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Intimate Strangers: Men and Women Together

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Intimate Strangers is a book for every man and woman who has ever yearned for an intimate relationship and wondered why it seemed so elusive. Drawing on years of research, writing, and counseling about marriage and the family, interviews with more than two hundred couples, and her own experiences, Lillian Rubin explains not just how the differences between women and men ar ...more
Paperback, 222 pages
Published January 1st 1990 by Harper Perennial (first published January 1st 1983)
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Larry Bassett
I have to remind myself that 1983, the year Intimate Strangers was published, was a long time ago. So why am I reading this book from 27 years ago? Since it is about social psychology, we know that a lot has changed in those years. But I find that it still has something to say to me, a man who was a househusband in 1978 with a professional wife and two young sons when Ms. Rubin was urging Americans to work toward fathers having a co-equal role with mothers in nurturing infants and young children ...more
One of the best books I ever read about the differences in men and women. The author explains things in a sociological/psychological way and none of the mumbo jumbo of men are from mars; women are from venus.

Both my husband and I read this many years ago and felt more connected to each other afterward! It helped us both see the each others perspective(s) and is a book I will never part with.
Feb 26, 2015 Leanne rated it liked it
Based my 1991 journal entry:

I've been reading Rubin's Intimate Strangers which is bugging me because I think she is close to the truth, but it is mixed with a lot of questionable assumptions. She begins her book by citing the shift in attitudes due in a large part, she claims, to women entering the work field. She discusses why men and women see life so differently, citing two major factors: men have trouble with intimacy due to fear and lack of knowledge on how to obtain it; women have trouble
Oct 18, 2014 Patrick rated it it was ok
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Jan 10, 2017 Robert rated it it was amazing
I read this compelling book in my teens and it was both revealing and shockingly surprising at the same time. It answered so many weird behavioural traits of women and men together and the title of the book really says it all
A must read for any man and woman.
Aug 28, 2015 Ginger rated it it was amazing
What a tremendous book, with very well constructed thoughts and information. It offers insights into relationships between men and women that I found fascinating. I first read it over 20-30 years ago. My copy has been read so many times by myself and people I have loaned it to that it is now held together by a rubber band. I finally did a search and now have a second copy.

If you are married or are in a relationship, I would be amazed if you are not enlightened by many of the author's theories an
This deals with a woman's need for closness and a man's need for seperation. How similar so many couples are and the little voices in our heads are pretty universal.
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Aug 08, 2010 Cheryl Andrews rated it it was amazing
Every so often I order 2 or 3 copies to give away when friends or family members are confused about their loving relationships.
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