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This Lullaby

4.05 of 5 stars 4.05  ·  rating details  ·  122,754 ratings  ·  3,717 reviews
When it comes to relationships, Remy doesn't mess around. After all, she's learned all there is to know from her mother, who's currently working on husband number five. But there's something about Dexter that seems to defy all of Remy's rules. He certainly doesn't seem like Mr. Right. For some reason, however, Remy just can't seem to shake him. Could it be that Remy's star ...more
Paperback, 345 pages
Published March 8th 2004 by Speak (first published May 27th 2002)
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Jan 25, 2010 Tatiana rated it 2 of 5 stars
Recommended to Tatiana by: Heather
"This Lullaby" was my first Dessen book and will probably be the last. It has nothing to do with the writing, but this kind of fairly depressing YA chick lit a la Jennifer Weiner is simply not my cup of tea.

This book is normally described as a super sweet romance, but it never felt like one to me. Rather, it was a story of a girl disillusioned in love who finally allowed herself to open herself up to an honest relationship with a man.

There was really nothing wrong with this story. The characters
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Sarah Dessen's THIS LULLABY is one of the best teen books I've ever read. It's the story of Remy, a girl who has no faith in love. Part of this is because her own father never even saw her, only wrote a now-famous song, called "This Lullaby," about her before he died. It certainly doesn't help that her mother has been married four times, and, at the beginning of the novel, is about to have her fifth wedding. Remy says about her mother's marriages, "
After Just Listen, let’s just say that I wasn’t all that impressed with Sarah Dessen. And to be honest? I just couldn’t see why she was so popular.. so with great reluctance (a month after reading Just Listen in fact,) I went ahead and read This Lullaby. Well, this review is me eating my words: Sarah Dessen deserves all the praise she has gotten/gets.

I loved it! (Yes, this is even despite my having come across what one reviewer calls the “the Sarah Dessen Syndrome,” of a female protagonist who i
I was 18 when I read This Lullaby, and it was the first Sarah Dessen novel that I had read. To this day, it is still my favorite book by Dessen.

The main character Remy is very relatable to many teenage girls, and even to young women who remember being the way Remy is when they were in high school. Remy's family and friends are a very loveable group of characters and their development is flawless.

There are little twists here and there that carry the book toward the end. It does start off a littl
I did *not* like this book. I found the main character to be completely unsympathetic and I could not relate to her or with her to save my life. I understand WHY she was a bitch at time to Dexterbut quite honestly, I didn't really care. I just couldn't really get into it. Especially towards the end, when she flipped out on Dexter over the whole picture incident. I wanted to rip out my hair, throw my book against a wall and throw her over a bridge all at the same time..ok, well maybe the last bit ...more
Rating: 5 STARS

This Lullaby is my favourite Sarah Dessen book along with The Truth About Forever. There is no denying that Sarah Dessen follows a specific formula when writing a novel, a formula that doesn't change too much (if at all) from book to book. But not only does this formula work, she manages to make it work wonderfully. In my opinion, Dessen has a gift, in that she is able to turn simple plots into beautiful and deep stories that work when in the mood for an entertaining, light, fun b
Let me begin yet another Dessen review on a high note: Remy Starr is officially my favorite Dessen girl, hands down. She actually actively took part in what happened around her, making her mistakes big and bold and beautiful. Her cynical rants immediately captured my heart and her wit and vulnerability sealed the deal. I just got her.
I also fell in love with Dexter from the moment he appeared on the page. His charm and all around adorable-ness made me want to reach into the story and pull him ou
Apr 23, 2013 Maggie rated it 3 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommended to Maggie by: Anna
Shelves: 2013
It feels almost sacrilegious to run a Young Adult blog without having read Sarah Dessen. She's one of the biggest names in YA with a massive, devoted following. I wasn't sure where to start but when Anna suggested This Lullaby and threw in Veronica Mars as a selling point, I couldn't resist.

This book definitely surprised me. I expected Dessen to be light and fluffy. However, instead of The Sisterhood of Traveling Pants, I got The Sisterhood of the Traveling Diet Zip and Cigarettes. I know it's c
This lullaby is only a few words
A simple run of chords
Quiet here in this spare room
But you can hear it, hear it
Wherever you may go
I will let you down
But this lullaby plays

Remy doesn’t believe in love. Her mother’s fifth marriage only encourages her to stop believing in the nonsense. To her, love means having fun with guys, making sure that they know the relationship won’t last long, and leaving before things get complicated. No worries. No entanglements. The no-strings-attached rule has worked
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Note: Just this once, I'm trying a different way of reviewing. This may get a bit personal, but I hope you'll ride it out with me -- I just really need to try this out. :) A short, yet proper review will be at the end of the post.

