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Women with Attention Deficit Disorder: Embrace Your Differences and Transform Your Life

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Every year, millions of withdrawn little girls and chronically overwhelmed women go undiagnosed with Attention Deficit Disorder because they don't fit the stereotypical profile: theyâre not fast-talking, hyperactive, or inattentive, and they are not male. Sari Soldenâs groundbreaking study reveals that ADD affects just as many women as men, and that the resulting depressio
Paperback, 304 pages
Published November 29th 2005 by Underwood Books (first published October 1st 1995)
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Mar 21, 2013 Melinda rated it it was amazing
This book has changed my life. If you are a woman, or know a woman who has been diagnosed with ADD/ADHD, read this book!
I think it is especially important for women like me. I had a lifetime of dealing with issues, beating myself up, & feeling frustrated. This is not uncommon, because most women as young girls don't exibit obvious symptoms. I made good grades & didn't cause trouble. I was the daydreamer in class, unless it was a class I liked. I was a pleaser, who worked extra hard. We
Nov 29, 2008 Angie rated it it was amazing
As I was reading this book I thought, "Oh my gosh, my WHOLE LIFE makes sense now!" No wonder I'm a disorganized librarian---I have adult ADD! I'm being treated for ADD now with medicine and I can't believe what a difference it is making!
Sep 29, 2012 Marley rated it really liked it  ·  review of another edition
This book was very helpful and totally nailed me. I've known for years that I had "something a bit like A.D.D." but always assumed that my low energy levels proved that I didn't have a disorder often referred to interchangeably as "hyperactivity". I was surprised to learn that the sluggish feelings and the inability to put thoughts into action are actually a symptom of one kind of Attention Deficit Disorder.

I read the original version, which is possibly the only reason I'm giving this 4-stars in
Apr 24, 2011 Elizabeth rated it it was ok  ·  review of another edition
Recommends it for: Nobody
OK, so maybe I didn't read the ENTIRE book but I did read a solid 65% of it until I just couldn't stand it any more. It wasn't until Chapter 11 that I found some remotely useful few pages and then it was back to downhill from there. I imagine that many of Sari Solden's professors often wrote comments about how general her writing is/was. In 188 pages, all she told the reader was that ADD is very stressful for women, it's real, and that you need to deal with it -- over, and over, again. I will de ...more
Sep 23, 2009 Sheena rated it it was amazing
It's rare that I read "self-help" books to begin with. It's even more unusual when a book reads like my autobiography.

Sari Solden describes not only the "typical idea" about ADD, but differentiates between ADD and ADHD. She also expands on the concept, describing common traits that occur when a woman has only sort of dealt with having ADD. Solden explains that many women struggle due to familial expectations -- the expectation that women must keep their homes and lives (plus those of family memb
I have always known I was different. I fitted in without really fitting in.
I'm what most will qualify as being a good functioning ADHD person.
Mostly because I am finished my degree, got a job I love and generally don't stand out as a ADHD prone person. That is, until you see how I am living and learn the way my mind works. Then there is absolutely no doubt. I've got ADHD. Some days it is the worst curse in my life and i hate it with all my heart. But most days it's just something that are a pa
Oct 29, 2014 Ginny rated it it was amazing
Recommends it for: Everyone
Recommended to Ginny by: Library Find
Women with Attention Deficit Disorder: Embrace Your Differences and Transform Your Life

Many women think they are the only one who struggles with the demands of work, motherhood and other issues that women face in today's society. Quite frequently women are unaware of having ADHD much less, how it contributes to these struggles. However, Ms. Solden has written an excellent book discussing this topic. She not only shares examples of what other women are facing, but also explains why the strictures
Jun 02, 2012 Molly rated it really liked it
Shelves: 2012
I have torn had people jokingly say that I was " so add". I picked up this book at half price books and before the end of the evening had used all my post it page markers. Things that I had attributed to depression for years were mentioned specifically in this book.

It would not have been helpful for me to have picked this book up after a diagnosis, but I think the information gleaned from the pages will help my therapist and I develop a plan for the future.

