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Waiting for Daisy: A Tale of Two Continents, Three Religions, Five Infertility Doctors, an Oscar, an Atomic Bomb, a Romantic Night, and One Woman's Quest to Become a Mother

3.63 of 5 stars 3.63  ·  rating details  ·  1,102 ratings  ·  195 reviews
“Dazzling…the platinum standard for memoirs regarding couples struggling to become parents.”—Seattle Post-Intelligencer

Peggy Orenstein’s widely hailed and bestselling memoir of her quest for parenthood begins when she tells her new husband that she’s not sure she ever wants to be a mother; it ends six years later after she’s done almost everything humanly possible to achi
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Paperback, 256 pages
Published December 26th 2007 by Bloomsbury USA (first published February 6th 2007)
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Annie
Peggy Orenstein paints herself in such a bad light in Waiting for Daisy that it’s next to impossible to sympathize with her predicament. And that’s too bad, because three miscarriages are a lot to suffer through. However, Orenstein paints her desire for a child not as a powerful emotional urge but as an accomplishment she can’t live without. She never once talks about wanting to be a mother, or even wanting to have a baby. She is singularly focused on getting pregnant and staying that way for as ...more
Jessica
Apr 21, 2007 Jessica rated it 4 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: women who might want to be mothers some day; mothers
The publication I work for has recruited Peggy Orenstein as a writer, so her publishing company sent me a copy of her newest book. I didn't know much about her, other than she wrote an article for The New York Times Magazine (is it okay for little girls to loooooove princesses, pink and glitter?) that I loved.

Now I feel like I know EVERYTHING about her. This book is a memoir of Peggy Orenstein and her devoted husband trying to get pregnant. For a year....then two....then six.

They try *everythin
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Lain
I wanted to like this book more than I actually did. While Orenstein is doubtless a terrific writer, her narcissism kept me from fully sympathizing with her plight (case in point -- WHY is there not a picture of her with her little girl on the jacket cover?). As the mom of three, I never had to walk the infertility road, so I cannot identify with the lengths people go to to have of child "of their own." But to risk her marriage and her health....! The ends seemed to justify the means. I am sure ...more
Melissa
A must read for anyone who's ever experienced infertility or multiple miscarriages. I was fully expecting this book to be a difficult read because of the personal connection I have to the subject matter. I was also worried it would be 'churchy'. Instead, I was stunned by just how much I had in common with the author. I could have written the first half of the book (except for being a wildly successful author married to an Oscar winner, of course). The second half deals with things I have yet to ...more
Christina
I'm not sure what to say about this book. It was really interesting to read it right after reading "Finding Grace" because the two books, though about the same type of six-year struggle with infertility, had very different feels and conclusions. I was uplifted by the former and many times flabbergasted and disgusted by this one. The main difference, for me, is that the author of "Finding Grace," had an anchor of faith to rely on during her trials, while Peggy Orenstein seems to believe in everyt ...more
Monique
Jan 21, 2010 Monique rated it 5 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Anyone struggling with infertility or a friend/relative of someone who is
Wow! Just wow! If you've been through any of the experiences Peggy Orenstein has been through (and I've been through many of them) then you should read this book. It is brutally honest (which I appreciated) and unflinching. A few of her decisions might make some cringe (but not me and I had many of the same thoughts and reactions to things) but you can't fault her for her honest portrayal of the horrible roller coaster that is infertility. Also, unless you've been in the situation, it's probably ...more
Ciara
i feel kind of bad criticizing this book because peggy orenstein's six-year battle against infertility sounds hellacious. & i actually do enjoy her writing style, for the most part. (some of the stuff about her visits to hiroshima to meet with bomb survivors seemed kind of like history & social commentary shoehorned into a book on a totally different topic. it was interesting & everything...but it should be it's own book.)

other reviewers have commented on how orenstein's quest to bec
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Braden
SPOILER ALERT.

I’m pretty sure I understand the genre of memoir. I understand that it is honest and raw. When it's good, it often ain't pretty.

Full disclosure: my husband and I are considering international adoption. I suspect that’s why I reacted so negatively as a reader when Orenstein described stalling an international adoption in the most passive-aggressive way possible. (Not returning the adoption agent's calls about a particular baby, then promising to get back to the woman in "a day or
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Melissa
As a new mother who endured a 12 year quest for a child, I was curious to read Peggy's account.

