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On My Own: The Art of Being a Woman Alone

3.73 of 5 stars 3.73  ·  rating details  ·  139 ratings  ·  26 reviews
At some point over the course of the average American woman’s life, she will find herself alone, whether she is divorced, widowed, single, or in a loveless, isolating relationship. And when that time comes, it is likely that she will be at a loss as to how to handle it. As a society, we have an unspoken but omnipresent belief that a woman alone is an outcast, inherently fl ...more
Hardcover, 304 pages
Published March 20th 2007 by Harmony (first published January 1st 2007)
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I think the title is a little misleading. The book is really about what it means to be a woman in her own right as separate as possible from societal pressures that force so many women to suppress their real life passions. It's written by a therapist based on her experiences helping women discover their true selves, so it's very anecdotal. It's about embracing oneself as whole person with a unique identity that is not directly tied to one's role.
Ginni Dickinson
Oct 24, 2010 Ginni Dickinson rated it 4 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: all women
I think that it would be benificial for all women, whether they are in a relationship or not, to read this book. The essence of this book is letting women know that it is not only okay, but essential to have time alone. Alone means many, many things. For some it means living alone. For others it may mean ensuring that there is time for solitude built into their lives. There are many great insights in this book. It is very well written. I skipped over about half the vignettes. I preferred to get ...more
Being newly single for the first time in about ten years, this book is a life saver. It has been my therapy in getting through separation, filing for divorce, another break up and ultimately living alone in a new town with a new job, trying to make new friends. I recommend it to any woman who feels that they are "going it alone" even in a small way. This book renewed my faith in girlfriends, and in myself.
Jun 25, 2008 Jung rated it 3 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: women
I loved the stories of women clients, her insights and wisdom. Not so much a self-help book as an empowering reminder of the difference between being "alone" and "lonely" and that society still defines a woman's status according to her relationships.
A really helpful guide to discerning "aloneness"
More than likely, at some point in our lives, we are all going to find ourselves alone. Relationships fall apart. Children leave home. Our spouse passes. It’s sad and rather scary when we enter a new phase of our life but what’s really awful is the terror we put ourselves though.

It’s the new millennium. Women have secured the right to vote and work alongside men in most any job that suits their fancy. Yet, somehow we still see a woman without a man (and by association, children) in a negative l
I felt a little gyped when I started this book to find out that the author was raising childen after her divorce. That to me is very different than being completely alone, as children are company/companionship of a sort - though I understand it's not the same as having a partner.

She makes a good point about the cultural emphasis we have on "packaging" ourselves up to be appealing to men (or women) with the point being to be part of a couple. The other good point that she makes is that we don't
There's quite some food for thought here, but even though I agreed with what I read, no big ideas stuck with me. It seems that this would be a good book to take notes from so that you can use them as springboards to further growth.
Marla Glenn
There are some wonderful mini-bios and bits of advice and information in this book. It's not just about women alone, as in w/o partners, but about how to be at peace with ourselves no matter what.
I did enjoy this book very much. It mirrors a lot of the feelings I had when thinking a lot about being alone, not "with somebody". It confirmed my belief that being alone is not something to be ashamed of, or something that marks you as somehow lacking. But instead it's a time to explore who you really are, a time to enjoy and ultimately it's an enriching experience.
However, I also felt this book was repetitive, and if you're really grappling with adjusting to aloneness, it does not offer any
Apr 04, 2014 Tonya rated it 4 of 5 stars
Shelves: 2014
Thoroughly enjoyed chapters 1-6 (9 chapters total). The selected bibliography and recommended reading list is worth a look, too.
Enjoyable read, a bit repetitive. A good overall book of how women need to and should become comfortable with themselves as women, rather then needing to be defined by a man, a family, etc. It's a bit off, as some of these stories are women with children, and as another reviewer put it, when one has kids, one still isn't totally alone. I could also turn it around though, and ask why there was no mention of women having a dog or cat or other animal, as animals make good companions as well, withou ...more
This book covered a topic not often considered in the plethora of self-help manuals flooding the book markets: how to successfully live as a woman without a mate. While I was intrigued by this premise, I found the author to be somewhat redundant in the presentation of her ideas, with more anecdotal references than original thoughts. Yet and still, I it did lead me to new considerations about the solitary woman's place in American society.
Written by a psychotherapist, one who has not had the occupation throughout the entirety of her adult life. Interesting varied perspective gleaned from her own experience and stories from other women as told to her.

An unpretentious and likable narration. Probably would appeal to most women. Sisterly and reassuring. Probably more appropriate to a more mature age group than myself, yet I found it to be a compelling read.
This book was helpful for me to see being alone as not lonely, but actually full filling of my own needs and self-discovery. It made me realize that it is healthy for my own spiritual development and expansion of creativity. Though it can be hard, it is necessary to embrace time alone instead of always relying on having a man that isn't right for me out of fear of being alone.
I'm setting this aside while I work on school assignments, but I'm definitely coming back to this - because it's an amazing perspective to consider ways that society tries to tell me that I'm wrong because I don't have a man in my life. In actual fact, I'm more right now than I've ever been before!
This is an awesome read for any woman facing the worl alone and not in a relationship. It teaches how to be ok with this even though society teaches us different. For the single woman trying to wade through the "So when are you getting married? and So when are you going to have kids?" questions.
Nov 07, 2007 Linda added it
Recommends it for: windy
I didn't finish this book. It read the first few chapters and the auther seemed to repeat herself, but with differant ways of saying the same thing. So I prettty much got what she had to say and moved on to another book.
Nov 02, 2011 Sandy rated it 4 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: All women
Recommended to Sandy by: Sally Hellane
This is a great read for all women. I am very happily married and I am on my own - as are we all. Jump into this book and you'll be captured with new insights and vigor for living your own unique life.
Katharine Holden
Odd, repetitive, heavy on the self-pity. Author Is raising children and has large, close family, but considers herself "alone" because she no longer is married.
Jan 09, 2008 Pia added it
I'm always interested in women who strike out on their own in some way and I am drawn to spiritual quests in particular, so I was drawn to this book.
This is more of a 3.5, I think. It was an interesting read, mostly for the discussion of the differences between "aloneness" and "loneliness."
This lady has got to be kidding me with her advice for single women! I couldn't get into it at all. She was insulting.
Aug 01, 2007 Leah rated it 4 of 5 stars  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: all women and some men
This book reminds us of the multifarious gifts that we can give to ourselves by actively engaging in solitude.
Irene Powell
Didn't care for it.
Jun 15, 2011 Jeanie rated it 4 of 5 stars
Recommends it for: Solo Mamas
Another often recommended book to my clients. If you are struggling with loneliness, or afraid of being a woman alone in the world, this book is a powerful read. Florence Falk will help you shift from fear and shame to empowerment, grace and joy.
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“We, who are so schooled in the art of listening to the voices of others, can often hear our own voice only when we are alone. . . For many women, the first choice, then, is to give ourselves the necessary time and space in which to renew our acquaintance with our lost voice, to learn to recognize it, and to rejoice as we hear it express our truth.” 81 likes
“Aloneness is an opportunity, a state brimming with potentiality, with resources for renewed life...In the space of aloneness...a woman is free to admit and act on her own desires. It is where we have the opportunity to discover that we are not a half but a sovereign whole.” 5 likes
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