Love means giving your teen opportunities to be responsible and empoweering them to make their own decisions. Logic means allowing them to live wit...
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May 12, 2011
Trelesa
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Good points: (which parents will hopefully already know)
1. Be consistent
2. Hold your teens responsible
3. Let natural consequences happen so your teen can learn from their mistakes
Things I also agree with:
1. Allowances are not related to doing chores
2. Negotiate curfews by occasion
3. Grounding is not really effective, especially if done repetitively
Reasons I won't recommend this book:
p. 64 - authors misrepresent and then slam the well-p More...
1. Be consistent
2. Hold your teens responsible
3. Let natural consequences happen so your teen can learn from their mistakes
Things I also agree with:
1. Allowances are not related to doing chores
2. Negotiate curfews by occasion
3. Grounding is not really effective, especially if done repetitively
Reasons I won't recommend this book:
p. 64 - authors misrepresent and then slam the well-p More...
May 25, 2009
Cindy
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I'm suprised that this book got so many 4-5 star ratings. I completely disagreed with many of the principles this book teaches. What I got from this book is this: let your teenagers make their own decisions and live with the consequences, that will teach them responsibility. Hello! Isn't that what adulthood is? I quit reading when I got to this part: Three Messages for Teenagers 1. I love you. 2. If you have any questions, ask. 3. Good luck in life. Good luck? I don't think so. Teenage
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Sep 19, 2011
Kirsten
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I am of two minds about this book and the approach. On one hand many of the principles are sound and have given me a calm framework for working through common issues with my teens. It is also a reminder that adolescence is a time to start granting your child greater autonomy. I do feel that the degree to which a parent can do that depends a lot on the child - and when the child betrays certain trusts sometimes they have to have some freedoms temporarily reduced. The options presented in the boo
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Dec 27, 2010
Keilani
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I loved this book. I started implementing a lot of the "mannerisms" for lack of a better word right away and I saw a difference right away. I wasn't having lots of problems with my kids anyway, but hey, forewarned is forearmed, and good-enough really isn't good-enough, I want great! I am buying the book and will review it often. The first half goes through how to implement teaching kids through love and logic, what to do and how to do it and why to do it that way, with lots of act
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Jun 14, 2010
Jenni
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Like the first one on parenting kids this just reiterates some of the same stuff but also add a few things like how to handle teenagers with the more logical approach which seems right because they want to see the logic behind the parenting or they just think you are "forcing them" or making up crap to make their lives miserable. That's how it is around here anyway. Some of the situations totally seem like crap but others like the part about hairstyles and clothing and also about the
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Sep 09, 2010
Mary
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I almost want to give this five stars. What makes it so great for me is that it's REAL LIFE, brought down to manageable terms for young people. I have implemented this philosophy in my parenting and have seen great results - not only that the kids start behaving in the way I want them to, but that they start THINKING in the way a more mature brain does. They see natural consequences, take on more responsibility, and feel empowered and grown-up in appropriate increments.
Apr 21, 2010
Logo
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Interestingly enough, getting pissy and crazed with your kids...not helpful.
Are you shocked and surprised?
This book was a good review of some parenting goals and a timely reminder of effective methods to achieve them. The book also gave me some new tips on how to make sure I am letting natural consequences be the bad guy, rather than taking that role.
I didn't love everything they had to say but I felt it was useful information and a worthwhile read.
Are you shocked and surprised?
This book was a good review of some parenting goals and a timely reminder of effective methods to achieve them. The book also gave me some new tips on how to make sure I am letting natural consequences be the bad guy, rather than taking that role.
I didn't love everything they had to say but I felt it was useful information and a worthwhile read.
Jun 10, 2011
Mark
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I don't know what I think about Love and Logic. Maybe I'll read one of their other books. I appreciated the authors' focus on actions over words. My favorite chapter was the one where the parent asks her kids to get out of the car when they're being disrespectful. When they don't, she calls a friend to bring her home. The message is that to get respect, the first rule is to take care of yourself. I wonder how that would work in the classroom.
Mar 16, 2011
Wendy
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I will have my first teenager in a few months. Before reading this book I felt a little apprehensive about parenting a teen. After reading this book I feel excited and empowered. this book had a lot of common sense suggestions. It made me feel like I am already a good parent and have a lot to look forward to. For me it was the right book at the right time. I do not think it will solve all my problems but I feel much better equipped to face the challenges that await.
