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Becoming Gay: The Journey To Self-Acceptance

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Winner of a Books for a Better Life Literary Award in Psychology

The importance of living authentically—accepting one’s homosexuality and embracing a positive gay identity—is at the heart of Dr. Richard Isay’s powerful work on the psychological development of gay men. In the candid language of personal case histories, including his own, Isay shows how disguising one’s sexua
Paperback, 228 pages
Published June 15th 1997 by Holt Paperbacks (first published 1996)
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Dominic Gadoury
Feb 17, 2013 Dominic Gadoury rated it really liked it
This was the first book I ever read about coming out. It was the book I used many decades ago when I first came out of the closet, and I will be forever grateful for it.
Jun 19, 2012 Alex rated it liked it  ·  review of another edition
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It's definitely a good thing that this book, originally published in 1997, feels antiquated. Attitudes towards gays have changed dramatically in last 15 years and I'm grateful to have been born when I was.

Maybe I didn't do my homework, but I expected this book to have a more singular, focused narrative. Each chapter focuses on a different group of homosexuals, i.e. those living with AIDS, those living in heterosexual marriages, teenagers, the elderly. I found the most compelling section to be th
Neil Mudde
Jul 16, 2009 Neil Mudde rated it did not like it
Way over my head, it is described as "The Journey to Self Acceptance" Dr. Isay is an academic, and the book is geared to academics, and difficult to understand for a lay person like myself, all this confusion about how your relationship ship was with your Father or Mother as a child, "thus causing one to become homosexual, which rarely reflected my personal situation. at an early age I knew I was different from my 6 brothers did not know what it was called, except I would often be accused of bei ...more
Read as research for the novel, and it gets two stars for providing some insight into what it's like to be a gay adolescent or gay married man in deep denial. But Isay is about as narcissistic and self-absorbed a therapist as I've ever encountered. If not for him, apparently, gay men would still be getting shock therapy to "cure" them, and the feelings and needs of women married to gay men are dispensed with in a perfunctory fashion.
Case studies on gay men accepting or not accepting their sexuality or their version of their sexuality. Also a product of 1990s psychology.
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this book lead me to a safe life in my discovery of becoming a gay man.
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