Expressing Emotion: Myths, Realities, and Therapeutic Strategies
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Expressing Emotion: Myths, Realities, and Therapeutic Strategies

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Emotional expression is the link between internal experience and the outside world. It is intimately connected to who we are, how we feel, and how we relate to others. In daily life, expression enables people to communicate with each other and influence relationships; in psychotherapy, it provides important information about how clients are feeling and how they are relatin...more
Paperback, 365 pages
Published March 15th 2001 by The Guilford Press
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I am always on the lookout for good books on parenting, both as a parent and as an educational consultant. When I saw Smart Parenting for Smart Kids I knew I wanted to read it. My children are middle-graders with a new set of challenges from their toddler years, and I am a working mom with new challenges in my household management, parenting included! However, I didn't want a book on how to be a parent. I wanted one that helped me tackle specific issues as I helped my children to succeed in life...more
Linda Carlson
This book is for people who are bright or perfectionist, have bright or perfectionist kids, or work with bright kids or perfectionist adults. As the authors point out, if you have a bright child, you’re probably fairly bright yourself, and this will help you understand yourself and better parent talented and/or perfectionist kids. It provides valuable suggestions for guiding any child who has difficulty making friends, accepting criticism or dealing with authority figures.

Unlike some books writ...more
I swear the authors have met my kids! Lots of helpful ideas and strategies. I love it and will use it as a reference often!
Laurie Gray
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Smart Parenting for Smart Kids: Nurturing Your Child’s True Potential by Eileen Kennedy-Moore, PhD, and Mark S. Lowenthal, PsyD, explains how and why children struggle and distills “smart” parenting into four essential components: A compassionate ability to view the world through our children’s eyes; the confidence to set judicious limits; a commitment to turn toward our children more often than away; and faith in our children’s ability to grow and le...more
Stephanie Dagg
This book, written by two clinical psychologists, opens with talking about the ‘child improvement industry’ that has grown up so that all kids can fulfill their ‘potential’. But what is potential? We learn that it’s not about impressive accomplishments, but is the capacity to grow. We live in a narcissistic age where everyone seeks admiration through being good at this or excelling in that. Such an attitude is not healthy for our children. We all need to make mistakes in order to learn. The auth...more
Marissa Morrison
Especially nice are the "Predict Whether These Actions Are Likely to ATTRACT or REPEL Friends" quiz for kids and parents on page 72, the calming strategies on page 103 (e.g. blow on a colorful feather, blow bubbles, put on hand lotion, sniff perfume samples), and the advice on page 158 to underreact to a child's victories and defeats (let the child's own reactions set the tone).

If your child has trouble losing at games, have a pregame talk about how he or she will act when other players are suc...more
Very helpful in understanding kids. I don't think these strategies are only for "smart" kids, but they highlighted trouble spots that many "smart" kids deal with. I found many ideas to help me with my daughter. I was surprised by how much the descriptions reminded me of myself. I guess "the apple doesn't fall far from the tree". Hopefully identifying some of these issues in myself will help me in my approach with my daughter. I joked that my husband should read it so he can deal with the both of...more
A very helpful book for parents of elementary-aged gifted children (and above). If you are reading with a particular child in mind, remember that not every child is going to exhibit every trait described, and that means the advice pertaining to that trait may not be applicable. For example, a lot of the advice on perfectionism applied to my daughter but not my son.

I appreciated the real-life example, the suggestions for scaffolding (supporting while developing) better behavior, and the ideas fo...more
Popular psychology approach to common parenting hypotheticals. The most engaging sections eschew advice and instead popularize the professional findings of clinicians and researchers. There is nevertheless much advice, all very sensible. I was somewhat disappointed when the ambiguity of the title went a different way than I had initially predicted. Book therefore has broader appeal, likely, than were it directed solely to those kids who test into the fourth standard deviation on Wechsler, say.

I filled this book with stickies so I could go back and re-read sections of it. It is filled with ideas for helping children who have trouble with anxiety, self-esteem, perfectionism, and a whole list of other issues that seem to plague gifted children (with good background of why these problems might be there to begin with). There are anecdotes, games, discussion prompts, and other activities for guiding the child on his way to becoming an adult with a happy and meaningful life.

I found this boo...more
Eileen Kennedy-Moore
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I wrote this book with Mark Lowenthal.
Called “a literal Godsend” by Stephen Covey (The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People), this book has also been endorsed by Wendy Mogel (The Blessing of a Skinned Knee) and Vicki Abeles (producer, Race to Nowhere). Chapters include: Tempering Perfectionism, Building Connection, Developing Mo...more
I liked this book. I'm skeptical of a lot of parenting books, but this book was very accessible and the suggestions were reasonable and well presented. I liked that each topic is presented in a set of vignettes, so I didn't read every page, but I did read the ones that most applied to the behaviors we are working through in our house. I like that the tips for me as a parent are do-able. I would check this book out again as we move into different issues as he gets older.
Laura June
This is the first book I've read about gifted children that actually offered helpful tips for dealing with the difficulties that come from raising a gifted child. The essence of the book is to find tools that will help you help your child reach their full potential socially, emotionally, and intellectually. It gives you ideas on how to compassionately guide them on their journey not to dictate the path they should take. Great book with many great ideas.
AJ Conroy
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This book is exceptionally helpful! It talks about tempering perfectionism and tells us parents to resist giving pointers to our kids (aka. shut up and listen, in my words.) I loved the chapters on temperament, sensitivity, cooperation, joy, and . . . heck, it's all good.
Some helpful ideas. Some not so helpful. The chapter on tempering perfectionism places great importance on *not* being your child's coach or teacher (metaphorically or practically) as a main strategy, which is really just an avoidance mechanism. The section on grade skipping showed a lack of research.
I found this book to be an extremely accurate description of my child and some of the issues and concerns we have had. There were some practical solutions and tips offered as well.
This book gave me some good ideas and suggestions for my kids.
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Eileen Kennedy-Moore, PhD, is an author, psychologist, and speaker, who specializes in parenting and children’s social and emotional development. Her approach is both gentle and practical. She's the author of an award-winning children’s book, What About Me? 12 Ways to Get Your Parents' Attention Without Hitting Your Sister (Parenting Press). She's also co-author of two books for parents: Smart P...more
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