So much of her ordeal resonated with me, except for the reluctance to adopt. The self-indulgence, self-doubt, the self-loathing, the exhaustion of the pursuit of one singular goal - it's all achingly familiar.

Major points for Orenstein's humor, honesty and unique perspective. The only critism I have (and one Peggy freely admits to) is the baby-obsession she had was tiresome for her, her husband and a
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Francoise
Peggy and her husband tour the entire infertility scene in all of its promise-laden, money-raking, science-infused, spontenaity-killing wonder. Each cycle of fertility treatments leads to new mourning for what could have been (and a lot of money), mourning undoubtedly heavily spiced by the hormonal treatments that go along with fertility meddling. Peggy steadfastly recounts the all-encompassing obsession that enveloped her every waking moment for several years, during which she learns, among oth ...more
Tori
This book was hard for me to rate because while it was well written, the author is a truly terrible person. To start off with, she states that she doesn't believe that women who choose to be stay-at-home moms are feminists, which is basically like saying that you're not pro-choice if, when faced with an unplanned pregnancy, you choose to have the baby. Hate to break it to you Peggy, but feminism isn't about choosing a career over family. It's about having the freedom to make that choice for your ...more
Patricia Knobloch
Jul 20, 2007 Patricia Knobloch added it  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Anyone trying to conceive
This is a great book for anyone trying to conceive but also for woman in general. I learned a lot reading this book and the book also taught me how crazy woman can be and how we really need to appreciate our husbands.
Emily
Both a heartbreaking memoir of one who went through the unthinkable: cancer, infertility and several miscarriages, as well as a stark criticism of the fertility business and red-tape-strangled adoption.

Having gone through some of this myself, I think the author very succinctly captures the obsession and emotions surrounding repeated attempts to have a child and the effect it can have on a person and a marriage. I liked that she rejected oversimplifications and myths along the way that I'd heard
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Heather
I picked up this book at an impromptu book swap my book club held a couple weeks ago, and although I don't think I'm really the author's target audience, I'm avoiding the reading of another couple books I've got around the house and this one looked like a quick read. It was, indeed, and it turned out to be much more interesting than I expected.

This book is one woman's tale of her journey from being a married woman who wanted nothing to do with the having of children, to wanting to get pregnant a
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indri
Lho.. koq blum ada yang review.. padahal kan dibagi gratis ke yang ikut Jelajah Rahasia Meedee 2..

Caara menulisnya sih biasa aja (atau terjemahannya yang ga begitu bagus), tapi ceritanya menarikk sekali..
Kisah wanita ini, seorang penulis workaholic yang tiba2 ingin punya anak di umur 36 tahun, sudah mencoba berbagai macam cara, mulai dari minum pil penyubur Clomid, minum ramuan biarawati, ikut bayi tabung, dapat donor sel telur, akupuntur, bahkan adopsi anak dari Jepang.. semuanya gagal.
Ia sanga
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Ashley
A quick read that offers a glimpse into one woman's struggle with infertility and her desire to have a baby in her late 30s. Orenstein is an author, with a couple books under her belt, who was busy living her life - spending time with her husband, traveling, establishing herself as a writer, spending time with friends, etc.

Right before the couple decided to conceive, Orenstein finds out she has breast cancer, which further delays their attempts at a child. After several miscarraiges, IUI, IVF,
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Becky
This book was transformative.

It wasn't about being in the same situation as the author (there are definitely differences between our stories), but more about feeling validated. I had so many yes moments - moments that I put down my kindle and smile because this writer got it. She understood the frustration, and the longing, and the desperation, and the sorrow of wanting to have a baby, because she had lived it.

I marked a lot of quotes from this book - but let me share with you a few of my favo
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Sarah
I like Peggy Orenstein, and even as I bristled at some of the things that came up in this book, I liked reading it.

