Benjamin Spock, M.D.
Essayist Judith Viorst, who has humorously eased our journey to middle age, now turns her considerable talents to a more serious and far-reaching subject: how we grow and change through the losses that are an inevitable and necessary part of life. Arguing persuasively that ...more
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I'd like to post a pic here of the concept of the stages of grief but Goodreads won't do it..so I'll describe it.
The fist graphics shows the classic stages of grief in a nice straight line. The second graphic shows the stages of grief arraigned as a bowl of spaghetti. No clear path of stages. The second is my experience.
Hope that helps at least a little bit.(less)
I'm having to return this one before reading as much as I would like, but it's just as illuminating as I remembered. This time around, I got a lot out of the chapter entitled "Convenience Friends and Historical Friends and Crossroads and Cross-Generational Friends and Friends Who Come When You Call at Two in the Morning." It is something of a relie ...more
Yes, this book is by the same Judith Viorst who wrote children's favorite, "Alexander and the Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Day." But this book is definitely for grownups who want to learn more about being grownups. Viorst chronicles the many beliefs we have to let go of in order to become fully mature, respo ...more
And to paraphrase Mark Twain, "There are two types of people: Those that know they have fears to face and those that are liars." But that also means we all have treasures to claim...
Not facing our fears causes trouble.
"Frequently we bring about what we fear." says Judith Viorst in Necessary Losses. She says "I do unhesitatingly embrace Freud’s conviction that our past, with all of its clamorous wishes and terrors a ...more
Quotes I liked:
p. 163 "A normal adolescent describes two major goals in life 1. putting an end to the threat of nuclear holocaust and ...more
Also, she bases her ideas on Freudian philosophy. If you ask me, Freud was a KOOK.
I did however learn that I tend towar ...more
I was taking this book to the health club one night to read while I walked on the treadmill. I ran into a friend of mine there, and he saw I was carrying a book and excitedly asked me, "What you reading?" I turned the book toward him so he could see the title, and his face fell. "Oh," he said. "Pretty heavy." "Yeah," I said. "But worth it."
That sums up the book. Another Reader's Digest description can be plucked from the inside cover. The book is about "what we have to give up to grow." And yet...more
So, she not only has all of those brilliant books for kids that I grew up reading, but she's a poet, a fiction writer, and, oh yeah, she also writes non-fiction psychology books.
And here's the best part. . . her psychology books, well, ...more
I wanted to like it ... The intro seemed exciting, and I eagerly dove in full of high hopes.
But dear god.... Every issue in life does not go back to wanting to have sex with your parents, or unresolved mommy and daddy issues.
I haven't lost friendships over unresolved homosexuality issues from Oedipal issues from when I was a toddler... I don't have anxiety because of going to day care.
Give me a break --- this book is full of ...more
But better late than never. A very illuminating book, helping me understand both the losses anybody endures as well as the specific losses that shaped me.
The chapter on marriage (Chapter 13) will be one I turn to time and again to remind myself of all the wisdom there.
The book has an admirab ...more
My one qualm is the chapter about the mourning involved in aging. I have the impression that it is incomplete, that despite its thoroughness in l ...more
"Il lutto... Ti sembra di esserne piena. Sempre. In un certo senso è come una gravidanza. Ma... nella gravidanza sembra di fare qualcosa anche nella completa inattività, mentre nel lutto c'è un senso si futilità e d'insensatezza anche nel mezzo dell'azione... La morte è l'unica cosa nella mia mente...
La mia quotidianità si è spezzata e sono in quarantena dal mondo. Non voglio nulla da esso, e non ho nulla da dargli. Quando le cose diventano troppo brutte, il mondo per ...more