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Parenting Teens with Love and Logic: Preparing Adolescents for Resposible Adulthood

4.09 of 5 stars 4.09  ·  rating details  ·  691 ratings  ·  129 reviews
Parents need help to teach their teens how to make decisions responsibly--and do so without going crazy or damaging the relationship.Parenting Teens with Love and Logic, from the duo who wrote Parenting with Love and Logic, empowers parents with the skills necessary to set limits, teach important skills, and encourage decision-making in their teenagers.Covering a wide rang ...more
Hardcover, 316 pages
Published May 13th 2006 by Pinon Press (first published January 1st 1992)
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Sandy  Kemp
Short on love. At various points it advocates throwing out teens because helping them might cost a lot of money, and telling your daughter you'd be bummed if she was raped and cut up because she got involved with a weirdo in a chat room. Craziness!

I also don't care for their religious views. I wish books that use a Christian or bible based philosophy would state that on the cover. The bible is not a good basis for parenting, in my opinion. So, that makes this a bit short on logic too.

I think the
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Kirsten
I am of two minds about this book and the approach. On one hand many of the principles are sound and have given me a calm framework for working through common issues with my teens. It is also a reminder that adolescence is a time to start granting your child greater autonomy. I do feel that the degree to which a parent can do that depends a lot on the child - and when the child betrays certain trusts sometimes they have to have some freedoms temporarily reduced. The options presented in the book ...more
Peggy
I had heard a lot about the Love and Logic method, but had never read any of the books. Since my two are teens, I decided to give this a try. While I did find myself agreeing with a lot of what the authors had to say about teens learning to make their own decisions (with guidance of parents, but in a way as not to be a dictator or helicopter parent) I found the examples of sample dialogue absolutely laughable. I can't see any teen talking to their parents that way. From my experience most teens ...more
Cindy Weatherford
I'm suprised that this book got so many 4-5 star ratings. I completely disagreed with many of the principles this book teaches. What I got from this book is this: let your teenagers make their own decisions and live with the consequences, that will teach them responsibility. Hello! Isn't that what adulthood is? I quit reading when I got to this part: Three Messages for Teenagers 1. I love you. 2. If you have any questions, ask. 3. Good luck in life. Good luck? I don't think so. Teenagers should ...more
Trelesa
Good points: (which parents will hopefully already know)
1. Be consistent
2. Hold your teens responsible
3. Let natural consequences happen so your teen can learn from their mistakes

Things I also agree with:
1. Allowances are not related to doing chores
2. Negotiate curfews by occasion
3. Grounding is not really effective, especially if done repetitively

Reasons I won't recommend this book:
p. 64 - authors misrepresent and then slam the well-proven theory of positive reinforcement (which is not handing
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Keilani Ludlow
I loved this book. I started implementing a lot of the "mannerisms" for lack of a better word right away and I saw a difference right away. I wasn't having lots of problems with my kids anyway, but hey, forewarned is forearmed, and good-enough really isn't good-enough, I want great! I am buying the book and will review it often. The first half goes through how to implement teaching kids through love and logic, what to do and how to do it and why to do it that way, with lots of actual case-study ...more
Jen
Not really helpful. I read the basic love and logic book so long ago I guess I needed a refresher before I started this one. They don't explain their technique enough. Most of their examples are so extreme that I'm not sure they really apply to more garden-variety teen problems. Though I guess they are designed to make you feel better about your kid? I liked their theory that parents need to turn into more of "consultants" as children age, asking questions and trying to make your children take t ...more
Karen
Good advice. I will have to keep this book eternally on my "to read" shelve since I will have to refer to it occasionally. I wish that there was section that said "If your child says/does this....., Here is what you can say/do in response....and here are the results you can expect" Maybe even better, someone could have a section for each type of child personality. Like, "the calm/good child", or "the child who has to test everything for themselves", or "the child who is impulsive", or "the child ...more
Stephanie Broyhill
This is an incredibe book. I wish I had read it sooner. Cline explains the necessity of consistency. He discusses the danger of rescuing teens and how doing so threatens their maturity. The book discuses a variey of parenting styles with the pros and cons of each. Part 3, called Parenting Pearls was my favorite part. Practical solutions are offered for issues such as back talk, driving, curfews, dating, parties, internet, grades, money, music, and jobs, just to name a few.

I recommend this book t
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Wendy
I will have my first teenager in a few months. Before reading this book I felt a little apprehensive about parenting a teen. After reading this book I feel excited and empowered. this book had a lot of common sense suggestions. It made me feel like I am already a good parent and have a lot to look forward to. For me it was the right book at the right time. I do not think it will solve all my problems but I feel much better equipped to face the challenges that await.
Valerie
I have six children and half of them are teenagers. The older half. Which means adolescence is fairly new territory and that they are all my guinea pigs. More than anything, I want my parenting to be a positive experience for all of us (translation: as few scars as possible!). This book is exactly what I needed!