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Dear Future Tina,

I'm not sure when you'll read this again, or if you'll even be able to ever read this again in a few years or decades from now. I don't know if this blog will still exist, or if this entry will exist because you can al
♥ Becky  22
“You know, when it works, love is pretty amazing. It's not overrated. There's a reason for all those songs.”

I love Sarah Dessen, and out of all of her books that I've read ("The Truth About Forever", "Along for the Ride", "Just Listen" and "The Lullaby"), this one is my absolute favorite. <3

"This Lullaby" is so funny and sweet. I love Dexter. (He's in a band, you guys. And they write songs about potatoes.)
There were so many scenes that made me laugh o
Probably my favorite Dessen novel. Remy is cynical about love, but she's looking forward to heading off to Stanford with no boyfriend attached. There's just one problem: Remy's latest guy, Dexter, isn't buying into her plan. Not only is he a violation of her "no musicians" rule, he's also intent on sticking around.

I like teen novels that don't focus on a central romance at the expense of everything else. Remy has friends and family, and they're as much a part of the story as Dexter is.

In many w
really good book...recommend it...and others by sarah dessen
Remy is a girl who thinks that she has this whole love thing figured out, whenever she feels that the relationship might take a step up, she dumps the guy. All that changes when she meets Dexter, a guy who says that the first time he saw her, he knew they were meant to be together. To top it all off, Dexter is a musician, an occupation Remy does not like because her father was one and only left her with one legacy, a one hit wonder called, "this lullaby".

This book had a decent amount of faults.
Anne Osterlund
Remy doesn’t believe in love. Not forever love. It doesn’t exist.

She should know. Her mother’s been married and divorced four times. And Remy’s own ditched-boyfriend record is long and full of insignificant relationships.

Until Dexter sits down at her side--or, more accurately, crashes into her--at the car dealership. And insists they were meant to be together.

Which Remy knows is wrong. Because if she were meant to be with someone, he certainly wouldn’t drip food in her car. Or write songs about
Krista (One Love) (Critical)
I don't know, I just didn't like this book. I mean, it was pretty well written I guess, just not my thing. I could NOT relate to Remy in the slightest. She was extremely unlikable, and a compelte bitch, and, for the record, admitting you're a bitch doesn't redeem you. The way she went from guy to guy, dumping them on a schedule, treating them as numbers on a chart and not as human beings...was frankly disgusting. She supposedly has an excuse, because her mom remarried four times. Big deal. You'd ...more
Remy Starr doesn't understand love. To her, a relationship is basically one huge analytical equation. The process she uses is finding a cute guy, hooking up, spending some time together, and breaking up before things get too serious. Although this makes Remy sound like a class A "vixen", it's hard to blame her callous treatment of others hearts when her own dad died when she was barely a child, and her mother has recently announced her fifth wedding. She is looking forward to getting away from i ...more
For Remy, planning her mother's fifth wedding is not a surprise. A cynic when it comes to love, Remy's life has been a flash of watching her mother cycle through different boyfriends, different husbands, and different attempts at happily-ever-after. Remy's own father, a musician, never even met her before he passed away, leaving behind a song, "This Lullaby", as his only legacy and gift to his daughter. Needless to say, Remy's life has been meticulously planned, not around love, but around preve ...more
Zemira Warner
This is my third Dessen book and it's the most relatable, so far.

It's a story about Remy, a girl who doesn't believe in love because she witnessed her mother getting divorced way too many times. Mum is planing to marry for the fifth time and Remy's had enough but she's still going to keep her mouth shut cause she's leaving for college in the fall. Dexter literally collides with Remy and he is ready to fight for her even though they just met. Soon they start casually dating but Remy knows there
Apr 27, 2008 Waffle...♥ rated it 4 of 5 stars
Recommended to Waffle...♥ by: Muahh... :3
Amazing moral... but lousy ending! Like always, it was amazingly written, but this time the storyline was horrid and the ending was boring but okay.

