27th out of 27 books — 34 voters
Change Your Questions, Change Your Life: 7 Powerful Tools for Life and Work
"Questioning" is a skill rarely taught in school, but doing it well - that is, asking the right questions of the right people - can radically transform attitudes, actions, and results. Change Your Questions, Change Your Life provides easy-to-learn tools that can make a significant and immediate difference in people's business and personal lives. Written as an engaging fabl...more
Paperback, 150 pages
Published June 9th 2004 by Berrett-Koehler Publishers
(first published May 2004)
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This book reads much like an infomercial where a 'random' audience member comes up on stage to proclaim over-enthusiastically how wonderful this product that they have never seen before now is. The unrealistic like writing style of this book, made it difficult for me to get through. The concepts in this self-help book were introduced through a story about an average man working for an average company. He likes always having the answers and is having some problems getting along with and managing...more
Two is a harsh rating. I'd rate this more along the lines of 2.5. I had to read this for a leadership workshop for work. Much like with the Freud that I recently read for a class, I found that if I didn't pay attention to the details of this book but instead focused on the bigger picture, it made more sense and was much more appealing. Basically, the bottom line is one should change one's questions. Flip one's views around 180 degrees. If you find that you ask yourself, "What's going to go wrong...more
"Questioning" is a skill rarely taught in school, but doing it well - that is, asking the right questions of the right people - can radically transform attitudes, actions, and results. Change Your Questions, Change Your Life provides easy-to-learn tools that can make a significant and immediate difference in people's business and personal lives. Written as an engaging fable, it inspires readers to take charge of their thinking in order to accomplish goals, improve relationships, advance careers,...more
Quick read. Good questions. Helpful info. Helps a great deal with frustrating situations in which we block ourselves from achieving what we want. Whenever I get stuck in a situation where I replay things over and over again in my mind...I'll think of this.
Common sense info. re: being a judger vs. learner. Always have that choice. Not new information but very useful and definitely hitting home related to a complex work setting I find myself in! Thanks to my husband for passing on to me after a related workshop at his job. Fast read with a helpful story of someone who learns this approach to impact both his job and marriage.
Really quick read and I recommend it to anyone and everyone. Basically this book is looking at how we process conflicts and problems. One choice is to be in the moment, wondering where it went wrong and who is to blame, but the other choice focuses on what can be gained from the situation and what the options are for moving forward. Very interesting read and great concept!
Excellent book for making me think about my interactions and thought patterns, and sound advice on how to switch from a "Judging" to a "Learning" mindset. Great suggestions for opening up troublesome relationships and seeing new possibilities. Best of all, my husband and I each listened to the book on CDs and found a model for improving our communications!
I'd like to give this book 5 stars because the principles it teaches are indeed life changing. This book has given me a paradigm shift in the way I approach relationships. The way the author teaches the principles is through a fictional story that isn't written very well and is pretty cheesy. You could skip it and just read the "tools section" at the back.
Concept of Learner and Judger, and how we can accept judger, practice learner using the Choice Map and Switching questions. How we can 'catch' ourselves in time and 'switch' from a judger orientation to a learner orientation. By doing this, the outcome of the situation can be very different (and better!).
The writing could be improved upon, but the premise of the book is profound as Ms. Adams explores how the questions we ask affect every aspect of our lives. Could have been shorter and the telling of the story that frames her ideas could have been better, but her ideas are worth exploring.
Read InGenius: A Crash Couse in Creativity by Tina Seelig, instead. Adams' book is incredibly content-free. Might have been a decent article, albeit a short one.... I got only 30 pages in, but I'm counting it anyway. Believe me, you'd want some payback, too.