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published
2005
by Farrar, Straus and Giroux
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Hardcover, 352 pages
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0374205108
(isbn13: 9780374205102)
description
"One part The Beauty Myth . . . and one part Backlash"*--a provocative exploration of who and what a wife really is.
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feminist-politics
Read in April, 2007
recommends it for:
women getting married, or not getting married
This book is a smart, well-written feminist look at the construction of "wives" and what it means to be a wife in modern North America. I'm reading it while planning what will be something of an indie wedding, so I'm finding her dismantling of the "wedding industrial complex" particularly gratifying. She takes on sex and sexual roles, domestic violence in the media, the ways that access to birth control and the feminist movement have changed the meaning of marriage, the &qu...more
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Read in December, 2007
I've been reading this book off and on for months now, and I finished it last night. I can't decide how I feel about it. I kind of enjoyed reading it, and yet it kind of made me angry about the way the world (Western world, at least) treats both married and single women, and the institution of the "WIFE".
It kind of made me want to get married and defy the stereotypes, and then it made me want to not get married EVER.
I will be checking out some of the sources listed in the bibli...more
It kind of made me want to get married and defy the stereotypes, and then it made me want to not get married EVER.
I will be checking out some of the sources listed in the bibli...more
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Read in January, 2004
For a sociology junkie, The Meaning of Wife is like stumbling across the fix of a lifetime. Exploring what the term wife has come to mean in our society, Anne Kingston does an amazing and thorough job of analyzing all that is involved in the way we as a whole look at wives, how we value them as a group and what happens as a woman transitions into a wife.
"Diana, Princess of Wales. Vera Wang silk-faced organza gowns. Tiffany's classic six-prong engagement ring. Princess Bride Barbi...more
"Diana, Princess of Wales. Vera Wang silk-faced organza gowns. Tiffany's classic six-prong engagement ring. Princess Bride Barbi...more
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Read in January, 2008
Provocative Cover, Intellectual Text
Author Anne Kingston deserves five stars-plus for her exhaustive research and objective presentation of the subject. The Meaning of Wife, which is by no means a quick or light read, is well written, engaging, thought provoking and entertaining. If you are a wife, you'll find yourself somewhere in these pages. If you're not a wife, you may recognize your mother or your friends, or the woman you call your wife.
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Author Anne Kingston deserves five stars-plus for her exhaustive research and objective presentation of the subject. The Meaning of Wife, which is by no means a quick or light read, is well written, engaging, thought provoking and entertaining. If you are a wife, you'll find yourself somewhere in these pages. If you're not a wife, you may recognize your mother or your friends, or the woman you call your wife.
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Read in September, 2008
recommends it for:
Wives, mothers, women
Absolutely love this cover and I enjoyed holding it on the bus. The essays in this book are very well researched and written. Even though Kingston doesn't come to any conclusions about what one should or shouldn't think/do/be as a wife, she asks many thought-provoking (often rhetorical) questions. Is the power in making the choice to marry or not? To love a full-time career versus a desire to stay home and raise a family? How about being proud of being a wife and supporting the institution (and ...more
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Read in September, 2008
Appears to be well-written and well-researched, but about two-thirds through I couldn't take any more. Apparently the implications of the word and position "wife" lead to confusion and dissatisfaction for the majority of women. Is their any value for us to read of the plight of the wife as an abstract figure? Each person is different, whether her struggles come from her submission to a husband or desire to maintain an independent identity but be married. By lumping all women (or wives)...more
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Read in June, 2007
recommends it for:
young women about to be married, women's studies majors, everyone
At first, I LOVED this book but after a while it became very laborsome to read. It was like fact afte fact after fact and there often wasn't much 'meat' holding it together.
When she was weaving all the data together is where I felt the book was strongest and the most provacative.
Overall, definately worth reading for the subject matter alone but sometimes you may need to force yourself through chapters or passages.
When she was weaving all the data together is where I felt the book was strongest and the most provacative.
Overall, definately worth reading for the subject matter alone but sometimes you may need to force yourself through chapters or passages.
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Read in August, 2008
Absolutely loved this book. It's so academic and full of references. I found myself wanting to take notes as I was reading it. So definitely something I'll keep around as I continue my exploration of what it means to be a wife (as a personal quest I suppose). Highly recommend even to non-wives.
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Read in July, 2008
recommends it for:
all women, especially singles
I believe the point of this book was to provoke thought and discussion. I found it fascinating. I can't wait to discuss it with people, especially the wives and ex-wives I know. I think the last 2 chapters do a good job of summing it all up for the reader.
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What I learned from this book: What wife means to a society informs their gender and social narratives, and in order to progress pass stereotypes, we should revise these narratives to be gender neutral, to create a less-stratified (ag. women) society.
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I just love this cover--I usually don't embrace the vulgar--but I thought this was a hilarious take-off gesture. I'm very interested in women's rights and roles in the 21st century, and I know many women who are wives, so this study peaked my interest.
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Read in December, 2007
I thought this book was an interesting examination of marriage and the wedding industry. I think it captures some of my ambivalence towards marriage, too! Sometimes I really want to get married, and sometimes I am perfectly content living alone.
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Read in July, 2006
Fascinating look into the history behind marriage and weddings. Caused fights between my fiance and I - I think he thought I wasn't going to marry him by the time I finished the book. But it actually helped me deal with my issues with marriage.
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Gave me food for thought about why I felt the way I did (and how certain family members with their own ideas of what a wedding should be made me feel) when planning my own wedding and perhaps why I felt myself slipping into the stereotypical wife role.
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Read in August, 2005
recommends it for:
anyone interested in American marriage
I read "The Meaning of Wife" the year it was published, which happened to be the year I got married. It helped paint a clear picture of how marriage has evolved of the years and reminded me that I can still be a feminist even though I tied the knot.
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Read in April, 2007
this book took me a while to read, but it's meticulously researched and overflowing with facts and info. i recommend it to anyone who either believes or doesn't believe in the institution of marriage, and i especially recommend it to men & husbands.
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Really interesting if you're a woman on the verge of getting married. Goes through many aspects of marraige (the wedding, career, motherhood, etc.) and looks at the history and contemporary status of each.
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I don't know if I'll finish this. I wasn't expecting to be degraded for choosing to wear the "uniform of conformity" (a wedding dress) and commit myself to one person for the rest of my life.
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Read in May, 2004
recommends it for:
Everyone
This book is provocative and amazing. It made me really look at all the beliefs about marriage that society gives us. If you are a wife or thinking about becoming one, READ THIS BOOK!
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Read in March, 2007
recommends it for:
all heterosexuals, for whom marriage is an option
Although it didn't do much for my momentary obsession with getting married, it definitely gave some insight into why I feel this way and what awaits me should I choose to marry.
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quotes from this book
"There is no singular meaning of wife. That is the point. That is its meaning. To see the wife fully through a multi-faceted lens is one of the central challenges facing society in the twenty-first century. To do this, new scripts are required that employ wife as a verb and as a gender-neutral concept. These are essential if we are to create necessary new narratives, new ways of living as women and men together."
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