p>REVISED AND WITH A NEW FOREWORD</p><p>ARE YOU GETTING THE LOVE YOU WANT?</p><p>Originally published in 1988, <em>Getting the Love You Want</em> has helped millions of couples attain more loving, supportive, and deeply satisfying relationships. The 20th anniversary edition contains extensive revisions to this groundbreaking book, with a new chapter, new exercises, and a foreword detailing Dr. Hendrix’s updated philosophy for eliminating all<em> </em>negativity from couples’ daily interactions, allowing readers of the 2008 edition to benefit from his ongoing discoveries during his last two decades of work.</p><p>Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., in partnership with his wife, Helen LaKelly Hunt, PhD., originated Imago Relationship Therapy, a unique healing process for couples, prospective couples, and parents. Together they have more than thirty years’ experience as educators and therapists and their work has been translated into more than 50 languages, with Imago practiced by two thousand therapists worldwide. Harville and Helen have six children and live in New York and New Mexico.</p>&lt;/DIV&gt;]]>
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    <body><![CDATA[A very interesting psychoanalysis.  The idea of repressed needs from even EARLY childhood is new and still kind of alien to me.  I've just recently begun to realize how much our childhood experiences have flavored our adult experiences.  So I'm open minded. <br/><br/>I definitely see the benefit i...<a href="http://www.goodreads.com/review/show/60024328">more...</a>]]></body>
    
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    <body><![CDATA[An amazing look into the foundations of human attraction by the first person to do extensive clinical research into it.  The author also explains some of the fundamentals of the human mind and the levels on which it operates.  I am firmly convinced that if my wife and I had not read and studied this...<a href="http://www.goodreads.com/review/show/3194636">more...</a>]]></body>
    
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    <body><![CDATA[I just gave four stars to a freaking self-help book. That says everything. READ IT. <br/><br/>Really, though, this book's relevance surprised me, cynic that I am about this kind of book. Harville Hendrix is heavy on the nuance and light on the cheese, and his descriptions of &quot;fusers&quot; and...<a href="http://www.goodreads.com/review/show/39701810">more...</a>]]></body>
    
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    <body><![CDATA[I found this book really insightful. It made me think about where I come from and the influences that affect my relationships, especially with my wife. It revealed a lot of things about me that I hadn't considered before. I would recommend this to anyone. You don't have to be married to learn from i...<a href="http://www.goodreads.com/review/show/20312530">more...</a>]]></body>
    
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    <body><![CDATA[Not exactly what I was hoping for.  I think this book is for couples that are having serious problems and are at their wits' end.  I was looking for some exercises just to help deepen our connection and strengthen our relationship.<br/><br/>Kind of a lot of filler without a lot of straightforward ...<a href="http://www.goodreads.com/review/show/42614839">more...</a>]]></body>
    
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    <body><![CDATA[This book is just so smart.  Anyone who talks about &quot;satisfying our unconscious yearnings,&quot; &quot;psychic shields&quot; and &quot;helping repair emotional damage&quot; in the context of marriage is... well, smart.]]></body>
    
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    <body><![CDATA[I read this fiver years ago but am currently rereading it, so I thought it definitely warranted a place of my goodreads shelft.  This is, without a doubt, one of the best books on relationships out there.  Hendrix is a therapist who developed Imago Relationship Therapy with his wife, and it's a tech...<a href="http://www.goodreads.com/review/show/78661767">more...</a>]]></body>
    
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    <body><![CDATA[This is a step-by-step plan for understanding marriage, and how to take a relationship to a higher plane.  It is reality-based, and the author has good insight and experience  Should be read by both parties for maximum benefit, as it works best when each understand the process and are both working t...<a href="http://www.goodreads.com/review/show/61149588">more...</a>]]></body>
    
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    <body><![CDATA[I love this book! I'm a Licensed Professional Counselor and this is my go-to book when doing marriage counseling. Hendrix is great at explaining how we choose our mates and helping navigate through how to heal the wounds that need healing. I highly recommend this book to couples who need some help a...<a href="http://www.goodreads.com/review/show/72711911">more...</a>]]></body>
    
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    <body><![CDATA[This book is the brilliant teacher on understanding relationsips and what we want from a relationship and why. The answer to all the questions we didn't know we had. I highly recomend this book to all as it opens your mind to think in such a different way as to why a relatioship fails or hits proble...<a href="http://www.goodreads.com/review/show/56722561">more...</a>]]></body>
    
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    <![CDATA[When Harville Hendrix writes about relationships, he discusses them not just as an educator and a therapist, but as a man who has himself been through a failed marriage. Hendrix felt the sting of his divorce intensely because he believed it signaled not only his failure as a husband but also his failure as a couples counselor. Investigating why his marriage dissolved led him to start looking into the psychology of love. Marriage, he ultimately discovered, is the &quot;practice of becoming passionate friends.&quot;<p> As a result of his research, Hendrix created a therapy he calls Imago Relationship Therapy. In it, he combines what he's learned in a number of disciplines, including the behavioral sciences, depth psychology, cognitive therapy, and Gestalt therapy, to name just a few. He expounds upon this approach in <em>Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples</em>. His purpose in writing the book, he says, is &quot;to share with you what I have learned about the psychology of love relationships, and to help you transform your relationship into a lasting source of love and companionship.&quot;<p> Divided into three sections, the book covers &quot;The Unconscious Marriage,&quot; which details a marriage in which the remaining desires and behavior of childhood interfere with the current relationship; &quot;The Conscious Marriage,&quot; which shows a marriage that fulfils those childhood needs in a positive manner; and a 10-week &quot;course in relationship therapy, &quot; which gives detailed exercises for you and your partner to follow in order to learn how to &quot;replace confrontation and criticism ... with a healing process of mutual growth and support.&quot; The text is occasionally dry and technical; however, the information provided is valuable, the case studies are interesting, and the exercises are revealing and helpful. By utilizing his program, Hendrix hopes you too will be able to solve your marital difficulties without the expense of a therapist. <em>--Jenny Brown</em></p></p>]]>
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    <body><![CDATA[This is probably one of the most important books I've ever read. It looks like a cheesy self-help book, but this guy is a genius. When I was writing that News &amp; Review story about relationships every single couples' therapist I talked to suggested this book. Hendrix and his wife are revolutionaries ...<a href="http://www.goodreads.com/review/show/15057084">more...</a>]]></body>
    
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