I can't begin to describe how elated I
Dec 22, 2008 JoAnn rated it really liked it
A little wordy, but a must-read for women with ADD. A comprehensive book on the non-attentive type of ADD, it specifically deals with womens issues and experiences and combines real life composite histories and treatment experiences with the latest clinical resarch. Also provides new information on medication, diagnosis, treatment, therapy, counseling, and support groups, work and family relationships.
Sep 23, 2010 Kathy rated it it was amazing
This book is going to save my life. I have found the 'missing link' Hallelujah! Praise the Lord, I've been Saved! It's like someone took a magnifying glass to my life, it's been that powerful. Oh, and I just got it today to see if 'may' apply to me. It's been a Godsend.
Have I praised it enough?
Evelyn Blackwell
Jan 31, 2016 Evelyn Blackwell rated it liked it
On the one hand, a really good & important book, for a marginalised group of people who tend to have a really tough time. Lots of practical, step-by step advice, and I'd definitely recommend it if you think you or someone you love might have ADD.
On the other hand, a LOT of small errors in the writing - words missing, in the wrong case/tense, unnecessary plurals. The meaning was still clear, but it was jarring every time. Hopefully these were just in the ebook version, but they could so easi
Jan 01, 2013 Joanne rated it it was amazing
Every woman who struggles with organization, ADHD or not, should read this book. Life is defined by more than being neat and/or orderly but it is easier when you can find your keys.
Jun 25, 2008 Patti rated it it was amazing
Shelves: adhd
A must read for every woman who has ADHD. Husbands would learn a lot about their wife also.
Aug 21, 2014 Jessica rated it it was ok
Shelves: 2014
It was okay. Very informative in the beginning about the common misconceptions about what ADHD is and how it often goes undiagnosed in women because it often shows up as internal inattention but not external hyperactivity - aka daydreamers.

But the rest of the book? I kept reading because I thought I would find hope. Instead I felt more hopeless about having ADD than I ever have before in my life. Acknowledging all my flaws didn't help me: it made me angrier at my current situation and feel vict
May 13, 2011 Courd rated it it was amazing
Shelves: books-i-own
This is one of the most amazing reads of my life. Yes it's non-fiction and yes it's value will be lost on you if you are not a woman with ADHD or someone trying to learn to live with a woman with ADHD; but if you are someone looking for a resource about women with ADHD this book is extremely enlightening on a variety of issues related to ADHD. The book talks quite a great deal about ADHD in general but also focuses on how women's lives are affected differently than the lives of men because of th ...more
Rebecca McKee
Mar 12, 2013 Rebecca McKee rated it really liked it
I'm still reading this book, and like many other women who've reviewed it, I'm recognizing myself in it pretty strongly. Now I need to explore with my counselor and my family what ADD (inattentive) coping skills make sense for me and how to implement them. I appreciate Dr. Solden's work in this area, and hope she -- or someone else -- will continue to update this book as research reveals more about ADD/ADHD in women.

Like another reviewer of the first edition, I've found enough typos in the seco
May 27, 2013 Dixie rated it really liked it
Shelves: non-fiction, kobo
I was recently diagnosed with ADD. There, I finally said it and now you know. :)

