Thorn in My Pocket: Temple Grandin's Mother Tells the Family Story
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Thorn in My Pocket: Temple Grandin's Mother Tells the Family Story

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"A Thorn in My Pocket "is Eustacia Cutler's story of raising her daughter, Temple Grandin, in the conservative Leave-it-to-Beaver world of the fifties, a time when children with autism were routinely diagnosed as "infant schizophrenics" and banished to institutions. She tells of her fight to keep Temple in the mainstream of family, community, and school life, how Temple re...more
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Published October 1st 2004 by Future Horizons
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Barbara
Eustacia Cutler is the mother of Temple Grandin, probably the most well known autistic adult of our time. I heard both Cutler and Grandin speak at a conference a few years ago and she did an excellent job. The book is not as well put together as the lecture was. Another reviewer at goodreads suggested that she missed an opportunity for better editing by publishing with Future Horizons and I find that an excellent point. The narrative skipped over great portions of her life with Temple and dwelle...more
Readyourselfhealthy
If you're looking for the secret to Temple Grandin's emergence from autism, you are not going to find it here. In fact, much of the book doesn't focus on autism at all--it is clearly the story of Eustacia Cutler, a fascinating woman in her own right, who just happens to be the mother of the even more fascinating Temple Grandin. Her story of autism, however, is one of determination--at a time when most everyone, including her own husband (but eventual ex-husband)--thought that Temple should be in...more
Melissa
I was really looking forward to reading this book. Temple Grandin is such an amazing and inspiring woman, add in the fact that she has autism, and she is simply astounding. I have read many books on the topic of Autism/Aspergers and all stories are different and unique in their own right. As someone on the Autism Spectrum I was really looking forward to reading about what Temple's life was like growing up. However I felt that her mother did not so much tell the story of Grandin, but more of her...more
Amy
Although the reason I bought this book was because of the fact that Eustacia Cuttler and I both have a child with Autism, it ended up helping me in many more parts of my life. I appreciate her honesty into her feelings as she grows and matures. Her hindsight into her life is something that every woman can learn from. It is no wonder to me that Eustacia Cuttler was able to help create such an American Hero as Temple Grandin. I am now a fan of both.
Leslie
As a mother of a young adult recently diagnosed with High Functioning Autism, this book was a must read! Now I know every person is different, and the saying..now you've met one person with autism-you've met just ONE person with autism--is the mantra, but Cutler's painting of family life-trials tribulations and achievements--made me feel better about the whole crazy diagnosis! A must read for any parent of a child on the spectrum
Kate
This is the first time since my son was diagnosed with autism that I've seen someone express what I've always believed, that autism is an exaggeration of the normal. Interesting that this statement came from another mother -- Temple Grandin's mother. This was an interesting read, though not terribly pulled together. Still it did hold my attention.
Brian Walker
"Think of me as your future," I tell them. "I am where you will be many years from now, when you know how it all played out, when 'what will be' has turned into 'what was,' and you will have come to terms with it."

"Perhaps not in the way you thought you would, but you'll no longer feel trapped in a morass of angst and guilt. You will have resolved your child's future and your own. You'll know you've given full measure, and the measure you've given has never been pointless."

"I offer you my story...more
Maureen
Just finished this....on my Autism read-a-thon. A very good book from a parents perspective.
Rochelle
Eustacia Cutler has a way with the profound. She says things that are simple, to the point and that people can carry with them. Parts of this book are so easily identifiable. Yet for much the book she appears to wander off topic. I'm not sure what the point was of the middle section detailing her life as a cabaret singer and actor. To me she came off as an intellectual elitist who enjoyed name dropping names the rest of us could care less about and recounting experiences that may have given her...more
Susan
Jul 20, 2011 Susan rated it 3 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: anyone curious about autism, especially the history of society's understanding of it
Shelves: memoir-biography
Temple Grandin is the now famous autistic woman who created improved livestock handling systems. Since my niece and nephew are both on the autism spectrum, I was curious about Temple's history. The book kind of drags for the first 150 pages or so, but then the last 70 pages are where the more helpful information can be found. Ms. Cutler makes no bones about the fact that she had money and that this made a tremendous difference for Temple. Unfortunately, we don't know quite what was helpful, sinc...more
Vikki
I am rating this book five stars. I loved it, felt priviledged to read it, and am thankful that Eustacia Cutler shared her story.
I have read most of Temple Grandin's books and have recently seen the movie, Temple Grandin. Temple was the first child of Eustacia and Dick Grandin. As a baby,she was born in 1947, it was discovered that she was autistic. The doctors at that time called it infant schizophrenia. Not much was known about autism at that time. The book tells about the steps of this fami...more
Kate
Jul 10, 2012 Kate rated it 4 of 5 stars
Shelves: autism
I had to re-think my original impression about this book. I was so turned off by Ms. Cutler's early chapters (it was hard to relate to someone privledged enough to have a European vacation with her husband and "find" herself as a night-club singer), that I started skimming the book. Whe I read the later chapters more carefully, I come to admire her in spite of myself. The documentaries she made about retarded children ("The Innocents") and later about troubled kids were ground-breaking. Her empa...more
Jeannie Colling
Fascinating story of a young mother trying to raise a child with autism during a time when there was little to no medical understanding or community support--just a mother's instincts, and fortunately enough money in the family to make it work. Eustacia is a rather remarkable woman in her own right. This is a fascinating and helpful book on the subject of autism. Sort of reminded me of my mom, to tell the truth.
Linda
Continuing my quest to learn about Temple Grandin, I read this memoir written by Temple's mother, Eustacia Cutler. Reading about Temple's early years from the perspective of her mother was most interesting. What a trial it was to raise a child like Temple, in the years when autism was thought to be the result of a "refrigerator mother." It is amazing to read how this mother followed her instinct and by chance did the right things for her unusual child. Temple attained a Ph.D, and has become a hi...more
Dave
I had thought the book would be about a mother's story of raising an autistic child, in this case the well known Temple Grandin, but I found the book to be too much about the mother and her career and marital issues and not enough about what raising an autistic child was really like. A huge missed opportunity, in my mind, especially when considering the fact that autism was thought to be "infant schizophrenia" at this time and the recommended "treatment" was to put the child in a mental home. Li...more
Christopher
Eustacia Cutler is the mother of Temple Grandin, the famous expert on animal behavior and autism, and the subject of the HBO film that bears her name. Eustacia is also a wonderful writer and insightful autobiographer and researcher. This is a book worth reading if you seek inspiration to be a parent, an advocate for your children, or a better informed person on the subject of autism spectrum disorders. If you are seeking some additional perspective on Temple Grandin's life and on autism, you wil...more
Kristin
We watched the HBO special on Temple Grandin, an autistic genius who is an expert in cattle handling. This is her mother's memoir. There is no self-pity in this book and in some ways the book is about how she lived her life beyond the challenge of raising a child with autism in the 50s / 60s. Sometimes she is too hard on herself, but the book is an honest portrayal of some of the struggles she went through as a mother and wife. In terms of writing, it meanders a bit and is not great literature,...more
Kathy
I admire Temple Grandin for all her accomplishments. So when I found out that her mother wrote a book about the family story I decided to read it. A very young Eustacia married a much older man who had family money and social standing. He had fits of rage and insisted that Temple was retarded and should be institutionalized. Not much was known or understood about autism in the 50s and 60s, but Temple's mother was able to get some good advice and expensive schooling that helped Temple learn her w...more
Stephanie
An interesting, touching and painful read. Worth your time and emotion spent. Highly informative on many levels. Inspiring and thought provoking.

