Benjamin Spock, M.D.
Essayist Judith Viorst, who has humorously eased our journey to middle age, now turns her considerable talents to a more serious and far-reaching subject: how we grow and change through the losses that are an inevitable and necessary part of life. Arguing persuasively that ...more
I'm having to return this one before reading as much as I would like, but it's just as illuminating as I remembered. This time around, I got a lot out of the chapter entitled "Convenience Friends and Historical Friends and Crossroads and Cross-Generational Friends and Friends Who Come When You Call at Two in the Morning." It is something of a relie ...more
Yes, this book is by the same Judith Viorst who wrote children's favorite, "Alexander and the Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Day." But this book is definitely for grownups who want to learn more about being grownups. Viorst chronicles the many beliefs we have to let go of in order to become fully mature, respo ...more
I was taking this book to the health club one night to read while I walked on the treadmill. I ran into a friend of mine there, and he saw I was carrying a book and excitedly asked me, "What you reading?" I turned the book toward him so he could see the title, and his face fell. "Oh," he said. "Pretty heavy." "Yeah," I said. "But worth it."
That sums up the book. Another Reader's Digest description can be plucked from the inside cover. The book is about "what we have to give up to grow." And yet...more
Quotes I liked:
p. 163 "A normal adolescent describes two major goals in life 1. putting an end to the threat of nuclear holocaust and ...more
But better late than never. A very illuminating book, helping me understand both the losses anybody endures as well as the specific losses that shaped me.
The chapter on marriage (Chapter 13) will be one I turn to time and again to remind myself of all the wisdom there.
I wanted to like it ... The intro seemed exciting, and I eagerly dove in full of high hopes.
But dear god.... Every issue in life does not go back to wanting to have sex with your parents, or unresolved mommy and daddy issues.
I haven't lost friendships over unresolved homosexuality issues from Oedipal issues from when I was a toddler... I don't have anxiety because of going to day care.
Give me a break --- this book is full of ...more
"This is a dense book, not summer beach reading. It's important material that can be difficult to absorb, but Viorst breaks it down so the reader can manage the concepts. Even so, this is a book that I read for a while and then set down so I could think about w ...more
Also, she bases her ideas on Freudian philosophy. If you ask me, Freud was a KOOK.
I did however learn that I tend towar ...more
One of my favorite quotes in is the chapter I grow old. Florida Scott-Maxwell is quote as saying the following"When a new disability arrives I look aboutme to see if death has come, and I call quietly,'Death, is that you? Are you there?' So far thedisability has answered, 'Don't be silly, it ...more