false http://photo.goodreads.com/books/1172858150m/225044.jpg 225044 1 <p> Be sexy but not sexual. Don't be a prude but don't be a slut. These are the cultural messages that barrage teenage girls. In movies and magazines, in music and advice columns, girls are portrayed as the object or the victim of someone else's desire--but virtually never as someone with acceptable sexual feelings of her own. What teenage girls make of these contradictory messages, and what they make of their awakening sexuality--so distant from and yet so susceptible to cultural stereotypes--emerges for the first time in frank and complex fashion in Deborah Tolman's <i>Dilemmas of Desire</i>. </p><p> A unique look into the world of adolescent sexuality, this book offers an intimate and often disturbing, sometimes inspiring, picture of how teenage girls experience, understand, and respond to their sexual feelings, and of how society mediates, shapes, and distorts this experience. In extensive interviews, we listen as actual adolescent girls--both urban and suburban--speak candidly of their curiosity and confusion, their pleasure and disappointment, their fears, defiance, or capitulation in the face of a seemingly imperishable double standard that smiles upon burgeoning sexuality in boys yet frowns, even panics, at its equivalent in girls. </p><p> As a vivid evocation of girls negotiating some of the most vexing issues of adolescence, and as a thoughtful, richly informed examination of the dilemmas these girls face, this readable and revealing book begins the critical work of understanding the sexuality of young women in all its personal, social, and emotional significance. </p> 217956 31 10 2005 Dilemmas of Desire: Teenage Girls Talk about Sexuality total:25|5:4|4:14|3:4|2:3|1:0| 25 94 51 7 2 0 false false Fri May 29 02:09:39 -0700 2009 Fri May 29 02:11:27 -0700 2009 Dilemmas of Desire, Deborah Tolman expected to uncover a wealth of feelings about sexuality from teenage girls who had never had the opportunity to reveal or interrogate their sexual identity. Instead, she found a number of girls who were so detached from their sexuality that they h...more...]]> 4 1 false false Fri Aug 17 11:22:36 -0700 2007 Fri Jan 11 08:29:12 -0800 2008 5 0 true false Sun Jun 14 19:47:17 -0700 2009 Tue Sep 02 05:20:30 -0700 2008 Sun Jun 14 19:47:17 -0700 2009
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