false 46188 11 When Harville Hendrix writes about relationships, he discusses them not just as an educator and a therapist, but as a man who has himself been through a failed marriage. Hendrix felt the sting of his divorce intensely because he believed it signaled not only his failure as a husband but also his failure as a couples counselor. Investigating why his marriage dissolved led him to start looking into the psychology of love. Marriage, he ultimately discovered, is the "practice of becoming passionate friends."<p> As a result of his research, Hendrix created a therapy he calls Imago Relationship Therapy. In it, he combines what he's learned in a number of disciplines, including the behavioral sciences, depth psychology, cognitive therapy, and Gestalt therapy, to name just a few. He expounds upon this approach in <I>Getting the Love You Want: A Guide for Couples</I>. His purpose in writing the book, he says, is "to share with you what I have learned about the psychology of love relationships, and to help you transform your relationship into a lasting source of love and companionship."<p> Divided into three sections, the book covers "The Unconscious Marriage," which details a marriage in which the remaining desires and behavior of childhood interfere with the current relationship; "The Conscious Marriage," which shows a marriage that fulfils those childhood needs in a positive manner; and a 10-week "course in relationship therapy, " which gives detailed exercises for you and your partner to follow in order to learn how to "replace confrontation and criticism ... with a healing process of mutual growth and support." The text is occasionally dry and technical; however, the information provided is valuable, the case studies are interesting, and the exercises are revealing and helpful. By utilizing his program, Hendrix hopes you too will be able to solve your marital difficulties without the expense of a therapist. <I>--Jenny Brown</I> 45330 1988 Getting the Love You Want total:363|5:134|4:138|3:70|2:16|1:5| 363 1469 543 99 5 1 false true Tue Sep 01 00:00:00 -0700 2009 Sun Sep 06 06:28:36 -0700 2009 Sun Sep 06 07:03:46 -0700 2009 more...]]> 4 0 false false Wed Jul 01 00:00:00 -0700 2009 Wed Jul 15 11:42:50 -0700 2009 Wed Jul 15 11:56:29 -0700 2009 more...]]> 4 1 false false Mon Mar 02 00:00:00 -0800 2009 Sat Feb 28 15:41:15 -0800 2009 Mon Mar 02 10:43:40 -0800 2009 more...]]> 3 0 false false Mon Jun 22 07:44:31 -0700 2009 Wed Jun 17 08:05:57 -0700 2009 Mon Jun 22 07:44:31 -0700 2009
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