This book gave me tools to help settle conflict and conversational guides of gentle words to turn away wrath. High praise indeed!!

Even just summing it up for my husband has aided his pare
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Mrs.b
I have heard a lot about this book through the teaching version "Teaching with Love and Logic"...after struggling with some parenting issues, this book really helped me be less angry and involved in the mistakes that my kiddos are working through right now...I have the "teaching" version checked out from the library currently...
Dawn Wynn
As the mother of four children, I highly recommend this book. Although I'm an avid reader, I unfortunately did not find this book until my third child was 17. It has been a life changer for our family. Whenever I am talking "kids" with people, I reference this book.
Mica
Great principles. Common sense advice and good examples for how to work with teens/youth. I need to read the one for kids, but the same principles apply I'm sure, it's just giving them different freedoms and choices. Love this theory.
Anne
This has greatly helped me in dealing with my teenager. A no-nonsense approach to putting up with the arguments, attitude, and negative behavior in a positive way. This sits on my night-stand for quick reference on a daily basis!
Dawna
OK I know I don't have any teens. I was reading it for my sister who DOES have teens, and I loved the concept so much that my husband is at the library RIGHT NOW picking up the Love and Logic book for younger kids. Can't wait to read it.
Paul
Nov 11, 2007 Paul rated it 4 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: parents
This books takes a load off the helicopter parent who thinks he should swoop down anytime anything happens to their child. An excellent book for new parents or parents of those little ones who are entering their teen years.
Rachel
I've been wanting to read their book for children but am on a very long wait list at the library, so in the mean time I thought I'd check out the teen version. Um. There were a handful of practical tips that I could see myself implementing in my parenting and the overall concept (respect for teens and allowing them to own their mistakes, their consequences and their choices) was great but a lot of the rest of the book left a bad taste in my mouth. The example conversations were especially ridicu ...more
Andy Stoker
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Dan
However this is not an audio it's a text book, As with the other Love and Logic books, I wish I had found these writers sooner, but excellent!!!
Kristine Curtis
This book will save your sanity and maybe your teenagers life! LOVED IT!
Connie
Profoundly practical when you have a teen at home.
Lori
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Shawna Drewer
This was an excellent book. like the title indicates, use logic. The concepts and ideas in here make complete sense. What is comforting to know is that many of these ideas and concepts are easier than they seem to use, and i have already been doing with my son, and it makes a difference. I have many more questions and it is good to know there are still more Love and Logic resources to continue helping. One of the concerns is there is not a lot of information in this book that reflects seperated ...more
D
This is one of the better parenting books I have read. There is a lot to be said for the Love and Logic approach to parenting because it forces teens to take responsibility for their own actions and therefore, hopefully, learn from their mistakes and become responsible and accountable adults. The only problem I have with this approach is that sometimes, in serious situations involving things like drugs, alcohol and sex, there are some real, potentially life-threatening dangers that parents need ...more
Connie Mayo
The general premise here is good and worthwhile - that it pays for parents to be thoughtful and creative in setting things up so that teens end up feeling the consequences of their actions. Example: teen wrecks car, teen does not have use of car until teen figures out a way to pay to have damage repaired. But soooo much easier said than done in situations beyond the obvious. The book does give many examples, some more believable than others. The reality I see is that every parent of teens has to ...more
Lisa
This book was great in most parts. I found myself wanting to highlight lots of key phrases and great things to say or how to say certain things. I loved that the author was obviously a Christian and didn't hide that fact in the book. When he spoke of teen sex or sex before marriage, his view was to wait until after marriage. Something that is not so common now days.

There were also parts I did not agree with, but not many. I was also a little frustrated by how the book ended. There were parts 1
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Nicole
Having a teenager is even more confusing and frustrating than I anticipated, and this kind of book is reassuring by default because it reminds me that it's not just MY teenager driving ME nuts--most teenagers do this to their parents. This knowledge alone helps me breathe a little easier through the most ridiculous things that come out of the spawn's mouth.

Above and beyond the default reassurances of not being alone, there are some solid techniques in here aimed at putting teenagers in the posit
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Sara
While one book can't "fit all," especially in the area of parenting teens, I would say this book is worth the time and effort to read! Overall, the approach is sensible and down-to-earth. These authors nail some of the major issues that I would think crop up in most households with teens, such as driving privileges, backtalk, an entitlement attitude, music issues, etc. PTWL&L is due for an update, however, as current media/technology issues are not addressed--but maybe that should be covered ...more
Jenni
Like the first one on parenting kids this just reiterates some of the same stuff but also add a few things like how to handle teenagers with the more logical approach which seems right because they want to see the logic behind the parenting or they just think you are "forcing them" or making up crap to make their lives miserable. That's how it is around here anyway. Some of the situations totally seem like crap but others like the part about hairstyles and clothing and also about them doing thin ...more
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