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Love and Logic Magic for Early Childhood: Practical Parenting from Birth to Six Years
by
Jim Fay,
Charles Fay
Parenting little ones can be exhausting.until you discover Love and Logic. Take the exhaustion out and put the fun into parenting your little one. If you want help with: . Potty training. Temper tantrums. Bedtime. Whining . Time-out. Hassle-free mornings. and many other everyday challengesThen this book is for you This book is the tool parents of little ones have been wait...more
Paperback, 175 pages
Published
December 1st 2002
by Love & Logic Press
(first published 2000)
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Wow.... Okay, so there are a couple (I mean literally two) of key points that work for my parenting style. However, there are some big red flags that come up for me personally. I know this is a popular method with many people so will keep my opinions close this time. Happy to talk individually w/ anyone about it though.
**Sorry, had to add a note after reading the reviews and some
great information on Psychology Today's website / magazine. I feel that I took a bit of a cowardly exit by...more
**Sorry, had to add a note after reading the reviews and some
great information on Psychology Today's website / magazine. I feel that I took a bit of a cowardly exit by...more
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This book has a lot of great ideas. I think the technique is pretty good, and they write it in an easy-to-use way. However, it was so obnoxious to read that I could barely stomach the first half of the book. After that I got over the annoyance and just gleaned the good techniques. The Fays seem to be high on their own theory. They even make comments such as "Is it possible that there would be no such thing as the United States of America if King George had known about Love and Logic?"...more
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my dad (marriage and family counselor)
That's right! Another book that receives a rare 5-star rating from Meg! If you have children, or if you work with children, or if you've heard of children before, do yourself a favor and read this book NOW. All the Love & Logic books are amazing, but this one is packed with concrete examples and conversations with young kids... instead of just a bunch of theoretical mumbo-jumbo. I'm terrified to think how much worse a parent I would be if I hadn't read it.
What I liked about this book:
- its clear outline and need for enforcable statements and rules, and the need to set limits and boundaries for your child
- its emphasis on staying calm, being positive and loving, even in a difficult situation
- its emphasis on teaching consequences and helping your kids learn to think
- suggesting to give lots of choices and sharing power/control where you can
What I didn't like:
- pretty much everything else. I particularly ha...more
- its clear outline and need for enforcable statements and rules, and the need to set limits and boundaries for your child
- its emphasis on staying calm, being positive and loving, even in a difficult situation
- its emphasis on teaching consequences and helping your kids learn to think
- suggesting to give lots of choices and sharing power/control where you can
What I didn't like:
- pretty much everything else. I particularly ha...more
[update after thinking about this a long time and worrying that I gave the wrong impression to everyone who got this email update originally]
So I have a really hard time assigning a rating to this book. The philosophy itself should get a five, because I think it is a fabulous philosophy. But the explaining of the philosophy should get a one or two, because this is hands down the most disorganized book I've ever read.
I repeat, though: the philosophy should get a five, and I'...more
So I have a really hard time assigning a rating to this book. The philosophy itself should get a five, because I think it is a fabulous philosophy. But the explaining of the philosophy should get a one or two, because this is hands down the most disorganized book I've ever read.
I repeat, though: the philosophy should get a five, and I'...more
Love and Logic books have some great detailed information on raising kids, especially teens, that I will definitely get into again when more details are needed. For the busy, frazzled mom, THIS was an easy, quick read and immediately applicable, helping me feel a little more equipped to patiently and lovingly guide my very young children through their choices. I felt like it could be called, "helping your children help themselves, for dummies (or the dummy mommy)" and not in a demeanin...more
The central idea of this parenting book (and the Love and Logic system) is a good one: instead of solving all their problems, let your children learn from natural consequences, helping them develop logic on their own. For example, if Bear throws food at dinner, dinner should be over, and I should let him go hungry for a little while. Good plan. I just don't think it necessarily works for every single scenario, especially through toddlerhood. I don't think he's ready for adult-like logic, especia...more
aside from the overly and ridiculously (at least to me with MY kids) unrealistic examples of love and logic at work with young kids, i actually thought the basic principles of love and logic make a lot of sense. i especially liked the idea that actions speak louder than words -- you don't need to give a million warnings, just one and then act on the consequence. i also appreciated the concept that you don't need to act in anger or frustration, but just put the kid in their room for as long as ...more
I loved this book. It's message is short and sweet and the writing style is so easy to understand. I love how the authors include lots of real-life examples and stories to highlight the principles they teach. The four basic principles are (1) build the child's self-concept (by allowing them to struggle and solve their own problems and through learning and thinking), (2) let the consequence do the teaching (don't lecture--use fewer words and more simple, yet meaningful, actions), (3) provide a st...more
I agree with many other reviews. The style is obvious and patronizing. However, this is a short book with the examples repeated like in a school setting. "Hear one, see one (read the example), do one (act on it at home)".
