Comfort & Joy

Comfort & Joy

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Ford McKinney is a devastatingly handsome, successful doctor, raised in an old Savannah family among good breeding and money. His longtime boyfriend, Dan Krell, is a shy hospital administrator with a painful childhood past. When the holidays arrive, they decide it's time to go home together. But the depth of their commitment is tested when Ford's parents cannot reconcile t...more
Paperback, 291 pages
Published October 1st 2003 by Algonquin Books of Chapel Hill (first published 1993)
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Punk
Fiction. Full of flashbacks, red herrings, and the unsettling business of hemophilia, this novel jerked me around until I lost track of which Christmas it was and what occasion it marked for Dan and Ford's relationship. Complete with half-assed themes (Ford has a little boy inside him; Dan has two people inside him -- what? why? who?) and the gay equivalent of Cold Comfort Farm's famously vague "something nasty in the woodshed," this book left me feeling both cheated and disturbed. Something ba...more
Alan
Dan Krell is an introverted hospital bureaucrat with a painful childhood past. Ford Mckinny is an attractive, successful doctor raised in an old-money, Eastern family. The two meet and form a somewhat shaky relationship, and before it achieves stability, the holidays roll around and they decide to go home as a couple. But the depth of their commitment is sorely tested when Ford’s family cannot reconcile themselves to their son’s sexuality, and Dan’s long-kept family secrets are somewhat revealed...more
Trin
This is a queer romance, set around Christmas, so I thought it would be the perfect holiday read for me. Um. Not so much. The tone is just so dour—I’m not sure there’s a joke in the entire book. Neither Ford nor Dan particularly grabbed me. And Grimsley has this annoying tendency to write sentences. That stop. And devolve. Into fragments. Argh!

There are some nice atmospheric moments, but I never felt involved with the characters and was thus pretty bored.
Ulysses Dietz
What draws two people together? What makes them decide to be a couple? How do they overcome the barriers that divide them; the things they hate about each other in spite of their love?

"Comfort & Joy" is a beautiful book in the tradition of Eudora Welty--a very southern story that nonetheless resonates across any such regional distinction. It is about two men, but the pieces of their stories could be assigned to any two people's lives. Grimsley fills the book with seemingly inconsequential mi...more
Jaya
SlashReaders: I've read a number of Jim Grimsely's books over the years and they fall into two categories for me. I either enjoy them or they just leave me feeling rather apathetic about them. I have yet to be able to really define the difference. 'Comfort & Joy', is not what I would describe as a happy book, it deals with a lot of issues and baggage. One of the things that I find intriguing and also frustrating about Grimsley's writing is his tendency to jump from one scene to another witho...more
Brian Bixler
when I turned the last page of "Comfort & Joy," I couldn't wait to explore more of Jim Grimsley's titles. I had fallen in love not only with the characters but the language. These were people I wish I knew, that I would welcome as friends. It has become one of my favorite books. This novel about a comforting, joyous and loving relationship between two men really moved me. I was intrigued by the book's mysteries, the allusions to tragedy whose secrets remained buried in the pages, leaving the...more
Jeruen Dery
I suppose after having read a couple of books that took me a full month to read, this is something different. It only took me this weekend to actually finish this novel.

So, what is this novel about? This novel talks about the challenges that a same-sex couple faced, dealing with each other, and also dealing with their families. One is a doctor, coming from a very upper-class family from the southern US, while the other is a hospital administrator, and his family doesn't have a lot of money. The...more
Liz Winters
I really loved the author's writing style. I can't even aspire to write as well as he does. His writing especially shone for me in his description of the relationship between Dan and Ford. Both of the characters really came to life and it was easy to feel everything they were feeling as they progressed through the story.

There was such artistry in the way the author painted the scenes between the men, from the awkward beginning of the relationship, through the inevitable bumps and problem resolut...more
Matt
This is another wonderful Jim Grimsley book. As usual the storyline is somewhat dark and you wonder if things are going to end up tragically or not.

In brief, it's the story of a physician, who is gradually coming to terms with "possibly" being gay, falling for a hospital administrator who is openly gay. They are both from vastly different backgrounds which complicates their relationship.

The physician is from an extremely wealthy and prestigious family in Savannah, Georgia, and his family absolut...more
Richard
Jim Grimsley also wrote Dream Boy, which I completely love. This makes reading his other books a little tricky, since I can't help but have high expectations. Comfort and Joy had been kicking around my apartment for a few years because I was saving it for a holiday read... and every year I would either forget or be too busy. Until now.