Remy Starr, the main character, is disgusting and so cold like she's supposed to be, so I hated her. She is soft WAY deep inside, but the only reason why she puts on a mask of hatred, is because she's afraid of being weak, again. She hates to see how weak she really was so put on the tough attitude. Like her mother and her seemingly endless marriges
Steph Su
After organizing her romance writer mother's fourth remarriage, recent high school graduate Remy Starr knows there is no such thing as love. She sees nothing wrong in drinking and hitting the bars with her three close friends, and having a string of boyfriends whom she lusted after but had no real attachment for. After all, she's the queen of dumping.

Then Remy meets the quirky musician Dexter. Or rather, Dexter bumps into her, literally. Dexter thinks that they have a connection. He's messy, un
Jan 14, 2011 D.G. rated it 3 of 5 stars
Recommended to D.G. by: Leah
Shelves: young-adult, reviewed
If this book taught me something, it's that YA contemporary fiction is not for me.

From page 50 till page 233, I was tempted to give it up because I was so FED UP with the heroine. She was an arrogant, weak, mean, slutty, whiny control freak, with a ‘selfish disdain for the feelings of others’ (as Miss Bennet famously said.) She would seldom think of anybody unless it was in the context on how it affected her (if I take the garbage to the curb…would he think I’m doing it because of him?) and most
Melannie :)
Aug 05, 2011 Melannie :) rated it 5 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: EVERYONE
Shelves: favorites
At first, when I first heard about this book, it didn't really catch my eye, but I read it anyway because someone recommended it to me saying it was awesome and it really was,


Dexter IS the cutest, clumsiest, funniest, most polite, most out-going, most awesome and most talented guy I'VE EVER READ,
and Remy, oh Remy, she was very bitchy at first but then you learn about her and she learns about her too and there's a vulnerability to her that just makes you love her, she's an
For the first 100 pages, I honestly wasn't feeling Sarah Dessen. She took too much time building up her story, so much so that I was wondering when it was ever going to start. Come halfway, it got exciting. I couldn't wait to find out what happens next for Remy and Dexter's relationship. It didn't hurt that the other characters were equally interesting. I mean this in a way that they also got something going on for them, and not just as "supporting characters" that most friends, family members, ...more
Abigail the Fangirl

“Some things don't last forever, but some things do. Like a good song, or a good book, or a good memory you can take out and unfold in your darkest times, pressing down on the corners and peering in close, hoping you still recognize the person you see there.”

Wow, I did not start enjoying this book until I had only about 100 pages left, but it's weird, because I really did enjoy those last 100 pages. I had a long, negative, review to put up, but the ending changed it.

I could not stand Remy at
Nov 05, 2011 Alyssa rated it 5 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: Romantics. People who love to fall in love.
I didn’t think I would find a Dessen book that matched my love for TRUTH ABOUT FOREVER, but I have to say I’m glad THIS LULLABY knocked me right out of the book store. It is the PERFECT book for Valentine’s Day – and every other day of the year, especially when you’re looking for some inspirational words and meaningful thoughts.

Remy, you could say, is a heartbreaker. She has this special timeline where no relationship lasts longer than half a year. She has this special guide, too. NO CRAZY, SPOR
I recommend This Lullaby.
I had no illusions about love anymore.
It came, it went, it left casualties or it didn’t.
People weren’t meant to be together forever, regardless of what the songs say.
So, that’s Remy. Such a bucket of sunshine, right? *snorts*

This Lullaby is my second Dessen book… and I liked it. Not bad, see? This is because The Truth About Forever damaged Dessen’s first impression on me. It was not my cup of tea, really.

Last January, I was tweeting about my plans to read romance for Feb
My friend had, for practically a year, begged me to read this and when I finally relented, I thought it'd be one of those books that are light to read and yet are enjoyable. Not exactly.

True enough that This Lullaby was light and doesn't require you to over-analyze everything. It's basically about this girl who grew up early, has trust issues, doesn't like men, dates around, has AWESOME friends, la di dah. I think what I disliked about the lead character Remy wasn't that she was a slaggy bitch,
After hearing everyone talking about Sarah Dessen books and how great they are, I decided to try them out myself. I thought this was a really good book. I really enjoyed Sarah Dessen's writing and thought she had a good play on words. In the beginning the main character Remy was a bit annoying. She was so stuck on the fact that true love doesn't exist, and wouldn't take any chances with guys. She would just dump them after a while and then move on to the next one. But after Dexter things started ...more
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