Mar 16, 2011
Mrs.b
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I have heard a lot about this book through the teaching version "Teaching with Love and Logic"...after struggling with some parenting issues, this book really helped me be less angry and involved in the mistakes that my kiddos are working through right now...I have the "teaching" version checked out from the library currently...
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Jul 20, 2010
JoyfulK
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The Love & Logic principles do work well. This book just isn't the best introduction to them. This one doesn't explain the principles very clearly, and even in the second edition, the examples are dated. Try one of the other books:
* Parenting with Love and Logic
* Love and Logic Magic for Early Childhood
* Parenting with Love and Logic
* Love and Logic Magic for Early Childhood
Nov 20, 2011
Sally
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It is a funny thing to read these old parenting books....such as when they tell you how to deal with phone problems, as in when your teen ties up the house phone! Our library did not have the newer edition of this book; perhaps it would be more current. Anyway, there were some helpful ideas here.
Jan 18, 2011
Shelley
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This is pretty great. In fact I'm only less than 1/2 way through and I am using the techniques and seeing results already. I love how many real life situations are included, and scripts of what to say and how to say it. I read 1/2 of the first L&L book too, I just forgot how great it was!
Feb 22, 2009
a great tool in the parenting toolbox....and no it's not a hammer! It helps calm me when I don't comprehend my teenager. They have one for younger kids too..Parenting With Love and Logic. Good verbiage suggestions for having conversations about school, chores, grades, etc...
Sep 18, 2010
Regina
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This book answered the "how to" questions that Culture of Honor left me with. Great practical help in communicating with and building a strong relationship with your teenagers--whether they are outstanding young people or troubled.
Found the book at my local library.
Found the book at my local library.
Jun 21, 2010
Mica
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Great principles. Common sense advice and good examples for how to work with teens/youth. I need to read the one for kids, but the same principles apply I'm sure, it's just giving them different freedoms and choices. Love this theory.
Feb 10, 2010
Dawna
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OK I know I don't have any teens. I was reading it for my sister who DOES have teens, and I loved the concept so much that my husband is at the library RIGHT NOW picking up the Love and Logic book for younger kids. Can't wait to read it.
Aug 18, 2010
Karen
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excellent book on parenting teens and helping them with natural consequnces. It is easy to read and follow and makes so much sense. I read it when my teen was 17 wish I would have read it earlier would have helped .
Apr 02, 2009
Lisa
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I so wish I had read this series when my children were younger. Never too late to start! I became aware of some parenting styles/mistakes I want to avoid. Really helps avoid power struggles!
Jan 30, 2012
Karen
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Good advice. I will have to keep this book eternally on my "to read" shelve since I will have to refer to it occasionally. I wish that there was section that said "If your child says/does this....., Here is what you can say/do in response....and here are the results you can expect" Maybe even better, someone could have a section for each type of child personality. Like, "the calm/good child", or "the child who has to test everything for themselves", o
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Feb 11, 2010
Andy
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Mar 02, 2010
Paul
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If you have teenagers or about to become a parent of a teenager or you teach teenagers, this book is going to help your relationship with yourself and the teenager over there.
Sep 14, 2011
Amy
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I really enjoyed reading the ideas presented in this book. It's given me a new way to view parenting. I recommend it to any parent!
Apr 28, 2009
Patricia
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If you have a teen you need this and really should read all the ones leading up if have time as they are great also.
Mar 12, 2009
Anne
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A few of the chapters in this book have been VERY helpful for me. It is worth checking out at the library.
Jun 06, 2011
Kari
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Lots of good information and good ideas. I do have almost 5 teens right now (one is 12 1/2).
Nov 01, 2008
Holly
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I'm already a big fan of the Parenting With Love and Logic series and so glad they came out with one for teens. Foster Cline and Jim Fay are just brilliant with their approach to parenting. Biggest principle is creating a parenting/home environment that is as close to the real world as possible. If you do that, kids learn lessons while the consequences are less drastic (i.e. learning to take care of their possessions and failing means they break a toy. Waiting to teach them this until their o
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Aug 22, 2011
Emily
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One of the few books of this type that I have read in its entirety. Very practical.
May 29, 2009
i'm trying....really...i'm trying..to embrace this whole love teenager kinda thing..