It doesn't completely suck, but it does seem a little superficial. The stakes are very slight, and the biggest threat to Ford and Dan's extremely low-key romance i...more
Talya Andor
Jim Grimsley's writing style is lyrical in a very natural, unforced way. This is a book with many unhappy themes, but it seems fitting for the holidays when some of us are headed for the kind of conflicts with our partner and families the way this one is. It's focused on interpersonal relationships, primarily that between the two main protagonists. An important contextual note is the fact that this book was written in the early 1990s, and takes place in the South. Having an open relationship the...more
Ed Hartnett
This was one of those rare books that I so wanted the story to continue for another 100 pages or so. I was so drawn in to Ford & Dan's relationship that when I was getting down to the last 20 pages, I did not want their story to end. Seeing their love for each other grow throughout the novel, seeing Ford finally getting comfortable in his own skin and not be self-loathing about his being gay, seeing him finally facing his self-righteous, narrow-minded parents and essentially tell them to go...more
Manuela
This story has a slow pace, which sometimes bores me in books. It's not the case here. I really enjoyed it. It feels like a journey, for Ford as an individual and for Ford&Dan as a couple. It's sometimes painful, sometimes frustrating, but always speaking of honest feelings of love. At times I wanted to slap some sense into Ford, but then he would always do something to redeem himself. The problems the characters face feel real and so do their reactions to them. Everything is handled by the...more
Kernos
Apr 17, 2012 Kernos rated it 5 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition Recommends it for: Anyone who is in or knows someone in a Gay relationship.
Recommended to Kernos by: M/M Group
Shelves: gay-fiction
March 22 2010

I can certainly relate to this novel, as I suspect many males in long term spousal relationships can do. I too had to choose between my spouse (of 30 years) and my parents. This book ends with such a choice made by Ford, leaving the future to the experience of the reader. It took about 5 years before my parents came around to accept us completely and now give Chris their love, always ask about him. Sometimes, I even think they like him better than me :-) He has become like an adopte...more
Feliz
Original Title: "Comfort and Joy"

Ford McKinney is a wealthy doctor from a family of wealthy doctors. Dan Crell's family is living in a trailer park, and Dan is working as a hospital administrative in the same hospital as Ford.
Both men are gay, but while Dan has long ago come to terms with his sexuality, Ford is still in denial about himself. And what is more, Dan is HIV positive, and a hemophiliac.

That a relationship between the two very unlikely partners should work, is hard to believe, and...more
Elisa Ramblings
Ford is the classical good boy of a wealthy southern family. Third generation doctor, he has always followed the steps his parents have setted for him. But when he is expected to marry a good girl from a wealthy southern family he begins to question some of that steps. Cause almost by accident, he discovers that he is more attracted from men than women.

Told be truth, till almost his late twenties years, he pleases himself with the adoration from other men. Ford is an handsome man, wealthy, a doc...more
Chris
The holiday season is that time of year when favorites and least-favorites come to mind more often than any other time of year. I look forward to a visit from my favorite aunt, my favorite ornament surfaces for its annual display, and I’m likely to pay several visits to my favorite store. I’m also reminded of my least favorite gift (and somehow remember exactly when and from whom I received it), that least favorite New Year’s Eve I arrived at home on the verge of tears, and my least favorite Chr...more
Sianeka
This is the story of Danny Crell, a lonely young man from a harsh and difficult background, and the story of Ford McKinney, a rich and pedigreed young doctor who is also lonely and tired of being pigeon-holed into the life his family has created for him. They find each other and a romance develops. But can they each overcome their background and hangups to let this new love work? This story of men finding love and happiness, and searching together to make a foundation for a long-lasting relation...more
Tricia
This is a truly great romance story; it is a quick read that leaves a pleasant impression with the reader. Most of the charm comes from the two main characters who are each well developed and their actions/reactions made understandable through a beautiful narrative. While the story is full of distress and sadness, somehow the overall effect is not depressing, but uplifting. I have not read this author prior, but will certainly investigate his other novels.
Snowmore
It's been a few years since I read this book, and I still consider it one of my favourites in the m/m genre, though I hate to limit it to that genre. To me it was just a story looking into the lives of two men and the life they are building together, as one struggles with his family's ideas on his sexuality.