I originally thought the diagnosis was the craziest thing I had ever heard, but after doing some research, I began to realize that maybe ADD was the cause of so many of the issues I was experiencing. ADD/ADHD affects women differently than men. This book is helpful in demonstrating the different ways ADD may cause issues throughout a woman's lifetime and why it goes undiagnosed for so long. Sari Solden also provides
Dec 18, 2015 SA rated it really liked it
Shelves: 2015
There are only a few books (outside of memoir) that look closely at the female experience of ADHD, and this is one of them. I found it to be very helpful in the process of understanding myself in this new paradigm.
May 18, 2012 Kellie rated it really liked it
This book delivers an abundance of helpful information on being an adult woman dealing with attention deficit disorder. Though, the book is 323 pages (354 including Recommended Resources, Bibliography, and the Acknowledgements to the Revised Edition) and in my opinion, it doesn't have to be. Many chapters drag on, specifically when talking about medications, and there is a stark amount of repetition of information throughout the book. Which, okay, one could argue repetition may be good for a min ...more
Nov 28, 2014 A rated it it was amazing
Shelves: effectiveness
SO helpful in understanding more about what Ad/HD is and how it often goes unnoticed in women with Ad/HD innattentive type.
Liz D
Feb 21, 2015 Liz D marked it as to-read
My coping mechanisms are pretty strong (hard-fought!), but this still seems like it might be a worthwhile read.
Elizabeth Olson
Nov 04, 2010 Elizabeth Olson rated it liked it
Shelves: read-2010
Interesting reading for anyone who marches to a different drummer, especially creatives or those who think outside the box, whether labeled ADD or not, with lots of good information on creating organization and supports that work for the individual, rather than trying to force ones square pegness into an one-size-fits all round hole of cultural expectations, especially those for women. I skipped over the vast sections dealing with shame, though; no shame for me, thanks.
Angie Albright
The VERY best book for women with ADD/ADHD. This author covers all the bases, including all the gifts that come with ADHD, of which there are many. The explanations of medication and treatment types are enlightening and useful. This is one of those books that felt like it was written specifically for me. A friend of mine recommended it as her favorite and I've now passed along the recommendation several times.
Dec 27, 2014 Heather rated it it was amazing
A truly eye-opening and life-changing book. While there are other great books out there about ADHD (Delivered from Distraction is a great starting place), this one delves into the experience of being an adult woman who grew up with undiagnosed ADHD-- and particularly inattentive-type ADHD-- in such a specific way that if you fall into this category, you will feel you are reading your own life story.
Melissa Gonzalez
Jan 29, 2014 Melissa Gonzalez rated it liked it
Shelves: self-help
Useful exploration and analysis of how ADD/ADHD affects women - saw way more of myself than I even care to admit. I've not been officially diagnosed, but I suspect this is me. I liked that the author addresses how ADD affects those around you, and then correlates that with how we see ourselves. The book answered some questions, and even gave me a little of the reassurance I was seeking.
Feb 24, 2015 Sally rated it really liked it
Shelves: non-fiction, health
p.xxv disorganization is not a character flaw
p. xxxviii excessive shifting of attention - my biggest challenge!
p. xxxvii underactive outside, hyperactive thoughts and mental drives - me to a "t"

There are way too many roman-numbered pages in this book. They end on xlii. I've never seen a book have so many roman-numbered pages that they use "l" - that's 50!
May 12, 2013 Jennifer rated it liked it
Good, but I felt like it skimmed over the surface of things, without really giving me much to take away. However, there may be more of that in the companion book, which I haven't read. It is insightful, although since I do have the hyperactive portion, it doesn't give me the "OMG IT'S ME" feelings others had. Still a worth while read.
Jan 06, 2008 Elissa rated it it was amazing
Shelves: read-in-2007
This is a really great book for any women who has ADD or suspects she has it. It offers a lot of insights into the differences in the ADD experience for men and women and boys and girls. It explains why a lot of little girls with ADD never get diagnosed and offers ideas for coping with ADD as an adult woman.
Jan 06, 2010 Melissa is currently reading it
Kirstin had me spot on when she recommended I read this. Solden brings to light new findings in the ways of women with ADD; women who are often misunderstood as disorganized, chaotic, and oftentimes scatterbrained.
Jul 21, 2010 Peggy rated it it was amazing
This is a must read for women with ADD. There is hope and reason for life. ADD can be a blessing in disguise--just stop trying to fit in society's mold and embrace the difference that makes you unique!
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A psychotherapist in private practice in Ann Arbor, Michigan, Sari specializes in individual, couple and group work with AD/HD adults and their partners. Author of Women with Attention Deficit Disorder, she trains and serves as a consultant to mental health professionals in assessment and counseling adults with AD/HD, especially those who are primarily inattentive, and with a special focus on wome ...more
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