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I'm Not Mad, I Just Hate You!: A New Understanding of Mother-Daughter Conflict

3.72 of 5 stars 3.72  ·  rating details  ·  53 ratings  ·  7 reviews
Almost without exception, the teen years are tumultuous for both girls and their mothers. Teen girls, who are socialized to stifle their anger and avoid confrontation, frequently take out their frustration on their mothers as the only safe and available targets. The good news is that with patience and the right guidance, mothers can transform the teenage years into positiv ...more
Hardcover, 288 pages
Published March 1st 1999 by Viking Adult (first published 1999)
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Julia
Don't laugh, this was an excellent book! The main point I got from this book is that I am not alone- mother/daughter conflict is a universal problem. It was helpful to realize that the teen years are very volatile for girls, and their mothers are the only people in the world who will love them unconditionally. Hence, they take out their frustrations on us. Thank you. But, the authors have great tips on working through issues, great examples, etc. I learned a lot and I know our relationship is be ...more
Mindi Bennett
This book arrived in my mailbox and I was completely puzzled b/c I didn't order it! I figured someone was trying to give me a hint. Turns out my mom's book club was reading this and she sent me a copy she found for a penny on Amazon. With three daughters, I certainly need a book titled "A New Understanding of Mother-Daughter Conflict: Surviving and thriving during your daughter's teenage years".

Now that I finished the book, I'm super grateful that my mom sent it to me. I need to reread the chapt
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Rebecca
Nov 15, 2007 Rebecca rated it 4 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: moms with teenaged daughters
I bought this book the day after my teenaged daughter told me that she hated me and slammed the door in my face. I had spent the evening in tears, and the next day I turned to Amazon.com for some therapy! My daughter and I later patched things up, and I promptly stopped reading the book, but it sure was great to know that it was a common enough occurrence to have a book with that title!!! :)
Angela Coleman
Great book! Heartbreaking time for a sensitive mother with a tender heart but this book helped to put things into perspective. Nice to know that I'm not the only one feeling this way and nice to get some ideas to improve the situation.
Rachel
Great help for those mommies with upcoming teens-I'll reread it in about 5 years. I really liked how it made me aware of the challenges teens girls face and reminded me to communicate better when we hit that "stage." UG!
Rachel
Aug 06, 2010 Rachel marked it as to-read  ·  review of another edition
No, my mother and I have no problems. Why do you ask?
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Roni Cohen-Sandler, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist, nationally recognized author, and educator whose various professional roles enhance her ability to help teens, adults, and families. She has written three parenting books, I’m Not Mad, I Just Hate You!, Trust me—Mom, Everyone Else is Going, and Stressed-out Girls: Helping Them Thrive in the Age of Pressure, and is current writing a book about ...more
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