I don't like the energy drain though. I feel like kids shouldn't have to opportunity to "act up" and then "buy" their way out of it with chores.
Some chores are part of being in our family. Everyone has a part of each, parents do t...more
I don't like the energy drain though. I feel like kids shouldn't have to opportunity to "act up" and then "buy" their way out of it with chores.
Some chores are part of being in our family. Everyone has a part of each, parents do t...more
I liked this book, but I think that the subtitle is totally off: "Practical Parenting from Birth to Six Years." More like from 3 to the teenage years. While there are a few things the authors address that are applicable to infants and anyone under the age of three, most of it is not.
Other problems I have with this book:
-It definitely reads like a cheesey self-help book. Complete with catch phrases, one-liners, and mantras. These kinds of things annoy me.
-There ...more
Other problems I have with this book:
-It definitely reads like a cheesey self-help book. Complete with catch phrases, one-liners, and mantras. These kinds of things annoy me.
-There ...more
This is a really great parenting book for those with young children. Applying a simple principle in this book has enabled me to see a big change in just a couple of days in my 1 1/2 year old son's behavior. The Uh-Oh song is an amazing conditioning tool... when I look at my baby who is touching or doing something he shouldn't, I look at him and say Uh-Oh and start the song... he quickly moves away from what is forbidden and finds something else to do.
This is a relief since he is ...more
This is a relief since he is ...more
I like the theories. I don't like the writing style. It felt very patronizing and manipulative at times-- especially with the examples they gave. (John and I would read some out loud and just laugh at how obvious they were.) It felt like the authors were writing to us parents as if we're complete idiots! True, I didn't get a doctorate in child psychology, but they don't have to completely dummy everything down! Oh well.
An elementary school I worked at had bi-monthly trainings on ...more
An elementary school I worked at had bi-monthly trainings on ...more
As with most "self help" books, there were things I agreed with, and things I didn't agree with. And I think I'm done with parenting books for a while... I'm starting to worry that I'm really going to mess up my kids... furthermore... screaming and yelling at my kids is just so much easier!!
Actually, this book did help me with the eating thing... it suggested sending the child to their room if they wouldn't eat... and that has proved to be much easier than nagging them for an hou...more
Actually, this book did help me with the eating thing... it suggested sending the child to their room if they wouldn't eat... and that has proved to be much easier than nagging them for an hou...more
yes it works with certin things... but not too good in getting them to bed. Where lies my biggest problem. It seems lately my almost 3 year old doesn't want to go to bed unless I lay with him for over an hour. sorry but this is my time with my husband and I dont want to lay with him... Does that make me a bad mom? Then there is my hubby who is fine with him in bed with us. Meanwhile Iam a need to sleep girl and it is hard when I have my sons foot in my back and his head on my head pushing me off...more
I got this book from one of my baby showers (Thanks Egnews!) and I've read just about half of it and probably won't pick it up again for a few months until it starts getting more relevant. But what I'm really curious to know is if there are any parents out there who have used this theory/attitude with success? I have some doubts about some of their problem-solving solutions. They say that you should always give your kid a choice about things. "Would you like a banana, or would you like an a...more
I quickly skimmed over this book and found a few helpful tips. I know several friends who use the Love and Logic system in their home. I've always heard positive things. I'm trying to give my children more options throughout the day so they have more choices. I feel like such a dictator most of the time. This has helped them feel more in control and then they seem to recognize when it's my choice, they need to agree to it since I've agreed to their choices throughout the day. I also feel like I ...more
I read this because my cousin is an amazing mother to five kids. And when I say amazing, I really mean it. Patient, loving, kind, soft-spoken, etc. (Basically, all the things I'm not!) I asked her how she does it, and she said she owes it all to this book.
I read this book to find out her secrets. I may lower or raise my rating after I try the method on my kids. I've used it a little, and so far the results have been VERY challenging. I don't blame the method, though, I blame m...more
I read this book to find out her secrets. I may lower or raise my rating after I try the method on my kids. I've used it a little, and so far the results have been VERY challenging. I don't blame the method, though, I blame m...more
This little book is the clearest introduction I've found to the Love and Logic parenting system, an excellent system that is adaptable to situations including parenting, step-parenting, co-parenting, teaching, and counseling.
