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The Temperament God Gave You: The Classic Key to Knowing Yourself, Getting Along with Others, and Growing Closer to the Lord

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Art & Laraine Bennett The Classic Key to Knowing Yourself, Getting Along with Others, and Growing Closer to the Lord. All of us are born with distinct personality traits. Some of us live for crowds and parties; others seek solitude and time for quiet reflection. Some of us are naturally pushy, while others are content just to get along. We don't pick and choose these t ...more
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Published June 15th 2005 by Sophia Institute Press
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James Andersen
I found this book to be helpful, prior to my coming back to the Catholic Faith I was trying really hard to know who I was, I tried the Enneagram and trans-personal psychological methods to figure out who I was, I went to assessment tests grounded in Jungian Psychology too, only to still feel like as if something was missing. It was only after finding out that the MTBI 16-Types can be reduced to the 4 Classical Temperaments that I really considered getting this book. When I opened this book, I ha ...more
Regina Doman
Dec 04, 2009 Regina Doman rated it 5 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: Any writer
Recommended to Regina by: John Barger
I recommend this book to any writer interested in learning how to build characters. It gives fascinating insights into how other people think.

As well as learning to understand yourself: I learned a lot!
The cover design doesn't make you want to read it, but if you are Christian and interested in why you are the way you are, definitely give it a read.
To someone who is intensely interested in the Myers-Briggs type indicator and the enneagram, as I am, this book is quite valuable. It's not about fitting people into slots or simply categorizing ourselves and others. For one thing, nobody fits entirely into any one category; we're all unique blends of factors and tendencies. For another, this kind
Spriggles and I mirror each other's personalities! I am a sanguine-phlegmatic, and he is a phlegmatic-sanguine (aka the best two types;). And everyone always wondered how we even got together, since we seem so different! We both just like friends and fun!

It was fun reading the synopses of the different types and seeing friends and family as these personality types. Molly is a choloric, of course. Different sections showed you how children behave as each of the four personalities, how to best mot
Sharon Lee
Do you remember what is the result of that personality test you took? Well I don't, and I definitely don't remember the others if I can't even remember mine. But this book is not like a personality test and in fact, temperament is not personality. It is how fast one reacts and the depth at which one reacts. I'm primarily melancholic and this explains so much sense of why someone or I reacted the way they/I do. If you want to improve relationship dynamics (pushing the right buttons), then this bo ...more
Jan 07, 2009 Chelsea rated it 4 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: everyone
Recommended to Chelsea by: my mom
SO AWESOME! I can't believe how much understanding there is of people's temperaments. This book is not about personality but about our natural reactions to stimuli. How cool! PLEASE READ THIS BOOK if you have ever been interested in getting to know yourself better. It also has great information about the best ways to treat and interact with people of other temperaments in all types of relationship situations. The Temperament God Gave you is really a diamond in the rough.
This is one of my favorite books EVER. It really helped me learn about myself, as well as my friends, my enemies (it helped me understand them), my spouse and my children (very important to me.) My book club read this book and it was a VERY lively discussion, to say the least. If you wish to know yourself, read this book and C.S. Lewis's book, The Screwtape Letters. !!! CC
Clare D' Lune
AHHHH!!!! My mom and her book club read this book, and now I want to know (At least a year later) WILL WE EVER HEAR THE END TO IT?!?!?!?

