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Parenting Teens with Love and Logic: Preparing Adolescents for Resposible Adulthood

4.09  ·  Rating Details  ·  1,139 Ratings  ·  154 Reviews
Parents need help to teach their teens how to make decisions responsibly--and do so without going crazy or damaging the relationship.Parenting Teens with Love and Logic, from the duo who wrote Parenting with Love and Logic, empowers parents with the skills necessary to set limits, teach important skills, and encourage decision-making in their teenagers.Covering a wide rang ...more
Hardcover, 316 pages
Published May 13th 2006 by Pinon Press (first published January 1st 1992)
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Sandy  Kemp
Jun 23, 2013 Sandy Kemp rated it it was ok
Short on love. At various points it advocates throwing out teens because helping them might cost a lot of money, and telling your daughter you'd be bummed if she was raped and cut up because she got involved with a weirdo in a chat room. Craziness!

I also don't care for their religious views. I wish books that use a Christian or bible based philosophy would state that on the cover. The bible is not a good basis for parenting, in my opinion. So, that makes this a bit short on logic too.

I think the
Sep 19, 2011 Kirsten rated it liked it
I am of two minds about this book and the approach. On one hand many of the principles are sound and have given me a calm framework for working through common issues with my teens. It is also a reminder that adolescence is a time to start granting your child greater autonomy. I do feel that the degree to which a parent can do that depends a lot on the child - and when the child betrays certain trusts sometimes they have to have some freedoms temporarily reduced. The options presented in the book ...more
Apr 16, 2015 ChapterOne rated it it was amazing
There will come a point in time when “Because I said so” is no longer going to work. Your children will still love you – but they will no longer accept your value systems JUST because they love you. And in a few short years, they will walk out that door. Yes, you have been a good parent and “provided” for them all along. But have you “prepared” them for the rest of their lives? That’s the question this book makes you think about.

The title sounds cheesy, and the cover looks cheesy, yes. But I di
Feb 24, 2015 Tammie rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
4-Stars This is probably one of the best parenting books (along with the original Love & Logic book) I've read. There's a wide variety of topics covered. I've always believed we're raising adults, not children, and this book really brings that thought full circle! ...more
May 03, 2013 Peggy rated it it was ok
I had heard a lot about the Love and Logic method, but had never read any of the books. Since my two are teens, I decided to give this a try. While I did find myself agreeing with a lot of what the authors had to say about teens learning to make their own decisions (with guidance of parents, but in a way as not to be a dictator or helicopter parent) I found the examples of sample dialogue absolutely laughable. I can't see any teen talking to their parents that way. From my experience most teens ...more
May 12, 2011 Trelesa rated it it was ok
Good points: (which parents will hopefully already know)
1. Be consistent
2. Hold your teens responsible
3. Let natural consequences happen so your teen can learn from their mistakes

Things I also agree with:
1. Allowances are not related to doing chores
2. Negotiate curfews by occasion
3. Grounding is not really effective, especially if done repetitively

Reasons I won't recommend this book:
p. 64 - authors misrepresent and then slam the well-proven theory of positive reinforcement (which is not handing
Cindy Weatherford
May 25, 2009 Cindy Weatherford rated it it was ok
Shelves: self-help
I'm suprised that this book got so many 4-5 star ratings. I completely disagreed with many of the principles this book teaches. What I got from this book is this: let your teenagers make their own decisions and live with the consequences, that will teach them responsibility. Hello! Isn't that what adulthood is? I quit reading when I got to this part: Three Messages for Teenagers 1. I love you. 2. If you have any questions, ask. 3. Good luck in life. Good luck? I don't think so. Teenagers should ...more
Oct 02, 2014 Lori rated it it was ok
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Keilani Ludlow
Jul 01, 2010 Keilani Ludlow rated it really liked it
Shelves: life, other
I loved this book. I started implementing a lot of the "mannerisms" for lack of a better word right away and I saw a difference right away. I wasn't having lots of problems with my kids anyway, but hey, forewarned is forearmed, and good-enough really isn't good-enough, I want great! I am buying the book and will review it often. The first half goes through how to implement teaching kids through love and logic, what to do and how to do it and why to do it that way, with lots of actual case-study ...more
Sep 29, 2014 Valerie rated it it was amazing
Shelves: parenting
I have six children and half of them are teenagers. The older half. Which means adolescence is fairly new territory and that they are all my guinea pigs. More than anything, I want my parenting to be a positive experience for all of us (translation: as few scars as possible!). This book is exactly what I needed!

This book gave me tools to help settle conflict and conversational guides of gentle words to turn away wrath. High praise indeed!!