The system is based on empathy, natural & logical consequences, and helping kids make age-appropriate decisions on their own---so that they take on increasing levels of responsibility for themselves and move towards healthy interdependence. Although this book us...more
The system is based on empathy, natural & logical consequences, and helping kids make age-appropriate decisions on their own---so that they take on increasing levels of responsibility for themselves and move towards healthy interdependence. Although this book us...more
It was about what I expected. It has some good ideas and lots of stories with a few practical examples. It isn't complicated and doesn't have anything dramatically different than anything else in the Love and Logic series. It truly is a simple concept. I would recommend checking it out from the library rather than buying it.
It is true that there is A LOT of repetition in this book. However, the foundation of this book is solid and has really helped me deal with my 2 1/2 year old in a loving and effective way. I also feel like I am raising a child who not only responds to authority but also is learning to make responsible choices.
A friend of mine recommended I read this while the kids are still young. I was able to implement a lot of really good ideas - even with a two year old. I think that some of the ideas (such as delayed consequences) will work better when they are older, but even the ones I've started using have helped keep the peace in our house. As a matter of fact, I've been using the ideas for a couple of months now, and my husband noticed that my oldest responds to my requests and questions without all the d...more
Very helpful book. Important points: 1) immediate consequences delivered with empathy and a key conditioning phrase such as "uh-oh" or "bummer" or "how sad!" No threats, no warnings. 2) a great generic consequence is an "energy drain." "It really drains Mommy's energy when you lie. I think you need to do some chores to give me back my energy." 3) give them choices as much as possible, but if they don't decide in 10 seconds flat, choose for t...more
It was a quick easy read. There are definitely some strategies that sound good and I would like to try them out, but not having any kids yet, I can't say that the strategies work. But they make sense. We'll see how they hold up in the real world.
It is often times repetitive, which I think is more of a strategy to make the book longer and more substantial rather than help us remember what you're reading. The authors also use lots of extreme examples, like "this child wouldn't be...more
It is often times repetitive, which I think is more of a strategy to make the book longer and more substantial rather than help us remember what you're reading. The authors also use lots of extreme examples, like "this child wouldn't be...more
I am a little bit torn about this book. And so I struggle to decide whether to give it three or four stars. How 'bout 3.5? I was very excited to read this book, thinking somehow that it would be THE answer to my parenting questions and quandries. I think there were some good nuggets, but I also had some problems...
Things I liked:
-- Importance of setting limits. "The best predictor of an out-of-control teenager is a two-year-old who runs the house." Amen!
-- ...more
Things I liked:
-- Importance of setting limits. "The best predictor of an out-of-control teenager is a two-year-old who runs the house." Amen!
-- ...more
Ideas from this book I liked: 1. Let the consequence for your chid's actions be the (primary) teacher (that is, don't lecture, just act). 2. Always discipline with empathy. 3. Don't let your child see your anger or frustration when they misbehave. If you lose control it tells your child they're unmanageable, which makes them feel insecure. 4. Encourage your child to think through problems and find solutions for themselves. 5. Hand over any control you don't absolutely need to your child, so that...more
most of the content of the book I would agree with. However, there are some things that I do differently and like my way of doing it. So, I guess take what you can use out of it and just remember that one technique probably won't work on all kids.
This book is great! It gives such great ideas for parenting and how to discipline young children and it all makes such sense. It teaches you how to deal with the normal misbehavior every parent deals with in a loving and calm way and explains how this is best for parent and child. I love how this book gives lots of examples of the principles they teach so you can have a good idea of how to exercise what it teaches in real life. And for the most part the examples were all relatable and didn't...more
I thought this book had some good theories. However it also advocated some things that I dont think would work for my child. Specifically they suggested letting your child get away from you in a store to see what happens. (actually letting your kid think they got away from you, you should be able to see them.) This has never worked for us, she just keeps on running. I think that natural consequences are really good, I just think that they work better for some kids than others. According to ...more
I like the reminders not to argue with your children. Instead, just calmly and lovingly discipline them. No need to argue. But again, a lot of very unrealistic advice.
Going out to eat in a restaurant is hard with a toddler. Advice in this book is ridiculous. They suggest calling the manager ahead of time and working out a place in the back where you can place your child if they are being disruptive. Are you kidding me?
Also, to help kids remember to pick up their toys, you g...more
Going out to eat in a restaurant is hard with a toddler. Advice in this book is ridiculous. They suggest calling the manager ahead of time and working out a place in the back where you can place your child if they are being disruptive. Are you kidding me?
Also, to help kids remember to pick up their toys, you g...more
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