haha Now EVERYONE has been put into a catigory. It's actually pretty funny and fun! Everyones picking what they think they are, and they also have a test thing in the back to do, if you aren't sure about your temperment....
I don't have much farther to go on this one. Lots of great insights into behavior and motivations of family and friends. Our onetime book discussion group had a great time talking about this and even looking at our own temperaments.
Yes, four temperaments is a bit of a gross classification, but just like birth order, these classifications can help one to understand and empathize with others. This book carefully delineated the characteristics of the four temperaments, making it more practical that other books that talk about profiles in vague terms. There were many "ah-ha" moments for me while reading this book when I recognized myself or Wendy in the descriptions. These moments were confirmed when the evaluation questionnai ...more
Veronica Kim
If this book doesn't make you a better spouse, sister/brother, son/daughter, parent, friend, coworker, and follower of Christ, it'll at least make you much less confused about why people are the way they are. Gives great insight into the psychology and spirituality of each temperament, including how/why each thrives and dwindles. I tend to agonize over my flaws but this book made me more forgiving of them and at the same time doubly empowered to counter them (typical sanguine-phlegmatic). The bo ...more
Title and cover are silly. Also, I think there are lots of ways to slice temperament differences between people, so I'm not a subscriber to the idea that there are four temperaments. However, this book had an immediate positive impact on my relationships with other people because it emphasized that people's temperaments can be not only different, but VERY different form mine, and gave many examples of how people in my life may be experiencing the world. The chapters are simple and well-organized ...more
Sharon Bohlen
This book explains the 4 temperaments developed by Hippocrates before the time of Christ. The reader can take a survey to identify his/her temperament type, learn the typical gifts and challenges associated with these temperaments, and develop a better spiritual relationship with God and relationships with others within the framework of what is most comfortable for your type. What I loved about this book is that it is NOT a "right/wrong" temperament, but rather, those tendencies we can relate to ...more
Very readable guide to the four temperaments in a Christian context. I appreciate the different parts about knowing oneself, knowing one's spouse, knowing one's children, and motivating each of the temperaments.

The Bennetts are very thorough, but also kind of repetitive.
I read this book for my parenting class. It was definitely interesting although I struggled for awhile to find my temperament. I am pretty sure of both my primary and secondary temperaments and I think I've pegged both Todd and James. I'm still working on Cate. There are a lot of good insights in the book and I think it will be a good resource going forward. Beth, I think you would really like this book, both from a psychological as well as religious aspect.
This book was very interesting. It really taught me a lot about myself. In some ways it hit me harder because of some personal things that made me really look at my life. But even without that it is very insightful and talks about lots of relationships and how they are affected by temperament. I really think this book is a good read. And while it is a Catholic book and comes at things from that perspective I think it would be relevant to anyone.
Loved this book. It was uncanny reading the descriptions of my temperament. Great to help understand other people and why they act in certain ways (as well as myself). Should be required reading for every couple. This book is helping me to understand my husband better - I wish I'd read it 16 years ago!
Cool book about personalities, temperaments, and how each person can relate to others depending on their temperament. From a Catholic perspective. Very nice. Covers marriage, children, etc. I enjoyed it a lot.
Mar 26, 2009 Lucy added it
A wonderful book to understand those around you as well as yourself; Explains why different people react differently in the same situations. As well as much,much more you cannot put it down once you start!!!
I can hardly believe what an eye-opener this book has been, and it's already helping me understand my family and friends SO much better. Can't recommend this highly enough!
Melissa Monette
This book is very useful and helpful if used as a tool and not as full and only truth. Just make sure you don't pigeon hole people after reading this.
It has been a while since I have read this book. I think it is time to reread this book. I do remember one thing...I liked it the first time I read it ;-)
Regan Leigh
really interesting, a lot like Myers Briggs analysis, and I found most of the analysis to be pretty accurate. Better to read if married w/ kids.
Miss Clark
I thought this was very helpful and insightful. "Know thyself, for that is the beginning of wisdom." Or something very like, said Socrates.
Gave valuable insight to understanding my husbands temperment and how to better handle solving problems based on our different personaliy types.
Mary Holland
I am full of melancholy and phlegm, which is good to know. Not as helpful as I thought it would be, but a good jumping off point.
This book helped me to understand myself and others and to appreciate the differences in our temperaments :)
Wished I had it when I worked...would have totally changed my dynamic with those whom I found difficult.
Dec 18, 2007 Jon rated it 5 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: anyone desiring deeper self-knowledge.
I haven't read this entire book, however, I have read a lot of it and it is very insightful. A good read!
Aug 11, 2007 Kathleen rated it 3 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: people who are interested in personality analysis.
This was given to me as a gift, but I actually found it interesting. I apparently am phlegmatic melancholic.
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