Even just summing it up for my husband has aided his pare
Feb 25, 2013 Jen rated it did not like it
Not really helpful. I read the basic love and logic book so long ago I guess I needed a refresher before I started this one. They don't explain their technique enough. Most of their examples are so extreme that I'm not sure they really apply to more garden-variety teen problems. Though I guess they are designed to make you feel better about your kid? I liked their theory that parents need to turn into more of "consultants" as children age, asking questions and trying to make your children take t ...more
Mar 16, 2016 April rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
I am giving this 2 1/2 stars not because the content was that bad but because I listened to this book on CD and had a very hard time paying attention. The man reading the book had a monotone voice and I found myself zoning out at times. However, I did pick up some good tips on improving communications with tween/ teens by encouraging them to figure out solutions to the problems that their behavior can sometimes cause (instead of figuring it out for them or doling out punishments). This allows te ...more
Jan 30, 2012 Karen rated it really liked it
Good advice. I will have to keep this book eternally on my "to read" shelve since I will have to refer to it occasionally. I wish that there was section that said "If your child says/does this....., Here is what you can say/do in response....and here are the results you can expect" Maybe even better, someone could have a section for each type of child personality. Like, "the calm/good child", or "the child who has to test everything for themselves", or "the child who is impulsive", or "the child ...more
Stephanie Broyhill
Sep 25, 2012 Stephanie Broyhill rated it it was amazing
This is an incredibe book. I wish I had read it sooner. Cline explains the necessity of consistency. He discusses the danger of rescuing teens and how doing so threatens their maturity. The book discuses a variey of parenting styles with the pros and cons of each. Part 3, called Parenting Pearls was my favorite part. Practical solutions are offered for issues such as back talk, driving, curfews, dating, parties, internet, grades, money, music, and jobs, just to name a few.

I recommend this book t
Nov 10, 2015 Barb rated it really liked it
I like how logical and loving their solutions are (laughter), but after reading through this book, I realized that my kids are angels compared to what they could be. I was looking for help on how to motivate my son to get better grades at school. After seeing some of the other troubling issues that teens and parents are dealing with, this book made me appreciate that my kid isn't really as bad off as I was fearing. He only spent about 4 pages covering the topic of grades, and he did have some su ...more
Feb 16, 2015 Erin rated it liked it
Some good ideas and advice. A tad outdated on references, especially because electronics are such a huge part of my battle with my teens. Worth reading, but not the miracle balm to ease my parent-to-teenagers soul.
Mar 16, 2011 Wendy rated it it was amazing
I will have my first teenager in a few months. Before reading this book I felt a little apprehensive about parenting a teen. After reading this book I feel excited and empowered. this book had a lot of common sense suggestions. It made me feel like I am already a good parent and have a lot to look forward to. For me it was the right book at the right time. I do not think it will solve all my problems but I feel much better equipped to face the challenges that await.
Bonnie Palmer
Apr 04, 2016 Bonnie Palmer rated it really liked it
This book is chock full of really practical advice on raising teens, especially if you are the drill sergeant type, barking orders and getting frustrated at the steely response or a helicopter type, always rescuing and making sure your teen doesn't embarrass you. I've been both and neither works. We raised four boys using the above methods and failed miserably. Now we're raising a granddaughter, who is presently thirteen, and we have a chance at getting it right! We've been using Love and Logic ...more
Mar 16, 2011 Mrs.b rated it liked it
I have heard a lot about this book through the teaching version "Teaching with Love and Logic"...after struggling with some parenting issues, this book really helped me be less angry and involved in the mistakes that my kiddos are working through right now...I have the "teaching" version checked out from the library currently...
Dawn Wynn
May 07, 2013 Dawn Wynn rated it it was amazing
As the mother of four children, I highly recommend this book. Although I'm an avid reader, I unfortunately did not find this book until my third child was 17. It has been a life changer for our family. Whenever I am talking "kids" with people, I reference this book.
Oct 06, 2013 Mica rated it it was amazing
Great principles. Common sense advice and good examples for how to work with teens/youth. I need to read the one for kids, but the same principles apply I'm sure, it's just giving them different freedoms and choices. Love this theory.
Jun 12, 2008 Anne rated it it was amazing
This has greatly helped me in dealing with my teenager. A no-nonsense approach to putting up with the arguments, attitude, and negative behavior in a positive way. This sits on my night-stand for quick reference on a daily basis!
Feb 10, 2010 Dawna rated it it was amazing
OK I know I don't have any teens. I was reading it for my sister who DOES have teens, and I loved the concept so much that my husband is at the library RIGHT NOW picking up the Love and Logic book for younger kids. Can't wait to read it.
Heidi Early
Jan 27, 2015 Heidi Early rated it really liked it
One of the challenges of having students grow into teens is struggling to find the balance between supporting them and smothering them. Cline's book places emphasis on offering teens opportunities to grow through choices and natural consequences rather than directing them to do things or punishing them. The book categorized several main parenting styles, illustrated the basis for Love and Logic and described how the approach would be used in various scenarios. I would like to try using more of t ...more
Nov 11, 2007 Paul rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: parents
This books takes a load off the helicopter parent who thinks he should swoop down anytime anything happens to their child. An excellent book for new parents or parents of those little ones who are entering their teen years.
Andy Stoker
Feb 11, 2010 Andy Stoker rated it did not like it
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Mar 19, 2008 Dan rated it it was amazing  ·  review of another edition
However this is not an audio it's a text book, As with the other Love and Logic books, I wish I had found these writers sooner, but excellent!!!
Apr 30, 2016 Marcelle rated it liked it
This book was recommended by Julie Metzger, the woman who does the great sex ed classes at Children's Hospital. It was a little outdated, and I was initially surprised (and wary) when it became apparent that the authors have an active Christian/religious outlook, but there is some very good, timeless advice on parenting teens (particularly in first half). The specific scenarios in the second half were a bit much....a lot of dialogue seemed unrealistic and many of the scenarios seemed far removed ...more
Kristine Brown
Mar 26, 2008 Kristine Brown rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This book will save your sanity and maybe your teenagers life! LOVED IT!
Aug 20, 2009 Connie rated it it was amazing
Profoundly practical when you have a teen at home.
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