I say I bristled - I should say also that I realize that I have never been in this position and I can see how both the emotional toll and the societal pressures surrounding infertility and parenthood could drive someone to decisions I find....problematic from over here in the land of the fertile and comfortable. So I did my best to withhold judgement. That said, I saw what Orenstei
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Meg
Polished this off in a couple of hours this afternoon. I have read Peggy Orenstein before (Flux and some of her essays) and I like her voice. In some ways her struggles with infertility and international adoption are very similar to mine, in other ways very different (no two stories are ever exactly the same). Regardless, as I approach the six-year mark of trying to become a mother and feel particularly hopeless (yet again), it is nice to read a story that reminds me (regardless of how our journ ...more
Paperback Dolls
Originally posted at PaperbackDolls.com

I ran across this book when I first was diagnosed with infertility last summer yet decided it wasn’t the time to read it. I am glad I waited because after 10 more months Waiting for Daisy has had a profound impact on how I view my quest for a baby. Peggy Orenstein opens her memoir Waiting for Daisy with riveting words that struck me deep inside as they anyone who is currently or has dealt with infertility. ‘I’d taken my temperature every morning. I have bee
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Elizabeth
Peggy Orenstein and I would disagree on many, many things -- faith, abortion, the importance of religion, the concept of feminity, sexual ethics and reproductive technology, just to name a few. But what I really liked about this book is how her humanity breaks through so clearly as she describes her struggle to conceive. I think on one level, you could read this book as an orthodox Catholic and see it as confirming the wisdom of the Church's teachings on IVF and the like -- that it leads to the ...more
Kathleen F
Motherhood doesn't come easy for lots of women, especially those who defer the chance to have children until later in their lives. I'm on the cusp of being diagnosed "infertile," and figuring out what path to take from there--IVF, IUI, Clomid, etc. etc., or trying more natural/alternative methods,, or accepting that I won't have biological children of my own. All of it is frightening to me. And all of it is expensive.

I appreciated this book because it offered a roadmap to what my experiences mig
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Betsy Dion
At the beginning of this book, I felt frustrated with the author, and rather self-congratulatory that "I'm not as crazy as she is." As the book progressed, I was more touched by the story, because although the author does some very terrible things, she is on a journey, her suffering is real, and she is learning something.

This book is a decent introduction to the struggle of infertility for the uninitiated. The new offers of hope and the subsequent crashes of disappointment, the pushing back of b
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Heather
In Waiting for Daisy, Peggy Orenstein writes a candid memoir about the struggle she had while trying to conceive. Peggy waited until her mid to late 30s to try to conceive a baby with her husband. While trying to get pregnant, Peggy found out she had breast cancer. Once she recovered from that, Peggy and her husband started trying to get pregnant again, only to experience one misfortune after the other in their quest to have a child. They had several miscarriages, sought advice from a variety of ...more
Bethany
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Cristina Vanalstine
I am a 28 year old woman struggling with infertility. There are so many of us, all different ages, and all different stories. I often feel like there is no one that understands what I am going through or what this pain and loss feels like. This book spoke for me in so many ways. I wish everyone in my life could read this so they could understand why I am the way I am at this time. We just had our first IVF cycle fail and I guess we are going to ride that roller coaster again. Exactly how Peggy d ...more
Kory
Why does this woman bug the crap out of me? I really have no legitimate reason to hate this author like I do, but I have to say that from the early pages of the book she rubbed me the wrong way. I think that you have to make a call at some point if you are going to write a book about your struggle with infertility as to what your point is. I felt like I was reading a book written by a schizophrenic. She started the book discussing how she never really wanted children and still didn't know if she ...more
Tristy
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Jen Quintanilla
I've read two Orenstein books back to back and am about to start a third. I'll start by saying this - I enjoy her writing style and she raises a lot of issues I've thought about before/should be thinking about/am interested in getting a diverse viewpoint on.

However, this book made it really hard for me to like her as a person, which I know sounds weird because it is not like I know her. But in this book she portrays herself so poorly it is hard to root for her or to even feel any level of empat
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Erikka
How this woman's husband not only put up with her, but stayed with her is beyond me. I almost feel like his own memoir will come out soon of how they recently divorced or she lied and covered up a separation. While this may be her ...catharsis and apology to him, and while she also freely admits it, I dislike her in this story and do not see it as redeeming her. She was selfish. SELFISH in a way that is above and beyond anything any other person should have to live with. Like, shamefully so. I s ...more
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