Highly recommend to anyone who deals with those who are autistic or likewise emotional handicapped. Highly recommend for everyone else as well. See some scientific parallels with how those who are dyslexic and of similar learning styles/handicaps think and see the world.

Some intense scenes, not suitable for those under 12-10 years of age.
Lee
Some people I talked to didn't like Eustacia's attitude but I found it amazing that she fought like she did to assure that her daughter might find success. I think this book could inspire mothers of children with disabilities to pursue all means of finding success for their child. Eustasia was tireless in pushing for Temple to find success. Wish I had read it years ago - maybe I would have done more with my own children who were all without any disabilities.
Helen
I was very interested to see how Temple Grandin's mother had the courage to deal with Temple's autism. But there was very little about the early years and this was something of a disappointment. It did help that the Grandin family had the financial resources to send Temple to good, special schools. I applaud Temple's mother for her courage and fortitude as she had minimal (except financial) support from her husband.
Lola
I'm biased. I recognized so many of my own feelings, fears and apprehensions in this book that it's hard not to recommend it to any parent of an autistic child. I read it in one sitting...it was comforting, encouraging, disheartening...all rolled into one. If you DON'T have an autistic child, read it anyway...the likelihood that you know someone who is going through the same things is quite high these days.
Carol C
I enjoyed hearing the Temple Grandin story from another perspective. Knowing what Temple has said about her mother, I had always admired the way she raised her daughter, feeling she was way ahead of her time. I expected to be able to give this book more stars, but I really only "liked it." To sum it up, it was interesting to me because of my circumstances, had some useful insights, and was just an OK read.
Michelle
After seeing the movie "Temple Grandin," I wanted very much to read this book -- which is the family's story as told by Temple's mother. It was interesting, but not my favorite. I didn't really want to read so much about her mother and her marriage; I wanted to learn more about Temple. While she was remarkable in so many ways, it just wasn't the type of book I was looking for.
Marge
Written by Temple Grandin's mom, I enjoyed and learned from this book. I wish more time had been spent on Temple and less on mom's adventures, but her interest in the arts is really part of who Temple is. So much has been learned about autism since Temples birth in 1947 that moms approach to helping her child is amazing in her choices for education.
Cody
I'm always interested in learning more about all disabilities, and it's always interesting to read about how it effects families and how families learn to deal with them. This book was interesting, but I'm glad I only borrowed it. It also reminded that I've always wanted to read more about Temple Grandin, so I need to go add something to my to-read list =)
Julie
Temple Grandin is a remarkable woman. This book is the story of the remarkable woman behind the remarkable woman. Eustacia Cutler tells about the challenges she faced raising Temple in a world where autistic children were institutionalized and it was commonly though that autism was brought about by failed maternal relationships.



Mie
I read Temple Grandin's book "Thinking in Pictures" a few months ago and was so looking forward to reading this book written by her mother. I thought we would hear from a mother's point of veiw raising an autistic child, but it was sadly enough more about the mother and her maternal life.
Sharyn
Poorly written ( or edited) with multiple misspelling and poor punctuation.

I was expecting a book about Temple's growing up years, not an outlet for her mother's anger and personal life. I can understand why her other children did not want to be included in this anthology.
Kris
Really great book. Reminds me that there is a lot of hard work in raising children. Glad she was not bitter about her first husband. She comes across as very supportive of her children. She could have easily come off as the martyr, but obviously choose a different route.
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