Mr. Grimsley has a fluid writing style, which helped me to become engaged with the characters. I will re-read this book.
Katie M.
I'm inexplicably crazy about this book. It's a pretty made-for-tv-movie of a story about a gay couple going home for the holidays, but it's sweet and moving and on the whole entirely convincing. It had some of the aspects of Dream Boy A Novel that I liked (without the unfortunate is-this-a-hallucination-or-did-it-really-happen? ending), and vastly beat out the dark genericness that was Boulevard. Apparently it's the sequel to Winter Birds, which sounds like his classic and one that I probably ne...more
Erika
Aug 02, 2011 Erika rated it 4 of 5 stars
Recommended to Erika by: Public Library
Shelves: fiction
This was the second Jim Grimsley novel I have read, and it sent me searching for more books authored by him. In "Comfort and Joy" we meet Danny and Ford, two gay men who fall in love. The story is about making a relationship work, coming out to family and friends and remaining an individual while growing as a couple. The characters seem real with real emotions, and Danny and Ford remind us that love is not about being straight or gay, but about being human. The author handles the love scenes in...more
Kim
This book was really engaging particularly the scenes between Dan and Ford. Also the brief relationship between Ford and McKenzie was wonderfully written. The only parts that annoyed me were the scenes with Ford's family not because of their disapproval of the relationship between him and Dan but because they were so cliche an didn't seem like real people.
Bob
Nov 15, 2011 Bob rated it 5 of 5 stars
Recommended to Bob by: Goodreads
Shelves: gay-fiction
What a fabulous discovery! Two very different men, a Doctor and a Hospital Administrator work out the many issues of a burgeoning relationship involving both families, work environment and personal demons. I couldn't put it down--the characters were engaging, the plot well-crafted and it reads like buttah. I plan to read more of his work.
Sajan Oshea
It was a really nice story. I am non-native English speaker, so I don't understand the cultural background in the country completely. But every sentence and phrase of the characters the author describes touched me, and sometimes I considered my life while reading. I hope they would be accepted by their family someday.
Edina Rose
Sometimes too lyrical and I'm sure people will have something to say about the structure of the story, but overall I liked the author's style. This is one of the best love stories I've read in the MM genre. It's simply WONDERFUL. The love between the two guys, I mean. It's not embellished. It depicts love with its contradictions: I love you but sometimes I hate you too. I want you but sometimes I don't. I want to stay with you but sometimes I want to break up. And the absolute certitude that abo...more
maria
this story is about a man bringing his significant other home to meet his family. he is worried because his family is poor while his boyfriend comes from a wealthy family, and also their relationship has been having some problems. this is a love story with real life problems.
Scotty
This is one of my favorite books of all time. I've read it 5-6 times and find something interesting about the characters with each reading. Two very different individuals learn to love one another.....and to deal with their families. I highly recommend.
Laura
Lovely relationship drama hitting all the right notes. It's impossible not to care deeply about these characters as they struggle to love each other in the face of family conflicts, as well as their own fears and self-doubt. Docked a star for failing to answer a question to my satisfaction--what happened in the house at Harvey Crossroads that so damaged Danny? Otherwise, a very satisfying read, with a great ending.
Gwen
Beautiful.

And now I have to go read Winter Birds.
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Jim Grimsley is a playwright and novelist. Jim's first novel, Winter Birds, was published by Algonquin Books in 1994. The novel won the 1995 Sue Kaufman Prize for First Fiction from the American Academy of Arts and Letters, and received a special citation from the Ernest Hemingway Foundation. Jim's second novel, Dream Boy, won the American Library Association GLBT Award for Literature (the Stonewa...more
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“Words created the future, exacerbated problems, raised barriers between them. But in the silence of Ford's sleep, Ford could love Dan easily; in the stillness of Ford's rest, Dan could adore him without question or fear.” 2 people liked it
“Why do men stay together? It is easy to understand why they fuck, but why do they stay together, what is the answer? Why do they live in the same house, share meals together, argue about money and parents, why do they have pets, plant begonias, bring home birthday cakes? Where are the children, where is the sense of permanence, what is the tie that binds?

Yet they slept peacefully, side by side, and the body of one became adjusted to the rhythm of the other, and the breathing of one slowed the breathing of the other, and they dreamed in tandem and shared fragments of each other's dreams, and they grew more like each other day by day, not in personality, but in the fissures of the brain, because, seeing the same things every day, day after day, they laid down crevices in themselves that were the same shape, that were the same events written into memory, and this was enough, without words, to keep them silent about the fact of their hates and their fears, their deep concerns about each other, and the certainty that one of them would die first and neither of them knew which one it would be. The certainty that one of them would leave first, and that only by waiting could they learn which of the two.”
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